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Are kids really worth all the hassle

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  • #62
    Brain Stroking
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 1,874 ✭✭✭Brain Stroking


    wonderfulname wrote: »
    Ha! Well you never met me as a teenager so...

    What's with all the people thinking there's nothing more to life than either pubs or kids? That's far sadder than any 40 something year old on a night out pretending the ageing process doesn't happen.

    Nail on head. The going out every weekend routine is getting old but the having kids routine isnt appearing any more enticing as a result. What am i to do?? :eek:


  • #63
    Motorist
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 892 ✭✭✭Motorist


    Having kids is such a beautiful, enlightening and transcending experience that takes you onto a higher plane of understanding humanity and the big question of why are we all here.

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nojWJ6-XmeQ


  • #64
    guitarzero
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,425 ✭✭✭guitarzero


    One of my biggest fears is to end up having kids through unprotected sex or a moment of stupidity (same thing).

    I simply do not get why someone would want to commit most of their lives to other people like this. Just thinking about having kids gives me cold feet.


  • #65
    starbelgrade
    Closed Accounts Posts: 20,739 ✭✭✭✭starbelgrade


    guitarzero wrote: »
    One of my biggest fears is to end up having kids through unprotected sex

    It's pretty difficult to have them without having unprotected sex.


  • #66
    poppyvally
    Closed Accounts Posts: 341 ✭✭poppyvally


    floggg wrote: »

    !

    So, are they really worth all the crap that goes with them?
    ?

    YES! and more


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  • #67
    Fr_Dougal
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 9,166 ✭✭✭Fr_Dougal


    If you were a parent you'd understand.


  • #68
    ArtSmart
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,610 ✭✭✭ArtSmart


    guitarzero wrote: »
    One of my biggest fears is to end up having kids through unprotected sex or a moment of stupidity (same thing).

    I simply do not get why someone would want to commit most of their lives to other people like this. Just thinking about having kids gives me cold feet.
    as technology grows, so does life expectancy and therefore/ also contraception efficiency/ options.

    still ,without sex n baby making i would not be writing this post, so...


  • #69
    B.A._Baracus
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 11,263 ✭✭✭✭B.A._Baracus


    Maturity and 'stage of live' are two things that really come into play here :P

    A person at 22 can say "kids? i never want kids!" - come 29 they want kids tho.


  • #70
    ArtSmart
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,610 ✭✭✭ArtSmart


    Motorist wrote: »
    Having kids is such a beautiful, enlightening and transcending experience that takes you onto a higher plane of understanding humanity and the big question of why are we all here.

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nojWJ6-XmeQ
    he he he

    you're bold, you are


  • #71
    Tonyandthewhale
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,867 ✭✭✭Tonyandthewhale


    guitarzero wrote: »

    I simply do not get why someone would want to commit most of their lives to other people like this.

    So who're you going to commit it to?


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  • #72
    furiousox
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 7,275 ✭✭✭furiousox


    Minimum requirements?

    Endless love
    Endless patience
    Plus sacrificing being able to do what you want when you want for quite a few years.

    You are a khaki coloured bombardier, it's Hiroshima that you're nearing.



  • #73
    Fr_Dougal
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 9,166 ✭✭✭Fr_Dougal


    furiousox wrote: »
    Minimum requirements?

    Endless love
    Endless patience
    Plus sacrificing being able to do what you want when you want for quite a few years.

    That's more ideal than minimum, there are plenty of parents that aren't fit to have a pet rock let alone a child.


  • #74
    marshbaboon
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,184 ✭✭✭marshbaboon


    Fr_Dougal wrote: »
    That's more ideal than minimum, there are plenty of parents that aren't fit to have a pet rock let alone a child.

    You need a licence to have a dog, but you can fire out a litter of kids as big as you want.

    There's something wrong with that.


  • #75
    ArtSmart
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,610 ✭✭✭ArtSmart


    furiousox wrote: »
    Minimum requirements?

    Endless love
    Endless patience
    Plus sacrificing being able to do what you want when you want for quite a few years.
    dude, we're talking about kids here, not drug use.


  • #76
    TeddyTedson
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 10,758 ✭✭✭✭TeddyTedson


    I wonder if being raised in a traditional family or opposed to other circumstances have any influence on this.


  • #77
    blatantrereg
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,743 ✭✭✭blatantrereg


    Some time in their 30's, a lot of people start to slide slowly into despair if they dont have kids (or the prospect of having them). They can be loaded, like their jobs, do lots of fun stuff, but I still usually detect some undercurrent of despair in them.

    On the other hand, people with kids often seem pretty strung out. Sometimes they seem trapped, even if they often seem happy to be trapped. I dont envy them either. Personally, I fear having kids, though I intend to have a couple.

    Growing up sucks.


