what the duck is wrong with me...

OscarMike · 12-03-2013 08:31PM #1

Ok hey everyone reading this post.

Ok heres a thing im 23 at the moment and since i was born i never had a real relationship with a girl ... And my personal inrelationship being time record been 2 months tops . there werent many tho . Like 7-8 or something . Anyway thing is everytime i get in a relationship i get rejected ..... Every time it happens i lose confidence and my fear of rejection grows bigger i understand that . So whenever i start seeing someone again i worry to much and fall over new girl so quickly , that even if im at my work trying to concentrate at what im doing i cant stop thinking about her ... And i start texting (being annoying person)...
Another thing about me is im one of those generous guys ... Like from a movies or something lol ... i mean i looking for a real relationship not for a pickup and have ... kinda things ...... yet it happened again , i met a girl like 4 days ago and u know went on a couple dates , everything seemed fine and i felt very happy until now , she tells me she has couple of kids but i dont mind , like **** happens u know so i really like this girl and not gonna walk away cuz she has kids tho ... I know i am driven by emotions not by logic . So she says then well i couldnt offer u what someonelse could . Then she says ill help u find a new girl .... I mean wtf i dont want any new girl or something i like her .... at the end of everything she wont text me back and if call her she ignores it grrrrrr it drives me mad.... well anyway where was i... oh it happens to me every time
why????? It must be something wrong with me right? Now this feeling of rejection ruining my life again i know ill be fine but i hate this feeeling ... U know heavy breathing and all that , i want to listen sad songs and drown in sadness ..... ive no real friends by the way lol so theres no one to talk with , so i came across here ....

DonR8 · 12-03-2013 08:36PM

Well lets be honest you seem too clingy and needed. Girls want what they can't have.

You need play hard to get, playing the nice guys never works for anyone.

Lets see what the rest say

OscarMike · 12-03-2013 08:41PM

DonR8 wrote: »

Well lets be honest you seem too clingy and needed. Girls want what they can't have.

You need play hard to get, playing the nice guys never works for anyone.

Lets see what the rest say

I know that i just know that but , my emotions drives me where it shouldnt , how do i change this in me ... How to control it . And probably if i havent been so honest and annoying it wouldv worked ....

OscarMike · 12-03-2013 09:17PM

DonR8 wrote: »

Well lets be honest you seem too clingy and needed. Girls want what they can't have.

You need play hard to get, playing the nice guys never works for anyone.

Lets see what the rest say

I must love boards.ie heres a link where all the information there describes me
http://www.wikihow.com/Stop-Being-Needy i even feel better now like really
i did idealized this girl ,now my emotions are nearly gone as i know where im doing a mistake being clingy and needed it will work out next time im out if i act differently.
I knew theres something wrong with me ,but i couldnt describe what it is.... Thank you so much ... U cant imagine how much confidence ive got now .

blatantrereg · 13-03-2013 05:01PM

In what way does being clingy and needy translate into being a nice guy? It generally results in the opposite from what I've seen.

Take ownership of yourself and your emotions. Saying there's something wrong with you might be a bit of a cop-out. Be rational and don't indulge emotional impulses to act in bad or stupid ways.

One thing that might make that easier is to stop eating meat. I really noticed an increase in my general emotional stability when I turned vegetarian, and many others have found the same thing. Don't know if there is any research into the phenomenon, but I would guess it's a result of cutting out a load of animal hormones from your diet.

OscarMike · 13-03-2013 08:02PM

blatantrereg wrote: »

In what way does being clingy and needy translate into being a nice guy? It generally results in the opposite from what I've seen.

Take ownership of yourself and your emotions. Saying there's something wrong with you might be a bit of a cop-out. Be rational and don't indulge emotional impulses to act in bad or stupid ways.

One thing that might make that easier is to stop eating meat. I really noticed an increase in my general emotional stability when I turned vegetarian, and many others have found the same thing. Don't know if there is any research into the phenomenon, but I would guess it's a result of cutting out a load of animal hormones from your diet.

Everything seemed to be fine until i was getting back home from work today with my car and i seen her in town walking into a pub with few her friends .... No guys but just load out of girls ... Lol i feeling like i was used

And she laughs probs that ive opened my heart ..... Oh well theres no mistakes in a lifetime only lessons

December2012 · 13-03-2013 08:06PM

Okay, firstly ladies love a nice guy, so ignore that "treat em mean advice".

But to be honest you do not sound emotionally ready for a relationship.

You were very intense with some body after just a few days. That's not good.

Look, I think you need to talk to somebody because it seems as if you don't have confidence.

Maybe by talking it out with a proper therapist you can stop being so needy and have confidence to be the great guy you are without all of this emotional baggage.

Good luck.

Taltos · 15-03-2013 12:04PM

As OP has opened a new thread we are closing this one.

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