Would you have cracked!

Candie wrote: »

Exactly what I was thinking.

Give the child the egg, you're creating an entitled little brat who expects everything he wants to be handed to him - bad parent!

Don't give the child the egg, the child cries and you studiously ignore it, and the peace of everyone around is disrupted by 'screaming brat who's mother does nothing to shut it up' - bad parent!

To some people you are a bad parent for breathing. But it is so hard in public to ignore the tantrums because of the interferers and the judgemental people who make it so hard. I wouldn't mind, but I would put money they too are/were like that with their children.

Madam_X wrote: »

Fair play to you - that's what I would view as the ideal, but I wouldn't blame a parent for giving their child a treat in public to get them to quieten down, in order to ward off hostility from onlookers who don't understand that small children sometimes have tantrums no matter how competent their parents are.

I do the ultimate faux-pas, go straight to the sweeties, let him choose one and put it in the basket, if he misbehaves it goes back, so I get a good boy the whole way around the shop usually. But again, it is for after he helps with chores or if he eats his dinner.

Seen something similar my self in a supermarket recently. There was a little girl aged about 4 with her mother ahead of me in the queue. She took a Kinder egg from the sweet stand and quietly asked her mother if she could get it. Her mam said no. The little girl just asked once more and was told "no" again. Her mam took the egg from her and put it back on the stand. The child looked so sad. She didn't kick up a fuss or have a tantrum or anything. I think the mother probably just couldn't afford to buy the treat for her daughter; they looked very poor

Guess you just don't know anybody's circumstances; maybe the elderly man who bought the creme egg for the little boy just reckoned he was doing a good deed.

strobe wrote: »

I mentioned nothing of rudeness, in fact I emphasized politeness. Read my posts a little more carefully if you're intent on addressing them, it'll save us both time.

Embarrassing people? Come off it, saying "sorry I told him no" is hardly pulling his trousers round his ankles now is it? Is this man the most sensitive soul who has ever graced our fine and noble land, or what, in your imagination?

If I bought a kid in a cue behind me a treat (I wouldn't but that's not really the point), handed it to the parent/child and they said "sorry I told him no", I would be embarrassed, and I'm quite young, simply because, I'd tried to do a nice thing and it's declined in front of a cue of people (I also know many (especially older) people that think buying something for a small child/giving them money is a sign of luck).

We hear so much about the decline of the sense of community, but yet when it's offered, even if it is in kind of a weird way, it's refused. Although, I do draw the line at people trying to touch pregnant lady's bumps or babies in prams etc...ugh (anyone from Galway, Nora tried to touch my child in his pram when he was a few weeks old - bleugh!)

toddlers have communication,expression and emotional regulation difficulties so although woud not have automaticaly bought the child chocolate-because do not know her and any issues it woud cause,have also got a lot of understanding of kids and the difficulty they have learning to cope with feelings and being able to express themselves.
it isnt fair for people to assume theyre spoilt little shts when they tantrum in a public place over things such as a chocolate egg,both emotional regulation and expression are big minefields to kids to learn [many of us never get past that or are acutely impaired due to issues like ASDs and intelectual disability] ,they shoud be redirected in what theyre doing; perhaps offer them something non acidic and healthy when get home-no giving in but no punishing them for the way they operate either,they do not have the mental capacity to think like regular older kids or adults woud when it comes to manipulating parents into buying stuff for them.

yep their screaming is like shooting acid covered nails through the brain am saying that as someone with profound hearing sensitivity but having two nieces who are almost two and the other close by,it is so much easier to live with it by understanding them instead of
seeing them as noisy inconveniences.

the sis hates any of us giving the oldest one anything sweet including a drink of ribena, it has to be so diluted that even the niece feels insulted let alone us by watching it,will only give her treats if her ma says yes and a bit more than that when ma isnt here.
-the old guy who is being refered to in the OP is probably a grandad and is well used to sneaking his grandkids stuff as dad does the same to sisters kids.

its funny as people like the sis think healthy eating is unbeateable,she got told by the dentist the little ones teeth were being eroded by the acid from eating fruit and had to cut back on the amount.
and washing kids teeth often to combat sugar/acid isnt a definite sign they wil be good teeth either,mine have been totaly screwed since childhood due to severe dental flurorosis [caused by the fluoride from obsessive tooth paste eating,but thats another issue].

I'd say that was one for the photo albumen.

I would have brought one and ate it in front of the child. I am a bad person