How much to give at a wedding

Motorist · 18-08-2012 11:30PM

marshbaboon wrote: »

My family doesn't do money in cards or expensive presents.

Getting a wedding invitation is bad enough already, it's like getting a bill.

We tend to do meaningful things to show we actually care about eachother, rather than throwing money around.

One of my friends got a brown plate for her wedding from one of her best friends and her boyfriend. It wasn't a fancy plate or anything..

coolgal52 · 18-08-2012 11:32PM

We always give 200 euro as a couple, if it is family or a really good friend would give a bit more.

Jame Gumb · 18-08-2012 11:40PM

Muckit wrote: »

Miss Lockhart wrote: »

My close friend had 150 guests in a lovely hotel and kept it under €10,000. It can be done.

rubbish

Of course you could.

€66 a head would get you something nice in this day and age.

lab man · 18-08-2012 11:42PM

Hi, i used to give 200 but now give 100/150 depends o situ, the best wedding i was at was a girl an fella that were sound out! they had their reception at the local community centre for about 2k there was a wedding at a hotel the week before it that cost 35k the week before and which wedding were ppl talking about yep you guesed it the cheap homely one for 2k with no pressies

Jame Gumb · 18-08-2012 11:43PM

lab man wrote: »

Hi, i used to give 200 but now give 100/150 depends o situ, the best wedding i was at was a girl an fella that were sound out! they had their reception at the local community centre for about 2k there was a wedding at a hotel the week before it that cost 35k the week before and which wedding were ppl talking about yep you guesed it the cheap homely one for 2k with no pressies

Why were there no pressies?

stepbar · 18-08-2012 11:44PM

I gave 75eur (me fein) at the last wedding I was at... And they are good friends. I couldn't really justify stretching much further.

stepbar · 18-08-2012 11:48PM

Motorist wrote: »

Should just do what Sean Quinn's daughter did - charge a 200k wedding to the family business, and then have the neck later on to try and claim the VAT back by claiming the wedding is a "marketing event" for the hotel. Of course neck like that could only be one of the Quinns and a solicitor, Stephen Kelly, she was marrying.

I wonder who paid for the son to get married???.... The Ritz Carlton in Powerscourt was fully booked out for 2 nights (the Quinns paid for the guests to stay on site).

mrsdewinter · 18-08-2012 11:49PM

Motorist wrote: »

marshbaboon wrote: »

My family doesn't do money in cards or expensive presents.

Getting a wedding invitation is bad enough already, it's like getting a bill.

We tend to do meaningful things to show we actually care about eachother, rather than throwing money around.

One of my friends got a brown plate for her wedding from one of her best friends and her boyfriend. It wasn't a fancy plate or anything..

A brown plate? That's hilarious...
If I'm going to a wedding solo, I'll give e100. Maybe it's a hangover from the boom but I feel I have to make some contribution towards the cost.

Motorist · 18-08-2012 11:54PM

stepbar wrote: »

I wonder who paid for the son to get married???.... The Ritz Carlton in Powerscourt was fully booked out for 2 nights (the Quinns paid for the guests to stay on site).

The fact that the Quinn group owed the nationalised Anglo Irish Bank €2.8bn at the time which they still have not paid, did not put a damper on the event. I suppose why would it. Ultimately we are all paying a 2 per cent levy on all insurance premiums for the next 25 years separate from the 2.8 billion of lost tax payers money from debt owed to Anglo - should cover the wedding cost.

Motorist · 18-08-2012 11:56PM

mrsdewinter wrote: »

A brown plate? That's hilarious...
If I'm going to a wedding solo, I'll give e100. Maybe it's a hangover from the boom but I feel I have to make some contribution towards the cost.

I'd feel the same about contributing toward the cost.

Yes a brown plate, but the giver of the gift got married herself a year later. I think an equally thoughtful gift -a standard knife and fork or set of two knives and two forks from a supermarket - was returned by my friend.

Muckit · 18-08-2012 11:56PM

Miss Lockhart wrote: »

Believe whatever you want to believe and spend whatever you want to spend. Makes no odds to me.

Wait til Mr. Right comes along and you'I soon see for yourself. It's the small things that add up. I'm including rings and honeymoon in my calculations.

Miss Lockhart · 18-08-2012 11:57PM

Muckit wrote: »

Wait til Mr. Right comes along and you'I soon see for yourself

How presumptuous of you.

pm1977x · 19-08-2012 12:00AM

100-300 depending how close I am to them

Muckit · 19-08-2012 12:14AM

Miss Lockhart wrote: »

How presumptuous of you.

Unlock your heart and you never know your luck

Miss Lockhart · 19-08-2012 12:17AM

Muckit wrote: »

Unlock your heart and you never know your luck

Again, how presumptuous of you.

