Someone says I love you. You don't feel the same. It's awkward

1ZRed · 11-08-2012 05:29AM #1

I got told I love you by somebody recently. That's alright and fine.

Except it was by text, in full dead on seriousness, after 2 months of knowing this person!:eek:

Naturally, I immediately threw my phone out of my hand onto the couch once I read the text! I might have a few commitment issues but this was just batshit crazy to me and I didn't know how to react because for a start;

I only knew him for 2 months
Wasn't going out with him. AFAIK
It was said by text and by a man. Still not comfortable with that emotional/feelings crap side of being with a guy

So In the end I decided to text back saying "alright I'm going bed. Night prick"

In my defence though, I call him names the whole time. Didn't go down well the first time with him, strangely, but I was just taking the piss and we do it back and forth. I thought of him as a mate not a fucking boyfriend!

Safe to say I pissed the fucker off big time and the last thing I needed was a big angry gay stalker who was in love with me.

But ah well wtf else was I supposed to do? New concept for me!:D
Met up with him in the end and sorted things out. He still feels the same and I'm uncomfortable with the situation but he's a mate to me so I couldn't just ditch him completely.

I just got thinking this wasn't the best experience at hearing it seriously by somebody. In fact, it was pretty shit.

But wtf are you supposed to do in these situations?

J. Marston · 11-08-2012 05:44AM

1ZRed wrote: »

I got told I love you by somebody recently. That's alright and fine.

Except it was by text, in full dead on seriousness, after 2 months of knowing this person!:eek:

Naturally, I immediately threw my phone out of my hand onto the couch once I read the text! I might have a few commitment issues but this was just batshit crazy to me and I didn't know how to react because for a start;

I only knew him for 2 months
Wasn't going out with him. AFAIK
It was said by text and by a man. Still not comfortable with that emotional/feelings crap side of being with a guy

So In the end I decided to text back saying "alright I'm going bed. Night prick"

In my defence though, I call him names the whole time. Didn't go down well the first time with him, strangely, but I was just taking the piss and we do it back and forth. I thought of him as a mate not a fucking boyfriend!

Safe to say I pissed the fucker off big time and the last thing I needed was a big angry gay stalker who was in love with me.

But ah well wtf else was I supposed to do? New concept for me!:D
Met up with him in the end and sorted things out. He still feels the same and I'm uncomfortable with the situation but he's a mate to me so I couldn't just ditch him completely.

I just got thinking this wasn't the best experience at hearing it seriously by somebody. In fact, it was pretty shit.

But wtf are you supposed to do in these situations?

At that moment, this is what you did to that guy.

That's cold.

fasttalkerchat · 11-08-2012 05:46AM

J. Marston wrote: »

At that moment, this is what you did to that guy.

That's cold.

In fairness, he was probably just after the ride.
After 2 months he was desperate not to get friendzoned.

1ZRed · 11-08-2012 05:57AM

J. Marston wrote: »

At that moment, this is what you did to that guy.

That's cold.

Haha That's not true. Lisa felt bad after doing that. I didn't!:p

No in seriousness, I call him prick the whole time in an affectionate sort of way so on a normal day he wouldn't think anything of it. Wish it was a normal day tbh.

I do care about him and I would have his back but I don't feel that way. I didn't like that I made him feel bad, I'm not that much of an asshole but I see him more as a friend is all.

Tombi! · 11-08-2012 06:05AM

How about explaining you're not gay for one?

fasttalkerchat · 11-08-2012 06:10AM

Brutal Deluxe wrote: »

How about explaining you're not gay for one?

He is gay... I think.
Looking at previous post it seems that she's a he and he is gay.
I had assumed the OP was female, sorry OP.

Tombi! · 11-08-2012 06:12AM

fasttalkerchat wrote: »

He is gay... I think.
Looking at previous post it seems that she's a he and he is gay.
I had assumed the OP was female, sorry OP.

I thought OP was a straight man and his friend was gay and told him he (the friend) said he loved the OP and the OP just seems him as a friend.

jayteecork · 11-08-2012 06:17AM

Suck his cock.

1ZRed · 11-08-2012 06:27AM

fasttalkerchat wrote: »

In fairness, he was probably just after the ride.
After 2 months he was desperate not to get friendzoned.

He's gotten the ride but that doesn't get him out of the friendzone

Brutal Deluxe wrote: »

How about explaining you're not gay for one?

That would go against the comment above.

jayteecork wrote: »

Suck his cock.

He would be the one going down on me if that was ever the case again.

girl in the striped socks · 11-08-2012 06:30AM

Op, I love you xxx

jayteecork · 11-08-2012 06:31AM

The case again?

Thought you never went near him?

Tombi! · 11-08-2012 06:33AM

1ZRed wrote: »

That would go against the comment above.

I'm confused.

What gender are you and if you're a fella, are you gay?

1ZRed · 11-08-2012 06:47AM

jayteecork wrote: »

The case again?

Thought you never went near him?

