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  • #32
    PucaMama
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,129 ✭✭✭PucaMama


    Here's hoping you never develop a soul-crushing mental illness. HIGH FIVE!!![/Quote]

    Couldnt describe it better.


  • #33
    RachaelVO
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,108 ✭✭✭RachaelVO


    Bipolar Joe wrote: »
    No, I'm a miserablist.

    So I gathered :)
    Bipolar Joe wrote: »
    Here's hoping you never develop a soul-crushing mental illness. HIGH FIVE!!!

    I'm sure you delight in taking things the wrong way, what you with being a miserablist n all, but I will refer you to a point made to someone else

    RachaelVO wrote: »
    The point is, he's not telling people with depression to cheer up... the majority of people realise the depression is not that simple. You're neither happy or sad, you're just empty! This is a whole other, not debate as such, but outlook, for people who do piddle all but whinge and moan. And TBF the majority of people with depression hide it very well from people on "the outside" if that makes any sense


    So I reckon it's pretty obvious it's not about mental illness, it's about being grateful for the good shit!!!!!!!!


  • #34
    Shryke
    Closed Accounts Posts: 4,199 ✭✭✭Shryke


    Telling someone whos being open about depression that they delight in taking things the wrong way. Thats just lovely.
    Cheer up because bla is a poor thing to say anytime. Its a lovely sentiment but in practice its not nice. It has the opposite effect. Its as logistically sound as telling a child to finish their dinner because of the starving africans.


  • #35
    Feathers
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,082 ✭✭✭Feathers


    RachaelVO wrote: »
    The point is, he's not telling people with depression to cheer up... the majority of people realise the depression is not that simple.

    Really? I think the majority of people vastly over-simplify depression. They mightn't do a Bertie Ahern on it, but it seems more to do with the PC culture rather than major attitudinal change.


  • #36
    Princess Peach
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 11,698 ✭✭✭✭Princess Peach


    Probably one of the things that makes me angrier that anything is this phrase-

    "Cheer up, it might never happen."

    Well excuuuuuuuse me for for not having a fake smile on.


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  • #37
    wyndham
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,284 ✭✭✭wyndham


    Bipolar Joe wrote: »
    Like Starviewadams posted, this view is bull. It's akin to saying your sadness means nothing. Sure, why are those people upset? At least they're not starving to death. Sure, why are the people starving to death upset? At least they have all their limbs. Sure, why are the starving, limbless people upset? At least they can still watch Fair City with their 100% working eyes. The worst thing you can say to someone who's depressed is "Cheer up."

    Cheer up sleepy Jean, oh what can it mean.....to a...


  • #38
    Pandora2
    Closed Accounts Posts: 937 ✭✭✭Pandora2


    I would be of the 'count your blessings' school of thought when I am in the right frame of mind! I do not delight in others miseries but rather try and assist if I can but, over my lifetime I have had numerous crushing episodes of depression and have made several serious attempts to make the pain and sheer desolation stop! Ended up in locked wards and had to fight for custody of my youngest child after her Father removed her from my care due to Post Natal Depression. I would never dream of trivialising it but I have often thought the word became trivialised as people adopted it to describe their 'bad day', or general dissatisfaction with their present situation.

    I have often heard a colleague remark they are depressed when it is patently obvious that they are just a little low in mood at that particular time. I have also masterfully hid my own illness and when at my lowest put in a full and demanding day in good spirits only to go home on Friday night and crawl into bed not to emerge again until Monday. I've left jobs that were just too much for my mental health and noone ever knew why! It is only in the last 10 years that I have become much more open about my illness and on returning to work after a hospitalisation, made no secret that I had just suffered an episode of clinical depresssion. My employers were wonderful and even visited me at home when I left the hospital, I received cards and flowers and generally felt supported upon my return after a long absence, I will always be grateful.

    I think that discussions such as these are very valuable in terms of education and will be beneficial long term, I don't think the OP meant to trivialise Depression but rather used the word ill-advisedly...Next time he may think twice as a result of this discussion but, for me suffering from clinical Depression and counting your blessings are not mutually exclusive!!


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