Attracted to a taller woman

Hpbiea · 14-02-2013 09:15PM #1

I am a young male, only 5'8 and while my previous gf's have been very small (5'0 - 5'3) and I like chatting up and prefer talking to petite ladies of around this height - I have found myself not only talking to a lady 3 inches taller than me, but also feel extremely attracted to.

I am wondering if this infatuation is somewhat hypocritical, as I myself love tiny women - and I'm sure she conversely loves big, tall men - in a way I suppose to make her feel feminine and like a woman.

My question is to blokes, would you date a bird 3 inches taller and bigger than you - and ladies would you date a bloke 3 inches smaller than you, providing you liked him - or would you honestly still prefer to date a taller and bigger man than you

Honest answers from both fellas and girls are much appreciated. I would prefer an honest answer tbh, particulary from females.

Is seeking a lady 3 inches taller pointless, or is there a case here? Again, honest, upfront and non-PC answers appreciated.

CheerS

sam34 · 14-02-2013 09:22PM

I'm a woman and am 5 ft 3 or 4, I always thought I preferred taller men but one day, unexpectedly, a man of 5ft (or possibly even 4 ft 11) came along and I was smitten, we were together quite a while.

so I'd say go for it!

Czarcasm · 14-02-2013 09:36PM

Really what is anyone else's opinion going to matter the way you have the questions set up and the way you practically already have yourself written off!

No girl is going to know what this girl sees in you, and it may be something completely unrelated to what you are fixated upon- your height!

In answer to your question (not that it really seems to matter coming from a guy anyway!), I'm 5'10" and I've gone out with girls that are taller than me, and girls that appeared taller than me when they wore heels. It hasn't bothered me, and certainly it hasn't bothered them.

I think most men would prefer to date girls that are not as tall as them, but it's hardly what I would call a deal breaker once you're both at comfortable kissing height without cricking your necks!

I say OP if this girl has expressed an interest in you, then go for it, if she hasn't, then why haven't you? Don't get so caught up with making height an issue, and you may find far more interesting things and far more important qualities in yourself that other people can bring out in you!

pwurple · 14-02-2013 11:03PM

If this girl is that tall, then I seriously doubt she is only interested in men taller than her. There aren't that many around for a start.

If you are attracted to her, then what's the problem?

Are you worried what the world will thnk? The world won't bat an eyelid. The world is used to all sorts of couples... A slight height difference is so minor it won't even register.

If you are worried she is not attacted to you... Well, she might not be. For any number of reasons... the least likely of which is going to be your height. Go find out.

LegacyUser · 14-02-2013 11:22PM

''I'm sure she conversely loves big, tall men - in a way I suppose to make her feel feminine and like a woman.''

op no one here can answer if this girl is going to be attracted to you or not. why don't you go and find out for yourself instead of worrying about it unnecessarily? and the above unfounded statement has me baffled, tbh.

blatantrereg · 15-02-2013 10:09AM

3 inches taller than me would be 6'5 so that might be a little too tall. Tall women in general can be attractive though.
But yeah I agree with voiceofreasonhere - random internet strangers can't answer on her behalf.

DeltaWhite · 15-02-2013 11:57AM

I'm 5ft 10 and I have only ever been with one guy taller than me

most of my past bfs were an inch or 2 shorter and it was grand! Don't see the problem, everyone comes in all shapes and sizes, there's no rules for you about who to date or not! Go for it!

kiddums · 15-02-2013 12:25PM

To put it crudley "they're all the same height lying down".

The point being, if your attracted to them, then why does height matter?

That being said, I'd feel akward around a woman 3 inches taller than me, but then again I'd feel awkard around anyone who is 6'8".

LegacyUser · 15-02-2013 01:54PM

You shouldn't feel weird about being shorter than the woman, OP. If wanting to feel dominant and protective is so important to you in a relationship, you should perhaps consider that your views on gender roles may be outdated.