I've fucked around with him once. Got to be near enough for that.

Brutal Deluxe wrote: »

I'm confused.

What gender are you and if you're a fella, are you gay?

I'm a guy and I'm mostly gay.

Gummy Panda · 11-08-2012 06:57AM

1ZRed wrote: »

I'm a guy and I'm mostly gay.

He mostly cums on guys, mostly.

I'd feel very awkward if someone told me they love me and wasn't in a relationship with me. I'd think they're confusing feelings and wouldn't want to hurt them.

Jesus Wept · 11-08-2012 07:06AM

I love you Gummy Panda

/waves

1ZRed · 11-08-2012 07:19AM

Gummy Panda wrote: »

He mostly cums on guys, mostly.

I'd feel very awkward if someone told me they love me and wasn't in a relationship with me. I'd think they're confusing feelings and wouldn't want to hurt them.

In/on hardly makes a difference, mostly.

It is awkward and the friendship is a lot more forced because of it. I wish he was confusing feelings because the "you're only in lust with me" card was my shot out of this shit but he made it perfectly clear how he feels and he really wants to be with me and is indeed in love with me. Great.
But it's ok because he says he never feels this way about anybody.
Well ffs don't I feel special.

Wompa1 · 11-08-2012 07:23AM

Post in After Hours. Thinly veiled I'm gay and special thread.

Personal Issues is data way ---->

Swampy · 11-08-2012 07:24AM

Gummy Panda wrote: »

He mostly cums on guys, mostly

Nice rejigged aliens quote.
/thanks given.

Corvo · 11-08-2012 08:24AM

Woah woah woah. What the **** is going on here again? Run it by me one more time?

mikemac1 · 11-08-2012 09:52AM

1ZRed wrote: »

I might have a few commitment issues

But wtf are you supposed to do in these situations?

Commitment issues?

Aren't you a secondary school student and living with your parents? You have so many threads I feel I know your life story by now

You make it sound as if you're about to settle down with someone

You're young OP, relax a bit

tan11ie · 11-08-2012 10:02AM

Be honest...simple as

Colmustard · 11-08-2012 10:05AM

tan11ie wrote: »

Be honest...simple as

And as gently as,

But you can be a bit knocked sideways by an unexpected comment like that.

jayteecork · 11-08-2012 10:15AM

mikemac1 wrote: »

Commitment issues?

Aren't you a secondary school student and living with your parents? You have so many threads I feel I know your life story by now

You make it sound as if you're about to settle down with someone

You're young OP, relax a bit

He's also completely bent.

Colmustard · 11-08-2012 10:21AM

jayteecork wrote: »

He's also completely bent.

Huh has he got spinal problems.

Grayson · 11-08-2012 10:38AM

1ZRed wrote: »

I'm a guy and I'm mostly gay.

Which parts are straight? Cos if you're gay, but your cock is straight, you're going to encounter some difficulties.

Wacker The Attacker · 11-08-2012 11:46AM

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=X3wFHEm33Aw

11-08-2012 11:49AM

I love spending time with you too

Bad Panda · 11-08-2012 11:50AM

1ZRed wrote: »

I'm a guy and I'm mostly gay.

Hmmm

Ficheall · 11-08-2012 11:56AM

Ah, the old "****ing around with a friend because you're horny and then regretting it when they want something more and genuinely like you whereas you just saw them as a convenient piece of ass" chestnut...

shopaholic01 · 11-08-2012 12:14PM

OP, it's a pity EdenHazard isn't gay, you two would really be the perfect couple.

Hardonraging · 11-08-2012 12:27PM

1ZRed wrote: »

I got told I love you by somebody recently. That's alright and fine.

Except it was by text, in full dead on seriousness, after 2 months of knowing this person!:eek:

Naturally, I immediately threw my phone out of my hand onto the couch once I read the text! I might have a few commitment issues but this was just batshit crazy to me and I didn't know how to react because for a start;

I only knew him for 2 months
Wasn't going out with him. AFAIK
It was said by text and by a man. Still not comfortable with that emotional/feelings crap side of being with a guy

So In the end I decided to text back saying "alright I'm going bed. Night prick"

In my defence though, I call him names the whole time. Didn't go down well the first time with him, strangely, but I was just taking the piss and we do it back and forth. I thought of him as a mate not a fucking boyfriend!

Safe to say I pissed the fucker off big time and the last thing I needed was a big angry gay stalker who was in love with me.

But ah well wtf else was I supposed to do? New concept for me!:D
Met up with him in the end and sorted things out. He still feels the same and I'm uncomfortable with the situation but he's a mate to me so I couldn't just ditch him completely.

I just got thinking this wasn't the best experience at hearing it seriously by somebody. In fact, it was pretty shit.

But wtf are you supposed to do in these situations?

Hooks for hangs brah !!! but i still love you !!

And if i might .. "To burn with desire and keep quiet about it is the greatest punishment we can bring on ourselves"

Someone says I love you. You don't feel the same. It's awkward

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