Using a voucher to pay for a meal on first date?

py2006 · 25-10-2012 01:07PM #1

Well hi,

I was reading an article on whether or not it is acceptable for the person paying for the meal/drinks to use a voucher especially on a first date.

I've never considered this personally myself but with vouchers proving more popular nowadays to attract customers to restaurants and of course with money being tight, is it something you would consider?

I think the problem some people had was that it sent out the wrong message to the datee (that a word?) about the person paying for the meal. Some suggesting it made them look cheap or tacky. Some even said they would politely decline a second date.

To me, if you are not paying for the meal why should it bother you?

kfallon · 25-10-2012 01:08PM

Hi

dodderangler · 25-10-2012 01:12PM

Do mac donalds vouchers count?

Me and the Missus don't use vouchers usually go for a two for one job

Agricola · 25-10-2012 01:13PM

Sounds like a good acid test for finding out if shes worth a second date

admiralofthefleet · 25-10-2012 01:15PM

if she is one of those shallow women that expects a man to pay for everything then he is perfectly entitled to pay by whatever means he wishes

old_aussie · 25-10-2012 01:16PM

It will be the first and last date with her

Siuin · 25-10-2012 01:19PM

A guy did this to me on a first date, and it was fúcking terrible... I told him in advance that I didn't like Asian food because it made me feel sick, but he still insisted on bringing me to an Indian restaurant because he got a voucher from work for it. Not only did he pull out the voucher when I was in the process of ordering my food and loudly ask the waiter what he could get for it, but when the bill came he made a big fuss and called down the manager because the voucher didn't cover as much as he'd expected. Everyone around us was staring and snickering to eachother- it was not cool!!

dub_skav · 25-10-2012 01:20PM

I don't think there's any problem how you pay for a meal necessarily, but it does send the message that you didn't choose the place because of its great ambiance, or because you thought she'd like it, but rather that you had a voucher so this'll do.

My name is URL · 25-10-2012 01:23PM

Siuin wrote: »

A guy did this to me on a first date, and it was fúcking terrible... I told him in advance that I didn't like Asian food because it made me feel sick, but he still insisted on bringing me to an Indian restaurant because he got a voucher from work for it. Not only did he pull out the voucher when I was in the process of ordering my food and loudly ask the waiter what he could get for it, but when the bill came he made a big fuss and called down the manager because the voucher didn't cover as much as he'd expected. Everyone around us was staring and snickering to eachother- it was not cool!!

Well that's just the sign of a complete dickhead. Voucher or no voucher!

Lingua Franca · 25-10-2012 01:26PM

My partner and I are at odds over this. I would have no problem with it, providing it was for a nice or great place as opposed to a pizza joint. He says no way, no how.

I'm so low class maintenance.

Chocoholic84 · 25-10-2012 01:26PM

I voted Yes, but on second thoughts, maybe would be better to wait until second or third date

On first date, you want to go all out & impress, so maybe using a voucher wouldn't be the way to go...I'm torn though, on the other hand, why pay €80 for something you could get for €40?

Duggy747 · 25-10-2012 01:27PM

Well, depends if Dunnes have any of the Bird's Eye microwaveable lasagnes left.

Jev/N · 25-10-2012 01:29PM

Yes but depends on the standard of restaurant

py2006 · 25-10-2012 01:30PM

When I think about it, if it is somebody I really like and have got to know and asked out on a first date then I would want to impress. However, if it is a blind date or a first meeting off a dating site I would be hesitant in spending too much as you don't really know the person and whether or not you want a second date.

Having said that, if the other person is insisting on paying half at the end and you picked an expensive restaurant to impress them it could be awkward.

steve9859 · 25-10-2012 01:32PM

What would be awkward is if you decided to split the bill, then paid for your half with a voucher

Chuck Stone · 25-10-2012 01:35PM

Thriftiness =/= miserly.

