Picking up women on a night out , tips?

Hardonraging · 18-09-2012 04:30PM

SunnyDub1 wrote: »

Man up and approach a girl by saying Hi and maybe offer her a drink.

One thing that really bugs me about Irish men is they feel the need to be sh*t faced to approach a woman and the majority of them make an absolute twat out of them selves :rolleyes:

I'm sure a lot of other woman will agree with me when I say that a simply "Hi, how are you etc" (small talk) is the simple, best and nicest way to get any ones attention.

No one wants a messy drunk blabbering pure s*it to you - Big turn off !!

Infairness i'd want a Hj at least before i bough her a drink ... just personal pref of course !!

18-09-2012 04:30PM

SoundFella wrote: »

And I think a lot of you are picking me up wrong , my last relationship ended badly and my confidence with women is rock bottom as well as on a personal level so I'm actually asking for some genuine advice on women (and not cocky responses)

Eh, you do know this is After Hours right...??

SoundFella · 18-09-2012 04:31PM

SunnyDub1 wrote: »

Man up and approach a girl by saying Hi and maybe offer her a drink.

One thing that really bugs me about Irish men is they feel the need to be sh*t faced to approach a woman and the majority of them make an absolute twat out of them selves :rolleyes:

I'm sure a lot of other woman will agree with me when I say that a simply "Hi, how are you etc" (small talk) is the simple, best and nicest way to get any ones attention.

No one wants a messy drunk blabbering pure s*it to you - Big turn off !!

This is the advice so far and very true , with drink does come confidence and I think that's the problem lol , I'm not a strong drinker so the confidence has to come from somewhere else , thanks for that piece enjoyed it

SunnyDub1 · 18-09-2012 04:32PM

Timothy Bryce wrote: »

That may work in whatever 'Sex & the City' world you live in, however, that approach usually ends in something like the following.

Man: Hi there, nice to meet you etc.
Woman: ENGAGE PEPPERSPRAY
Woman: "WHAT A CREEP!"

You'd be better off being a complete cock.

Maybe for what ever lovely pleasant woman you do be
approaching on nights out

SoundFella · 18-09-2012 04:32PM

Rachelmhr wrote: »

I dont mean to be rude but...

Saying things like: I pulled more women than Hugh Hefner

That is just so cocky and self centered... So coming from a 26 yr old woman: DROP THAT ATTITUDE!!

It's just a little tip because I dont know any women that would be attracted to a man who comes out with a statement like that!!

Good luck on your quest anyways

OMG for the last time it was to add humour to the post .....

kiddums · 18-09-2012 04:32PM

SunnyDub1 wrote: »

Man up and approach a girl by saying Hi and maybe offer her a drink.

One thing that really bugs me about Irish men is they feel the need to be sh*t faced to approach a woman and the majority of them make an absolute twat out of them selves :rolleyes:

I'm sure a lot of other woman will agree with me when I say that a simply "Hi, how are you etc" (small talk) is the simple, best and nicest way to get any ones attention.

No one wants a messy drunk blabbering pure s*it to you - Big turn off !!

The last time I tried that approach with a woman I didn't even get a polite hi. I just got a look like I imagine she heard me ask if I could just get the roide right there.

TheBoss! · 18-09-2012 04:33PM

Just smugly smile and whisper: "Do you like Huey Lewis and the news?".

deandean · 18-09-2012 04:33PM

Fill out your wallet with padding so it's about 2 inches thick and is easily seen in your pocket.

That's how Hugh Hefner pulled so much, he had a fat wallet, 'cept it was stuffed with $100 notes. And he was (is) verrryyyy generous to the right people. Like, more than a can of bud and a bag of chips.

Andrewf20 · 18-09-2012 04:35PM

Back in the single days I always adopted this attitude - aim to go out to have a bit of craic & look like you are out having fun (women do seem to pick up on this). Dont be looking shifty and serious and out for the sole purpose of picking someone up. Get up and dance (if others are dancing!) and appear chatty and good humoured.

If you see someone you like, drop in a random observation that is funny or interesting you see in the bar etc. Or you could drop a line in about the song playing in the background. Make a quick fire statement instead of trying to think of a question to ask as its way less scary I found. If shes interested, the conversation should get going. But look confident. Easier said than done but confidence is key.

If the conversation does get going, ask them questions, yak about light hearted stuff, dream holidays, parachutes jumps, worst birthday present you ever got, funny stories etc etc (keep them fairly brief). Try not too appear to clingy. Dont just drop you mates completely, bounce off them as the night goes on and include her mates also if possible.

