Would you have cracked!

27-02-2013 05:55PM #1

I was in a shop this morning there was about 5 people there including a woman with a toddler of about 3 in his buggy...he asked for a cream egg with were at his eye line his mother said no...he started to cry.. not scream or have a temper tantrum just a pityful cry of please mama please mama which quietened down to a sob....I just knew all of us in the Que were thinking I'll buy it for him! but of course his mother had said no and you can interfered with her disision...but an elderly man in the Que purchased two of them and gave the child one the motherer graciously accepted it and did not tell yer man to get lost.

So would you have cracked particularity as the child was not bold or screaming I was just too afraid of insulating the mother by interfering.

Where To · 27-02-2013 05:57PM

I predict this thread will be full of stupid puns.

slavetothegrind · 27-02-2013 05:57PM

of course i would.
Everyone knows you give a whinging child what they want to shut them up!

beertons · 27-02-2013 05:57PM

Cracked it off her head, is what he should have done. The biatch.

hoodwinked · 27-02-2013 05:57PM

honestly i'd never buy something for a child i don't know in that situation, for all you know he could be allergic to them, and you don't know the parents attitude towards sweets and treats and you are making life harder for said parent by undermining them...

seamus · 27-02-2013 05:58PM

If I was that mother I would have pocketed it and eaten it later with a cup of tea, or maybe given it to the child as a reward.

It's not like the child was starving. I'd be a bit pissed off if a stranger decided they were going to give chocolate to my child.

Where To · 27-02-2013 05:59PM

Where To wrote: »

I predict this thread will be full of stupid puns.

slavetothegrind wrote: »

of course i would.
Everyone knows you give a whinging child what they want to shut them up!

beertons wrote: »

Cracked it off her head, is what he should have done. The biatch.

hoodwinked wrote: »

honestly i'd never buy something for a child i don't know in that situation, for all you know he could be allergic to them, and you don't know the parents attitude towards sweets and treats and you are making life harder for said parent by undermining them...

seamus wrote: »

If I was that mother I would have pocketed it and eaten it later with a cup of tea, or maybe given it to the child as a reward.

It's not like the child was starving. I'd be a bit pissed off if a stranger decided they were going to give chocolate to my child.

Not going as I eggspected so far. . . .

Dub13 · 27-02-2013 06:00PM

The real question here is Why the fcuk did you think this was worth starting a thread...?

DrumSteve · 27-02-2013 06:01PM

Yeah,Id be pissed if some yoke bought one for my kid cos your pretty much just egging the child on to do that in future. Just dont crack and give in.

Paz-CCFC · 27-02-2013 06:01PM

Fair play to her for showing her child that he can't have everything he wants.

Jimoslimos · 27-02-2013 06:01PM

TBH I'd have been shell-shocked if she gave in to the little yoke's demands

27-02-2013 06:01PM

slavetothegrind wrote: »

of course i would.
Everyone knows you give a whining child what they want to shut them up!

But he was not winging it was the pitiful cry that got to me children are the greatest manipulates in the world I think.

ElleEm · 27-02-2013 06:02PM

Ye, if I was the mother in question, I would've went nuts.
You said it was the morning, and a toddler who is young enough to be in a buggy was handed a super sugary chocolate treat by a stranger after his mother said no... there is so much wrong with that!

Ihatecuddles-old · 27-02-2013 06:02PM

COmpletely OT but I still laugh when I think about it.

On the Luas with my 2 year old and a woman gets on with shopping. On the top of the bag were bananas.

My son kept asking her for one! I kept telling him I'd get him one when we got off the Luas, everyone around kept laughing...he kept saying he wanted one as a treat, he's been really good etc. The woman gave him one. I was grateful, she was lovely, he thanked her for it and so did I.

Guess you had to be there. I gave him a banana in Tesco one day, and he said he's the luckiest boy in the world. The man beside me just looked at me like I'm a horrible mother.

jester77 · 27-02-2013 06:02PM

Creme egg, eh!

TwoShedsJackson · 27-02-2013 06:02PM

Paz-CCFC wrote: »

Fair play to her for showing her child that he can't have everything he wants.

The lesson the kid has learned is that old men are nice and give sweets to children. That'll stand to him in later life.

HondaSami · 27-02-2013 06:03PM

The mother did the right thing in accepting it, it's up to her whether she gives it to the child or not. Personally i would eat it myself.

Where To · 27-02-2013 06:03PM

DrumSteve wrote: »

Yeah,Id be pissed if some yoke bought one for my kid cos your pretty much just egging the child on to do that in future. Just dont crack and give in.

Jimoslimos wrote: »

TBH I'd have been shell-shocked if she gave in to the little yoke's demands

What kept you lads?:pac:

strobe · 27-02-2013 06:03PM

Children can't just be given what they want when they want because they cry. I'd have minded my own business and if I was the mother of the child I very much would have (firmly but politely) told your man to get lost.

HondaSami · 27-02-2013 06:06PM

strobe wrote: »

Children can't just be given what they want when they want because they cry. I'd have minded my own business and if I was the mother of the child I very much would have (firmly but politely) told your man to get lost.

