Happiness is......

Ellie2008 · 17-02-2013 01:25AM #1

What do you aspire to gain from life? What makes you happy? I'm watching a talk given by Sam Harris about death and how most people will regret what they wasted their energies on, not necessarily working too much but more what their focus was, although I imagine there is some overlap. So what makes you happy - money, status, power, a sense of contributing to society ..... I think when I was younger I was certainly driven by a need to achieve status, then money and now probably a need to feel my contribution matters in some way.

cloud493 · 17-02-2013 01:26AM

Having a really nice cup of tea. That is a moment of happiness for me. A nice of cup of tea, a biscuit or two, and something on the telly.

SunKing · 17-02-2013 01:26AM

.... a warm gun

Pottler · 17-02-2013 01:26AM

thanks. Loads of thanks. And money. And Butterflies. On toast.

ITS_A_BADGER · 17-02-2013 01:27AM

a cigar called hamlet

kfallon · 17-02-2013 01:27AM

Happiness is a cigar called hamlet!

barney 20v · 17-02-2013 01:28AM

ITS_A_BADGER wrote: »

a cigar called hamlet

Not the hairy hamlet though....;)

Where To · 17-02-2013 01:28AM

Happiness is whatever makes you happy.

smash · 17-02-2013 01:29AM

Beer and a blowjob!

racso1975 · 17-02-2013 01:29AM

Waking up in the morning to discover one of my two boys have snoke into the bed and have an arm wrapped around me

ITS_A_BADGER · 17-02-2013 01:30AM

barney 20v wrote: »

Not the hairy hamlet though....;)

I think you're mixing them up with smoking the pink cigars

Hande hoche! · 17-02-2013 01:32AM

To crush your enemies, see them driven before you, and to hear the lamentation of their women.

df1985 · 17-02-2013 01:32AM

freedom.

Pottler · 17-02-2013 01:32AM

racso1975 wrote: »

Waking up in the morning to discover one of my two boys have snoke into the bed and have an arm wrapped around me

bigamist.

Gummy Panda · 17-02-2013 01:33AM

Getting your belly rubbed while having a big stretch

doulikeit · 17-02-2013 01:34AM

Tits, beer, pancakes, watching fat people fall

kfallon · 17-02-2013 01:36AM

Happiness is watching Kieren Fallon ride any winner

NegativeCreep · 17-02-2013 01:36AM

Obviously money. I'd be tge happiest person alive if I won the euromillions.

Scruffles · 17-02-2013 01:37AM

am aspiring to gain as many animals as possible,they are what makes life in own circumstance.
chickens,cats and horses!
it has been a lifelong dream to get a horse [doesnt matter if its a miniture shetland or unbroken as riding isnt necesary] have had profound connections with them since a young age and dont connect/interact with humans so woud dearly love a horse.
the cheap thing is buying them [not that theyre cheap in this country mind] the expensive thing is insurance,shoeing and farrier visits,worming,hay, stable rent etc and living in residential care have not got the ability to just get up and go look after them as we do not have enough staff per person to just do that when we want.

spankysue · 17-02-2013 01:38AM

Happiness for me is being able to be my weird self and having people who still love me anyway

Pottler · 17-02-2013 01:40AM

spankysue wrote: »

Happiness for me is being able to be my weird self and having people who still love me anyway

good luck with that:p

17-02-2013 01:42AM

Ellie2008 wrote: »

What do you aspire to gain from life? What makes you happy? I'm watching a talk given by Sam Harris about death and how most people will regret what they wasted their energies on, not necessarily working too much but more what their focus was, although I imagine there is some overlap. So what makes you happy - money, status, power, a sense of contributing to society

The Sam Harris speeches touched me too. Meeting him and talking to him is the main reason I took up Vipassana.

What I have learned since that meeting is that "happiness" is hard to attain when you judge yourself against the standards of others. No matter how hard you work or try there is always someone better than you. Unless you are the world champion in your field - which is a rare few - you will always be "less than perfect".

I have been abundantly happy since I changed my focus. I now judge myself against one standard only - I judge the person I am today against the person I was yesterday. Every day I strive to better that person. Intellectually - knowledge - physically - "Spiritually" (in the harris sense of that word) - morally (again) - or whatever - I just work to better the me of yesterday using the me of today.

And every day it brings me no end of joy.

The rest of my joy comes from finding ways of using those skills and attributes to bring joy - happiness - fun - or alleviation of pain into the lives of others.

Cavehill Red · 17-02-2013 01:42AM

C21 H30 O2 or C2 H5 OH.

wardy2 · 17-02-2013 01:44AM

having a healthy bowel movements

Pottler · 17-02-2013 01:45AM

"Sam Harris touched me". Hmm. Contemporary and topical. I like it.

Itwasntme. · 17-02-2013 01:45AM

....those rare moments when for whatever reason, I feel well and truly free. Free from societal pressures and expectations; free from any mental anguish...just free.

spankysue · 17-02-2013 01:45AM

Pottler wrote: »

good luck with that:p

You wouldn't believe how well it's worked for me

kfallon · 17-02-2013 01:46AM

wardy2 wrote: »

having a healthy bowel movements

I'm as regular as a Kennedy funeral, you could set your watch by my arse

17-02-2013 01:47AM

Pottler wrote: »

"Sam Harris touched me". Hmm. Contemporary and topical. I like it.

He just gets away with it by saying "It was not me - it was ben Stiller" though.

doulikeit · 17-02-2013 01:49AM

taxAHcruel wrote: »

The Sam Harris speeches touched me too. Meeting him and talking to him is the main reason I took up Vipassana.

What I have learned since that meeting is that "happiness" is hard to attain when you judge yourself against the standards of others. No matter how hard you work or try there is always someone better than you. Unless you are the world champion in your field - which is a rare few - you will always be "less than perfect".

I have been abundantly happy since I changed my focus. I now judge myself against one standard only - I judge the person I am today against the person I was yesterday. Every day I strive to better that person. Intellectually - knowledge - physically - "Spiritually" (in the harris sense of that word) - morally (again) - or whatever - I just work to better the me of yesterday using the me of today.

And every day it brings me no end of .

The rest of my joy comes from finding ways of using those skills and attributes to bring joy - happiness - fun - or alleviation of pain into the lives of others.

That's nice ur nice i wish there was more People like u and less bastards bringing misery

17-02-2013 01:50AM

doulikeit wrote: »

That's nice ur nice i wish there was more People like u and less bastards bringing misery

I am sure I bring misery to some people in my life unintentionally. My neighbour hates me like you would not believe for example

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