On the Dole-A Deal Breaker

westendgirlie · 25-06-2012 12:19PM

A_Sober_Paddy wrote: »

Let me introduce to characters:

Character A:
Dole: Yes
Seeking Work: Yes, (but not willing to take a sh!t job, looking for a job that won't be soul destroying)
Spends Spare Time: Exercising, Very occasional drinking.

Character B:
Dole: Yes
Seeking Work: Yes, any job will do.
Spends Spare Time: Rarely Exercises & Drinks at least once a week.

Are both these characters turn off's or just one or the other?

Which one's the well endowed one?

A_Sober_Paddy · 25-06-2012 12:20PM

westendgirlie wrote: »

Which one's the well endowed one?

There both the exact same aside for the listed facts

westendgirlie · 25-06-2012 12:22PM

I'll take em both then Paddy

Hardonraging · 25-06-2012 12:22PM

Merkin wrote: »

:eek: It makes me beat my breast, wail and bemoan the demise of civilization as we know it to be fair. I feel safer with Judge Judy.

Both are equally painfull .. some might say they are on during the day to encourage those to get a job :eek:

Nothingbetter2d · 25-06-2012 12:33PM

Hardonraging wrote: »

Flash the gash for cash... guaranteed a ride out of it, them dole chick's love it when you make it rain !!

fyp buddy

Jaxxy · 25-06-2012 12:41PM

A_Sober_Paddy wrote: »

Let me introduce to characters:

Character A:
Dole: Yes
Seeking Work: Yes, (but not willing to take a sh!t job, looking for a job that won't be soul destroying)
Spends Spare Time: Exercising, Very occasional drinking.

Character B:
Dole: Yes
Seeking Work: Yes, any job will do.
Spends Spare Time: Rarely Exercises & Drinks at least once a week.

Are both these characters turn off's or just one or the other?

Neither of those characters would turn me off personally. I do believe there are more important things to look for in a prospective partner though.

I Heart Internet · 25-06-2012 12:41PM

Being on the dole is nothing to be embarrassed about.

Being on the dole and not having a clear plan of action and doing everything in your power to get off the dole is embarrassing.

Once you're trying your best she'd know you're a good egg who just happens to be unemployed right now. If she's a good egg she'll be cool with that.

Novella · 25-06-2012 12:46PM

It wouldn't be a deal breaker for me unless he was perfectly content to sit around all day doing nothing and had no intention of looking for work. I find lack of ambition and motivation unattractive.

Madam_X · 25-06-2012 12:49PM

A_Sober_Paddy wrote: »

Let me introduce to characters:

Character A:
Dole: Yes
Seeking Work: Yes, (but not willing to take a sh!t job, looking for a job that won't be soul destroying)
Spends Spare Time: Exercising, Very occasional drinking.

Character B:
Dole: Yes
Seeking Work: Yes, any job will do.
Spends Spare Time: Rarely Exercises & Drinks at least once a week.

Are both these characters turn off's or just one or the other?

Hmmm, why the automatic default to the negative in both questions? Neither would be a turnoff if I liked each individual. But that's just me.

A_Sober_Paddy · 25-06-2012 01:02PM

Onixx wrote: »

Hmmm, why the automatic default to the negative in both questions? Neither would be a turnoff if I liked each individual. But that's just me.

automatic default to the negative?

cocoshovel · 25-06-2012 01:05PM

Pfft, women only thinking about money!

old hippy · 25-06-2012 01:05PM

If you won't entertain the idea of seeing someone because they are unemployed, that's a bit shallow. IMHO.

toexpress · 25-06-2012 01:15PM

I started this post as a no I wouldn't date someone on the dole and listed out my reasons and justifications until I read it over ... was stupid, so yes I would, there would be one condition. That he is making every effort to get off the dole and support himself, in other words I wouldn't date someone who wanted to be on the dole

christmas2012 · 25-06-2012 01:36PM

a deal breaker for me would be is he an asshole or not?

A_Sober_Paddy · 25-06-2012 07:46PM

So far it looks like quite a few ladies find unemployed a turn off, shallow shallow shallow ladies

Phill Ewinn · 25-06-2012 07:54PM

A_Sober_Paddy wrote: »

So far it looks like quite a few ladies find unemployed a turn off, shallow shallow shallow ladies

I could change that. I go deep b*tches.

shopaholic01 · 25-06-2012 07:56PM

A_Sober_Paddy wrote: »

So far it looks like quite a few ladies find unemployed a turn off, shallow shallow shallow ladies

And even more are saying they wouldn't.

