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Does it look strange when a girl is much taller than her boyfriend?

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  • #62
    looking_around
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,491 ✭✭✭looking_around


    --LOS-- wrote: »
    you can realise that you've perhaps been conditioned to believe it looks silly, when you acknowledge that you might just get over yourself and come to the conclusion that it's a load of BS.


    I will say though it's actually somewhat refreshing to see this thread come up (coz this thread comes up all the time here) and for people to be honest and say ye I do think it looks silly, I don't think I've seen that before.

    That's like saying so long as you're wering clothes, if you think the style it's silly, is conditioning..might be.. doesn't mean it isn't silly looking though.

    On the bold bit, people do have different preferences, nothing wrong with that. And just because they feel it's "silly" doesn't mean they have to get over themselves.

    I don't think it anyone is saying it's the be all and end all when it comes to choosing a partner, but giving an initial reaction/feeling.


  • #63
    Gummy Panda
    Closed Accounts Posts: 20,919 ✭✭✭✭Gummy Panda


    NothingMan wrote: »
    I'm way taller than my gf and I love being the little spoon!!!

    You sir are a mad man.


  • #64
    darkdubh
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 3,628 ✭✭✭darkdubh


    My girlfriend is about two inches taller than me.Never was an issue.


  • #65
    gagiteebo
    Closed Accounts Posts: 524 ✭✭✭gagiteebo


    What a silly reason not to date someone! If you're not dating a man just because he's shorter than you he's probably had a lucky escape :-)
    I'm 5 11 barefoot and most guys I've dated have been shorter. Never been a problem. My OH is 5 9 and it's never been an issue.


  • #66
    Jimmy 5F
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 122 ✭✭Jimmy 5F


    newport2 wrote: »
    Then I can't help thinking that it's silly to think that it looks silly ;)

    What about if Caroline Wozniak went out with a man who was 3 foot tall. Would you think that looked normal or silly?


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  • #67
    WanabeOlympian
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 130 ✭✭WanabeOlympian


    Iwasfrozen wrote: »
    Where did you travel, Norway? South Africa? In most countries with most ethnicities 6ft would be considered tall.

    Nope, Denmark and Germany. It's grand though, 6 foot is considered tall in Ireland.


  • #68
    newport2
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,633 ✭✭✭newport2


    Jimmy 5F wrote: »
    What about if Caroline Wozniak went out with a man who was 3 foot tall. Would you think that looked normal or silly?

    Neither, I wouldn't care. But if Caroline Wozniak cared whether I thought it looked silly or not, I would think she was silly.

    Also, while a 3 foot tall man might not look normal (any more than an 8 foot tall one), that doesn't mean he looks silly. There's more options than normal and silly.


  • #69
    Malari
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 18,150 ✭✭✭✭Malari


    gagiteebo wrote: »
    What a silly reason not to date someone! If you're not dating a man just because he's shorter than you he's probably had a lucky escape :-)
    I'm 5 11 barefoot and most guys I've dated have been shorter. Never been a problem. My OH is 5 9 and it's never been an issue.

    This is what I have a problem with! You are being derogatory to people who have a personal preference.

    If they don't date a person shorter than them because they are worried what people will think, sure that's a bit silly. If they don't date a person shorter than them because they think people taller than them are more attractive, then what is the problem?


  • #70
    OneArt
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,910 ✭✭✭OneArt


    looking_around wrote: »
    I think it looks odd .. a guy should be taller than the gal :P ..

    Maybe some guys should start wearing heels? Man heels now thatd be something XD

    High heels and tights were designed for men in the eighteenth century. Now only women and drag queens wear them.


  • #71
    newport2
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,633 ✭✭✭newport2


    Malari wrote: »
    This is what I have a problem with! You are being derogatory to people who have a personal preference.

    If they don't date a person shorter than them because they are worried what people will think, sure that's a bit silly. If they don't date a person shorter than them because they think people taller than them are more attractive, then what is the problem?

    What you say is true, but this thread is about whether people think it looks strange when a girl is taller than her boyfriend, not whether women find taller men attractive.


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  • #72
    Jimmy 5F
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 122 ✭✭Jimmy 5F


    newport2 wrote: »
    Neither, I wouldn't care. But if Caroline Wozniak cared whether I thought it looked silly or not, I would think she was silly.

