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The Gay Megathread (see mod note on post #2212)

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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,254 ✭✭✭tommy2bad


    Zombrex wrote: »
    Do you honestly believe that your god does not want that man to find a loving fulfilling relationship with another man, a life partner a companion to share this journey with?

    How can you even believe a god like that exists? How could anyone not want someone to find that? Seriously, I just don't get it.

    Jimi thinks it's fine if he finds happiness with another person male or female, just as long as if it's male they don't fiddle with each others bits. 'Cos God who created the world really cares about what we do with our bits, even more than He cares about other stuff.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 7,418 ✭✭✭JimiTime


    tommy2bad wrote: »
    Jimi thinks it's fine if he finds happiness with another person male or female, just as long as if it's male they don't fiddle with each others bits. 'Cos God who created the world really cares about what we do with our bits, even more than He cares about other stuff.

    It is not ME that you have an issue with Tommy, it is God. It is not MY message I am speaking, but Gods. You need to take it up with him. I really hope you decide to.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 514 ✭✭✭IT-Guy


    JimiTime wrote: »
    It is not ME that you have an issue with Tommy, it is God. It is not MY message I am speaking, but Gods. You need to take it up with him. I really hope you decide to.

    What a cop out. The ultimate excuse for bigotry, "it's not my belief, it's my God's". Such barefaced cowardice in the face of rational and legitimate criticism speaks volumes for the ability of the religiously indoctrinated to think for themselves. If anyone can give me any good reason that isn't religious in origin for disagreeing with gay marriage then I'll never post in here again (indeed I may not for a while if the mods so deem it). Actually I may even quit the interwebz :D


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 7,418 ✭✭✭JimiTime


    IT-Guy wrote: »
    What a cop out. The ultimate excuse for bigotry, "it's not my belief, it's my God's". Such barefaced cowardice in the face of rational and legitimate criticism speaks volumes for the ability of the religiously indoctrinated to think for themselves. If anyone can give me any good reason that isn't religious in origin for disagreeing with gay marriage then I'll never post in here again (indeed I may not for a while if the mods so deem it). Actually I may even quit the interwebz :D

    Tuck yer head in. There was no talk of Gay marriage, but rather a professing Christian (Tommy), who argues against what has been revealed by the Law the Prophets, the Gospels and the saints. So rather than quit the interwebz, you just need to read a little better ;) Or at least have a bit of wit in your insults rather than boring, generic ones. At least if you have a bit of wit, I can be entertained by the insults :)


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 514 ✭✭✭IT-Guy


    JimiTime wrote: »
    Tuck yer head in. There was no talk of Gay marriage, but rather a professing Christian (Tommy), who argues against what has been revealed by the Law the Prophets, the Gospels and the saints. So rather than quit the interwebz, you just need to read a little better ;)

    Ah that makes it ok then, it was revealed by the heavyweights you listed above so therefore it must be true :rolleyes: If Tommy's a professing Christian then I'm the pope!


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 7,418 ✭✭✭JimiTime


    IT-Guy wrote: »
    If Tommy's a professing Christian then I'm the pope!

    Welcome to the forum so your papalness.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 514 ✭✭✭IT-Guy


    JimiTime wrote: »
    Welcome to the forum so your papalness.

    As your new Pope I now decree gay marriage is allowed and anyone disagreeing with my infallibility to be excommunicated. Have I got this abuse of power and position thing right? :P


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 7,293 ✭✭✭1ZRed


    JimiTime wrote: »
    It is not ME that you have an issue with Tommy, it is God. It is not MY message I am speaking, but Gods. You need to take it up with him. I really hope you decide to.

    But can you explain why you yourself are against it, not just because god said so but can you set your mind to it to think about what is wrong with the idea of two men who want to marry for the same exact reasons you would want to marry a woman.

    Putting aside the bible and what god has said, can you see anything actually wrong with two consenting adults who are in love each other and want to commit fully to each other, being no different than any other straight couple in what they want?