The man was just being kind, it might not be appropriate but no need to make a big deal out of it either, he was doing it for the right reasons.

strobe · 27-02-2013 06:07PM

HondaSami wrote: »

The man was just being kind, it might not be appropriate but no need to make a big deal out of it either, he was doing it for the right reasons.

Kind but misguided, which is why the word politely is in my post.

HondaSami · 27-02-2013 06:12PM

strobe wrote: »

Kind but misguided, which is why the word politely is in my post.

It's just as easy to say thank you and accept it, why make the man feel bad, he probably thought he was doing something nice.

slavetothegrind · 27-02-2013 06:16PM

A bit creepy buying sweets and giving them to strangers kids

Bad enough when you are with your best mates smart ass fiveyearold and he gets asked if his daddy beside him would buy him something and he says "he's not my daddy" pause " i don't know who he is"
I had to let go of his hand and run.........

......to get his nearby daddy of course.....

strobe · 27-02-2013 06:19PM

HondaSami wrote: »

It's just as easy to say thank you and accept it, why make the man feel bad, he probably thought he was doing something nice.

It's not just as easy, it's much much easier. Even easier again would have been to just buy the egg herself when the child cried. Doesn't mean it's the right thing to do. He was a grown man, I'm sure he would get over being made 'feel bad' by a mother politely telling him not to give her child a sweet after she had told him he couldn't have it...

wolfpawnat · 27-02-2013 06:19PM

I would thank the person and tell them my son would get it after his dinner. Inside I would be cursing them to the ends of the earth. As nice as the gesture was, it taught the child to whinge to get its way in front of strangers. I would be livid. If a mother says no, then no is the answer, who the hell do people think they are interfering with the raising of another's child? I tear strips off my son's grandmother for trying to undermine me. I do laugh that the same generation that beat their kids off the four walls are the ones thinking saying no to a sweet in the AM is horrible these days!

VinLieger · 27-02-2013 06:22PM

Would have bought one bent down to his eye level and eaten it in front of him while staring coldly into his annoying little eyes then laugh manically and walk off

Ihatecuddles-old · 27-02-2013 06:24PM

VinLieger wrote: »

Would have bought one bent down to his eye level and eaten it in front of him while staring coldly into his annoying little eyes then laugh manically and walk off

I shouldn't have laughed, but I did.

Even better, open it, put it on the ground and stand on it.

brandon_flowers · 27-02-2013 06:25PM

wolfpawnat wrote: »

I would thank the person and tell them my son would get it after his dinner. Inside I would be cursing them to the ends of the earth. As nice as the gesture was, it taught the child to whinge to get its way in front of strangers. I would be livid. If a mother says no, then no is the answer, who the hell do people think they are interfering with the raising of another's child? I tear strips off my son's grandmother for trying to undermine me. I do laugh that the same generation that beat their kids off the four walls are the ones thinking saying no to a sweet in the AM is horrible these days!

I remember a lot more the times strangers/friends of my parents gave me money or sweets than any time my parents gave me a wallop. They are not undermining you they are actually giving your kids memories which they will cherish in later years.

DrumSteve · 27-02-2013 06:28PM

Where To wrote: »

What kept you lads?:pac:

Not sure, I took the eggspress train here.

27-02-2013 06:30PM

wolfpawnat wrote: »

I would thank the person and tell them my son would get it after his dinner. Inside I would be cursing them to the ends of the earth. As nice as the gesture was, it taught the child to whinge to get its way in front of strangers. I would be livid. If a mother says no, then no is the answer, who the hell do people think they are interfering with the raising of another's child? I tear strips off my son's grandmother for trying to undermine me. I do laugh that the same generation that beat their kids off the four walls are the ones thinking saying no to a sweet in the AM is horrible these days!

Of course you are completely right normally when I see a child having a tt in a supermarket I just think how hard parenting is.

wolfpawnat · 27-02-2013 06:38PM

brandon_flowers wrote: »

I remember a lot more the times strangers/friends of my parents gave me money or sweets than any time my parents gave me a wallop. They are not undermining you they are actually giving your kids memories which they will cherish in later years.

I remember the day of my communion I got £1 off a French couple and was chuffed, it was put in my credit union account (I was mad about saving, even as a kid) and as I said it is a nice gesture, but still, if a parent says no, it means no. It is their prerogative to raise their child as they choose.

mariaalice wrote: »

Of course you are completely right normally when I see a child having a tt in a supermarket I just think how hard parenting is.

TT's are the worst, you don't want your child being upset, you want to give them everything, but you can't. Not to mention, it is embarrassing when people turn and look at you, and in many cases judge you. My son chooses his daily treat at Tesco's as we shop, but he does not get it until later in the day and usually after his dinner or if he does something good (he is a champ for helping me with chores) I don't want to seem horrible, but never does he get a treat in the AM, and treats are earned, not an assumption. People who undermine a parent are a pet-peeve of mine. As long as they are not cruel to a child, then leave them rear them the way they want to is my attitude, even if I do not agree with their technique.

Would you have cracked!

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