    Also, while a 3 foot tall man might not look normal (any more than an 8 foot tall one), that doesn't mean he looks silly. There's more options than normal and silly.

    How do you think it would look??

    And who said anything about caring?


  • #73
    gagiteebo
    Closed Accounts Posts: 524 ✭✭✭gagiteebo


    Malari wrote: »
    This is what I have a problem with! You are being derogatory to people who have a personal preference.

    If they don't date a person shorter than them because they are worried what people will think, sure that's a bit silly. If they don't date a person shorter than them because they think people taller than them are more attractive, then what is the problem?

    I'm not being derogatory. Re read my post. If you're not dating someone just because they're shorter then yes they have had a lucky escape. Relationships are built on many things and many human qualities so if a guy doesn't want to date me because I'm taller and he's afraid we'll look silly together, then I'm better off without him.


  • #74
    Boofle
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 167 ✭✭Boofle


    newport2 wrote: »
    There is something instantly attractive and sexy about a busty woman.... But if someone said publicly that they'd only date women above a certain cup-size they'd be berated for being shallow, objectifying, etc. Acceptible with height though?

    Don't really see why someone has to have a specific physical characteristic for you to find them attractive TBH. Who cares if some people think a couple look "silly"? Anyone who judges you on that is not really worth worrying about.

    It's just my personal preference. . . . I didn't say that I wouldn't date a man who is smaller than me - in fact I often have as I am 5' 10! I just find tall men attractive. And if men only want to date busty women sure isn't that their choice - each to their own I say!


  • #75
    looking_around
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,491 ✭✭✭looking_around


    newport2 wrote: »
    What you say is true, but this thread is about whether people think it looks strange when a girl is taller than her boyfriend, not whether women find taller men attractive.

    And we're saying it does look strange, but basing it on our personal preference and a little on societies standards.

    It's not that I'd personally care what people think.. but people do have opinions and thoughts.
    Ans that is what the thread is asking for and that is what we're giving


  • #76
    newport2
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    Jimmy 5F wrote: »
    How do you think it would look??

    And who said anything about caring?

    I don't generally hold opinions on things I don't care about. I guess some people size up an opinion on other couples (do they look silly, normal, etc), some people don't. I'd be one of the latter.


  • #77
    Ace Attorney
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,320 ✭✭✭Ace Attorney


    Taller women + hugs = boobs in face when you get hugged, Advantage mcilroy


  • #78
    du Maurier
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,198 ✭✭✭du Maurier


    This looks a bit...irregular.



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  • #79
    newport2
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,633 ✭✭✭newport2


    looking_around wrote: »
    And we're saying it does look strange, but basing it on our personal preference and a little on societies standards.

    It's not that I'd personally care what people think.. but people do have opinions and thoughts.
    Ans that is what the thread is asking for and that is what we're giving

    Absolutely, I agree.

    I was just pointing out that not dating someone who is shorter than you because

    a) you find tall people attractive
    or
    b) you're conscious it will look strange

    are two totally different things. a) is perfectly understandable and we all find various traits more or less attractive. I wouldn't really understand why someone who do it for reason b) though.

    Whenever I've dated someone, if I like them and find them attractive then that's good enough for me. Why care if it looks strange? Especially as "strange" is pretty much undefinable and like you say, subject to society's standards. 50 years ago it would have been strange to date a single mother due to society's standards. Today, nobody would bat an eyelid.


  • #80
    Jimmy 5F
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 122 ✭✭Jimmy 5F


    newport2 wrote: »
    I don't generally hold opinions on things I don't care about. I guess some people size up an opinion on other couples (do they look silly, normal, etc), some people don't. I'd be one of the latter.

    Fair enough, I could have an opinion on anything no matter how trivial.

    I think hot dog eating contests are strange but I couldn't care less about them.


  • #81
    Marcus_Crassus
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 140 ✭✭Marcus_Crassus


    I'm 5ft8 and I absolutely love tall women, even to the point where I would actually prefer a taller woman.

    All the women I have been in a relationship with have been my height or a tad taller. I honestly don't care what anyone thinks, as long as the girl and I are happy.

    Went away this year for a few months and lots of tall women were happy to flirt and have a bit of fun with me.


