Fear of pregnancy?

autumnbelle wrote: »

Just wondering if any of you have been like me? I am in my late 20s and lately have been feeling very broody. My main problem is the thought of pregnancy scares the life out of me. I am afraid of hospitals and needles and have never had to have been in a hospital. I am afraid that I will leave it to late because of my fear of child birth and fear of something going wrong before ( I've have friends who have had miscarriage and one still born ) I'm also on the pill along time and have been paranoid that this could affect my ability to have kids in the future

Hi autumnbelle

I think the worries you're having are all natural. I am 27 and due my first baby this week. Personally I found the thoughts of pregnancy quite scary and actually being pregnant even scarier but the thought of not having a child or giving my husband a child was even scarier.

I find the most important thing during my pregnancy was a good support network, you will have freak out moments and worries but having a supportive partner, parents, family, friends and a good GP makes all the difference. Looking back I was probably a nightmare during the first trimester as I was so scared of misscarriage but my husband and Mum were great and helped keep me calm. I remember a friend of mine telling me then and before the 20week scan no matter what happens you will cope, it will be hard but you will cope with it and come out the other side, luckily all has been good for us so far. Now as due date approaches worries have changed but any questions I have my consultant is happy to answer and the ladies on this board are just brilliant and happy to share their advice and experiences. Sometimes I have to remind myself to take a deep breath

I don't personally know anyone who has flown through their pregnancy, it's different and difficult for each person and some cope differently to others but those little (and big!!) kicks and scan pics really make it all so worth it and the thoughts of meeting your little one keep you going.

I would advise maybe to talk to your GP re the pill and your fears. I know some people have no problems conceiving after coming off it and for others the pill might mask some problems they have. I was on and off it for years due to pcos and had no problems after coming off it.

Best of luck in whatever you decide, don't feel you're alone though xo

Chocoholic84 wrote: »

Try not to worry too much about this part, I went on the pill when I was 17 and only came off it when I was 28, got pregnant 3 months later I'm nearly 4 months now, and pregnancy is treating me well so far, it's just the thought of giving birth that terrifies me I'm trying not to think about it too much! I'm also starting pregnancy yoga next month which is supposed to help during labour!

I was exact same as this. I don't think the pill will affect it but do allow yourself a good few months for your cycle to settle down and remember that even the healthiest & fertile couples can take a couple years to fall pregnant.

I had a homebirth but more importantly the midwife came to me for all my visits and was extremely good at chilling me out on all my worries.

Also pregnancy yoga was fantastic. I'd look into this and maybe contacting a doula for support??