A_Sober_Paddy · 25-06-2012 08:47PM

shopaholic01 wrote: »

And even more are saying they wouldn't.

Poll:
Yes(its a turn off):26
No(its not a turn off):38

The No side is higher I know but thought there'd be a bigger margin of difference

Fizzlesque · 25-06-2012 08:54PM

A_Sober_Paddy wrote: »

So far it looks like quite a few ladies find unemployed a turn off, shallow shallow shallow ladies

A bit unfair to say 'shallow, shallow, shallow ladies' considering most have said they'd find someone with no interest in ever working a turn off, not being on the dole, per se.

How would you feel about a woman who had no intention of ever working? Would you accuse her of being.....wait now, till I try and remember how the worn out clichés about women only being after a man's money tend to go.

Or would you just admire her free-spirited, don't care about money, nature?

shopaholic01 · 25-06-2012 08:54PM

A_Sober_Paddy wrote: »

Poll:
Yes(its a turn off):26
No(its not a turn off):38

The No side is higher I know but thought there'd be a bigger margin of difference

Given the number of anti social welfare threads I thought the yes side would be significant higher, so it's a refreshing change.

Delancey · 25-06-2012 08:57PM

shopaholic01 wrote: »

Given the number of anti social welfare threads I thought the yes side would be significant higher, so it's a refreshing change.

+ 1 .

The quantity and quality of the ' Lets Hate The Unemployed ' threads is disturbing.

Eve_Dublin · 25-06-2012 09:30PM

Wouldn't bother me in the slightest.

biko · 25-06-2012 09:58PM

Phill Ewinn wrote: »

I could change that. I go deep b*tches.

Eww, no more posts from you thanks.

Lord TSC · 25-06-2012 10:21PM

Wouldn't bother me about a girl tbh. In this day and age when the majority of our youth is leaving the country because of a lack of jobs, you can hardly hold it against someone in the same way you could years ago...

Varied · 25-06-2012 10:33PM

In a dreamworld, people wouldn't care but in my experience people are harsh enough when you're jobless. Especially women(some, well a lot).

Piste · 25-06-2012 10:36PM

It depends on why they're on the dole and if they're actively seeking work of course. Someone with no ambition or motivation to work will always be less attractive than someone with drive and ability who has fallen on hard times and is doing his best to get back on him feet.

Pushtrak · 25-06-2012 10:39PM

A_Sober_Paddy wrote: »

Hey all,

Just looking for a women's perspective on this. If you met a man on a night out and ye got on well and had a great night together, exchange numbers, go back to his or whatever...

So you've decided that you like this man and you'd really like to met him again, so ye arrange to meet up and have a date, over the course of this date it comes to light that his unemployed and on the dole.

Wouldn't happen. If there were an issue, you wouldn't be on a 2nd date. Or anything that could be called a first, tbh. Any banter on a night out always asks where one is working, or what course one is doing. You aren't really going to get to know someone properly in some pub or club, so don't expect more from it than it is.

3ndahalfof6 · 25-06-2012 10:39PM

to be fair if it was me with a woman and she was not putting out I don't think I could stay with her, but we could be friends.

Madam_X · 25-06-2012 11:24PM

Even if he planned to be on the dole and not bother working, if I liked him enough, I'd give it a go to see whether he'd change his mind. But it would probably lead to problems, like me financially supporting him if we wanted to go away etc and too much of that wouldn't be fair and would lead to problems. It would also be frustrating to see someone you care about nor bothering to use their abilities/talents. But I'd imagine it's rare.

later12 · 25-06-2012 11:30PM

Actually I'm starting to date a girl who's unemployed at the moment (teacher on summer holidays) and I'm working for myself. I love the fact that she's not working. I get to spend loads of time with her and she comes over and we do fun stuff during the daytime that we wouldn't get to do if we were working 9-5.

I'm definitely getting to know her better than if she and I were meeting up for the odd evening drink, so it's a massive positive from my selfish point of view.:)

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