    The bible says it's so bad for some reason but it doesn't say why, it just says so. There's no further thought about it. I fail to see what destruction could come from allowing two people who are in love to marry and be happy, and as a poster above has said, to share the same journey as you would with your partner. Why should they be denied just because it's a privillage for straight people, "just because the bible said so"?

    Where's the reasoning and explanation as to why it is forbidden? and looking at it at a basic level, what harm is a gay person causing to you or to society? They just want to be treated as equally and as well as you without being discriminated against for no apparent reason other than "just because".

    There's a huge amount of unhappiness caused to gay people for being looked down on and held as second class citizens because "god says so" without saying why.

    So imagine how much better their lives would be without that oppressive force bearing down on them and leading to a life far more difficult and filled with more challenges than your own. I honestly don't see the harm two committed women or two committed men could do to the world that a straight couple couldn't do also. How do you not see that?


    I'm interested in hearing your own, personal interpretation of this and the reasoning as to why you're not in favour of it. I'm interested in hearing why you think like that, not just because you were told to think that way.
    I think I can give you credit that you're capable of thinking for yourself and making your own observations of the world without solely realying on whatever the church will have you see and believe, so I'm asking what harm is all this causing to you and seemingly everyone around you as you believe.

    Who is really losing out here? It's not you, it's everyone who isn't heterosexual, and I'm asking you personally, why do you feel that is?


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 514 ✭✭✭IT-Guy


    JimiTime wrote: »
    Found this testimony quite difficult. I empathise with it so much in terms of my own shortcomings, and inner battles. It must be SO much more difficult for someone like this. Keep him in your prayers folks.

    http://www.charismanews.com/opinion/39373-a-gay-struggler-finds-assurance-in-the-lord

    Just finished reading this and I'm a little confused? The teachings of his Baptist church have caused this guy to hate himself and his sexuality yet he is listening to a Christian radio show in hope of some sort of understanding of himself and his 'reprobate mind'? I feel really sorry for him and that his only frame of reference for dealing with his "struggle with being gay" was the teachings of his bigoted church rather than the reality of the acceptance of homosexuality in civilised society.

    To the bolded bit of your post, have you something you'd like to admit to your captive audience? It would certainly explain your rather vehement opposition to gay marriage and the topic of homosexuality in general :D


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 9,779 ✭✭✭MrPudding


    IT-Guy wrote: »

    To the bolded bit of your post, have you something you'd like to admit to your captive audience? It would certainly explain your rather vehement opposition to gay marriage and the topic of homosexuality in general :D
    The lady doth protest too much? It is funny the frequency with which those high profile anti-gay religious types get got with a rent boy or in a dodgy sauna.

    MrP


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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 25,848 ✭✭✭✭Zombrex


    JimiTime wrote: »
    It is not ME that you have an issue with Tommy, it is God. It is not MY message I am speaking, but Gods. You need to take it up with him. I really hope you decide to.

    There is no point hiding behind the claim it is what God wants as if it is nothing to do with you. It is what someone has said God wants, and you believed that claim.

    There are religious claims from all across the globe and across time that you obviously think are nonsense. You are not a Mormon, or a Hindu.

    But you look at these claims, including that homosexual sex is considered an abomination to the creator of the universe and think yeah I can believe that

    I just don't get how you can believe that the creator deity would actually want this, that when someone claims they do you believe them? After everything we know about homosexuality and homosexual relationships this still makes sense to you and is believable.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 7,418 ✭✭✭JimiTime


    Zombrex wrote: »
    There is no point hiding behind the claim it is what God wants as if it is nothing to do with you. It is what someone has said God wants, and you believed that claim.

    I'm not hiding, or passing the buck. I stand 100% with it. I'm in no way reluctant. You, and others seem to miss the point of what I said. The issue with a professing Christian making snide comments at other Christians about this, is that its not the person that they have the issue with, its the God they claim to worship that they have the issue with. Just like if a professing Christian was making snidey remarks at a Christian in relation to adultery, it would be God that the person is actually having an issue with. So my post was directly referring to Tommy, a professing Christian, who has an issue with God in matters of homosexuality.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,254 ✭✭✭tommy2bad


    JimiTime wrote: »
    It is not ME that you have an issue with Tommy, it is God. It is not MY message I am speaking, but Gods. You need to take it up with him. I really hope you decide to.

