I Hate Weddings - LOATH THEM.

Lplated · 01-09-2012 01:00PM

Entirely depends on whether the bridesmaids put out or not imo.

Couples who send pics of bridesmaids with their wedding invitations get
a) more reliable rsvp figures
b) higher value presents the more ride-able the bridesmaids are.*

* The TRUTH about Weddings, p.4

OurLadyofKnock · 01-09-2012 01:10PM

mikom wrote: »

How do you personally act at a wedding OurLadyofKnock?

trying to pretend I am not bored off my ass looking at badly dressed ugly people getting wasted.

Mr Benevolent · 01-09-2012 01:12PM

Only been to one enjoyable wedding (afters actually), the rest have been crap.

Shryke · 01-09-2012 01:51PM

Do not like, do not want. Smiley voided faces of people I don't know and have to mingle with. Relations I don't want to see or talk to. The most nefarious social dance you could perform, God knows who is related to who or what's going on with any of these people. And I don't dance. I don't dance.
There's too much awkwardness for fun.

Red21 · 01-09-2012 01:54PM

Lots of wedding bashing threads on here lately and with good reason. I think there is a large section of Irish people in their late twenties or older, sick to death of them, yet there isin't really anybody/group you can blame.

We all have to go to too many weddings because weddings here tend to be very large, 200+ is a massive wedding yet it's kinda the norm for ireland.

The reason we have such so many big weddings is that couples are aware that you'll get reimbursed the money you spent when all the cards have been collected. I don't think people set out to make a killing but when it comes to making the list the err on the side of caution with friends/people they know, this way everybody ends up inviting everybody.

It's quiet simple the more people that have large weddings the more people you'll have at weddings that don't really wanna be there, it just can't happen. It doesn't matter how much effort you make or how much you spend on that special day, it's been done, people here are all weddinged out.

homerjay2005 · 01-09-2012 01:54PM

i absolutely love weddings, have the 5th of 5 this year to come in a few weeks time.

they are a great day out.

Red21 · 01-09-2012 02:01PM

homerjay2005 wrote: »

i absolutely love weddings, have the 5th of 5 this year to come in a few weeks time.

they are a great day out.

How many have you gone to altogether over say the last 10 years ?

Abi · 01-09-2012 02:36PM

Not a fan of the church bit, but I do like going to the receptions. Always enjoy the day out, the happy atmosphere, the food and the company. Don't know whats not to like tbh.

panda100 · 01-09-2012 03:06PM

Have my third wedding this year, next weekend. I'm really not a fan ofweddings,mainly because I'm quite shy and don't really like talking to strangers. I guess they are okay when you know a few people at them. On the whole, I just find them very long and very expensive, factor in accommodation, petrol,hair,dress,present,drinks etc, and you're easily spending €500 for one day.

The only part of the day I would genuinly like is the speeches.

df1985 · 01-09-2012 03:09PM

if its a friends weding and all your mates are there its great,

a relatives wedding where you know no one and sit with the aunts and uncles is torture.

holystungun9 · 01-09-2012 03:13PM

I avoid weddings like the plague.

Balmed Out · 01-09-2012 03:23PM

In the last 5 yrs:
My own wedding
3 immediate family
3 other halves immediate family
7 friends
6 other halves friends
2 work
1 cousin

23 and probably more in 5 years and in my lifetime before that another 3. Majority require staying in a hotel somewhere so yes their expensive but on the whole I love them. Not mad about one on a friday then travelling a few hours to get to the next one on the sat or I had 3 weekends in a row with a wedding but in general their a great day out.

It can be hard as you get older to keep in contact with all the people you would like to and weddings are the best way to get to meet up and have an excuse to spend money on a weekend away.

Kooli · 01-09-2012 03:37PM

I bloody LOVE them!

Been to probably about 25 in the past 3-4 years. Always have a great time at them.

I think the secret to enjoying weddings is to turn down invites to the weddings you don't want to go to. No one minds (including the bride and groom), and then you don't get 'wedding fatigue' or become bitter and twisted from being 'forced' to go to these events you're not interested in.

For some (like me) that means turning down one or two out of ten. For others (who hate weddings), it might mean turning down seven or eight out of ten. But either way, it means you only go to weddings you really want to be at. That's better for all involved. I'm sure you're not the jolliest person to be around on the day if you hate everything about it and then assume everyone else is 'faking' their enjoyment and really hating it too. (secret - they're not!!)

Grayson · 01-09-2012 03:43PM

bbam wrote: »

Cousins and the like.... My blood runs cold and I feel sick ! Feckin relations at every corner, all ages and sizes and most I don't have any time for

people you haven't seen for years and for good reason.

Honestly I think if I ever got married I'd leg it to Vegas if I could.

mikom · 01-09-2012 07:11PM

mikom wrote: »

How do you personally act at a wedding OurLadyofKnock?

