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Are kids really worth all the hassle

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  • 30-08-2012 11:33pm
    #1
    Registered Users Posts: 5,821 ✭✭✭


    So growing up as a kid, it's kind of assumed as inevitable that you will end up starting a family and raising a few sprogs of your own.

    Lately though, I've been looking around at friends and colleagues starting families, and I'm starting to think to myself - being a parent looks like a load of ****e!

    Seriously, apart from the inexplicable amounts of money they gobble up on you, they completely take over your whole life. You can kiss goodbye to a social life, friends, hobbies etc. You will end up spending most of your time working just so you can support the ingrates, and when you do have time off, it will invariably be spent cleaning up after them, or taking them some place etc.

    I'm single and while I am doing ok financially, I'm not exactly flush. But there are plenty of people raising families on my wages. it horrifies me to think what I would have to give up to support another human being or two on my wage. Never mind the socialising and reasonable clothes, i'd be back to my colleg diet of koka noodle sandwiches!

    So, are they really worth all the crap that goes with them?

    Is there any parents here with buyer's remorse (or a strong grievance with the condom company)?


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  • Registered Users Posts: 133 ✭✭SugarCoat


    one word - vasectomy


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 944 ✭✭✭xDramaxQueenx


    no, wiping someone elses ass? no thankss.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 2,635 ✭✭✭eth0


    No they're not. They turn you into a right softie and prevent you from doing fun stuff


  • Registered Users Posts: 10,364 ✭✭✭✭Kylo Ren


    Yes.

    They make fantastic drug mules.


  • Registered Users Posts: 4,986 ✭✭✭Red Hand


    eth0 wrote: »
    No they're not. They turn you into a right softie and prevent you from doing fun stuff

    And stick you in a home when you've retired.:) Something to look forward to, everybody.


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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 22,559 ✭✭✭✭AnonoBoy


    If you don't have kids where else are you doing to get kidneys from when you're old?


  • Registered Users Posts: 8,171 ✭✭✭Wompa1


    What else are you going to do?

    What's fun? Going out on the lock and getting the ride?

    What about when you're in your 60's? Even when you are past your mid 30's doing that you are bordering on pervy.


  • Registered Users Posts: 9,061 ✭✭✭leggo


    They're probably worth the hassle just to avoid your family annoying you with questions and unsolicited advice/help on how to make you more 'normal'.


  • Registered Users Posts: 2,294 ✭✭✭hairyprincess


    I will loan you mine for a few weeks so you can get the full experience before you make any decisions.

    No need to thank me, I feel it's my duty


  • Registered Users Posts: 5,273 ✭✭✭racso1975


    To a certain extent you could put forward that argument to a lot of things. A pet, a partner etc

    I am a father of 2. I wont lie and say it is the most rewarding thing in the world blah blah blah

    Look it it's like most things in life there are moments of genuine greatness and they make up for all the mundane things that come with being a parent


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  • Registered Users Posts: 10,758 ✭✭✭✭TeddyTedson


    I actually fear this. Well not so much having kids, just that same life everyone seems to end up having. Working long hours to support family. Living in the same house doing the same ****ty 9-5 job with the same girlfriend for the rest of your life.
    I'm probably being very insulting but it's just the way I personally feel about it.
    Being stuck in on weekends looking after the kids. Jesus, I just could never imagine it.

    I should be saying hopefully one day I'll want all that **** but I don't want it. Ever.

    Perhaps it will all result in me dying alone as a miserable old bollocks with a whole lot of crazy.


  • Registered Users Posts: 7,776 ✭✭✭Big Pussy Bonpensiero


    The more you put into something the more you get out of it.


  • Registered Users Posts: 412 ✭✭Akarinn


    Child Benifits..

    Defiantly worth the hassle...


  • Registered Users Posts: 2,294 ✭✭✭hairyprincess


    THFC wrote: »
    The more you put into something the more you get out of it.

    Yea that's what he said last night too :mad:


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 7,872 ✭✭✭strobe


    floggg wrote: »
    Is there any parents here with buyer's remorse (or a strong grievance with the condom company)?

    Plenty, but admitting it to anyone would mean admitting it to themselves, and people have a big, useful, guilt enducing and very sensitive trip switch that prevents themselves from doing that when it comes to situations they can't reverse similar to the one you present.

    IMO etc...


  • Registered Users Posts: 4,986 ✭✭✭Red Hand


    AnonoBoy wrote: »
    If you don't have kids where else are you doing to get kidneys from when you're old?

    From the pigs that will be genetically modified to grow spare human organs, of course.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 4,351 ✭✭✭NegativeCreep


    Nope, had to babysit one the other day when I was hungover ugh. They never stop talking! :( I'd have to give up drink if I had a kid and that's a no no in my book. I'm also incredibly greedy with money and there isn't a hope I'd have a kid just so it could drain me of every cent I hope to have :p


  • Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 892 ✭✭✭Motorist


    strobe wrote: »
    Plenty, but admitting it to anyone would mean admitting it to themselves, and people have a big, useful, guilt enducing and very sensitive trip switch that prevents themselves from doing that when it comes to situations they can't reverse similar to the one you present.

    IMO etc...