    No, it's you and the likes of you, so certain that your interpretation is the only one and if not the only one then the correct one.I read the same books you do
    and I don't see love forbiden only fornication, I see far more condemnation of other things that you don't get so upset about.
    No Jimi it's not God, only your version of God. And you know what they say about God hating the same people as you?


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 4,940 ✭✭✭Corkfeen


    JimiTime wrote: »
    I'm not hiding, or passing the buck. I stand 100% with it. I'm in no way reluctant. You, and others seem to miss the point of what I said. The issue with a professing Christian making snide comments at other Christians about this, is that its not the person that they have the issue with, its the God they claim to worship that they have the issue with. Just like if a professing Christian was making snidey remarks at a Christian in relation to adultery, it would be God that the person is actually having an issue with. So my post was directly referring to Tommy, a professing Christian, who has an issue with God in matters of homosexuality.

    But that assumes that all Christian faiths share the exact same beliefs which they don't. Many Christians on this forum have found it possible to resolve homosexuality and Christianity.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 25,848 ✭✭✭✭Zombrex


    JimiTime wrote: »
    I'm not hiding, or passing the buck. I stand 100% with it. I'm in no way reluctant. You, and others seem to miss the point of what I said. The issue with a professing Christian making snide comments at other Christians about this, is that its not the person that they have the issue with, its the God they claim to worship that they have the issue with.

    But again you say that as if "the God" is a known objective quantity.

    A more accurate way to put it is that its not the person that they have issue with, it is the claims about that God that the person believes are accurate that they have issue with

    Which means it is the person they have issue with.

    You believe in a god that is opposed to homosexual relationships. You believe that out of all the claims about god this claim is true, while rejecting a host of other claims about God.

    Saying that this is just how God is is a deflection, because you choose which claims to believe about how God is in the first place. Lots of people have claimed things about God that you don't believe.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 7,418 ✭✭✭JimiTime


    Zombrex wrote: »
    But again you say that as if "the God" is a known objective quantity.

    A more accurate way to put it is that its not the person that they have issue with, it is the claims about that God that the person believes are accurate that they have issue with

    Which means it is the person they have issue with.

    You believe in a god that is opposed to homosexual relationships. You believe that out of all the claims about god this claim is true, while rejecting a host of other claims about God.

    Saying that this is just how God is is a deflection, because you choose which claims to believe about how God is in the first place. Lots of people have claimed things about God that you don't believe.

    Your awful attempts at theology aside, its God that they have an issue with. Just like when the Israelites demanded of Samuel a King, it was God that they were rejecting. Gods revelation to man is clear on the issue, so any professing Christian rejecting Gods revelation on the matter is not rejecting the messenger but he who sent the message.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 7,418 ✭✭✭JimiTime


    tommy2bad wrote: »
    No, it's you and the likes of you, so certain that your interpretation is the only one and if not the only one then the correct one.I read the same books you do
    and I don't see love forbiden only fornication, I see far more condemnation of other things that you don't get so upset about.
    No Jimi it's not God, only your version of God. And you know what they say about God hating the same people as you?

    If you are interested in seeking Gods heart in the matter, I'd be willing to discuss the basis of your theological view. Also, just as an FYI: You have no idea what I get 'upset about', nor is it actually relevant.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 514 ✭✭✭IT-Guy


    Zombrex wrote: »
    But again you say that as if "the God" is a known objective quantity.

    A more accurate way to put it is that its not the person that they have issue with, it is the claims about that God that the person believes are accurate that they have issue with

    Which means it is the person they have issue with.

    You believe in a god that is opposed to homosexual relationships. You believe that out of all the claims about god this claim is true, while rejecting a host of other claims about God.

    Saying that this is just how God is is a deflection, because you choose which claims to believe about how God is in the first place. Lots of people have claimed things about God that you don't believe.

