do you tell your dates you're on the dole?

curlygirly · 23-11-2012 12:21AM #1

This is my first time on the dole and I'm not sure how to tell guys that I'm on it. I do online dating and my most recent job as manager is listed and I am still looking for work in that field, daily & hourly but until I find it I feel like I should stop dating people.

so for people on the dole, do you tell new dates this?
and for others, how would you feel about dating someone on the dole?

Celly Smunt · 23-11-2012 12:22AM

lets date.

dazftw · 23-11-2012 12:23AM

As long as you're not a waster OP, you should be grand.

MrStuffins · 23-11-2012 12:24AM

You don't have to tell them, you can throw little hints.

Like turning up to the date wearing your pyjamas!

padd b1975 · 23-11-2012 12:25AM

Honesty is the best policy.

Good luck with the job hunting........and the dating.

Lenin Skynard · 23-11-2012 12:26AM

I imagine he should instruct you to get off the dole and on to his bed.

maglite · 23-11-2012 12:27AM

Why mention it, just say your job hunting for x positions when the topic of work comes up.

Chucken · 23-11-2012 12:28AM

curlygirly wrote: »

This is my first time on the dole and I'm not sure how to tell guys that I'm on it. I do online dating and my most recent job as manager is listed and I am still looking for work in that field, daily & hourly but until I find it I feel like I should stop dating people.

so for people on the dole, do you tell new dates this?
and for others, how would you feel about dating someone on the dole?

The amount of people working there is huge!

Glad to see the farming industry still doing well

Gummy Panda · 23-11-2012 12:30AM

Just tell him in a distracting way.

example: I'm on the dole so you'll have to buy all condoms for all the great sex we will have.

What he hears is "great sex"

padd b1975 · 23-11-2012 12:31AM

maglite wrote: »

Why mention it, just say your job hunting for x positions when the topic of work comes up.

And casually slide the bill to his side of the table.:cool:

Halloran springs · 23-11-2012 12:32AM

I don't tell my dates I'm on the dole, because I have a job and don't claim the dole.

strobe · 23-11-2012 12:32AM

Being on the dole is grand, I love girls on the dole, they're more likely to have an abortion.

ghogie91 · 23-11-2012 12:33AM

I dont think you should be ashamed of it if your actively job hunting

also find a fella with land or his own business haha

GRMA · 23-11-2012 12:33AM

Course you tell them. If people won't want to go out with you because you are out of work, well, fcuk them.

Senna · 23-11-2012 12:35AM

The importance of being on the dole = X axis
How good looking you are = Y axis

The line is at a 45 degree angle.

Celly Smunt · 23-11-2012 12:37AM

Senna wrote: »

The importance of being on the dole = X axis
How good looking you are = Y axis

The line is at a 45 degree angle.

Poor guys who are at 225 degrees.

curlygirly · 23-11-2012 12:41AM

jesus some of these responses are horrible - ie the abortion one.

anyway i guess it's concerning cos i actually wouldnt date a guy on the dole - so expect guys would feel the same about girls.

as for not telling them - one question that always comes up is what you do for work. 'looking for work' doesnt sound fantastic.

for the dude/girl who said you dont claim the dole, good for you. ive been doing that for the last 16 yrs as well. that wasnt the question though.

Gmol · 23-11-2012 12:43AM

Say like the dole get your hole and he'll be in like p Flynn.

Celly Smunt · 23-11-2012 12:44AM

curlygirly wrote: »

jesus some of these responses are horrible - ie the abortion one.

anyway i guess it's concerning cos i actually wouldnt date a guy on the dole - so expect guys would feel the same about girls.

as for not telling them - one question that always comes up is what you do for work. 'looking for work' doesnt sound fantastic.

for the dude/girl who said you dont claim the dole, good for you. ive been doing that for the last 16 yrs as well. that wasnt the question though.

I think,if they don't like you because you're on the dole then they aren't worth the time.

