Nice guys should just accept bachelorhood?

smash · 17-12-2012 04:54PM

seenitall wrote: »

Deffo disagree. I really dislike him cos he's as fake and self-absorbed as the 'slebs' come, but that guy has cheekbones you could comfortably shave your legs with; and not even a bee-hive on his head or the hippy facial hair can disguise that.

And that makes him attractive? I think it makes him look like a junkie to be honest.

BraziliaNZ · 17-12-2012 05:05PM

smash wrote: »

And that makes him attractive? I think it makes him look like a junkie to be honest.

Look his hair do and clothes aren't to your liking, but he's good looking, deal with it!

circular motion · 17-12-2012 05:06PM

sock puppet wrote: »

Those god damn liberal athiests. They're ruining women for everyone.

liberal athiests are just sheep, sheep simply follow; in this case, they follow a rather sinister yet unspeakable (at least on boards.ie i.e pc gone bonkers) leaderous group force as their shepard..

17-12-2012 05:06PM

circular motion wrote: »

liberal athiests who're under the impression of darwinian thinking on evolutionary psycology tend to beleive humans are literally talking animals. yes, we do still possess instinctive drives which influence the actions we feel compelled to make, but the actual decision making process is mainly influenced by cultural factors.

females in ireland are showered with 'niceness' throughout their entire upbringing due to the generally chivilous mind set we possess as a culture for a variety of reasons. just as an individual in a hot shower no longer appreciates the heat after a while, the result is a neutral emotional responce in irish women to 'niceness' from men.

the 'bad boy' on the other hand, is not inclined to shower females with niceness but instead with a bit of meanness, causing a reaction in her emotionally (which is what attracting females is all about). she thinks unknowingly "if he treats me this way while the others dont that must make him of some kind of special value" and the legs spread.

most women in the world very much appreciate chivalry and would view the 'women being attracted to bad boys' phenomenon as insane. only certain spoiled nationalities of women from affluent countries who no longer need men behave in this manner. men should not change who they are and acquire negative qualities to their character just to attract such types.

Thanks for clearing that up.

cantdecide · 17-12-2012 05:13PM

circular motion wrote: »

liberal athiests who're under the impression of darwinian thinking on evolutionary psycology tend to beleive humans are literally talking animals. yes, we do still possess instinctive drives which influence the actions we feel compelled to make, but the actual decision making process is mainly influenced by cultural factors.

females in ireland are showered with 'niceness' throughout their entire upbringing due to the generally chivilous mind set we possess as a culture for a variety of reasons. just as an individual in a hot shower no longer appreciates the heat after a while, the result is a neutral emotional responce in irish women to 'niceness' from men.

the 'bad boy' on the other hand, is not inclined to shower females with niceness but instead with a bit of meanness, causing a reaction in her emotionally (which is what attracting females is all about). she thinks unknowingly "if he treats me this way while the others dont that must make him of some kind of special value" and the legs spread.

most women in the world very much appreciate chivalry and would view the 'women being attracted to bad boys' phenomenon as insane. only certain spoiled nationalities of women from affluent countries who no longer need men behave in this manner. men should not change who they are and acquire negative qualities to their character just to attract such types.

Treat 'em mean. Keep 'em keen. It all makes sense now.

circular motion wrote: »

liberal athiests are just sheep, sheep simply follow; in this case, they follow a rather sinister yet unspeakable (at least on boards.ie i.e pc gone bonkers) leaderous group force as their shepard..

I find this post baffling.

smash · 17-12-2012 05:15PM

BraziliaNZ wrote: »

Look his hair do and clothes aren't to your liking, but he's good looking, deal with it!

Aw bless. You want to be Russell Brand don't you

BraziliaNZ · 17-12-2012 05:23PM

smash wrote: »

Aw bless. You want to be Russell Brand don't you

No but I wouldn't mind getting anywhere near the amount of tail that he does

take everything · 17-12-2012 05:44PM

blacklilly wrote: »

Could the same be said for nice girls? It's not just so called "nice guys" that feel hard done by, there is also that breed of woman.

Also the type of women who likes bad boys is usually the type of women who loves drama and is probably not someone most men would like to be in a long term relationship with.
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A nice woman (which to me suggests someone happier in themselves) is vastly more attractive to me than the opposite.
Especially if confident (proper confidence not the fake stuff) and independent-minded.
Even if she's a loner (actually that can be quite sexy).

somefeen · 17-12-2012 05:53PM

So having a girlfriend means I'm an asshole?

**** you to

Adamantium · 17-12-2012 06:22PM

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GGp25fn25Cs

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JGjPLeMEZLE

The first 5mins of this video is really good, they're ordinary decent,cool guys who happen to like self improvement

"PUA" is very close to self improvement nowadays.

Honest to god home truths in rsd nation videos. its not this dirty sordid perception that theyr'e out to ruin womens lives or some similar crap

Some of the material and general wisdom is for any area of life really! (men
and women)

If people are sparked to action to improve their lives e.g.(less of a walkover), does it matter how it happens?

Wibbs · 17-12-2012 06:40PM

cantdecide wrote: »

I find this post baffling.

This one has been around for a while CD and seems to want a return to 1950's mores and all that. Oh and the "sinister yet unspeakable (at least on boards.ie i.e pc gone bonkers) leaderous group force" he's talking about and not for the first time are.... Fanfare! The Jews. Oh yes. Them. :eek: Apparently not being content with well poisoning they're already branching out into mind control through our media. The monsters!!. Sex and the city and the "Jewish actress" that was the main star is a particular bugbear for our friend.

Over in the Ladies Lounge I formed the theory that maybe he was Mel Gibson, considering some of the weird beliefs involved, but figured he couldn't be as Mel is rich and successful and has no trouble getting women.

