At what age is living with your parents a bit weird?

lazygal · 16-11-2012 05:12PM #1

Moved out for good when I was 24. I know people 30 and over who still live at home, not because they can't finance living on their own but because its too handy or their parents are a bit totally controlling. Would you think someone was a bit odd if they were still living at home over 30?

Tombi! · 16-11-2012 05:13PM

This day and age? No.
If the economy gets back to a decent one, then it might be a bit odd.
I wouldn't be able to pay for a flat on my own and food if I moved out.

gustafo · 16-11-2012 05:16PM

Not really that odd at all, look at the italians most of them stay at home and move in the wife when they get married.

Hippies! · 16-11-2012 05:17PM

Anything beyond 17 is inappropriate in my opinion.

later12 · 16-11-2012 05:18PM

It depends on your circumstances.

If you live at home because that's where you work (e.g. on a farm) then it's usually fair enough. The same if you just cannot afford to move out.

As a general rule, I would want my kids to be gone immediately after school going age. As it happens myself and two siblings are living at home/ close to home at the moment, but when we were 18 our parents were emphatic that we go away and learn to be independent; that's an important lesson in everyone's development.

SafeSurfer · 16-11-2012 05:18PM

It starts getting weird when they are in their late eighties and you have to wash them and stuff.

Lombardo86 · 16-11-2012 05:18PM

Hippies! wrote: »

Anything beyond 17 is inappropriate in my opinion.

OK well thats ridiculous.

We get it.. you went to college and moved out when you were 17.

Not the norm. And definitely not expected for everyone

16-11-2012 05:19PM

24 and out the door.

seamus · 16-11-2012 05:19PM

25.

If you haven't at least made a cursory attempt to move out by the time you're 25, then there's something wrong with you.

The only exceptions to this rule are still being in college (doing a PhD) or being unable to work.

davet82 · 16-11-2012 05:19PM

SafeSurfer wrote: »

It starts getting weird when they are in their late eighties and you have to wash them and stuff.

the kids or the parents?

Arnold Layne · 16-11-2012 05:21PM

85

by then they should be dead.

bmcc10 · 16-11-2012 05:22PM

gustafo wrote: »

Not really that odd at all, look at the italians most of them stay at home and move in the wife when they get married.

Fecking Italians!!

MaxSteele · 16-11-2012 05:22PM

Hippies! wrote: »

Anything beyond 17 is inappropriate in my opinion.

Mammy and Daddy pay for that nice flat in Dublin so you could get away from the backward parochial town and go to college ?

flutterflye · 16-11-2012 05:23PM

Well 30 is definitely weird to me.
I think 20 is the oldest you should really be at home.
My dad's wife lived at home until she was 36 or something like that - that's just not right.

Hippies! · 16-11-2012 05:24PM

Lombardo86 wrote: »

OK well thats ridiculous.

We get it.. you went to college and moved out when you were 17.

Not the norm. And definitely not expected for everyone

:pac:

MaxSteele wrote: »

Mammy and Daddy pay for that nice flat in Dublin so you could get away from the backward parochial town and go to college ?

They did, it was wella nice, you jelly welly of my rich mummy & poppa?

iDave · 16-11-2012 05:26PM

At what age should you kill your parents so you get the house?

veryangryman · 16-11-2012 05:28PM

Left at 18, i think if your paying rent theres nothing wrong with staying at home.

Maybe should leave to learn life skils like washing, replacing TP etc, especially for guys.

On the other hand what about getting laid etc? "Come back to my (folks) pad there babe oh yeah..."

Tom_Cruise · 16-11-2012 05:29PM

What if you love your parents so much that you are not physically able to leave the house?

summerskin · 16-11-2012 05:30PM

veryangryman wrote: »

Left at 18, i think if your paying rent theres nothing wrong with staying at home.

Maybe should leave to learn life skils like washing, replacing TP etc, especially for guys.

On the other hand what about getting laid etc? "Come back to my (folks) pad there babe oh yeah..."

My cousin used to use the line "want to come back to my gran's house? She'll make you a bacon butty"

meoklmrk91 · 16-11-2012 05:30PM

I don't think there is any set age, it a depends on each persons set of circumstances. For instance I live at home, but had my own place while I was doing my leaving, moved back to save money for college. I think that living at home is fine as long as people are living their own Independant lives, it's when people don't cut the apron strings that I find if a bit wierd.

bbam · 16-11-2012 05:32PM

I moved out just before my 18th... My brother is still at home at 28 !, I think its very odd...

Raminahobbin · 16-11-2012 05:34PM

seamus wrote: »

25.

If you haven't at least made a cursory attempt to move out by the time you're 25, then there's something wrong with you.

The only exceptions to this rule are still being in college (doing a PhD) or being unable to work.

I wholeheartedly agree. I'm 26, and have been living out since I was 21 with the exception of a 6 month period.

I have 2 friends of the same age who live at home and have never lived out- One is never sure of her job as it keeps changing, and it's very likely she will be moving overseas soon so she needs to save- however, she desperately WANTS to move out. The other friend has a stable enough job, but has never ever ever wanted to move out of the family home. She seems perfectly happy to stay put, and I could see her there for the next 10 years easily. The most frustrating part of it is she pays €150 rent per week ( :eek: ) to her parents to stay there, plus food shopping for the whole family on occasion (and no, they're certainly not broke or strapped for cash in any way)

I think it's really weird if people don't start getting itchy feet and wanting to move out before they are 21, and I definitely think it odd if they haven't at least attempted a first flight from the nest by the time they're 24.

gobnaitolunacy · 16-11-2012 05:34PM

gustafo wrote: »

Not really that odd at all, look at the italians most of them stay at home and move in the wife when they get married.

They're not all like the muppets in the Dolmio ad, are they?

Where To · 16-11-2012 05:35PM

What about when your parents move in with you?:mad:

kowloon · 16-11-2012 05:37PM

Hippies! wrote: »

Anything beyond 17 is inappropriate in my opinion.

I thought it was half your age plus seven?

SunnyDub1 · 16-11-2012 05:39PM

Raminahobbin wrote: »

I think it's really weird if people don't start getting itchy feet and wanting to move out before they are 21, and I definitely think it odd if they haven't at least attempted a first flight from the nest by the time they're 24.

How is it weird or odd

Not every one can afford to move at 21. Some people are in college right up till there late 20's and can't afford their own place.

Others might not want to "waste" money renting and are saving for their own place.

I think you are "weird" for assuming that everyone should attempt to move out by 21

Intensive Care Bear · 16-11-2012 05:39PM

I have 2 sisters that still live at home, both of them are in their late 30's, also my niece who is a teenager lives there. I think its great because otherwise the mother would be on her own. Sometimes its works out good for everyone involved.

kowloon · 16-11-2012 05:48PM

iDave wrote: »

At what age should you kill your parents so you get the house?

It's best to put them to sleep or send them to the glue factory when they're no longer suitable for work. It's a good idea to keep it quiet though so you can collect the pensions.