Max Power · 23-11-2012 12:45AM

curlygirly wrote: »

jesus some of these responses are horrible - ie the abortion one.

anyway i guess it's concerning cos i actually wouldnt date a guy on the dole - so expect guys would feel the same about girls.

as for not telling them - one question that always comes up is what you do for work. 'looking for work' doesnt sound fantastic.

for the dude/girl who said you dont claim the dole, good for you. ive been doing that for the last 16 yrs as well. that wasnt the question though.

Care to explain why?

Tefral · 23-11-2012 12:45AM

curlygirly wrote: »

jesus some of these responses are horrible - ie the abortion one.

anyway i guess it's concerning cos i actually wouldnt date a guy on the dole - so expect guys would feel the same about girls.

as for not telling them - one question that always comes up is what you do for work. 'looking for work' doesnt sound fantastic.

for the dude/girl who said you dont claim the dole, good for you. ive been doing that for the last 16 yrs as well. that wasnt the question though.

Why not?

tdv123 · 23-11-2012 12:47AM

curlygirly wrote: »

jesus some of these responses are horrible - ie the abortion one.

anyway i guess it's concerning cos i actually wouldnt date a guy on the dole - so expect guys would feel the same about girls.

as for not telling them - one question that always comes up is what you do for work. 'looking for work' doesnt sound fantastic.

for the dude/girl who said you dont claim the dole, good for you. ive been doing that for the last 16 yrs as well. that wasnt the question though.

Your not gonna make much friends in this forum.

Gummy Panda · 23-11-2012 12:47AM

cronin_j wrote: »

Why not?

No money to buy condoms

Senna · 23-11-2012 12:48AM

curlygirly wrote: »

anyway i guess it's concerning cos i actually wouldnt date a guy on the dole - so expect guys would feel the same about girls.

That's hardly fair, you wouldn't date them if they were on the dole, but you want them to date you when you are on the dole.

Would you date someone on the dole now?

Madam_X · 23-11-2012 12:48AM

Just tell him you lost your job recently, as is happening to lots of people. Where's the problem? Being on the dole isn't always a choice. And it's fairer for you to think that way too regarding guys on the dole. Why does it matter if you like them? All that "lack of ambition" stuff isn't relevant if a person is out of work because their employer had to let them go but are constantly looking for a job.

Chucken · 23-11-2012 12:49AM

....and let the bashing commence.

Celly Smunt · 23-11-2012 12:49AM

Madam_X wrote: »

Just tell him you lost your job recently, as is happening to lots of people. Where's the problem? Being on the dole isn't always a choice. And it's fairer for you to think that way too regarding guys on the dole. Why does it matter if you like them? All that "lack of ambition" stuff isn't relevant if a person is out of work because their employer had to let them go.

I agree with this.Up until the point we found out the OP was a hypocrite.

curlygirly · 23-11-2012 12:49AM

because I think it shows lack of ambition, to be honest. I ve been out of work for 7 weeks and the only reason I applied for it finally was cos my friends forced me to.

It does depend on the situation but Ive met several guys who live with their folks, are on the dole, in their late 20s-mid 30s, rely on public transport and are too good to work as a barman but have no problem spending all their cash at the bar 3 nights a week. If you dont pay rent, for petrol and so on , where the hell is your dole money going??

anyway bit of a rant. im talking purely from experience, not talking about everyone on the dole.

Max Power · 23-11-2012 12:49AM

OP is a troll. A bad one.

curlygirly · 23-11-2012 12:52AM

FionnMcCool87 wrote: »

OP is a troll. A bad one.

no - im 100% serious.

curlygirly · 23-11-2012 12:54AM

Senna wrote: »

That's hardly fair, you wouldn't date them if they were on the dole, but you want them to date you when you are on the dole.

Would you date someone on the dole now?

I actually think im less likely to date them now. a couple on the dole is just depressing, i think. i had a friend who was on it along with her 4 siblings and 2 parents and that turned me off the whole idea

do you tell your dates you're on the dole?

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