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At what age is living with your parents a bit weird?

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  • #32
    kincsem
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    One.


  • #33
    gifted
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,226 ✭✭✭gifted


    Told the parents in my early 20's that I was thinking of moving out, oul fella went up the stairs with tears in his eyes...15 years later told them again that I was moving out...surprisingly enough there were no tears that time :p...


  • #34
    The One Who Knocks
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    It depends on the situation, but I live with a 31 year old slob of a sister at home. On social welfare for years, no intention of getting a job, paying bills, or moving out :(

    Before 30, I would say....or else over 30 with a job(or paying rent)


  • #35
    rolexeagle1
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,747 ✭✭✭rolexeagle1


    If brought up correctly/motivated correctly there is no excuse for people to be living at home passed 22 (finish college get job/skilled in career path if not in college) should be educated enough/skilled enough to attain a full time job at least part time and afford their own place.


  • #36
    Kirby
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    srumball wrote: »
    If brought up correctly/motivated correctly there is no excuse for people to be living at home passed 22 (finish college get job/skilled in career path if not in college) should be educated enough/skilled enough to attain a full time job at least part time and afford their own place.

    I'm guessing that you are younger than this magical line you have proposed? When you are 22 will it suddenly become 25? :p

    I'd love to know about the full time jobs that are so easy to attain. Unless ofcourse you mean working for free under the internship scheme. It's not an actual job if you aren't getting paid, you know....


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  • #37
    Festy
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    srumball wrote: »
    If brought up correctly/motivated correctly there is no excuse for people to be living at home passed 22 (finish college get job/skilled in career path if not in college) should be educated enough/skilled enough to attain a full time job at least part time and afford their own place.


    I highly doubt a part time job would be enough for rent,bills,food,clothes and a few brews down the local.:rolleyes:


  • #38
    rolexeagle1
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    Kirby wrote: »
    I'm guessing that you are younger than this magical line you have proposed? When you are 22 will it suddenly become 25? :p

    I'd love to know about the full time jobs that are so easy to attain. Unless ofcourse you mean working for free under the internship scheme. It's not an actual job if you aren't getting paid, you know....

    nope, also older then 25. but that beside the point. I just dont think young people are motivated these days to be honest, being brought up in the celtic tiger ruined alot of them. Not saying they are all bad but most are IMO


  • #39
    mashedbanana
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    emmm...when your're married.


  • #40
    anncoates
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    Listening to some people in here, you'd swear this was the first time in history there was ever a recession in this country.


  • #41
    MaxSteele
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    My uncle lived with his parents until he was 34/35. Saved up his money from working in the family business, allowed my grandfather retire, yet still pays him to this day a wage and took over the family business.

    In the space of five years, he went from living in one room in his parents house ...

    to building a massive house cum family grocer business next door, with four bedrooms, three bathrooms, a huge kitchen and gigantic 20 x 30 living room with a games room and a brand spanking new GTI Golf.

    Oh and he got married and had two kids in between.

    And there was the rest of us calling him a mammy's boy eh ? :cool:


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  • #42
    EmptyTree
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    3ndahalfof6 wrote: »
    43 and a half.

    Buys you another 6 months does it?? :D


  • #43
    Sound of Silence
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    In a Country where unemployment among young people is at epidemic proportions, I wouldn't be particularly condescending or judgemental toward those who simply can't move out.

    Unless you want this entire demographic to move out and start leeching off Government assistance so they can experience their new found independence.


  • #44
    RikkFlair
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    Jesus lived at home til he was 33 and they crucified the poor bugger over it.


  • #45
    lisa_celtic
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    Moved out at 18 - Moved Home at 20 - collage
    Moved Out at 21 - Moved home at 22 - collage
    Moved out at 22 - Moved home at 23 – row with house mates
    Moved out at 24 and I’m gone for good this time all settled with my own place,, dog and job no going back


  • #46
    Raminahobbin
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    SunnyDub1 wrote: »
    How is it weird or odd :confused:

    Not every one can afford to move at 21. Some people are in college right up till there late 20's and can't afford their own place.

    Others might not want to "waste" money renting and are saving for their own place.

    I think you are "weird" for assuming that everyone should attempt to move out by 21

    I said I thought it was weird if they didn't WANT to move out, as in- if the desire has not surfaced before they are 21, not the actual moving out. Apologies, I thought I made a clear distinction in my post. I meant to support my distinction by comparing my two friends- one who WANTS to move out but can't due to various factors, and the other who doesn't seem to have any inclination to leave.

    I know lots of people can't afford it etc, but all the people I know, bar the one mentioned, would like to be able to and would do it in a heartbeat if they could.


  • #47
    golden lane
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    over 12....then it's embarrassing....


  • #48
    Pilotdude5
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    I had to move back two years ago when I was 21 and its hell. I'l be gone again in a few months though. The mother constantly talks about the success of her friends children in getting careers etc. But I'm beginning to think its exaggerated as my questions about details are craftely avoided. Although I enjoy going to the fridge and knowing there's plenty of food!:P

    I also know people in there 20's who have never moved out and I don't thinks its weird but I have pity for them. Living independently is an education in itself.


