Abortion

To get back to the OP's original question - why would a woman need counselling post-abortion if she doesn't see it as 'killing'? Well, think of it this way - imagine you're 17 say, still at school, and you find yourself pregnant (no traumatic circumstances, maybe just a failure of contraception). You don't believe that abortion = killing, and so have no moral quandary when it comes to making a decision. You do, however have a decision to make, and it's a life-changing one. So you sit, and you think, and mull over your possible futures in your mind. You could proceed with the pregnancy, which would impact your life in countless ways, from finding it difficult to complete your studies, to wondering how having a child would affect your future relationships, to whether you'd be able to bring the child up in a good way, to being disowned by family. On the other hand, you could choose to have an abortion, which might affect your future fertility, might cause others to despise you if they found out, you worry that it would be a 'selfish' choice - are you thinking only of yourself, are you considering the potential child enough?

These thoughts, and many more, will go through the head of a woman facing an unwanted pregnancy. They'll stop her sleeping, they'll be with her 24 hours a day - but eventually (and under time pressure) she has to make that decision. She chooses to have an abortion.

Now, having made that choice, do you seriously believe that's the end of it, that she never wonders 'what if' she'd chosen the other way? Do you think she never calculates when the potential child would have been born, looks at children who would be a similar age and wonders what hers would have looked like? This is at the same time as being convinced she made the right decision for herself and the potential child - it's not a cut and dried, have the op and go back to your normal life type thing - it's traumatic - and for that reason I think that it's imperative that post-abortion counselling is available. It's not because a woman believes she's done the wrong thing, it's because she's made a huge decision, under stress, is possibly is reeling from hormonal turmoil, may be dealing with family, friend and relationship issues as a result, and is wondering what would have happened had she chosen the other way.

That's why counselling should be available to women who have had abortions.

RDM_83 again wrote: »

The same goes for Millicent who thanked all your previous posts yet in a previous thread completely misrepresented the actual statistics contained in a previous thread on the topic.

Is there any need to be catty, seriously? I did not misrepresent -- I overstated the difference in ratio. Did you look at the Johnston link? It backed up my point that abortion is steadily dropping in Russia and was used to challenge the point that a lot of women use abortion as contraception when the opposite is shown to be the case once contraception is introduced to a country.

Actor wrote: »

I find that hard to believe. Did you have an abortion for contraceptive purposes?

What is an abortion for contraceptive purposes? Do you really think that there are thousands of women who think, "Ah fuck it, I can't be arsed taking the pill every day, organising to get coil put in, making my partner in this deliberate crime wear a condom. It's much easier to take some time off work and/or minding other kids, organise a two day trip to the UK, find the money for it and put up with the unpleasant physical after effects for a couple of weeks afterwards and I don't mind doing this every time I fall pregnant which could be several times a year, perhaps more." I think not!

When I asked you how you would punish the fathers seeing as you don't seem to worry about punishing the mothers, you replied:

Maximus Alexander wrote: »

Fathers, unfortunately, can't carry babies. Which is a shame, because I am certain there are plenty of cases where they would take that burden than have their baby aborted. What about the fathers who are being "punished" right now, by having their babies aborted without their consent?

Then you have the nerve to say this:

Maximus Alexander wrote: »

That's because your question was both nonsensical in light of my overall response, and a straw man.

Your posts are built on fallacies, which makes you very hard to have a meaningful debate with.

Anyway, I'm going to bow out of this thread because the topic makes me way too unhappy, and these discussions never go anywhere.

You may think my posts are fallicious but they posts are based on what I think, feel, believe and have done. They are not intended to be deceptive or misleading. Your posts are just based on the idea that if the woman gets pregnant without wanting to, she deserves everything she gets except an abortion. You still haven't said how you would envisage the fathers involved in these abortions punished.

You didn't stay bowed out for too long.

tomtherobot wrote: »

Secondly, the Ray D'arcy show this morning was talking about counseling for women after abortion. Seemingly the HSE already pays for this. I can't understand how state support for counseling for women who've had abortions is justified. On one side of the debate, pro abortionists say it's a procedure to remove a physical growth which isn't alive. If that's the case why the need for counseling? On the other side, anti-abortionists say it's murder, so why would the state be counseling murderers? Did I miss something, do we not still have old folk being left to rot on trolleys, surely the HSE has greater priorities now than counseling women who've chose to have an abortion.

As you may have guessed, i'm anti-abortion. I'm not religious I just believe that an unborn child is alive. Why else would people mourn the loss of unborn or stillborn children? Or require counseling after 'terminating' one? Given that i believe that an unborn child is alive I think killing one is wrong and cannot be justified above the social or material needs of the parent(s). No more or less than i think it would be ok to kill your elderly parents just because they don't suit where you are in you're life right now.....

Oh right so a woman that's went through the hell of deciding to have an abortion, the whole experience, the what ifs , should not have counselling after an abortion? , If aborted very early on its not a baby.. but it did have the opportunity to continue to grow into one, hence why alot of women would need counselling.. , They may wonder what could of been, feel regret, or just feel like crap because people like you call them murderers. Its a womans right to choose, people dont have abortions when the child is big enough to be stillborn, they also mourn miscarriages as the baby was truly wanted, with abortion its very invasive and can be quite hard on a woman, I dont think anyone goes and has an abortion without thinking really hard about it and if its the right choice, noone has the right to ever make them feel guilty for protecting their bodies and mental health, would you prefer women to continue the pregnancy and resent the child? or what about HER ? , She should just have a baby because a few people think its wrong not to ? , Noone has the right to judge anybody. Also when you say it wouldnt be alright to kill your elderly parents.. that's nonsense its not at all the same as abortion. they have experienced life and have breathed air, they arent a little bunch of cells clustered up.