Daveysil15 · 17-12-2012 06:53PM

Adamantium wrote: »

If people are sparked to action to improve their lives e.g.(less of a walkover), does it matter how it happens?

You make an interesting point. While I don't really agree with the PUA stuff, I'm sure it has worked for some people. There was a thread done about this before and there was a guy who said he had Aspergers and the PUA material really helped him out. You can always improve yourself.

Scanlas The 2nd · 17-12-2012 09:34PM

Adamantium wrote: »

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GGp25fn25Cs

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JGjPLeMEZLE
The first 5mins of this video is really good, they're ordinary decent,cool guys who happen to like self improvement

"PUA" is very close to self improvement nowadays.

Honest to god home truths in rsd nation videos. its not this dirty sordid perception that theyr'e out to ruin womens lives or some similar crap

Some of the material and general wisdom is for any area of life really! (men
and women)

If people are sparked to action to improve their lives e.g.(less of a walkover), does it matter how it happens?

That first video could be helpful for the guys in the Depression thread.

kowloon · 17-12-2012 10:16PM

Wibbs wrote: »

This one has been around for a while CD and seems to want a return to 1950's mores and all that. Oh and the "sinister yet unspeakable (at least on boards.ie i.e pc gone bonkers) leaderous group force" he's talking about and not for the first time are.... Fanfare! The Jews. Oh yes. Them. :eek: Apparently not being content with well poisoning they're already branching out into mind control through our media. The monsters!!. Sex and the city and the "Jewish actress" that was the main star is a particular bugbear for our friend.

I often wonder if the batsh!t types on here can be easily picked out in real life or if it only manifests itself online. Do they lead normal lives with all this locked away from view until they can let out a burst of crazy.

He's right about the Jews though, they're in the pocket of the Lizards.

blacklilly · 17-12-2012 10:21PM

take everything wrote: »

A nice woman (which to me suggests someone happier in themselves) is vastly more attractive to me than the opposite.
Especially if confident (proper confidence not the fake stuff) and independent-minded.
Even if she's a loner (actually that can be quite sexy).

Well its amazing the amount of men that fall for the high maintenance types and don't look twice at the quieter reserved girls.

Truncheon Rouge · 17-12-2012 10:43PM

hahaha @ the thought of me raising another mans child.

nat happanin

blacklilly · 17-12-2012 10:46PM

Truncheon Rouge wrote: »

hahaha @ the thought of me raising another mans child.

nat happanin

What's that?

SouthTippBass · 17-12-2012 10:51PM

But I'm a complete asshole and I'm still single, where am I going wrong?!

Truncheon Rouge · 17-12-2012 10:56PM

blacklilly wrote: »

What's that?

op says stuff about raising other mens kids.

nae.

amacca · 17-12-2012 11:02PM

blacklilly wrote: »

Well its amazing the amount of men that fall for the high maintenance types and don't look twice at the quieter reserved girls.

but the quieter reserved girls don't want me either

what is a boy to do?

Czarcasm · 17-12-2012 11:05PM

Truncheon Rouge wrote: »

...

Whatever about your opinion, but your username tbh scares the shìt out of me!

*clenches buttcheeks* :pac:

GrumPy · 17-12-2012 11:09PM

Very interesting article about peoples perceptions of why/how 'nice' isn't good enough. Totally worth the read!

Click me

Truncheon Rouge · 17-12-2012 11:11PM

http://www.myconfinedspace.com/2007/06/23/white-guy-owned-by-wife/

Wibbs · 17-12-2012 11:14PM

Scanlas The 2nd wrote: »

That first video could be helpful for the guys in the Depression thread.

In between the batman rising stuff and the "and like" and "right" and "y'know" rambling stuff he does make some good points. He sounds like a guy who's been through it to some degree, so yea digging between the lines of stream of consciousness I'd tend to agree with you S.

Wibbs · 17-12-2012 11:20PM

blacklilly wrote: »

Well its amazing the amount of men that fall for the high maintenance types and don't look twice at the quieter reserved girls.

Likely the same reason women go for the obvious "bad boy" types, it's a challenge and they're dealing with self esteem issues within themselves so they're less likely to cry "stop!".

I've had a couple of high maintenance women in my life and for me it was triggered initially by "ohhh jaysus, I'd so do that" and the personality was something I could "fix". Horniness, mixed with challenge equalled "hell yea!". Never lasted long mind you. NOt out of any inner strength "alpha" shíte on my part, more that I get bored really easily so that has saved me. More luck than judgement TBH.

blacklilly · 17-12-2012 11:26PM

amacca wrote: »

but the quieter reserved girls don't want me either

what is a boy to do?

Are you a nice guy or a bad guy? Either way just pm me

Wibbs · 18-12-2012 09:43AM

GrumPy wrote: »

Very interesting article about peoples perceptions of why/how 'nice' isn't good enough. Totally worth the read!

Click me

Had a read of that and while it raised good points I found it a bit too "Harsh hard core American, there are winners and losers" for me TBH and I'm no hippie by any stretch.

cantdecide · 18-12-2012 11:38AM

In summary, the underlying question here is what it actually takes for nice genuine men and women to find each other and for one of the two to step up in our modern, pressurised society? Any suggestions?

AnonoBoy · 18-12-2012 12:05PM

Truncheon Rouge wrote: »

http://www.myconfinedspace.com/2007/06/23/white-guy-owned-by-wife/

I don't get it. Did she spend too much money on their adopted baby or what's the gag?

Scanlas The 2nd · 18-12-2012 12:12PM

cantdecide wrote: »

In summary, the underlying question here is what it actually takes for nice genuine men and women to find each other and for one of the two to step up in our modern, pressurised society? Any suggestions?

It's easy really, see someone you like, walk over, talk, ask out.

Nice guys should just accept bachelorhood?

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