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  • #82
    LizT
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 29,089 ✭✭✭✭LizT


    Jimmy 5F wrote: »
    What about if Caroline Wozniak went out with a man who was 3 foot tall. Would you think that looked normal or silly?

    Why would anyone care? Seriously, if she wants to go out with someone considerably shorter than her and is happy, what's the problem?


  • #83
    Malari
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 18,150 ✭✭✭✭Malari


    gagiteebo wrote: »
    I'm not being derogatory. Re read my post. If you're not dating someone just because they're shorter then yes they have had a lucky escape. Relationships are built on many things and many human qualities so if a guy doesn't want to date me because I'm taller and he's afraid we'll look silly together, then I'm better off without him.

    Yes, I've read your post, and I disagree with it. Attraction is one of the many and one of the most important things a relationship is built on. When you use the phrase "lucky escape" it sounds like the person described is a horrible, shallow person.


  • #84
    brandom
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 40 ✭brandom


    Well I am exactly the same height as my bf, in bare feet, and although I don't wear heels very often it doesn't bother either of us when I do. It really is not a big deal in the grand scheme of things


  • #85
    Sofiztikated
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    Thatdoesnt looksafe tome AHHHHHHH wrote: »
    Taller women + hugs = boobs in face when you get hugged, Advantage mcilroy

    Ahem.
    Sofiztikated wrote: »
    Meh, when hugging her from the front, my face is right in her bewbs.


  • #86
    Jimmy 5F
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 122 ✭✭Jimmy 5F


    LizT wrote: »
    Why would anyone care? Seriously, if she wants to go out with someone considerably shorter than her and is happy, what's the problem?

    Who says there's a problem?

    I find many things weird looking such as seahorses, I have absolutely no problem with seahorses though. I simply think a woman being a lot taller than her boyfriend/husband is weird looking.


  • #87
    gagiteebo
    Closed Accounts Posts: 524 ✭✭✭gagiteebo


    Malari wrote: »
    Yes, I've read your post, and I disagree with it. Attraction is one of the many and one of the most important things a relationship is built on. When you use the phrase "lucky escape" it sounds like the person described is a horrible, shallow person.

    Well you've obviously misunderstood. If someone won't go out with a person because there's height difference and they're worried what others will think, then yes it's shallow. That's what I've said in two posts. If you're not attracted to that, that's a different story but that's not what the thread is about.


  • #88
    bk
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    I'm 5'7" my girlfriend is 6'3" !!

    I suppose it might seem strange, but really it has never bothered either of us.

    All our friends say that we look like an amazing couple, that there is real chemistry there.

    I suppose it helps that I'm quiet charismatic and have never left my slightly shorter height bother me.

    Funny thing about it, women seem to be quiet turned on when they see me with my gf!! I suppose they all assume I most have some x factor if I can get and keep happy such a tall beautiful woman.

    Please don't let such silly social "norms" get in the way of finding the person who is right for you.

    PS However the Futurama Episode Death By Snoo Snoo does jump to mind from time to time :)


  • #89
    beks101
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    newport2 wrote: »
    Don't really see why someone has to have a specific physical characteristic for you to find them attractive TBH.

    Because attraction isn't a choice. It's just something that happens.

    TBH, I don't think it's being more attracted to tall men/short women that screams of insecurity; I think it's the people who keep insisting this is the case, as if to justify their own height/relationship, that seem insecure.


  • #90
    newport2
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,633 ✭✭✭newport2


    beks101 wrote: »
    Because attraction isn't a choice. It's just something that happens.

    TBH, I don't think it's being more attracted to tall men/short women that screams of insecurity; I think it's the people who keep insisting this is the case, as if to justify their own height/relationship, that seem insecure.

    That was kind of my point, you're attracted to the whole package, without introducing checklists on what physical criteria a potential partner must meet in height, etc before you're even met them


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  • #91
    beks101
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    newport2 wrote: »
    That was kind of my point, you're attracted to the whole package, without introducing checklists on what physical criteria a potential partner must meet in height, etc before you're even met them

    Sure, and most people don't walk around with checklists, just with a consciousness of what turns them on in another human being, height potentially being one of them.

    There's a huge difference between "he's hot but shorter than me, what will people think?" versus "I don't find him attractive because he's shorter than me" - I guess that's what the thread boils down to really.


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