Call someone "just for a chat"

NegativeCreep · 16-10-2012 09:51PM

Ever since leaving school I've talked to my friends even more than I did when I saw them every day

I regularly call/get called by my 2 best friends 'just for a chat.' I used to hate talking on the phone but I've warmed to it now. It's much more efficient than texting and especially with Viber and other apps there's no excuse for not doing it!
If it weren't for these catch-ups I don't think I'd make it through the week!

Itwasntme. · 16-10-2012 09:54PM

1ZRed wrote: »

Just a chat?

Sure

€1.99 per minute

Is it just me (drunk me that is) or are you gettning funnier with each post IZred? I swear you are. Seriously. I must be drunker than I thought I was. I am totes flirting with the gayest man on boards.

Greentopia · 16-10-2012 10:07PM

There are a few people I'd ring "just for a chat", usually my closest friend or my Mum. I spend up to an hour and more with them on the phone-yes, I'm female

. I have free local calls up to an hour on the land line so it's not a cost issue.

I prefer face to face chats but that's not always possible (my Mum lives down the country for example) so I'll ring them instead.

What I don't like is cold calling strangers, have a bit of a fear about it actually-social anxiety

miss no stars · 16-10-2012 10:19PM

Literally just off the phone from a chat

JK... Kinda. If I haven't seen the BF all day usually one of us will ring the other just to check in and say hi. Now and then I ring my mother (usually see her at the weekends... which reminds me... I haven't spoken to her in a week) but then again, my mum is on facebook and is a proficient texter and MMSer and social networker in general... so I don't even really need to call her all that often.

I think it is a bit sad that the art of a chat on the phone is being lost. The extended family has spread all over the country and now that the chat is dying out a good bit you only hear snippets about things if at all. Whatever else you might say about it, spending halfa n hour chatting to one person now and then is probably good you. Extracts you from your own world and forces you to focus on one person other than yourself. If you're having a proper chat you can't be on facebook "chatting" to 4 people at once (yet not really paying attention to any of them). I'm not conveying this properly at all. People are very stuck in their own digital worlds where they control what they want to see and hear from other people. All very selfish (and I don't mean selfish vindictive, selfish nasty or anything, just self-centred selfish). A lot less selfish to actually listen to everything someone wants to tell you.

In all of this, it's the old people I feel sorry for. They call for a chat and people don't seem to have the patience to sit down and have a chat with them any more. Sad.

phasers · 16-10-2012 10:24PM

I just had a friend ring me up earlier actually and we were on the phone for an hour talking about nothing in particular. It was nice, reminded me of being in secondary school, having no credit and having 2 hour conversations on the house phone.

I had to hang up after 59 minutes and ring my friends back so the call would be free :pac:

TwoBirds · 16-10-2012 10:24PM

I usually have at least one "just for a chat" every day. 48 lads, quite the network - doubt I'd bother if I was being charged for calls.

Defiler Of The Coffin · 16-10-2012 10:29PM

eth0 wrote: »

I'm not sure about the cost aspect of it. People have minutes to burn now, get 200 a month myself and I can't get through them. Then there is all the different VoiP services so it has never been easier to call for free but people just dont do it except maybe for business and a few close people in their family

This is very true. For all the talk about VoIP and all that I find that not many people use it at all for personal calls, my Skype contact list has hardly 20 people on it. People just can't be bothered setting it up or don't know how. Texting and calling is too convienient.

shalalala · 16-10-2012 10:40PM

After I graduated, for a long time my bestie lived at home MILES away. Every week we would make time for our phone call, usually lasted about an hour.

Now she is back in the big smoke, we will call each other randomly after work and end up getting dinner and sloshed.

Still call people just to chat though. Especially on my lunch break.

Butterface · 16-10-2012 11:38PM

I skype my sister and a few friends regularly enough, but it's not as random as a phonecall because we have to arrange a time when we're going to be online. I would love if a friend just rang me up out of the blue for a chat. Haven't experienced that in years!

af_thefragile · 16-10-2012 11:46PM

Used to 5-10yrs ago when we didn't have cell phones.
Now never really do that anymore.

I find people just don't bother communicating with people properly anymore because of text messages and Facebook.
Now everyone regularly stays in touch with everyone else no matter where they are because of Facebook but because of the nature of the medium of Facebook, the communications are of a very poor quality. Which is why I left Facebook. I'ld rather someone gave me a call and have a nice proper conversation with me than write some trifle on my Facebook "wall". But then unfortunately because of this I've also lost touch with majority of the people who were once my friends and now I can't even consider them my friends anymore because I've simply fallen out of contact with them since I deleted my Facebook account!

Lapin · 17-10-2012 12:10AM

I don't own a cell phone or a pager. I just hang around everyone I know, all the time.
If someone wants to get a hold of me, they just say 'Mitch,' and I say 'what?' and turn my head slightly.
Mitch Hedberg

Genius !

phoenix999 · 17-10-2012 12:11AM

I miss the 1990s. Social media is a pain in the hole.

bronte · 17-10-2012 12:17AM

Ah I could be talking to the best friend for an hour and not notice.
Hard to beat a good blather!

Da Shins Kelly · 17-10-2012 12:18AM

Defiler Of The Coffin wrote: »

Don't get that many people calling me these days - wouldn't mind but I've got a rather cool ringtone.