    Ive spoken to many parents who say having kids is absolute $hit. They long all day for 9pm when they get to spend a miserable two hours in peace.

    They can't do anything, they are broke financially because of the kids, they have no lives anymore.


  • Registered Users Posts: 9,061 ✭✭✭leggo


    THFC wrote: »
    The more you put into something the more you get out of it.

    That sounds like a good way to get fat kids. Which means more money to feed them. I'm not sure I'm understanding your solution?


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 925 ✭✭✭say_who_now?


    floggg wrote: »
    So growing up as a kid, it's kind of assumed as inevitable that you will end up starting a family and raising a few sprogs of your own.

    Lately though, I've been looking around at friends and colleagues starting families, and I'm starting to think to myself - being a parent looks like a load of ****e!

    Seriously, apart from the inexplicable amounts of money they gobble up on you, they completely take over your whole life. You can kiss goodbye to a social life, friends, hobbies etc. You will end up spending most of your time working just so you can support the ingrates, and when you do have time off, it will invariably be spent cleaning up after them, or taking them some place etc.

    I'm single and while I am doing ok financially, I'm not exactly flush. But there are plenty of people raising families on my wages. it horrifies me to think what I would have to give up to support another human being or two on my wage. Never mind the socialising and reasonable clothes, i'd be back to my colleg diet of koka noodle sandwiches!

    So, are they really worth all the crap that goes with them?

    Is there any parents here with buyer's remorse (or a strong grievance with the condom company)?

    And now just imagine if your parents had thought the same way you do before they had you- you wouldn't be here! You could ask the same question of any drain on your financial resources really, be it a car, a house, hell even getting married is a huge financial drain that some would ask is it worth it. As a parent myself of course there are times when I'm driven up the wall, but I'd never think I regret having children- for all the head wrecking they do, they do provide hours of LOL moments at the same time, and certainly I wouldn't say they had curbed my social life, or that they are half as bad as you make out. Like anything in life- if you plan and manage right, the rewards are awesome and you get out of it what you put in. Depending on what you consider an investment, be it financial or just time spent nurturing your investment, the dividends can be very rewarding indeed!


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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 7,872 ✭✭✭strobe


    Motorist wrote: »
    Ive spoken to many parents who say having kids is absolute $hit. They long all day for 9pm when they get to spend a miserable two hours in peace.

    They can't do anything, they are broke financially because of the kids, they have no lives anymore.

    I admire their honesty and pity their kids. It's a horrible atmosphere to grow up in and most people are nowhere near as good at hiding it as they think they are from their kids...

    People having children they do not want or resent having is the cause of the majority of the human races problems imo.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 22,559 ✭✭✭✭AnonoBoy


    Red Hand wrote: »
    From the pigs that will be genetically modified to grow spare human organs, of course.

    Tell me more......


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 8,061 ✭✭✭keith16


    It's not that much hassle. We still have friends, hobbies, a social life etc.

    Your life doesn't end when you have kids.

    I was reluctant like you OP, but I very much enjoy being a parent.


  • Registered Users Posts: 2,104 ✭✭✭Swampy


    Yes


  • Registered Users Posts: 4,986 ✭✭✭Red Hand


    AnonoBoy wrote: »
    Tell me more......

    We will take a pill the size of an anadin every day, but that will provide all nutritonal input.

    Ryan Tubridy will become a body builder.

    Boards will be beamed directly into the brain from the modem chips in our molars.


  • Registered Users Posts: 1,416 ✭✭✭Maldesu


    AnonoBoy wrote: »
    If you don't have kids where else are you doing to get kidneys from when you're old?

    Ya must be joking! Sure the wee shítes are hitting the booze by age 12 these days and have wrecked their kidneys. You're better just stealing the kidneys from a pioneer than going to the hassle of breeding a sprog and spending the cash on keeping it alive. Tis a bad investment.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 5,541 ✭✭✭Smidge


    I'll be honest here.
    There are moments of tremendous joy and times of utter heartbreak.
    Combined with a side of monotony;)


  • Registered Users Posts: 221 ✭✭karl_m


    I personally do not want kids. Yes LOL moments are all well and good, but I'm an uncle twice over, and the LOL moments I get from them is enough. Seeing them grow up is all great too and you'll have such an amazing feeling of achievement too, but again, I'm a godfather, I'll have that anyway.

    The financial strain,long hours,the pressure to provide in every way, putting them ahead of yourself, and constant attention seems too much for me.
    There will be countless times that they will worry you in some way or that you'll doubt yourself in some way. You're social life will be hit hard, not completely gone, just less of it.

    Probably many more reasons that I can't think of now, but hey, that's just me.


  • Registered Users Posts: 14,289 ✭✭✭✭Cienciano


    Your social life doesn't end. Well, it depends on what your social life is. If it's going to the pub all the time it'll take a hit. But not having kids because it will get in the way of going to the pub is a bit sad.
    Weekends away take a bit more organisation. And when the kids are young a week holiday turns into hard work!
    I'm lucky though, I have 4 or 5 different people I can get to babysit, if you don't have that it must be a lot harder.


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  • Registered Users Posts: 6,964 ✭✭✭furiousox


    It's only $hit for the first ten years, after that it gets easier.

    CPL 593H



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