  • #78
    homeless student
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,020 ✭✭✭homeless student


    Tonyandthewhale wrote: »
    So who're you going to commit it to?

    me, myself and I:) **** kids and staying with the same woman for that matter.


  • #79
    marshbaboon
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,184 ✭✭✭marshbaboon


    homeless student wrote: »
    me, myself and I:) **** kids and staying with the same woman for that matter.

    That's the spirit!


  • #80
    Motorist
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 892 ✭✭✭Motorist


    blatantrereg wrote: »
    Some time in their 30's, a lot of people start to slide slowly into despair if they dont have kids (or the prospect of having them). They can be loaded, like their jobs, do lots of fun stuff, but I still usually detect some undercurrent of despair in them.

    On the other hand, people with kids often seem pretty strung out. Sometimes they seem trapped, even if they often seem happy to be trapped. I dont envy them either. Personally, I fear having kids, though I intend to have a couple.

    Growing up sucks.

    I suppose the little runts are handy for driving you around when youre 80+


  • #81
    furiousox
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 7,275 ✭✭✭furiousox


    ArtSmart wrote: »
    dude, we're talking about kids here, not drug use.

    I used to be into "hard drugs" at the weekends, now it's more "soft furnishings" :(

    You are a khaki coloured bombardier, it's Hiroshima that you're nearing.



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  • #82
    Witchie
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,597 ✭✭✭Witchie


    Not necessarily. I have brought my boys up alone since they were 5 and 2 so even without the support of their dad it has been a pleasure.


  • #83
    Smidge
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5,541 ✭✭✭Smidge


    I'm not sure if the age of the parent is really relevant as there are two sides of every "club goldgrain";)

    If you have your family young(ie 20's) you can miss out on certain things but on the flip side have the energy to raise them. Then you can enjoy your 40's!!

    If you have your family later(ie late 30's) you have had your independence and "fun" for longer. It can be very difficult to give this up. Also, patience can be less but you have had your fun!!


  • #84
    kowloon
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2, Paid Member Posts: 13,968 ✭✭✭✭kowloon


    starbelgrade wrote: »
    It's pretty difficult to have them without having unprotected sex.

    Turkey baster. Not quite the same though.


  • #85
    JONJO THE MISER
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 12,333 ✭✭✭✭JONJO THE MISER


    To be honest i would not have the patience to have kids, i like my freedom too much also.


  • #86
    JONJO THE MISER
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 12,333 ✭✭✭✭JONJO THE MISER


    CJC999 wrote: »
    Do you really want to be that 40 something still out every night at the weekend trying to pretend your 10yrs younger while all your friends are at home with their families?

    Yes.


  • #87
    eth0
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,632 ✭✭✭eth0


    JONJO THE MISER wrote: »
    To be honest i would not have the patience to have kids, i like my freedom too much also.


    Im too much of a miser for kids.


  • #88
    say_who_now?
    Closed Accounts Posts: 925 ✭✭✭say_who_now?


    mishkalucy wrote: »
    I'm not sure if the age of the parent is really relevant as there are two sides of every "club goldgrain";)

    If you have your family young(ie 20's) you can miss out on certain things but on the flip side have the energy to raise them. Then you can enjoy your 40's!!

    If you have your family later(ie late 30's) you have had your independence and "fun" for longer. It can be very difficult to give this up. Also, patience can be less but you have had your fun!!

    Haven't seen them around in years! God I'd love one now only I'd never be able to afford one with paying for what I affectionately call "the wallet squeezers" :p


  • #89
    Wompa1
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 8,318 ✭✭✭Wompa1


    homeless student wrote: »
    better that than the guards knocking on your door on a saturday night with your kid looking guilty after doing something stupid.:p

    If you didn't have kids what would you be doing?

    I'm 27 and newly single. I'm living out foreign making crazy money doing contracting. I'm not sure what else there is to do for fulfillment.

    I can't stand nightclubs anymore, don't go for one night stands and hardly ever drink and don't do drugs. Is there something as a guy with kids like you that you'd rather be doing? Or do you think it's a case you'd just like to go out and get laid again one last time and get it out of your system or what's the deal?


  • #90
    Wacker The Attacker
    Closed Accounts Posts: 7,473 ✭✭✭Wacker The Attacker


    I'd rather have my grapes crushed in my senses than have chidren


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  • #91
    homeless student
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,020 ✭✭✭homeless student


    Wompa1 wrote: »
    If you didn't have kids what would you be doing?

    I'm 27 and newly single. I'm living out foreign making crazy money doing contracting. I'm not sure what else there is to do for fulfillment.

    I can't stand nightclubs anymore, don't go for one night stands and hardly ever drink and don't do drugs. Is there something as a guy with kids like you that you'd rather be doing? Or do you think it's a case you'd just like to go out and get laid again one last time and get it out of your system or what's the deal?


    what??are you sure that was fot me? I dont have kids and will never, thankfully:cool:


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