Does it look strange when a girl is much taller than her boyfriend?

beks101 wrote: »

There's a huge difference between "he's hot but shorter than me, what will people think?" versus "I don't find him attractive because he's shorter than me" - I guess that's what the thread boils down to really.

newport2 wrote: »

I was just pointing out that not dating someone who is shorter than you because

a) you find tall people attractive
or
b) you're conscious it will look strange

are two totally different things. a) is perfectly understandable and we all find various traits more or less attractive.

I agree 100%

Jimmy 5F wrote: »

What about if Caroline Wozniak went out with a man who was 3 foot tall. Would you think that looked normal or silly?

You can say what you like, this man is an absolute legend...



And interestingly, a lot of women really find this guy super attractive. Personally, I really don't think these two together looks odd at all. I'm only 170cm (5'7") or so, and the missus is 2 inches shorter or so, so roughly the same size when she's in heels, maybe a little taller. No issues, really.

As Peter Dinklage proves (for me, at least); If you have self-confidence and you're in a good relationship, being smaller than your wife/girlfriend doesn't look strange at all. If it looks like height is an issue for you, then you probably will look weird - but only because you don't look comfortable together.

Just my 2c

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Captain Chaos wrote: »

I'm 6ft and a smiggen (according to my medical 3 years ago) and where I work I'm the shortest guy. 6'2'' being average height with some lads being 6'4 and 6'5. I have a pain in my neck when talking to them, don't know how the women cope. I'm finding that with each generation the average height of Irish guys is going up and up, the amount of school leavers that are towering over me is unreal.

Where do you work? The NBA? :eek:

I'm below average height for a girl, and my boyfriend is way above average height for a man. My head is just above his elbow in flat shoes.

I find taller guys attractive, and I don't think I'd go out with someone smaller than me, mainly because I'm very small myself. If my boyfriend and I were the same height I shallowly admit I'd probably avoid high heels.

I too think proportion is another consideration. I have a male friend who is shorter than me and is of very slight build and I always feel like an absolute monster around him because of it.

I can understand why women wouldn't be attracted to a shorter man as much but some women want men who are still taller than them even when they're wearing heels, which seems overly picky and shallow, but it's their choice. I think if a woman is much taller it seems a bit odd and comical. The thing about women is that they sometimes look far bigger than what they are because they have longer legs than men in relation to their height. I'm a good 3½ inches taller than my sister but I remember her jeans being the same length as mine. The body-leg ratio of men and women is quite different.

I think the opposite is true, it looks strange when a guy is much taller then his girlfriend. Makes her look like a child that this oaf next to her is about to squash.

For a whole variety of activities does it not make sense for your partner to be somewhat similar in height then you?

Prodigious wrote: »

You're right. The most annoying is when you want to go on a rollercoaster and she doesn't reach the minimum height :mad:

Bit better same height but shouldnt matter. I rather not bang heads.

Hey not fair im 4 foot 10/11 inches and 5ft + with shoes/kitten heel/heels. I tend to wear flats/pumps or trainers. I can ger on hurdy gurdys no probs despite height but dont go on often cause i be ill or afraid of heights. Been on a few once in lifetime some fun some my head and tum spin never again other things can do that.

FizzleSticks wrote: »

I've gone out with a two guys my own height, 5"4 ish. It's a real turn off when they don't like you wearing heels and looking taller than them, its not a big deal. Insecurity ain't sexy.

I reckon that's the main issue. Women have preferences but if they like someone those preferences can go out the window. Some of the guys I've known through the years who have done really well with women have been skinny. Yet most women would not choose skinny men as a preference. But these skinny guys had outgoing, fun personalities and were not insecure like some men would be.

Malari wrote: »

Why does it "scream" of insecurity rather than personal preference?

Mostly the way they (some of them) phrased it.

My ex was an inch or two taller than me. We always sorta felt we were perfect size for each other as if we hugged or kissed neither of us had to reach/lean down for the other.

LexieOnRale wrote: »

I'm 5'4/5'5, and my ex is 6'1/6'2. I liked it, I could wear whatever height heels I liked and he would still be taller than me. Good for cuddles too, standing up hugs can just snuggle into his chest and all is well, would not date a guy my height or shorter.

I'm 6'1 my ex was5'4 or so ... we broke up she was always on Boards :-)