  • #49
    tacofries
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    at about fiddy-three


  • #50
    The One Who Knocks
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    lisa_celtic wrote: »
    Moved out at 18 - Moved Home at 20 - collage
    Moved Out at 21 - Moved home at 22 - collage
    Moved out at 22 - Moved home at 23 – row with house mates
    Moved out at 24 and I’m gone for good this time all settled with my own place,, dog and job no going back


    You went to college twice and you still can't spell college?

    "The future of Ireland, right here"


  • #51
    Shryke
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    mashedbanana wrote: »
    emmm...when your're married.

    God my folks actually think this. It's one of the many reasons I can't stand to live with them. They'd be comfortable in the Ireland of 100 years ago with most of their notions. And their snidey way of talking, Jesus Christ. Attitudes of a lot of the older generation would be considered completely Jurassic in some other countries with regards to religion, race, xenophobia, relationships. There's a serious generation gap for me anyway. They're from the sticks and stayed close to home... Communication is painful sometimes.

    While I'm bitching, if I was to so much as have a glass of wine I'd get called an alcoholic for about 3 months. God knows living with them would drive you to it.

    I'm mid twenties. Early twenties would be my reply. It's down to the individual situation at the end of the day but you don't get life experience and have the craic as a fully grown adult while you're living with your parents. Personal growth and responsibility are important and you don't get that under your parents roof, and throwing a bit of money their way is in no way the same thing as living away. It's more a psychological blind side to the whole thing imo, and if a person can afford to pay rent to their parents then... can't they afford to pay actual rent?


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  • #52
    My name is URL
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    lisa_celtic wrote: »
    Moved out at 18 - Moved Home at 20 - collage
    Moved Out at 21 - Moved home at 22 - collage
    Moved out at 22 - Moved home at 23 – row with house mates
    Moved out at 24 and I’m gone for good this time all settled with my own place,, dog and job no going back

    Never say never. You might decide to go to college some day :)


  • #53
    OneArt
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    Festy wrote: »
    I highly doubt a part time job would be enough for rent,bills,food,clothes and a few brews down the local.:rolleyes:

    Depends on your lifestyle. I always did things on the cheap, but when I was in college in Ireland living away was the best thing I did. Also, my parents live in a village. Living in Dublin meant I was pretty much close to everything so I didn't have to spend much.


  • #54
    petersburg2002
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    I left at 22. I have three older siblings in their mid 30s to early 40s and all working. They all still live with my mother and father. I think she just pampered them for too long. She still cleans their rooms and cooks their meals. In tired of telling her to kick them out.


  • #55
    Pilotdude5
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    And another point. 30 years ago my parents finished their leaving cert at 17. Straight after they both went for interviews for Nursing and got in. They were on a salary straight away (no 4 years of college, rent, minimum wage jobs etc to deal with) By the time they were 24 in 1988 they could afford to buy their own big house for £30000. They still had to get a £5000 mortage as they had (according to themselves) Been going out 6 nights a week for 6 years as if was cheap to do so back then.

    I don't expect to own my own house until I'm in my 40's (and even then the bank will own it:()


  • #56
    Shred
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    lisa_celtic wrote: »
    Moved out at 18 - Moved Home at 20 - collage
    Moved Out at 21 - Moved home at 22 - collage

    Twice there and you still can't spell College? I'd demand my money back if I were you.

    Jokes aside, I think people should be moved out no later than 25 if their circumstances allow it. This is simply for their personal development if nothing else, to teach them to stand on their own two feet and experience the empowerment of independence. I was nice and cosy at home up to 27 when I moved out; I pretty soon regretted not doing it years earlier.


  • #57
    wilkie2006
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    lisa_celtic wrote: »
    Moved out at 18 and I’m gone for good no going back - Moved Home at 20 - collage
    Moved Out at 21 and I’m gone for good no going back - Moved home at 22 - collage
    Moved out at 22 and I’m gone for good no going back - Moved home at 23 – row with house mates

    FYP.
    lisa_celtic wrote: »
    Moved out at 24 and I’m gone for good this time all settled with my own place,, dog and job no going back

    Fingers crossed anyway, right? ;)


  • #58
    JamieKCCO
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    Jamez735 wrote: »
    You went to college and you still can't spell college?

    "The future of Ireland, right here"


    He actually just made some really nice collages


  • #59
    The One Who Knocks
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,301 ✭✭✭The One Who Knocks


    JamieKCCO wrote: »
    He actually just made some really nice collages


    She, actually, but funny all the same :)


  • #60
    Wolf Club
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    I think it depends on the situation really. A lad I work with still lives with his parents, even though he's got a good job, has to pay rent to his parents, and has a fairly hefty commute to make every day. He's in his early 20s, but I'd find this a bit more strange than someone 10 years older living with their parents if they were unemployed/studying.


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  • #61
    longhalloween
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    I'd say it's weird to be in your early 20's and have NEVER lived outside the house. I'm 24, living at home, but I've lived in a few different places and countries before now.


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