    I think it's safe to say the view that anti-homosexuality is a church belief not a personal belief has been thoroughly debunked here. So when shown how illogical and irrational the anti-gay stance is, religious people have 2 choices:

    1) Accept that their personal beliefs line up with that of the church and use freedom of religious belief to shield them from any criticism of their bigoted POV, thus perpetuating their own hateful stance

    2) Accept that the church's teaching on homosexuality is the source of their own bigoted belief on the issue and resolve any dissonance with whatever conclusions independent thought may lead them to by capitulating to the views of their supposed moral superiors, thus perpetuating the church's hateful ideology.

    Either option is dishonest, morally corrupt and not worthy of the respect of any free thinking individual.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 7,293 ✭✭✭1ZRed


    From reading this and watching the religious people handle the questions put to them and how they seem to justify them I've come to the conclusion that they are sheep. Not to mean it in an extremely disrespectfull way, but all ye seem to do is follow without question and parrot back what you've been told to say. Ye don't seem to be able to look at things rationally for yourselves for a second to form a conclusion that wasn't already put together for you.

    I'm not trying to offend I'm just genuinely confused as to why a person could be apart of that and not get to think for themselves and make their view of the world, good or bad, and judge it that way instead of always following the same message, same stance, same outlook of life for the last 2000 years. I just find that baffling.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 7,418 ✭✭✭JimiTime


    IT-Guy wrote: »
    I think it's safe to say the view that anti-homosexuality is a church belief not a personal belief has been thoroughly debunked here. So when shown how illogical and irrational the anti-gay stance is, religious people have 2 choices:

    1) Accept that their personal beliefs line up with that of the church and use freedom of religious belief to shield them from any criticism of their bigoted POV, thus perpetuating their own hateful stance

    2) Accept that the church's teaching on homosexuality is the source of their own bigoted belief on the issue and resolve any dissonance with whatever conclusions independent thought may lead them to by capitulating to the views of their supposed moral superiors, thus perpetuating the church's hateful ideology.

    Either option is dishonest, morally corrupt and not worthy of the respect of any free thinking individual.

    Lucky I don't seek the praise of men then isn't it :) I think the issue of homosexuality is one that has indeed been handled poorly. This may be due to the disgust at the act, and the unfathomable nature of the act. I.E. When someone is struggling with fornicating with members of the opposite sex, there is a degree of empathy, as most can relate to desiring members of the opposite sex. Whereas, people find it hard to empathise with homosexuality. The link below is to the blog of a Christian woman struggling with same sex attraction which shows the Churches failings in embracing, helping and encouraging her, as well as the failings of so called Christians who seek to get her to continue her homosexual behaviour.

    http://hunterbaker.wordpress.com/201...ter-in-christ/

    Also, the youtube series, starting with the video below, pretty much sums up my thoughts on the matter and addresses the Christian issues.



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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 7,293 ✭✭✭1ZRed


    JimiTime wrote: »
    Lucky I don't seek the praise of men then isn't it :) I think the issue of homosexuality is one that has indeed been handled poorly. This may be due to the disgust at the act, and the unfathomable nature of the act. I.E. When someone is struggling with fornicating with members of the opposite sex, there is a degree of empathy, as most can relate to desiring members of the opposite sex. Whereas, people find it hard to empathise with homosexuality. The link below is to the blog of a Christian woman struggling with same sex attraction which shows the Churches failings in embracing, helping and encouraging her, as well as the failings of so called Christians who seek to get her to continue her homosexual behaviour.

    http://hunterbaker.wordpress.com/201...ter-in-christ/

    Also, the youtube series, starting with the video below, pretty much sums up my thoughts on the matter and addresses the Christian issues.


    Seriously please tell me how homosexuality needs to be helped and actually tell me how these religious organisations intend to help or "cure" it. It is idiotic to think it can be cured as it is a completely natural phenomenon with evidence to support it. There's no evidence to support your theory that it can be cured, only a vast amount of evidence to the contrary - with may passed "ex-homosexuals" even coming about and saying they were never actually cured.