Jernal wrote: »

I can never understand this position by people who are against abortion. Suppose a bisexual father raped ten men, does that mean we should kill all his wife's children? I mean you seriously seem to consider the foetus a human person yet you're ok with it being killed if its parent was a rapist? Surely the child is innocent in all this. Protect the rights of most vulnerable? Or whatever?

I understand the position from those who generally want abortion but I cannot fathom how someone who is so vehemently against abortion would be o.k with it in the cases of rape. It's just mind boggling.

Don't get me wrong, the child is very innocent and the should not have to go trough that, but IMO it's entirely the rapists fault for the termination of the baby. The responsibility lies ENTIRELY with him! I have nothing but absolute respect for rape victims who keep the baby. I mean absolute respect!

I'm not an extremist kinda guy or anything but I believe serious sex offenders should get mandatory life sentences and serial rape murderers etc ought to be executed. Got won't forgive us for not executing serial murderers. (Yes it is condoned in the bible) PS. I don't want to get into an debate about the bible!

Vicar in a tutu wrote: »

To be honest I dont agree with that timeframe at all, I think it should be definitely legal here but perhaps only up until about 11 or 12 weeks.

The problem with that is a lot of the scans that show severe medical problems won't be done until week 12 - if you're lucky. Some pregnant women are waiting up until week 16 for a first scan. There needs to flexibility for a woman who finds out her baby won't survive.

Matt_Trakker wrote: »

Brain dead=dead.
Yes, I think that if people are brain dead then turn off the machines that are keeping them alive and harvest their organs for others.
This is usually what happens anyway in most cases anyway.

I think those people who are suffering so much that live is literally unbareable ought to have a choice too end their suffering. Like I mean people who have previously had a normal life had some sort of illness or accident and are left in such a state they poo on themselves etc. I'm not talking about able bodied people with depression or suicidal tendencies, strictly people who are in the severest of physical pain and difficulty! It's not fair!

We all respect life but respecting life is also considering peoples pain! Only in the strictest of circumstances shoud Euthanasia be carried out with the strictest of guidelines and functionaries. Also, there should be NO profit made other than coverage of costs etc.

I didn't think too much about this topic untill I seen a mostly vegetive guy on TV who was crying and was clearly extremely tormented with his state. He wanted to die but his wife was warned she would be prosecuted if she helped him so he died after suffering for years naturally.

That's not right!

Actor wrote: »

I find that hard to believe. Did you have an abortion for contraceptive purposes?


I'm not surprised that you're "not proud of it". Why would you need counselling seeing as you state you've done nothing wrong? Abortion is wrong and frankly, you should be ashamed of yourself. I sympathise with you, but in no way do I condone the decision you have made. I guess you'll have to live with that decision till the day you meet your Maker.

Thanks for the advice To be honest I doubt there will be any "Maker" passing judgement on me, the only people whose opinions matter to me don't really have an issue with it. I live with the choice I made very easily

eviltwin wrote: »

Thanks for the advice To be honest I doubt there will be any "Maker" passing judgement on me, the only people whose opinions matter to me don't really have an issue with it. I live with the choice I made very easily

Why would you do something with the possibility of procreation if that's not what you wanted? I don't want to have a baby yet but I would be really happy if my gf get pregnant, so that's why we have sex. If she would abort the baby if she got pregnant believe me, we wouldn't have sex but she wouldn't.

If I knew you and was very fond of you for all my life and I found out you had an abortion i'd never speak to you again. It's the HIEGHT of negligence and selfishness. I can scarcely think of something more evil and depraved!

Gurgle wrote: »

Millicent,

I genuinely have every sympathy for the horrors you've experienced, and I do understand your position on abortion of rape pregnancies.

I can't in all conscience argue the toss on a subject so personal to you.

I appreciate that.

Gurgle wrote: »

I think the OP was trying to challenge a particular line of thinking on the subject. Many people come across as callous and flippant, as though an abortion is no worse than an appendectomy.(I think its equally true to say that many anti-abortion mouthpieces have put no more thought into the subject than their first communion vows.)
His point came across badly.

But there are some women who will see it as a collection of cells and will not need counselling after an abortion. For other women, it's not that easily separated. Neither of those groups are more right than the other in their thinking, just approaching matters from their own personal experience and viewpoint. The whole subject exists in that shade of grey -- dealing in absolutes does neither side any favours.

My views are that terminations should only be allowed under 12 weeks or even preferably less, unless in very exceptional circumstances. I know people now in their early '70's who still feel pain & even guilt over this issue . I think there should be proper unbiased advice from both perspectives beforehand in any case.

Whilst I think abortion is wrong, it will happen anyway as many women will just leave Ireland & go overseas for the procedure. Or else maybe attempt to carry it out themselves or with others.

Even David Steel, the MP who passed the British law in 1967, has said he didn't expect the numbers of terminations to be as high as they have been for the last few decades. The numbers of abortions in many countries are far too high IMO

There also needs to be proper birth control policies, like the Dutch & Scandinavian models to drastically reduce unwanted pregnancy.

So abortion yes, with restrictions, 12 weeks maxinum, not on demand up until 24 weeks or more. Combined with a forthright birth control policy.

I would not vote yes given a choice, for the current laws in many western countries.

Sponge25 wrote: »

Why would you do something with the possibility of procreation if that's not what you wanted? I don't want to have a baby yet but I would be really happy if my gf get pregnant, so that's why we have sex. If she would abort the baby if she got pregnant believe me, we wouldn't have sex but she wouldn't.

If I knew you and was very fond of you for all my life and I found out you had an abortion i'd never speak to you again. It's the HIEGHT of negligence and selfishness. I can scarcely think of something more evil and depraved!

*Must not Godwin the thread* *Must not Godwin the thread*