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How much should we give?

  • 13-06-2012 01:07AM
    #1
    Straylight
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 338 ✭✭


    Getting married in a few weeks and we've pretty much figured out how much we need to cover everything. However there are two things that we're a bit unsure of. We'll be getting married in a church (her parish) and obviously should make some sort of contribution for the use of the church, priest's time, etc. We budgeted €200 for this, plus another €50 for the sacristan. Without getting into the whole "the church has enough money and you shouldn't have to give them anything" rubbish, does that sound reasonable or are we being a bit on the scabby side?

    Secondly, I presume it's expected that you leave a tip for the waiting staff at the meal? If so, how much should you tip?


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  • #2
    Toots
    Business & Finance Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators, Paid Member Posts: 17,009 Mod ✭✭✭✭Toots


    As far as I remember we gave €200 to the church, €50 to the sacristan and we got the priest a really nice bottle of whiskey. He's a friend of my husband's family hence the extra gift. I think what you've got budgeted for is fine, definitely not on the scabby side.

    Regarding the tip, I have no idea what we gave so I'm afraid I can't be of any help there.



















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  • #3
    MIRMIR82
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 658 ✭✭✭MIRMIR82


    Hi ya! congrats on the engagement.
    I got married in my own parish church - the priest said there was no fee whats so ever for the church :)
    The priest i've known for years so he said straight out to us he didnt want anything :)
    We gave 50euro in a thank you card for the sacristan

    Best of luck with everything :)


  • #4
    cruais
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,559 ✭✭✭cruais


    I just shelled out €450 to get married in my local church! I felt this was a rip off but apparently it was a set fee!


  • #5
    Gatica
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,302 ✭✭✭Gatica


    not having a church wedding... however as far as waiting staff/hotel staff goes, some hotels charge a gratuity fee/percentage that covers this.
    If yours doesn't then go with a figure you think would be good for the level of service you end up receiving.
    Our hotel service charge is 5% on the meal/drinks... they waived it as part of our agreement/special offer, and it just says "at your discretion" on the contract. I plan on giving 500 euro. I dunno if that's too little or too much, I know the staff there are very professional for weddings but we couldn't afford much more than that anyway.


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