I'd rather talk to people rather than text, text messages can make conversations disjointed and if you don't reply to someone straight away they mightn't reply for ages or won't bother replying at all. Not a big fan of touchscreens either.

Some people seem to have a fear of calling - one girl I'm friends with never calls, not once in almost 10 years! Tis terrible Joe.

I pretty much agree with this. I find a lot of things get pretty lost in texts too, unless it's just the standard 'I'll meet you in a half an hour' type thing. Some people take offence to things that are said in texts that weren't meant to be offensive, just cos they've picked it up wrong. I'm terrible for replying too. I always just read it and then go, 'oh I'll reply in a minute' and then just forget. Calls are more to the point, I feel.

Can't be dealing with the touch screens either.

My parents still do the 'I'll call you for a chat' thing, mainly because our family is pretty scattered all over the place and they're too technologically retarded to work out Skype, so they just call.

anniehoo · 17-10-2012 01:05AM

Wow i thought the majority would've been "yes", but seeing as the majority of Boardsies are male then i suppose it makes sense. Girls chat way more than lads so if it was a male v female poll id say it'd be the other way around.

kincsem · 17-10-2012 01:08AM

I don't have a phone, or a mobile, or a landline, and I love no chat.

fasttalkerchat · 17-10-2012 01:24AM

My mother called me "for a chat" After a minute I said, "anyway what has you ringing?" She got awfully offended.

ArtSmart · 17-10-2012 01:32AM

im invisible wrote: »

http://patrz.pl/filmy/peter-calls-quagmire

yeah, fab scene, first thing that came to mind. lol.

back in the dark ages (the 80s/90s) they say people called in person to another person's house UNANNOUNCED!!!

Yep. That's what they say.

Thankfully Americanism (as I call it, ie, 'I'd prefer if you called first') and technology got rid of that threat.

phew.

fasttalkerchat · 17-10-2012 01:37AM

ArtSmart wrote: »

yeah, fab scene, first thing that came to mind. lol.

back in the dark ages (the 80s/90s) they say people called in person to another person's house UNANNOUNCED!!!

Yep. That's what they say.

Thankfully Americanism (as I call it, ie, 'I'd prefer if you called first') and technology got rid of that threat.

phew.

My great uncle is an old bachelor who lives in the arse end of nowhere. When we visited a few years back my granny let us into the house through the back door then drove round to the pub to tell him we're there and to come home for a bite to eat. He has no phone and didn't know we were coming!

Cee-Jay-Cee · 17-10-2012 01:44AM

OP what's your number, I'll call ya for an aul chat some time.

ArtSmart · 17-10-2012 01:47AM

fasttalkerchat wrote: »

My great uncle is an old bachelor who lives in the arse end of nowhere. When we visited a few years back my granny let us into the house through the back door then drove round to the pub to tell him we're there and to come home for a bite to eat. He has no phone and didn't know we were coming!

Yes, that was the sort of rampant craziness that existed back then.

the only net they had was the hair net. and maybe a fishing net.

fasttalkerchat · 17-10-2012 01:49AM

ArtSmart wrote: »

Yes, that was the sort of rampant craziness that existed back then.

the only net they had was the hair net. and maybe a fishing net.

This was 2008. He was still waiting for the Celtic Tiger to trickle down!

nbar12 · 17-10-2012 01:50AM

I personally don't do it, unfortunately I've developed myself into a texter and not a talker! As for my mum, I'm not messing, she's on the house phone for at least 6 hours a day ringing one of her 10 sisters. I find it hilarious that she would be on the phone for a solid two hours straight, talking to the same person and would then just ask them..."so have you any news?"

Micky Dolenz · 17-10-2012 01:50AM

Chatting is for the weak.

fasttalkerchat · 17-10-2012 02:05AM

I'm just thinking I actually do do this.
When I'm playing xbox online I'll ring one particular friend for tips and he'll be on the line for maybe an hour... 80% of that time will be silence.

krudler · 17-10-2012 02:15AM

i never ring anyone bar my parents as they live abroad, between facebook, twitter and texts theres loads of ways to keep in contact with people more regularly than ringing them the odd time to talk about nothing in particular awkwardly.

17-10-2012 09:07AM

anniehoo wrote: »

Wow i thought the majority would've been "yes", but seeing as the majority of Boardsies are male then i suppose it makes sense. Girls chat way more than lads so if it was a male v female poll id say it'd be the other way around.

Yeah I'm a boy in AH

17-10-2012 09:19AM

I have a list of people I try to call minimum once a month. I have the list on my computer and I mark them off when I call them and then reset the list again on the 1st of each month.

Most months I get them all done. Occasionally one or two get missed but it is rare.

17-10-2012 10:36AM

Yeah I do it all the time. I'd be on the phone to home or different friends nearly everyday mostly just seeing what the craic is.

I looked at my usage there I've used nearly 500 minutes in the last 30 days, that's with no work related use.

FoxT · 17-10-2012 12:05PM

Shivers26 wrote: »

I'm a woman and I hate talking on the phone when there is no reason for the call.
I never initiate a call 'just for a chat' but I do have 2 sisters and a mother so they often ring to yap on for anything up to an hour. Torture.

Yesss. I have found The One!

Call someone "just for a chat"

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