Taking pictures at a funeral

01-06-2012 11:39PM #1

I recently attended the funeral of a close friend who passed away in her mid-twenties. One of my work colleagues also attended and spent the entire service snapping pictures with his massive camera. I asked my boyfriend WTF he was doing and my boyfriend said he was taking pictures for people who couldn't be there. He didn't seem to think it was that strange. When we went outside for the burial, he continued to take pictures and nobody seemed to be saying anything.

The day after the funeral, I logged onto Facebook and was greeted with the funeral pictures on my news feed. He had tagged our dead friend in them! Pictures of the casket and everything. Obviously someone, probably one of her relatives, took offence because they were quickly removed, but I just couldn't believe anyone would actually do that. It just seems so incredibly insensitive and inappropriate. I don't understand how it's ever acceptable - most people who 'wanted to be there' would have been there if it meant that much to them and even if you couldn't make it, why on earth would you want pictures?

What do you think?

minidazzler · 01-06-2012 11:42PM

I think What the fcuk is wrong with some people? What possible reason could there be to take photo's? It's a funeral, not a party, it's not Finnegans fcuking wake, noone is gonna wanna see those photo's. That person is a damn retard.

FoxT · 01-06-2012 11:42PM

Praise the Lord, & thank your lot,
for he is dead, and you are not.

Pushtrak · 01-06-2012 11:46PM

Methinks they spent too much time in AH.

kwalshe · 01-06-2012 11:48PM

that is really freakey , altough my father takes pictures of dead people when they are in the funeral home when nobody else is around. But fuppin' hell, tagging the images on facebook..

01-06-2012 11:49PM

A lot of people's lives are so engrossed in facebook that they honestly wouldn't see what's wrong with that. To be honest I even cringe when I see RIP messages on facebook, it's just not the appropriate forum in my opinion.

It's a pretty sad state of affairs really.

Where To · 01-06-2012 11:50PM

If it happened at my funeral I'd be lived.

shopaholic01 · 01-06-2012 11:51PM

So disrespectful, I can't believe he wasn't told to stop during the funeral.

But Facebook ..............that's bordering on fetish behaviour.

minidazzler · 01-06-2012 11:52PM

true-or-false wrote: »

A lot of people's lives are so engrossed in facebook that they honestly wouldn't see what's wrong with that. To be honest I even cringe when I see RIP messages on facebook, it's just not the appropriate forum in my opinion.

It's a pretty sad state of affairs really.

Even if you believe in heaven, god and the flying spagetti monster, what makes people think that their dead loved ones are gonna be checking facebook in their version of paradise? It's weird, I can understand stories being relayed about a person on their page after they die, but just writing "RIP xx" To someone you met in a bar 2 years ago and haven't seen since is stupid.

jimmycrackcorm · 01-06-2012 11:55PM

I think it's actually a good idea. Facebook in particular is about connecting people and in this case for people who couldn't attend then it highlights the poignancy of the situation.

Sure is better use of FB than photos of beer and ducks.

Rebelkell · 02-06-2012 12:01AM

A buddy of mine learned of his aunts death via facebook post from his cousin. Wtf is wrong ith people.
Good job facebook will be long gone in 5 years anyway

minidazzler · 02-06-2012 12:03AM

jimmycrackcorm wrote: »

I think it's actually a good idea. Facebook in particular is about connecting people and in this case for people who couldn't attend then it highlights the poignancy of the situation.

Sure is better use of FB than photos of beer and ducks.

The poignancy of a moment like this is kinda ruined when there is a click click and a flash followed by an "oh fcuk, sorry, thought the flash was off". If you can't make it to a funeral what is looking at pictures gonna do? Confirm they are dead?

Tonyandthewhale · 02-06-2012 12:03AM

jimmycrackcorm wrote: »

I think it's actually a good idea. Facebook in particular is about connecting people and in this case for people who couldn't attend then it highlights the poignancy of the situation.

No, it trivialises the situation. I'm not a fan of making a big fuss about funerals but a little bit of respect for the deceased and the people mourning is a must.

No one wants some gob****e running around snapping pictures of them while they're saying their final goodbyes to a loved one.

02-06-2012 12:09AM

Tonyandthewhale wrote: »

No, it trivialises the situation. I'm not a fan of making a big fuss about funerals but a little bit of respect for the deceased and the people mourning is a must.

No one wants some gob****e running around snapping pictures of them while they're saying their final goodbyes to a loved one.

That was the main thing for me. The family were weeping at the graveside and he was taking photos of it all. I felt self conscious and awkward with the camera there so I can only imagine how it would have felt to be a close relative.

mikemac1 · 02-06-2012 12:11AM

Out of order

woodoo · 02-06-2012 12:12AM

I'd be angry if some prick was taking pictures of my grief and putting them up of facebook.