Remember we all get shot down, ive been there a 1000 times. Just gotta roll the sleeves up and plough on.

SoundFella · 18-09-2012 04:35PM

kiddums wrote: »

SunnyDub1 wrote: »

Man up and approach a girl by saying Hi and maybe offer her a drink.

One thing that really bugs me about Irish men is they feel the need to be sh*t faced to approach a woman and the majority of them make an absolute twat out of them selves :rolleyes:

I'm sure a lot of other woman will agree with me when I say that a simply "Hi, how are you etc" (small talk) is the simple, best and nicest way to get any ones attention.

No one wants a messy drunk blabbering pure s*it to you - Big turn off !!

The last time I tried that approach with a woman I didn't even get a polite hi. I just got a look like I imagine she heard me ask if I could just get the roide right there.

Irish women are very rude on nights out , I've been blanked hundreds of time with just going Over and saying hey..

SoundFella · 18-09-2012 04:36PM

Andrewf20 wrote: »

Back in the single days I always adopted this attitude - aim to go out to have a bit of craic & look like you are out having fun (women do seem to pick up on this). Dont be looking shifty and serious and out for the sole purpose of picking someone up.

If you see someone you like, drop in a random interesting or funny observation of something you see in the bar etc. Or you could drop a line in about the song playing in the background. Make a quick fire statemen instead of trying to think of a question to ask as its way less scary I found. If shes interested, the conversation should get going. But look confident. Easier said than done but confidence is key.

True words

SoundFella · 18-09-2012 04:37PM

Rachelmhr wrote: »

I dont mean to be rude but...

Saying things like: I pulled more women than Hugh Hefner

That is just so cocky and self centered... So coming from a 26 yr old woman: DROP THAT ATTITUDE!!

It's just a little tip because I dont know any women that would be attracted to a man who comes out with a statement like that!!

Good luck on your quest anyways

Edit: Just saw that you were joking PHEW!!! Haha!

Honestly? Dont use chat up lines, dont be jittery and nervous women can smell fear a mile away!
Even if you're not a good listener PRETEND you are

I notice you said your confidence is shot to pieces as a result of a previous relationship... stop thinking like that! Get you mojo back even if you have to do a few practice runs first!!

Haha like this post a lot more , thanks dude

SunnyDub1 · 18-09-2012 04:38PM

SoundFella wrote: »

Irish women are very rude on nights out , I've been blanked hundreds of time with just going Over and saying hey..

Irish woman are not ALL very rude...

Maybe the few that are "rude" are just so use to drunken messy idiots approaching them with ****ty chat up lines and when they refuse to entertain them they get abuse hurled at them :rolleyes:
That's my experience of the lovely Irish men

Doodoo · 18-09-2012 04:39PM

SoundFella wrote: »

Irish women are very rude on nights out , I've been blanked hundreds of time with just going Over and saying hey..

Are you ginger?

Phat Cat · 18-09-2012 04:42PM

SunnyDub1 wrote: »

Man up

I stopped reading after that...

Hardonraging · 18-09-2012 04:43PM

SoundFella wrote: »

OMG for the last time it was to add humour to the post .....

If this is the standard of humour you are using while approaching women of any nationality.. you sir need to go back to clown college !

SoundFella wrote: »

Irish women are very rude on nights out , I've been blanked hundreds of time with just going Over and saying hey..

Irish women are not rude, a little guarded in some cases, but you should be thrilled they even talk to you

Doodoo wrote: »

Are you ginger?

He sure sounds like one

crazygeryy · 18-09-2012 04:46PM

yo bitch hows about you and me going back to my place and getting busy.

i hear they love that kind of talk these days. in my day it was courting for 9 months and a peck on the cheek if you were lucky.

talla10 · 18-09-2012 04:47PM

Sex Panther...

68% of the time it works every time...

Go make that little kitty purr...

