compulsive liars

mickydoomsux · 02-08-2012 11:08AM

I have a friend that is a compulsive liar and it has gotten consistently worse over the 20 or so years i've known him simply because it works.

He will completely fabricate situations and conversations to big himself up to people even though he will be around other people that were present when the stuff he is talking about didn't happen.

He will borrow other peoples stories and pretend they happened to him, once again regaling people with the story in front of the person it actually happened to. He will also make up stories about me and our friends and then you get a phone call or text from him saying "you did X if anyone asks you, all right?"

Any attempt to call him on his bull**** is met with anger and an effort to make you look like a fool for suggesting he might be lying.

And what does all this lying cost him? Nothing. In fact, it had only been a positive thing for him.

He has his pick of women because he will always tell them what they want to hear and they are impressed by his tales of stuff that never happened. He's seen as one of the "right lads" around the town based on stuff that also never happened. The few times that people other than my friends and me have caught him out, they stay pissed at him for maybe a day or two and then it's right back to worshiping him again.

People love being lied to. It's just hard for the people who are trying to be someones friend to be around a compulsive liar.

Ray Palmer · 02-08-2012 11:09AM

kfallon wrote: »

Seriously, like any would be employer will ask about sexual orientation!!

I am pretty sure you can't ask somebody if they have a criminal record. You can do a security check and have to tell them you will be doing it.

u_c_thesecond · 02-08-2012 11:10AM

kfallon wrote: »

Don't name them but I'd consider reporting them! That is surely against the law! And did it have any relevance to the job?

This was about 3 years ago, i actually checked with citizens information after the interview- and they checked and found that because it was an english company they were allowed to ask because different laws there:eek:

No it had no relivance to the job at all i think they were just being nosy.

Oranage2 · 02-08-2012 11:11AM

Ray Palmer wrote: »

I am pretty sure you can't ask somebody if they have a criminal record. You can do a security check and have to tell them you will be doing it.

Doubt that since nearly every job I had asked if I had a criminal record.

kfallon · 02-08-2012 11:12AM

u_c_thesecond wrote: »

This was about 3 years ago, i actually checked with citizens information after the interview- and they checked and found that because it was an english company they were allowed to ask because different laws there:eek:

No it had no relivance to the job at all i think they were just being nosy.

Maybe the guy interviewing fancied you and was hoping for a **** and a finger with you in the jax? :pac:

"Oh Mr. Interviewer, I'll do anything to get this job!!"

"Anything???"

:P

donutheadhomer · 02-08-2012 11:14AM

u_c_thesecond wrote: »

i was actually asked in an interview before what was my "sexual orentation" so thats why i believed him

i dont know if i am allowed name the company on here or not

was is a gaybar or men's sauna?

PhlegmyMoses · 02-08-2012 11:15AM

Next time he tries to talk to you tell him that you are too busy to talk as you're on your way to the vet because your unicorn is sick.

nbar12 · 02-08-2012 11:18AM

We all have that one friend who blatantly lies about pulling birds! "Ah you should have seen her man, easily a 10!. Brought her back to the gaf and she screamed the house down" (lives at home with his parents and younger sister). He says this almost every weekend and is always pulling foreign birds...but when you ask him a few months down the line, how many foreigners has he pulled he can't give an honest answer of none, instead he mutters "eh well eh there was that Australian bird that none of you's had seen, eh that American one, Polish eh eh eh eh" - please stop talking sh*te mate, you're only embarrassing yourself!

fishy fishy · 02-08-2012 11:21AM

just be careful about blatant and compulsive liars - they are experts and what they do and can manipulate the situation once they are found out.

Be very very wary of them, but stick to your ground and don't give in to your principles.

Lando Griffin · 02-08-2012 11:28AM

Probably have low self esteem and feel inferior to people around them.
Then on the other end of the spectrum some of our most established politicians and some not so established are compulsive liars stroke persuaders.
I think personally its always better to be as truthful as possible as you will always be caught out.

