Moving out for the first time

Fannyhead · 19-02-2013 02:10AM #1

So a mate of mine asked me at the weekend would I be interested in renting a house and getting another friend so there would be 3 of us sharing the rent and bills. Both of us still live at home (both mid 20s). I would like to move out but the thought terrifies me. I admit that my Mother does everything for me (washing, cooking, etc) and I know that's not ideal. I'm working every second week and in total my income would be around €1000 p/m. That's not a lot I know but hopefully I will be full time again soon if things pick up again.

Sorry for the long-winded post but I just wanted to get everyone else's stories of when they first moved out and how did they manage.

Mr. Incognito · 19-02-2013 02:12AM

Both of us still live at home (both mid 20s)

Only In Ireland.

I moved out at 18 for college and got a job. Like the rest of the world

You poor scrounger. You'll starve to death in a week

The Barefoot Pizza Thief · 19-02-2013 02:15AM

Fannyhead wrote: »

I would like to move out but the thought terrifies me.

Terrified of moving out and yet you think being locked up is a holiday camp :P

Sh1tbag OToole · 19-02-2013 02:16AM

Mr. Incognito wrote: »

Only In Ireland.

I moved out at 18 for college and got a job. Like the rest of the world

You poor scrounger. You'll starve to death in a week

AFAIK it's much worse in spain, italy and greece. To blazes with this Only in Ireland nonsense

CianRyan · 19-02-2013 02:17AM

Mr. Incognito wrote: »

Only In Ireland.

I moved out at 18 for college and got a job. Like the rest of the world

You poor scrounger. You'll starve to death in a week

What year was that, if you don't mind me asking?

cartell_best · 19-02-2013 02:19AM

OP, I moved out when I was 16 (did my leaving cert and moved on), and more importantly moved to London, where I joined most of my brothers and sisters (as in family btw). I thought that was the end of the world. It wasn't the end of the world, but thank fook, it was the end of one part of my life and I moved on to the next. I never looked back. No matter what age ya are, no matter where you feel on the social ladder, do what you think is right and never mind all the doubter's.

Fannyhead · 19-02-2013 02:19AM

Mr. Incognito wrote: »

Only In Ireland.

I moved out at 18 for college and got a job. Like the rest of the world

You poor scrounger. You'll starve to death in a week

Well thanks for that utterly useless input.

You moved out at 18, good for you. Here, have a gold star.

R0ot · 19-02-2013 02:20AM

I have a very funny tale of my first move out. Similar situation as above a friend asked/said I should move out. Moved from Donegal to Maynooth lived with 5 other lads. Dole life was not enjoyable but it was not especially difficult to live off 800e a month.

Moved down expecting to get a job fast, ha, met my current OH at month 5 we found out we were expecting 5 months later (ha ha I know) got a job 4 months after this.

Fast forward 4 years and same OH, +1 kid, 3 house moves and several promotions later all experiences were fun and not sure I'd change anything. )))))

Knasher · 19-02-2013 02:22AM

Mr. Incognito wrote: »

Only In Ireland.

I moved out at 18 for college and got a job. Like the rest of the world

You poor scrounger. You'll starve to death in a week

Slacker. I moved out when I was 17.

After college I got a place with 4 of my friends. One of the guys moved back home after about a month, he still paid rent for a while though, until we got someone else to come in and take his place. After that I went into an apt above a pub, it was ok at first, but then they started going out of business and started turning up the volume in order to attract customers (which obviously didn't work), really ruined the apt.

After that I lived in a victorian apartment with single pane glass windows, during that really cold winter we had..... The less said about that the better.

Now I'm living in a 2 bed appartment. It isn't big but it I really like it. Honestly at this stage I couldn't go back living at home.

Fannyhead · 19-02-2013 02:22AM

The Barefoot Pizza Thief wrote: »

Terrified of moving out and yet you think being locked up is a holiday camp :P

At least I wouldn't have to pay for rent, food, electricity, etc though.

hames · 19-02-2013 02:30AM

I moved out when I started University and lived on campus. Had an agreement with my folks before I finished school that if I was staying in Dublin I wasn't staying living at home and it was the best thing I could have done. It was rubbish having to pay my own way, but it also changed my relationship with my parents and made me into a more responsible person. The free rein was nice too:P

I don't share in the blame you've taken for staying at home this long OP, but for your own benefit I'd say move out now, you've already missed enough.

theidiots · 19-02-2013 02:32AM

The average age of when my friends properly moved out was around 22/23 when they finished college and got their first job or moved in the girlfriend. Others who had apprenticeships moved out at 17 or 18 and now most of them are back living with their parents or left the country. Even a lot of friends still come back home and stay with their parents on weekends.

There is no shame in living with your parents. I've falled back on them many times, everyone does. Lost a job moved back home at 25 for six months until I could get another job. Didn't want to move 30KM away and wouldn't know anyone in order to rent a place

I know others in their 30's who still live at home where I'm from. They can't get work and theres no accomadation in the area they live in and don't want to move away

Its all a big stupid myth people judging others who are still living at home.