SoundFella · 18-09-2012 04:47PM

Doodoo wrote: »

Are you ginger?

no im not hahaha nothing wrong with a ginger tho

18-09-2012 04:48PM

SoundFella wrote: »

Ok so here's the situation me and long term girlfriend broke up about 6months ago and before we were together I pulled more women than Hugh Hefner but since we broke up, on nights out my game is non existent , I still pull one or two on a night out but I'm not working for it , it just happens , I'm not a bad looking lad but I feel I've lost a awful lot of confidence on approaching women that I don't know , so what's your approach on a night out (a girls opinion would also be great!)
Thanks in advance

SoundFella wrote: »

And I think a lot of you are picking me up wrong , my last relationship ended badly and my confidence with women is rock bottom as well as on a personal level so I'm actually asking for some genuine advice on women (and not cocky responses)

crippling lack of self esteem there yea

sebastianlieken · 18-09-2012 04:50PM

Rachelmhr wrote: »

Honestly? Dont use chat up lines

WHAT!?!?!? screw that!

Chat up lines are awesome! The more cringeworthy - the better!! never use them seriously, and never use dirty ones, but use clean chat up lines in a way that you're taking the piss out of yourself. they're feckin' funny as!

Regardless of chatup line / approach etc. it's all about confidence. (fine line between confidence and cockyness), get too cocky and you'll strike out every time.

BunShopVoyeur · 18-09-2012 04:54PM

Phat Cat wrote: »

I stopped reading after that...

......................................................so?

Hardonraging · 18-09-2012 04:56PM

BunShopVoyeur wrote: »

......................................................so?

Prob wont see your questions given ... ye know they stopped reading

cloptrop · 18-09-2012 05:02PM

Go to the fast food establishment after the club . Its full of large girls that dont want to sleep in their own bed . Say whatever the flock you want . They will even pretend your funny . Just dont mention the fat word to them . Its a real game changer.
Ooh ooh and homeless girls . They have no bed so if you have a bed they think your like loaded.

BunShopVoyeur · 18-09-2012 05:05PM

Hardonraging wrote: »

Prob wont see your questions given ... ye know they stopped reading

Ah, I just saw them post the exact same thing in another thread and then reply a few posts later.

So there!

Ya jerk!

Andrewf20 · 18-09-2012 05:08PM

OP, maybe give speed dating a blast as an alternative and see what you think. Ive done it and theres a suprising mix of people there. It used to be taboo but speed dating is quite popular now. Scary as hell going in, but once it starts its great craic. Id defo recommend it. Especially when you find out everybody else is a nervous as hell as well.

Just dont start chatting to you mates (aka comfortzone.com) at the interval!

Theres also beginner swing dance classes etc in the Turks Head and other places which are great for meeting people. There could be 25 women and 25 men there and they make you change dance partner every 2-3 mins. Its kinda set up to be like speed dating, it defo has that undercurrent. Something to consider if you think you'd go if it. Its a laugh and an experience, id say give that a blast too.

deathrider · 18-09-2012 05:09PM

cloptrop wrote: »

Go to the fast food establishment after the club . Its full of large girls that dont want to sleep in their own bed . Say whatever the flock you want . They will even pretend your funny . Just dont mention the fat word to them . Its a real game changer.
Ooh ooh and homeless girls . They have no bed so if you have a bed they think your like loaded.

... Because the skinny ones don't eat in fast food establishments... or at all.

Festy · 18-09-2012 05:09PM

TheBoss! wrote: »

Just smugly smile and whisper: "Do you like Phil Collins ? ".

FYP

cloptrop · 18-09-2012 05:15PM

deathrider wrote: »

cloptrop wrote: »

Go to the fast food establishment after the club . Its full of large girls that dont want to sleep in their own bed . Say whatever the flock you want . They will even pretend your funny . Just dont mention the fat word to them . Its a real game changer.
Ooh ooh and homeless girls . They have no bed so if you have a bed they think your like loaded.

... Because the skinny ones don't eat in fast food establishments... or at all.

They do but it makes them cranky and they usually have already pulled if they wanted to . There food is being paid for.

shopaholic01 · 18-09-2012 05:21PM

I posted this in another thread, but here's two options for you, OP.

The drunken approach.
Approach your chosen woman from behind and maul her - this works particularly well if you have a beer belly to press against her back.
When she turns around slur something incoherent - if you've vomited recently stand closer so she can smell it.
Spill drink on her shoes.
Continue to slur incoherently whilst looking at her boobs and make obscene gesture e.g. grind your hips, put your middle and index fingers either side of your mouth and move your tongue 'provocatively'.
If this fails assume she is a lesbian, insult her and go laugh about her with your friends.
This is why some of us get snotty!

Or, you could try the less drunken approach.
Smile, make eye contact and have a normal conversation, be slighty cheeky, yet funny.

I recommend the second option.

Picking up women on a night out , tips?

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