JohnMarston · 19-08-2012 12:19AM

As much as youre comfortable giving

marshbaboon · 19-08-2012 12:21AM

Miss Lockhart wrote: »

Again, how presumptuous of you.

My brothers wedding was a low key event down at a country hotel. Small group of people. Everyone knew each other, was done for about 6-8k.

One of the best times I've ever had.

If I got married I wouldn't even know where to get 100 people from, nor would I have any desire to invite them. Close friends and family only, it's going to be a meaningful event thx.

Motorist · 19-08-2012 12:33AM

marshbaboon wrote: »

My brothers wedding was a low key event down at a country hotel. Small group of people. Everyone knew each other, was done for about 6-8k.

One of the best times I've ever had.

If I got married I wouldn't even know where to get 100 people from, nor would I have any desire to invite them. Close friends and family only, it's going to be a meaningful event thx.

How low key is low key? Did he have a band, photographer, all that stuff?

Melanoma · 19-08-2012 01:23AM

I talked to some girls that said paying 2000 for flowers for the wedding was normal. So if you divide by 200 people that means everyone would pay 10 euro for f flowers that nobody really gives s about. Bridzilla gone mad!

19-08-2012 01:30AM

Millicent wrote: »

120 guests is modest?! :eek:

For fecks sake 120 people is nothing, if i were to be inviting people tomorrow id have 60 people between family and neighbors and add at the very least another 40 between friends and their partners. Then you have the whole other side of the wedding to add too.

cloud493 · 19-08-2012 01:37AM

Hang about, so say you have... 30 people come to your wedding, small number relatively. They all give 200 quid. You get......
6 Grand :eek:

Kirby · 19-08-2012 03:10AM

Divorced a week later, and on to the next wife.

Average 4 weddings a year with different social circles and boom. Easy living

There's a movie in there somewhere........

djflawless · 19-08-2012 03:57AM

8 quid toaster from argos usually does the trick...
But on a serious note.usually me and the oh give 50 notes and some fancy glass/cutlery or something along the lines

JupiterKid · 19-08-2012 04:13AM

A very close mate of mine is getting married next week and I have made their wedding present - a set of ceramic vases in a modernist style and they have already received the first one and are really pleased by it. It's something a little different and thoughtful. :-)

In the past I've usually given about €100 in the form of cash or preferably a gift voucher but the idea of the wedding couple expecting gifts from guests to cover the costs of the dinner is outrageous. Weddings in Ireland are very extravagant and formulaic and there are too many expectations of the "big day" that it often ends up being both an anticlimax and a financial black hole leaving the newlywed couple deep in debt.

Give what you can afford but by no means should you feel obliged or guilted into giving money to "cover" the cost of the meal/reception.

Melanoma · 19-08-2012 04:29AM

Do you ever get annoyed by little things like chocolates on tables or other items costing so much that it makes your "present" seem meaningless?

LaVail · 19-08-2012 04:53AM

I usually give the price of the dinner...50 quid is plenty in these times as far as I can see.

Napper Hawkins · 19-08-2012 06:46AM

How much to give at a wedding? Nothing, other than your presence and acknowledgement of the farce you've been roped into. Good luck with that by the way.

mikemac1 · 19-08-2012 06:50AM

An invite to a wedding is like a letter from the Revenue

Greentopia · 19-08-2012 07:25AM

How much? not a penny. If anyone stipulated they wanted cash from me if I was invited to their wedding instead of an optional discreet gift they could take a hike. I was brought up to regard it as vulgar and declasse to ask for money at weddings and besides which it puts too much pressure on people to give a certain amount. I think it's especially wrong to expect it of those who can't afford to give it. Weddings are expensive enough to attend without having to fork out extra money on top of everything else.

And yes if I ever get married I will stipulate I don't want cash either and would tell guests that if they want to give a small gift they're welcome to do so but I would emphasise the small and inexpensive bit and that it's entirely voluntary.

Ned_led16 · 19-08-2012 10:19AM

Greentopia wrote: »

How much? not a penny. If anyone stipulated they wanted cash from me if I was invited to their wedding instead of an optional discreet gift they could take a hike. I was brought up to regard it as vulgar and declasse to ask for money at weddings and besides which it puts too much pressure on people to give a certain amount. I think it's especially wrong to expect it of those who can't afford to give it. Weddings are expensive enough to attend without having to fork out extra money on top of everything else.

And yes if I ever get married I will stipulate I don't want cash either and would tell guests that if they want to give a small gift they're welcome to do so but I would emphasise the small and inexpensive bit and that it's entirely voluntary.

Well fekin said - u get married u pay for it!!

How much to give at a wedding

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