Do you think you are a good person?

flutterflye · 24-06-2012 10:54AM

I don't think there is such a thing as a good person, or a bad person.
I am neither, I am both.

Ruski · 24-06-2012 10:54AM

I'm a bit of alright.

Handsome Bob · 24-06-2012 10:56AM

mikemac1 wrote: »

No thanks when it goes right, get all the blame when it goes wrong

Nicely put.

I do think I am a good person, not perfect by any means and I have made mistakes and have treated some people less than perfectly, but I've become a better person for having learned from those mistakes.

I think being 'good' is as much about being good to yourself as it is about being 'good' to other people. Sometimes I think people make complete 180s in their personality because after being burned due to their niaveness, they become absolute pricks to protect themselves. They haven't learned from their mistakes though, deep down they are still that insecure and naive person that got burnt.

Bit of a ramble, but I suppose the moral of the story is this: showing backbone does not mean being a prick, you can say your piece without being out of order. You just have to learn to cut yourself a break and to not be bitter about things that have happened.

Jester252 · 24-06-2012 10:57AM

I normal nice but it changes with the mood I'm in

mickrock · 24-06-2012 11:54AM

I'm bad, I'm bad, really really bad.

Mr. CooL ICE · 24-06-2012 12:04PM

Grey area for me.

I consider myself nice, but maybe I think I just worry too much about what people think of me. But when I'm driving, I'm a grade A cúnt

christmas2012 · 24-06-2012 12:06PM

im a good person

shuridunno · 24-06-2012 12:08PM

Everybody gets grey as they get older.

When you're young you see the good in people and it reflects through you.

Life lessons teach you otherwise and you see that you need to be a little bad to achieve things or get what is right for you.

I'm becoming a bad person, and I like her. She takes no prisoners and takes out those who get in her way, but politely:p

bee_keeper · 24-06-2012 12:08PM

flutterflye wrote: »

I don't think there is such a thing as a good person, or a bad person.
I am neither, I am both.

its easy for some people to be good and a lot less easy for others

i know good people who were convinced they were the devil incarnate by people with a malevolent agenda

The King of Moo · 24-06-2012 12:09PM

shuridunno wrote: »

Everybody gets grey as they get older.

When you're young you see the good in people and it reflects through you.

Life lessons teach you otherwise and you see that you need to be a little bad to achieve things or get what is right for you.

I'm becoming a bad person, and I like her. She takes no prisoners and takes out those who get in her way, but politely:p

You're worth it.

shuridunno · 24-06-2012 12:12PM

Freaky...
Do you know me:eek:

I started going grey at 19. She's been my friend a while:D

RaRaRasputin · 24-06-2012 12:16PM

I don't think that there are genuinely "good" people. Everyone is in the grey area, though there are surely different shades of grey.

I'm good to those I like, but if someone angers me or lashes out on someone dear to me I will unleash hell and forget about my good intentions

Medusa22 · 24-06-2012 12:29PM

I think it depends on what your definition of ''good'' is. I've never murdered anyone or robbed them. I used to be quite kind and far too much of a pushover. Those days are over, I'm 23 and bitter and angry

Well, that also has to do with how people have treated me and how life has treated me. I am not a great friend, I don't trust people and I keep my distance. That being said, I would never screw someone over just to benefit myself and I don't treat people badly, I could just treat them better if I made more of an effort. Grey area for me.

pushkii · 24-06-2012 12:33PM

Everyone has their good points and bad ones were only human. but on the whole im definitely good

Skuxx · 24-06-2012 12:37PM

Yeah I think I'm a good person, sometimes I tihnk I'm too nice and need to be more of a prick and stick up for myself a bit more!!
Especially with the ladies, I'm a walk over, just can't say no!!

bee_keeper · 24-06-2012 12:47PM

Handsome Bob wrote: »

Nicely put.

I do think I am a good person, not perfect by any means and I have made mistakes and have treated some people less than perfectly, but I've become a better person for having learned from those mistakes.

I think being 'good' is as much about being good to yourself as it is about being 'good' to other people. Sometimes I think people make complete 180s in their personality because after being burned due to their niaveness, they become absolute pricks to protect themselves. They haven't learned from their mistakes though, deep down they are still that insecure and naive person that got burnt.

Bit of a ramble, but I suppose the moral of the story is this: showing backbone does not mean being a prick, you can say your piece without being out of order. You just have to learn to cut yourself a break and to not be bitter about things that have happened.

what makes you think that everyone who got burned made mistakes , thats someting which irritates me , when a decent person is victimised by someone with a malevolent agenda , the focus on improvement shines on the one who was wronged , as if they were somehow asking for it

Handsome Bob · 24-06-2012 01:04PM

bee_keeper wrote: »

what makes you think that everyone who got burned made mistakes , thats someting which irritates me , when a decent person is victimised by someone with a malevolent agenda , the focus on improvement shines on the one who was wronged , as if they were somehow asking for it

I agree with you actually, and it's something I actually hate to see. Someone tells their story and the automatic response is usually "oh you must have been a doormat/had alterior motives from the start."

But look at it this way: 9 times out of 10, the one with the malevolent agenda as you put it, will never change. They're just bad seeds, and have probably left a wreckage of bodies behind in their path. They won't change, but you can. Don't be another victim, pick yourself back up and identify how you were wronged so for next time, you'll know better and avoid the bad ones like the plague.

bee_keeper · 24-06-2012 01:10PM

Handsome Bob wrote: »

I agree with you actually, and it's something I actually hate to see. Someone tells their story and the automatic response is usually "oh you must have been a doormat/had alterior motives from the start."

But look at it this way: 9 times out of 10, the one with the malevolent agenda as you put it, will never change. They're just bad seeds, and have probably left a wreckage of bodies behind in their path. They won't change, but you can. Don't be another victim, pick yourself back up and identify how you were wronged so for next time, you'll know better and avoid the bad ones like the plague.

point i was making is that victim blaming is extremley common and almost the default possition

flutterflye · 24-06-2012 02:13PM

bee_keeper wrote: »

its easy for some people to be good and a lot less easy for others

i know good people who were convinced they were the devil incarnate by people with a malevolent agenda

Sure what even is good or bad?
Is it what your particular culture believes to be good?
That same thing could be 'bad' in another culture.
If you are 'good' or find it easy to be 'good', that could all change in an instant depending on your circumstances.
Nobody can say a person is good or not because there is no such thing, only what your subjective perspective tells you is 'good' based on your personal experiences.
You could well be wrong, and actually be 'bad' - who knows?!

Novella · 24-06-2012 02:32PM

Yeah, I think I'm a good person. I'm not nice to the extent that I'll let people walk all over me and I'm able to stand up for myself, but in general I'm alright.

Vicar in a tutu · 24-06-2012 02:41PM

I'm a nice person I think..(hope

)

I have manners and treat people as I'd like to be treated.

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