Can you have a relationship with somebody without being physically attracted to them?

Can you have a relationship with somebody without being physically attracted to them?

Fraid not. It's an evolutionary thing thats out of our hands I'm afraid, especially for us men. Not our fault, goes back to the hunter/gatherer days when we used to go out and ride big wooly mammoths before killing them and bringing them home (of course this was back in the day when beastiality was all the rage).

But down through the years John Q Caveman started to notice Jane as an alternative source of romance and pleasure (that and the fact that many of his friends were being sat on and crushed by said mammoths whilst in the middle of Coitus). Jane was less hairy and the boobage was easier to get at as well as other sensitive areas and the big plus - she didn't have tusks.

Skip along a couple of thousand years and man still scans potential mates with regards to their physical appearance be it breastages, leggery or the facial features. The initial spark has to be there to get the conversation going. True, with the advancement of alcoholic beverages, there are those who will jump anything with a pulse (these lads were confined to the swamp back in the day) but these are usually the one night stands or quick shag outside the back of the nightclub.

No in order to start a proper bone fide relationship Henry Homosapien's brain is hard wired to recognise an attractor (that is an attractive feature and nothing to do with Massey Fergusons). Fear not ladies, it does not necessarily mean boobs or bum but could be something as simple as a smile, nice teeth, good ears etc.

And every now and again, the hunter/gatherer genes kick in and he'll bring home a fat bird for a ride just for the sake of the mammoths.

I couldn't but people do it all the time, I think people reach a stage of their lives where they feel they should be in a relationship/get married have kids etc and end up just being with anyone who will have them.

johnjoe7 wrote: »

SHEEP ALERT!

The London 2012 olympics is a satanic ritual by the illuminati. There's going to be a false flag event, a staged terror attack or fake invasion to usher in the new world order at either the opening or closing ceremony, mark my words.

Eh no it's apparently just Dawn French and Russell Brand doing a cover version of The Sex Pistols at the closing ceremony.....unless you consider them the new world order!

johnjoe7 wrote: »

If I ever saw either of those two people I'd punch them in a repeated manor such as that you'd see in a movie i.e. mass sheeple entertainment.

Dawn French would prob eat you first!

I don't think so. If you really like somebody's personality but are not attracted to them as such, that's just a friendship in my opinion. I think liking somebody's personality in combination with finding them attractive is necessary for a relationship.

Though that said, I've met guys who I wasn't physically attracted to at first, but we got to know each other and I ended up really liking them and eventually finding them physically attractive, even though it wasn't there at first. So I do think really liking someone's personality can change your opinion of them and make them attractive to you. But OP with your friend, it seems to stop at just liking his personality - that's still not enough for her to find him attractive. I don't think she ever will at this stage.. Seems like she's just with him for the sake of having a boyfriend rather than anything else

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Jaysis, how long are you married again?

Indeed, was about to ask the man the same question !

Hope his mrs doesn't read boards !

I find it hard to believe that it is possible to not be physically attracted to a person you're in a relationship with. If you weren't physically attracted to a person then you wouldn't want to be with them/have to look at them for long spells of time :P You probably find yourself being able to pick out features that you DO find attractive and then tend to focus on that. But as a relationship progresses, I'd say people tend to just become overall encapsulated by their partner and maybe find it hard then to differentiate between physical attractiveness, their personality etc