Mucky.Bucky · 02-08-2012 11:34AM

fishy fishy wrote: »

just be careful about blatant and compulsive liars - they are experts and what they do and can manipulate the situation once they are found out.

Be very very wary of them, but stick to your ground and don't give in to your principles.

Agreed with this.

I was on the receiving end of a liar and it was absolutely nasty, rotten stuff. You are used, degraded and not deserving of the truth. More lies follow to save their own ass and to resolve themselves of responsibilty in which nothing makes sense to you. You have a jigsaw to put together but it's crooked. I sniffed something was up in the earlier days but gave him the benefit of the doubt, that and I was also curious as to what he was playing at, if anything. Before long I was roped in and tied to his sh1t trying to make sense of it.

Liars are selfish people who use others for their own gains and lie more to distort and degrade you.

The fcuk that I was involved with and the mess that I found myself in led to a severe downturn patch in me in which I am considering counselling and psychotherphy to try and make sense of that and move on.

MarkHitide · 02-08-2012 12:04PM

mickydoomsux wrote: »

I have a friend that is a compulsive liar and it has gotten consistently worse over the 20 or so years i've known him simply because it works.

He will completely fabricate situations and conversations to big himself up to people even though he will be around other people that were present when the stuff he is talking about didn't happen.

He will borrow other peoples stories and pretend they happened to him, once again regaling people with the story in front of the person it actually happened to. He will also make up stories about me and our friends and then you get a phone call or text from him saying "you did X if anyone asks you, all right?"

Any attempt to call him on his bull**** is met with anger and an effort to make you look like a fool for suggesting he might be lying.

And what does all this lying cost him? Nothing. In fact, it had only been a positive thing for him.

He has people's votes because he will always tell them what they want to hear and they are impressed by his tales of stuff that never happened. He's seen as one of the "right lads" around the town based on stuff that also never happened. The few times that people other than my friends and me have caught him out, they stay pissed at him for maybe a day or two and then it's right back to worshiping him again.

People love being lied to. It's just hard for the people who are trying to be someones friend to be around a compulsive liar.

You've described perfectly the average Irish politician-

Mucky.Bucky · 02-08-2012 03:26PM

mickydoomsux wrote: »

I have a friend that is a compulsive liar and it has gotten consistently worse over the 20 or so years i've known him simply because it works.

He will completely fabricate situations and conversations to big himself up to people even though he will be around other people that were present when the stuff he is talking about didn't happen.

He will borrow other peoples stories and pretend they happened to him, once again regaling people with the story in front of the person it actually happened to. He will also make up stories about me and our friends and then you get a phone call or text from him saying "you did X if anyone asks you, all right?"

Any attempt to call him on his bull**** is met with anger and an effort to make you look like a fool for suggesting he might be lying.

And what does all this lying cost him? Nothing. In fact, it had only been a positive thing for him.

He has his pick of women because he will always tell them what they want to hear and they are impressed by his tales of stuff that never happened. He's seen as one of the "right lads" around the town based on stuff that also never happened. The few times that people other than my friends and me have caught him out, they stay pissed at him for maybe a day or two and then it's right back to worshiping him again.

People love being lied to. It's just hard for the people who are trying to be someones friend to be around a compulsive liar.

God, almighty.

People are stupid if they like a liar and tolerate it. Lies can hurt and hurt badly like how I found out.

AnonoBoy · 02-08-2012 03:32PM

Mucky.Bucky wrote: »

Lies can hurt and hurt badly like how I found out.

They also make baby Jesus cry.

u_c_thesecond · 06-08-2012 01:23AM

EurasianBadger wrote: »

was is a gaybar or men's sauna?

no:-)

im a woman so i highly doubt they would have wanted me in a gay mens sauna.

im invisible · 06-08-2012 02:28AM

..he told me he was helping Rolf Harris move house.

compulsive liars

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