Just look at Sophie Dahl and Jamie Cullum: https://www.google.ie/search?hl=en&sugexp=les%3B&gs_rn=3&gs_ri=psy-ab&tok=BCMFFEoUf5sSlwf5V8DzjA&cp=16&gs_id=mb&xhr=t&q=jamie+cullum+sophie+dahl&safe=off&bav=on.2,or.r_gc.r_pw.r_qf.&bvm=bv.42553238,d.ZGU&biw=1525&bih=715&um=1&ie=UTF-8&tbm=isch&source=og&sa=N&tab=wi&ei=LC8eUe6XBoO2hAfp-4HgBg

I would say that's a pretty cute couple

Queen-Mise · 15-02-2013 04:44PM

I married a man three inches shorter than myself and I said I like taller, well built, muscly men

Albeit I still find tall men attractive

It makes absolutely no odd to a relationship - I won't wear heels over 3 inches with him though. I think going over six inches taller would be a tad much.

Ask her and go from there.

LegacyUser · 15-02-2013 08:13PM

Sophie Dahl and Jamie Callum? Happiest most confident celeb couple you'll see

PerrDub · 16-02-2013 11:42PM

being a mere 5ft8 (in the morning) I have dated a few women who were 4 inches taller than me, one being a full 6 inches taller than me....though she was not Irish!

I find that Irish girls count there height with there heels on, so an average 5ft5 girl will tell you she is 5ft9! They are more concious of men being taller than them... which is funny as any guys i know over 6ft date women of 5ft4 or so and not of the same height...

So go figure!

Pessimist · 16-02-2013 11:53PM

I'd have to admit that I've never been attracted to a guy who is shorter than me. I honestly can't imagine being with a guy shorter than I am as it just seems to be a subconscious deal breaker for me. Most of my friends actually feel the same way too so I'm pleasantly surprised with the answers above.

uck51js9zml2yt · 17-02-2013 01:29AM

I'm 5'8. Wife is 6'2. Its not a problem.

LegacyUser · 17-02-2013 09:59AM

Another thing, OP. Don't be alarmed by women reporting that they don't go for shorter guys. It doesn't mean that this is the preference for women generally, or that women who say otherwise subconsciously want taller men. There could be any number of psychological reasons for this. As for myself, I had a younger brother growing up! So perhaps its an association thing with some women.

KamiKazeKitten · 17-02-2013 03:29PM

OP, go for it, you'll never know unless you try.

I'm 5 ft 4ish, I've dated guys both taller than me and my height - tbh I always said I preferred taller guys but you know what? I got on great with the 'shorter' one.
Never dated a guy shorter than me but in fairness they'd be quite hard to find!

Pug160 · 18-02-2013 11:05PM

Most women are extremely aware of it and will feel awkward because they won't feel feminine or feel it's wrong because society expects men to be taller etc. If you can get one of the 2 percent of women who don't care then fair play to you. If not, become obscenely rich and the gold diggers won't care. You could even get one at 6'3'' if you wanted.

LizT · 19-02-2013 01:44PM

Pug160 wrote: »

Most women are extremely aware of it and will feel awkward because they won't feel feminine or feel it's wrong because society expects men to be taller etc. If you can get one of the 2 percent of women who don't care then fair play to you. If not, become obscenely rich and the gold diggers won't care. You could even get one at 6'3'' if you wanted.

Sorry, I have to call BS on that. It's a big deal for some women, I wouldn't say it is for 98% of women.

I'm six foot tall, if I were to automatically rule out someone on their height, I'd be very lonely indeed.

OP, try not to worry or be self conscious about it because that will show in your interaction with her.

PerrDub · 21-02-2013 03:18PM

LizT wrote: »

I'm six foot tall, if I were to automatically rule out someone on their height, I'd be very lonely indeed.

If only more women had that view...

Most all want a man towering over them, I think it goes back to when men where the "providers" and "Protectors" rather than being equals as we are today...

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