OurLadyofKnock wrote: »

trying to pretend I am not bored off my ass looking at badly dressed ugly people getting wasted.

So basically.......

OurLadyofKnock wrote: »

Following on the gift thread:

I have never been to a wedding where I did not hate every second of it. The fake happiness of the other guests. A general sense of unease. Most people get wasted just to help them forget they are at a wedding.

LeeHoffmann · 01-09-2012 11:25PM

I only go to weddings when I want to be there - i.e. when I actually have a relationship of some sort in the real world with at least one of the people getting wed

Bad Panda · 01-09-2012 11:29PM

Agricola wrote: »

Im going to guess you're single...

Pathetic. Don't like weddings and the monotony and bullish!t that goes with them?? SINGLE!!*

I'm guessing you can't survive unless you do what society tells you to.

*Not single.

Einhard · 02-09-2012 02:16AM

I love weddings. What's not to like? Good food, surrounded by friends and/or family, decent music, and of course loads of booze! I've never yet had a bad time at a wedding. Then again, I only go to those ones where I know the bride or groom pretty well. Never understand people who insist on going to every single wedding they're invited to, and then complaining about weddings.

blingrhino · 02-09-2012 02:30AM

Id rather a summons through the post than a wedding invite

opinion guy · 02-09-2012 03:03AM

Hate them - avoid them like the plague

Also they are totally cliche. Its gotten to the point where a drunken elvis chapel wedding in Vegas is actually more romantic than a big church wedding with hotel/castle reception and all the wankery involved there.
At least it makes for an interesting story!

meoklmrk91 · 02-09-2012 03:39AM

Haven't been to many, friends recently got married and I had a great laugh in fairness, it was a very relaxed wedding. I wouldn't be quick to go to one again.

Because A: It costs a small fortune.
B: They are all the same really when you think about it, just because your dress has sequins here and Bridie down the down the roads didn't doesn't make them that different.

I guess I just don't get the big fuss, it doesn't make sense to me, don't really believe in marriage myself as I don't see the point, but if I had to registry office job with a barbecue or something after for close friends and family and then feck off with the hubby for a month or two travelling on all the money we saved not having the same wedding that everyone else in the country has every weekend.

DEFTLEFTHAND · 02-09-2012 03:54AM

I don't like being in a situation where two other people have an elevated status. I need to be the centre of attention, I'm the star of the show Dammit.:pac:

Galwayguy35 · 02-09-2012 04:56AM

I've been to 4 weddings this year, 2 were good and the other 2 not so great but that was just because I didn't know as many people at them.

There will probably be another 2 coming up next year and yeah it's expensive there's no point denying that.

It's the stag nights that I wouldn't be too keen on.

gobnaitolunacy · 02-09-2012 06:55AM

Thank Christ the Birdie Song has gone out of fashion, tho Sweet Caroline is still with us, the wedding staple.

ErnieBert · 02-09-2012 08:47AM

When I was young free and single, I went to to most weddings that I was invited to because there were always loads of jealous ladies who were looking for a husband. I provided a one night comforting service wherever possible.

Now I am a middle-aged happily married fart, I only go to weddings of close family and close friends. These days, I have more friends getting divorced than getting married.

opinion guy · 02-09-2012 10:23AM

ErnieBert wrote: »

Now I am a middle-aged happily married fart, I only go to weddings of close family and close friends. These days, I have more friends getting divorced than getting married.

What age does the divorce stuff kick in at ? I hav ea number of wagers outstanding..... :P

Carson10 · 02-09-2012 01:28PM

sure this is Ireland. Remember to Live by the rule book:

1. You must be in a relationship by the time your@least 26/27 or else they"l say " that fellas a bit odd" or "she should of joined the nuns"

2. Put your relationship up on FB and post annoying stuff like "best boyfriend ever, so lucky xxxxx" or "came home after a hard day, dinner ready "best girlfriend ever".

3. Get engaged. Party most be held in a local pub, usually a friday night. Sandwiches most be provided and the bar must have carpet/smelly toilets.

4. The wedding. You most have your wedding at a local commercial hotel, i.e., Clarion, Raddisson etc. You most invite people you dont even like and give a speach that you got off the internet while all those annoying guests put money in a glass to record your speech time and shout 'say thanks' say thanks'...

5. Married life. The husband must be bored by 3 years, not exceeding. The wife must have at least 2 childern or "thats abit odd" no kids? She must also have put on at least 4 stone and cut her hair into a short school boy look. Husband most have lost all interest by year 5.

6. The home- Your home must be on an unfinshed housing estate and be named in Irish, for example, "clochain Liah", Cois on Abhainn.

7. The kids, must be named , Roisin and Jack

Thanks

the culture of deference · 02-09-2012 02:41PM

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