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Fizzled out but should I text?

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  • #32
    brokenice
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 161 ✭✭brokenice


    Healthis wrote: »
    Haven't heard from him in two weeks, talk about being apathetic. I finished all my exam's and not even a text to see how I got on. Anyway I want to move on, don't think I even want to be friends with him so should I just delete him off Facebook? It seems nasty but part of me wants to...

    what did i tell you at the very beginning! listen to the ice man:cool: gotta be realistic about these things...he wasn't interested, i personally wouldn't delete him as it seems a tad petty, but i wouldn't bother my blarney being friends with an eejit...just let him and it go!


  • #33
    Conor30
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 522 ✭✭✭Conor30


    brokenice wrote: »
    what did i tell you at the very beginning! listen to the ice man:cool: gotta be realistic about these things...he wasn't interested, i personally wouldn't delete him as it seems a tad petty, but i wouldn't bother my blarney being friends with an eejit...just let him and it go!

    That's true, but I suppose people treat FB differently. Some people only want friends or people they like on it, others are happy to let all and sundry be their FB 'friend'.


  • #34
    [Deleted User]
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    Time to move on..... If removing him from fb helps stop you thinking about him, then defriend him.


  • #35
    Healthis
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 59 ✭✭Healthis


    I didn't defriend him after. I thought I was getting over him, was chatting to other guys even but when push came to shove I found I couldn't go off with another guy. I'm not hung up on him, or not really bothered that he isin't in touch but I still hold 'something' for him. He was on Facebook 3 weeks ago and I messaged him, we had a great chat, he seemed eager, told me he missed me and still liked me, and he hadn't got bored of me, even though I never asked him, he just came out with it, although he told me that he does 'disappear' from time to time!!! even said he would meet up with me soon if the weather stayed wet (which it did) but I heard nothing. I text him last Thursday night, again he sent a few texts and he was all chat and curious about what I was up too etc. I jokinly told him that I was going to bed and that I would 'see him in a few year' to which he did not reply, I text back 'literally' but nothing since.

    Sure I understand now that I should not text him again or have anymore contact with him, his behaviour has being very apathetic and it sure looks like he is not into me. However he is on a few dating sites and I see that he has not accessed them for months, nor has he being on facebook since our chat, and from his texts he told me he is very busy with the silage and staying down the country and other farm associated crap.

    What should I do here?


  • #36
    Conor30
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 522 ✭✭✭Conor30


    Healthis wrote: »
    I didn't defriend him after. I thought I was getting over him, was chatting to other guys even but when push came to shove I found I couldn't go off with another guy. I'm not hung up on him, or not really bothered that he isin't in touch but I still hold 'something' for him. He was on Facebook 3 weeks ago and I messaged him, we had a great chat, he seemed eager, told me he missed me and still liked me, and he hadn't got bored of me, even though I never asked him, he just came out with it, although he told me that he does 'disappear' from time to time!!! even said he would meet up with me soon if the weather stayed wet (which it did) but I heard nothing. I text him last Thursday night, again he sent a few texts and he was all chat and curious about what I was up too etc. I jokinly told him that I was going to bed and that I would 'see him in a few year' to which he did not reply, I text back 'literally' but nothing since.

    Sure I understand now that I should not text him again or have anymore contact with him, his behaviour has being very apathetic and it sure looks like he is not into me. However he is on a few dating sites and I see that he has not accessed them for months, nor has he being on facebook since our chat, and from his texts he told me he is very busy with the silage and staying down the country and other farm associated crap.

    What should I do here?

    If it were me, I'd defriend & block him and forget all about him. He's a textbook time-waster, as far as I'm concerned. But that's just me. I just don't suffer fools gladly and don't enjoy being taken for a fool.

    Even if we believe and accept his claim that he's into you and 'misses' you, would you really want a bf who disappears like that for a couple of weeks with no reasonable explanation? It's neither a normal nor mature way to behave, in my opinion and you deserve better.


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  • #37
    Annasopra
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 41,228 ✭✭✭✭Annasopra


    Healthis wrote: »

    What should I do here?
    Defriend him on fb, stop looking at his profile on fb and other sites, forget about him, move on.

    It was so much easier to blame it on Them. It was bleakly depressing to think that They were Us. If it was Them, then nothing was anyone's fault. If it was us, what did that make Me? After all, I'm one of Us. I must be. I've certainly never thought of myself as one of Them. No one ever thinks of themselves as one of Them. We're always one of Us. It's Them that do the bad things.

    Terry Pratchet



  • #38
    brokenice
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 161 ✭✭brokenice


    Conor30 wrote: »
    If it were me, I'd defriend & block him and forget all about him. He's a textbook time-waster, as far as I'm concerned. But that's just me. I just don't suffer fools gladly and don't enjoy being taken for a fool.

    Even if we believe and accept his claim that he's into you and 'misses' you, would you really want a bf who disappears like that for a couple of weeks with no reasonable explanation? It's neither a normal nor mature way to behave, in my opinion and you deserve better.

    I'm with the Conman on this one......Healthis, you're killing me here!!!! FORGET HIM!!!!!!! Even if he is a nice guy, he still seems like a weirdo to me. Just my opinion, but who the hell disappears for months on end and then returns and so on? That to me actually displays some sort of psychological problem...and you aren't the one to pick up the pieces. You say you're not hung up....dude...you're hung up Madonna style!
    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KmCfyEemtxc


    I can't say any more....forget him! Move on! If you're like this after a few dates with him....what would you be like after seeing him for a few months and he pulls the same stunt again!!!!!! The ice man has spoken


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