    It's annoying to think that some faith from a 2000 year old book can best modern, scientific knowledge, and the way ye seem to go thinking that it can pushes the idea that's it's wrong and needs fixing which then leads to open discrimination and somehow the right that ye can go about doing it because ye think it's justified.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 4,200 ✭✭✭Benny_Cake


    1ZRed wrote: »
    From reading this and watching the religious people handle the questions put to them and how they seem to justify them I've come to the conclusion that they are sheep. Not to mean it in an extremely disrespectfull way, but all ye seem to do is follow without question and parrot back what you've been told to say. Ye don't seem to be able to look at things rationally for yourselves for a second to form a conclusion that wasn't already put together for you.

    I'm not trying to offend I'm just genuinely confused as to why a person could be apart of that and not get to think for themselves and make their view of the world, good or bad, and judge it that way instead of always following the same message, same stance, same outlook of life for the last 2000 years. I just find that baffling.

    I can understand how feelings run high on this, but describing religious people in general as "sheep" is extremely unfair. It should be apparent that Christians hold a range of opinions on the matter. Some Christians are gay, some have married their partners in their churches.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 7,418 ✭✭✭JimiTime


    1ZRed wrote: »
    From reading this and watching the religious people handle the questions put to them and how they seem to justify them I've come to the conclusion that they are sheep.

    Well speaking as a Christian, Christ is our shepherd. If you mean unthinking though, you'd be mistaken.
    Not to mean it in an extremely disrespectfull way, but all ye seem to do is follow without question and parrot back what you've been told to say. Ye don't seem to be able to look at things rationally for yourselves for a second to form a conclusion that wasn't already put together for you.

    With respect, I think thats a rather convenient way of looking at things.

    Firstly, it would be foolish to expect a Christian, who has Christ at the fore of his being, not to consult his/her Christianity on the matter.
    Secondly, there are many non-religious reasons to question homosexuality, redefining marriage etc, but essentially, as a Christian, seeking Gods heart on the matter is what is most important.
    I'm not trying to offend

    And no offense taken. Your decorum has been well above that of a lot of your peers (but thats not saying much tbh :p /joke)
    I'm just genuinely confused as to why a person could be apart of that and not get to think for themselves and make their view of the world, good or bad, and judge it that way instead of always following the same message, same stance, same outlook of life for the last 2000 years. I just find that baffling.

    The truth does not change. The Gospel is now, what it was since the beginning. This is not about a few blokes making some rules, but about God, living, and Christ Alive, saying 'Come to me, and I will give you life. Nail your flesh to the cross, and gain life. If your right eye makes you stumble, cut it out, better to enter into the kingdom blind, than hades with all your parts'. Our flesh is at war with us, bringing us to death, and as much as I go on, my sins bring me to the same death your sins bring you. The unrepentant greedy are going into the same death as the unrepentant murderers. The unrepentant pedophile is going to the same death as the unrepentant adulterer.
    For man to change it, might suit modern views, but they'll just be changing the words. The truth, which they'll be avoiding, will still remain, but simply be silent. It would be the equivalent of a person not wanting a car to need petrol, so removing reference to it from the manual. The truth would still remain, that the car needs petrol.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 7,418 ✭✭✭JimiTime


    1ZRed wrote: »
    Seriously please tell me how homosexuality needs to be helped and actually tell me how these religious organisations intend to help or "cure" it. It is idiotic to think it can be cured as it is a completely natural phenomenon with evidence to support it. There's no evidence to support your theory that it can be cured, only a vast amount of evidence to the contrary - with may passed "ex-homosexuals" even coming about and saying they were never actually cured.

    It's annoying to think that some faith from a 2000 year old book can best modern, scientific knowledge, and the way ye seem to go thinking that it can pushes the idea that's it's wrong and needs fixing which then leads to open discrimination and somehow the right that ye can go about doing it because ye think it's justified.