This thing about responsibility is all rubbish. I don't live with my parents and use their house the whole time to get home to see friends every couple of weekends

B.A._Baracus · 19-02-2013 02:32AM

Mr. Incognito wrote: »

Only In Ireland.

I moved out at 18 for college and got a job. Like the rest of the world

You poor scrounger. You'll starve to death in a week

So mammy and daddy paid for your place and college

Wow. Man, you're a 'go getter' arent ya

Bipolar Joe · 19-02-2013 02:33AM

Ran away from home when I was fourteen. A few years of hard drugs, now I'm doing pretty OK many years later.

As for managing, I honestly think I'd be dead right now if it wasn't for a few very special people. But I was a kid, and you're an adult. You can manage it, OP. I believe in you. And Santa.

Mr. Incognito · 19-02-2013 02:34AM

B.A._Baracus wrote: »

So mammy and daddy paid for your place and college

Wow. Man, you're a 'go getter' arent ya

My old man died inconveniently of cancer. Selfish prick. So it was a grant and a full time job for me, through college, tax exams and solicitor training.

Tough slog.

Bipolar Joe · 19-02-2013 02:36AM

Mr. Incognito wrote: »

My old man died inconveniently of cancer. Selfish prick. So it was a grant and a full time job for me, through college, tax exams and solicitor training.

Tough slog.

B.A._Baracus wrote: »

So mammy and daddy the government paid for your place and college

Wow. Man, you're a 'go getter' arent ya

FYP.

theidiots · 19-02-2013 02:38AM

The thing I find as well is that more people move out of their parents in dublin, cork, waterford but places like Kilkenny, Laois wheres theres feck all accomadation they tend to stay at home

Micky Dolenz · 19-02-2013 02:42AM

The clock is ticking on you.

I left home when I just turned 17. Hadn't finished my LC yet.circumstance and maturity had a lot to do with my move.

Mid 20's, I was very much independent in every way.

Have only been home to visit since.

theidiots · 19-02-2013 02:43AM

Micky Dolenz wrote: »

The clock is ticking on you.

I left home when I just turned 17. Hadn't finished my LC yet.circumstance and maturity had a lot to do with my move.

Mid 20's, I was very much independent in every way.

Have only been home to visit since.

And? Is that something to be proud of?

Boombastic · 19-02-2013 02:43AM

Ask your mammy will she move in with you

Fannyhead · 19-02-2013 02:44AM

Micky Dolenz wrote: »

The clock is ticking on you.

I'm 24 not 64.

Micky Dolenz · 19-02-2013 02:45AM

theidiots wrote: »

And? Is that something to be proud of?

Yeah, actually it is. For me anyway.

Everyone for their own though.

belcampprisoner · 19-02-2013 02:45AM

what is your rent,it should only be 25% of your wages what other expensis have you got

Fannyhead · 19-02-2013 02:49AM

belcampprisoner wrote: »

what is your rent,it should only be 25% of your wages what other expensis have you got

Around €700-€750 for a 3 bed in my area so that would be €250 each p/m + bills. I drive and have a CU loan of €300 p/m but that will be paid off soon

Micky Dolenz · 19-02-2013 02:50AM

Fannyhead wrote: »

I'm 24 not 64.

Fannyhead, you are nearly a quarter of a century, Start acting it.

phoenix999 · 19-02-2013 02:52AM

Take solace OP, my older brother earns a decent enough salary (over 50 grand), and still lives with my pensioner parents. Mum still makes his bed, does his washing, and cooks his meals. And he is 41 years of age! The guy has no shame. I partly blame my mother for making him so useless.

Fannyhead · 19-02-2013 02:54AM

phoenix999 wrote: »

Take solace OP, my older brother earns a decent enough salary (over 50 grand), and still lives with my pensioner parents. Mum still makes his bed, does his washing, and cooks his meals. And he is 41 years of age! The guy has no shame. I partly blame my mother for making him so useless.

That's bad, no excuse for that. I do not want my mother to be still looking after me at 41!

Cookie_Monster · 19-02-2013 02:57AM

Do it and never look back.

Peregrinus · 19-02-2013 03:01AM

You're 25, you're earning enough to cover the expected rent with 25% of your income, you're optimistic that your earnings will rise in the medium term.

If not now, when? Go for it.

phoenix999 · 19-02-2013 03:01AM

Fannyhead wrote: »

That's bad, no excuse for that. I do not want my mother to be still looking after me at 41!

That's the sad thing. My dog is more house trained than him. He would probably die if he had to live on his own. He couldn't boil an egg if you asked him. I left home at 21, and have never looked back.

Fannyhead · 19-02-2013 03:02AM

Cookie_Monster wrote: »

Do it and never look back.

Not trying to be smart but It's easy for people to say this. If I was earning more money I'd be out of here like a shot but the truth is my job ain't that secure at the moment as it's hugely inconsistent. I don't want to move out and be penniless after rent and bills and not able to go out and enjoy myself with friends on the weekend, life is too short for that.

Moving out for the first time

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