Resourceful =/= stingy.

folan · 25-10-2012 01:43PM

money is exchanged for voucher, which is exchanged for food. Algebra means the voucher is irrelevant.

antodeco · 25-10-2012 01:43PM

Chocoholic84 wrote: »

Why pay €80 for something you could get for €40?

Thats the opposite of how I approach the subject of sex. Why try get it for free, when you can just pay for it

King Of Wishful Thinking · 25-10-2012 01:43PM

My name is URL wrote: »

Well that's just the sign of a complete dickhead.

I thought she meant Chinese, give me a break.

Ghost Buster · 25-10-2012 01:46PM

I took a girl out to a chinese restaurant with a voucher for two I won in a raffle at an event we were both at.
Ten years and two kids later the marriage is going grand thanks very much:D

Tasden · 25-10-2012 01:46PM

I never let a guy pay for me on a date, always pay my own half no matter how much they insist so all that is pretty irrelevant to me. but I have to admit the last time I was on a date we stopped into mc Donalds before going home and he ordered the student meal (didn't know this existed til then) and whipped out his student card, this completely turned me off- no idea why. So if someone used a coupon I reckon id feel the same, unless they had asked me to go to a certain restaurant with them because he had a coupon. I think its maybe to do with the fact that if they were trying to impress then they wouldn't want to seem stingy, so its kind of like they're not trying, which is the turn off.

Anyone · 25-10-2012 01:49PM

I use "Buy one get one free" all the time, but I tell the lady she got the bought one, and not the free one so she feels special.

sfwcork · 25-10-2012 01:51PM

would it not mess up your chances of geting the ride?

ArtSmart · 25-10-2012 01:53PM

Chuck Stone wrote: »

Thriftiness =/= miserly.

Resourceful =/= stingy.

folan wrote: »

money is exchanged for voucher, which is exchanged for food. Algebra means the voucher is irrelevant.

Anyone wrote: »

I use "Buy one get one free" all the time, but I tell the lady she got the bought one, and not the free one so she feels special.

So, the single life huh?

could be worse. (but not much worse)

ArtSmart · 25-10-2012 01:55PM

sfwcork wrote: »

would it not mess up your chances of geting the ride?

you aul romantic you!

anyway, first dates are first impressions, foot in the door stuff.

wait til their resistance is worn down before your produce your true self.

starbelgrade · 25-10-2012 01:55PM

A voucher on a first date?

Fucking hell.. what a way to impress. You might as well show her your stamp collection & **** sock while your at it.

ArtSmart · 25-10-2012 01:56PM

starbelgrade wrote: »

A voucher on a first date?

Fucking hell.. what a way to impress. You might as well show her your stamp collection & **** sock while your at it.

or a tissue if you wanted to keep a small bit of class.

py2006 · 25-10-2012 01:56PM

Surely, people who are only impressed by the money you spend on them are not worth the effort? You should be more concerned about impressing them with conversation.

ArtSmart · 25-10-2012 01:58PM

Tasden wrote: »

I never let a guy pay for me on a date, always pay my own half no matter how much they insist so all that is pretty irrelevant to me. but I have to admit the last time I was on a date we stopped into mc Donalds before going home and he ordered the student meal (didn't know this existed til then) and whipped out his student card, this completely turned me off- no idea why. So if someone used a coupon I reckon id feel the same, unless they had asked me to go to a certain restaurant with them because he had a coupon. I think its maybe to do with the fact that if they were trying to impress then they wouldn't want to seem stingy, so its kind of like they're not trying, which is the turn off.

plus they're stingy.

ArtSmart · 25-10-2012 01:59PM

py2006 wrote: »

Surely, people who are only impressed by the money you spend on them are not worth the effort? You should be more concerned about impressing them with conversation.

Good Lord.

:eek:

folan · 25-10-2012 02:00PM

ArtSmart wrote: »

So, the single life huh?

nope, but thanks for the concern.

glad I was able to find someone who isn't shallow.

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