    In terms of Christianity, homosexuals don't need to become heterosexuals, they need to become Christians and seek holiness and communion with God, just like everyone else. Some testify to changing from being same sex attracted, and your argument is with them and their testimony, not me. I have no first hand experience, just people who say they've changed. Others haven't changed from being same sex attracted, but seek communion with God, and continue to struggle and reject their particular desires.

    If you truly want an sight into the matter though, watch the vids.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 4,940 ✭✭✭Corkfeen


    JimiTime wrote: »
    Secondly, there are many non-religious reasons to question homosexuality, redefining marriage etc, but essentially, as a Christian, seeking Gods heart on the matter is what is most important.

    What are the non religious reasons to object to same sex marriage or homosexuality?:rolleyes:


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 4,200 ✭✭✭Benny_Cake


    Corkfeen wrote: »
    What are the non religious reasons to object to same sex marriage or homosexuality?:rolleyes:

    C'mon now, there have been plenty of non-religious objections to same-sex marriage and homosexuality. The top one seems to be something along the lines of "I don't like it" or "it just isn't natural" - personal distaste/prejudice in other words.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 7,418 ✭✭✭JimiTime


    Benny_Cake wrote: »
    C'mon now, there have been plenty of non-religious objections to same-sex marriage and homosexuality. The top one seems to be something along the lines of "I don't like it" or "it just isn't natural" - personal distaste/prejudice in other words.

    I recommend you seek Gods heart on this matter too Benny. I'm sure thats your number one goal in this as a person who accepts Jesus as Lord yes?


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 4,940 ✭✭✭Corkfeen


    Benny_Cake wrote: »
    C'mon now, there have been plenty of non-religious objections to same-sex marriage and homosexuality. The top one seems to be something along the lines of "I don't like it" or "it just isn't natural" - personal distaste/prejudice in other words.

    True that but I was merely wondering which of them Jimi would choose to use..... I'm in firm agreement with you that not all objections to same sex marriage and the likes is religious in origin. :D


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 7,418 ✭✭✭JimiTime


    Corkfeen wrote: »
    What are the non religious reasons to object to same sex marriage or homosexuality?:rolleyes:

    Well the reason I object to redefining marriage is not a religious one, but a societal one. Contrary to what the lobby groups say, the state is not interested in who you love. That is not why it holds marriage in esteem. In some ways, due to the fact that powerful politicians are now regurgitating the LGBT lobby's words about 'Why should we tell people who they can love' (What nonsense), it could be said its already been redefined in order to be legally redefined. So not only is the state undermining marriage by doing such a thing, but it also means that there is no logical reason to deny incestuous, polyamorous or whatever else comes down the line. Marriage afterall, according to the likes of David Cameron, is the state telling people who they can and cannot love.

    Marriage as the institution of one man and woman for life, to the exclusion of all others, is the most secure place for children to born into and be raised in. It is the foundation of a successful society, and is what should be maintained and in fact strengthened and continually encouraged.


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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 7,293 ✭✭✭1ZRed


    JimiTime wrote: »
    Well the reason I object to redefining marriage is not a religious one, but a societal one. Contrary to what the lobby groups say, the state is not interested in who you love. That is not why it holds marriage in esteem. In some ways, due to the fact that powerful politicians are now regurgitating the LGBT lobby's words about 'Why should we tell people who they can love' (What nonsense), it could be said its already been redefined in order to be legally redefined. So not only is the state undermining marriage by doing such a thing, but it also means that there is no logical reason to deny incestuous, polyamorous or whatever else comes down the line. Marriage afterall, according to the likes of David Cameron, is the state telling people who they can and cannot love.

    Marriage as the institution of one man and woman for life, to the exclusion of all others, is the most secure place for children to born into and be raised in. It is the foundation of a successful society, and is what should be maintained and in fact strengthened and continually encouraged.

    Sorry to say we've already started changing marriage to include divorce, so that one man, one woman thing for life rarely holds up.

    And also you're using a strawman's argument with this. This is about gay marriage not polygamous marriage or incestual marriage. They've zero connection with one another so if you want to start discussing those matters then start your own thread on them because this is about two men and two women who want to marry, nobody is asking for polygamous, incestual marriages that's all in your head.


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