JerryHandbag · 02-06-2012 12:15AM

Person taking those pictures is one sad ****ing bastard tbh.

Meauldsegosha · 02-06-2012 12:17AM

My cousin handed out invites to his 21st at my grandmothers funeral which I thought was inappropriate. Photographs would be a big no no.

humanji · 02-06-2012 12:19AM

I'm sorry to hear your friend passed away, but:

Jermaine Better Terminology wrote: »

He had tagged our dead friend in them!

is one of the funniest things I've heard in a long time. I mean, there is an actual logic behind it. But it is so incredibly detached from the solemnity of the occasion that it beggars belief. It's like something David Brent would do.

It's just plain odd that someone would be taking photos. I'd say that people weren't reacting to it because they were trying to ignore it.

BorneTobyWilde · 02-06-2012 12:21AM

My friend Erin has many pics of a recent funeral on her face book,
And it was her grandmother,
Even pics of casket, And its open, With close ups of her dead grandma,
And she's not a crazy person, She's nicest person you could meet,
So hardly that weird ?

humanji · 02-06-2012 12:24AM

BorneTobyWilde wrote: »

My friend Erin has many pics of a recent funeral on her face book,
And it was her grandmother,
Even pics of casket, And its open, With close ups of her dead grandma,
And she's not a crazy person, She's nicest person you could meet,
So hardly that weird ?

Posting photos of a dead body on Facebook? How is that not weird?

ahnowbrowncow · 02-06-2012 12:26AM

BorneTobyWilde wrote: »

My friend Erin has many pics of a recent funeral on her face book,
And it was her grandmother,
Even pics of casket, And its open, With close ups of her dead grandma,
And she's not a crazy person, She's nicest person you could meet,
So hardly that weird ?

That IS weird

She actually sounds really crazy, I'd law low for awhile

KKkitty · 02-06-2012 12:28AM

Similar thing happened to my cousin. Her husband died in his late 30's. Someone who claimed to be an old friend of her husband showed up seemingly to pay his respects. My cousin's husband was Australian and so was his old friend but I'm not sure if it's an Aussie thing but days later a link was put up on facebook to a blog showing photos of my cousins husband in the coffin and some of the funeral home and mourners. I couldn't understand the mentality of the old friend to do that to my cousin at all.

woodoo · 02-06-2012 12:32AM

Can we not have one last thing that facebook doesn't encroach on.

chrismon · 02-06-2012 12:33AM

BorneTobyWilde wrote: »

My friend Erin has many pics of a recent funeral on her face book,
And it was her grandmother,
Even pics of casket, And its open, With close ups of her dead grandma,
And she's not a crazy person, She's nicest person you could meet,
So hardly that weird ?

Its very weird

Meauldsegosha · 02-06-2012 12:38AM

BorneTobyWilde wrote: »

My friend Erin has many pics of a recent funeral on her face book,
And it was her grandmother,
Even pics of casket, And its open, With close ups of her dead grandma,
And she's not a crazy person, She's nicest person you could meet,
So hardly that weird ?

That's weird.

girl in the striped socks · 02-06-2012 12:38AM

I don't even leave my phone turned on at funerals never mind take photos.
Funerals are for getting drunk & telling stories & singing songs. At least it is for an old person.
Young persons funeral is different. People drink but don't get drunk, they tell stories but don't enjoy them & singing is generally a no no.

A good wake is often a great session. But taking photos & putting them up on Facebook? I'd break his fcuking face tbh.

02-06-2012 12:39AM

humanji wrote: »

I'm sorry to hear your friend passed away, but:

is one of the funniest things I've heard in a long time. I mean, there is an actual logic behind it. But it is so incredibly detached from the solemnity of the occasion that it beggars belief. It's like something David Brent would do.

It's just plain odd that someone would be taking photos. I'd say that people weren't reacting to it because they were trying to ignore it.

I actually laughed a bit when I first saw them because it was just so ridiculous. When I was at the funeral, I assumed the camera must have been cleared with the family because nobody said anything.

StupidLikeAFox · 02-06-2012 12:41AM

What exactly is the problem??

pjproby · 02-06-2012 12:44AM

my mum died some years ago. would love to have pictures of the event. saw so many people there, could not remember afterwards who they were.
a few photos would have been much appreciated.

ColeTrain · 02-06-2012 12:47AM

Meauldsegosha wrote: »

My cousin handed out invites to his 21st at my grandmothers funeral which I thought was inappropriate. Photographs would be a big no no.

A kick up the hole is what your cousin needs.

BorneTobyWilde wrote: »

My friend Erin has many pics of a recent funeral on her face book,
And it was her grandmother,
Even pics of casket, And its open, With close ups of her dead grandma,
And she's not a crazy person, She's nicest person you could meet,
So hardly that weird ?

Your friend - the one they call Erin, is a very strange person.

Taking pictures at a funeral

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