Alcoholic Flatmate

JonathanAnon · 13-05-2012 02:30AM

Wowzer! wrote: »

I have a vid of him shouting at the microwave thinking its his ex. Showed it to him and he denied it happened. I would put it up but I don't think it would help my situation. It is funny, but not if you have to live with it.

maybe he was going out with the microwave? Have you not considered that..

BornToKill · 13-05-2012 02:33AM

Wowzer! wrote: »

The other day he lost it with me because apparently I talk too much and am annoying. ... Can anyone help?

Talk less and be less annoying? Does that help?

JupiterKid · 13-05-2012 03:11AM

OP I'm guessing that you and your flatmate are both in your 20s.

It sounds like your flatmate is developing a drink problem, but (and I know from experience as I am a "sober" alcoholic) it may take many more years before he really hits rock bottom - which often tends to happen in the 30s and 40s rather than the 20s - and finally gets help. Drink problems often start in the 20s but the amount of socialising and partying done by many people in their 20s can hide the problem drinkers. I know, because I was there myself.

The thing is, when your friends all start to settle down and you find you're the only one up for going out on the tear, and/or doing a lot of boozing at home and getting totally wasted at social events when everyone else is just merry, then if you take a good hard look at yourself you should realise that something is amiss. It could well take your flatmate years before he does that.

If he doesn't want any help - or if he denies he has a problem with the booze - then there's little else you can do but sit it out until your lease is up. Or if the situation is really bad - up sticks and leave ASAP. It isn't fair that you have to put up with his abuse and rotten hangover moods.

redzerologhlen · 13-05-2012 03:16AM

KTRIC wrote: »

14 posts and not one of ya suggested blasting him with piss !!!! i'm disappointed AH, i really am

Well feck it, I was looking forward to getting 5000 thanks and all

the_syco · 13-05-2012 03:16AM

As he doesn't seem to remember much, tell him that drink is bad for him, the work of the devil, etc, etc. Some of it will seep into his subconscious and he may start to drink less.

Otherwise, wait till he passes out to the point that you can't wake him up, call the ambulance, pay the €100 ambulance call-out fee, and get him brought into the hospital. Perhaps waking up in hospital, and/or the bill he gets for being in said hospital may make him quit drinking as hard?

deco nate · 13-05-2012 03:21AM

so.op just cos its your turn to buy the beers,you post here!
:pac:ya tight fooker

Spread · 13-05-2012 03:35AM

Lighten up OP! You've only got a few months of a lease left. Surely a great chance to get around a lady to move into her gaff (temporarily). Don't forget to bring the rabbit!

ANXIOUS · 13-05-2012 03:48AM

Wowzer! wrote: »

So my housemate has become ever more reliant on the booze over the last few months. Started when he was sneaking out for a cheeky pint on nightshifts a couple of months ago. Since then he has been drinking 5 out of 7 nights a week including cans in his room when he thinks I don't know. Now he is either hungover or drunk and the moodswings are intolerable. The other day he lost it with me because apparently I talk too much and am annoying. I'm stuck on a lease with him for another couple of months and just don't know what to do. Sure my Landlord doesn't give a damn as long as they get their rent but I can't put up with this for much longer. Has anyone any experience like this? I know Alcoholism is serious but he just can't recognise it and somehow thinks I'm the one with the problem because I'm concerned for him. At a loss for what I can do. Can anyone help?

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tightropetom · 13-05-2012 07:22AM

We had a problem with an antisocial flatmate a few years back - we asked our landlord for help and his suggestion was that we write to him to opt out of the current lease contract, she would be the only name left on it and would be unable to pay the full rent of 1200 or whatever it was. She would therefore have to move out, upon which we would re-sign a lease with the landlord. Worked a treat.

Other than that, you could just stick out the 2 months and try it at that stage. When signing a new lease, the landlord might not want a drunk/alcoholic type living there and might offer it to you (+any suggestion for someone to share!).

As for the alcohol side of things, are you friends with any of his friends/family? Are they aware of how bad things are? They might be able to help him with that side of things.

tightropetom · 13-05-2012 07:25AM

the_syco wrote: »

Otherwise, wait till he passes out to the point that you can't wake him up, call the ambulance, pay the €100 ambulance call-out fee, and get him brought into the hospital. Perhaps waking up in hospital, and/or the bill he gets for being in said hospital may make him quit drinking as hard?

Great, waste the ambulance service's time and make the A&E staff even busier than they already are. :mad: :mad: He'll be grateful you care and they'll be grateful for having even more ****e to deal with.

cocoshovel · 13-05-2012 07:34AM

Empty all his beer bottles and replace the liquid with jeyes fluid......what? Illegal you say?

13-05-2012 07:34AM

To be fair, his apparent alcoholism or drinking habits aren't really your business... but living with the crap that it entails is. You just need to draw lines that he cannot cross, even when pissed off his head, and weather it out....

Or try to explain to your landlord how intolerable it is for you there, and try to get out of your lease. If it was me, I'd probably forget my deposit and just get out while I was still sane.

kincsem · 13-05-2012 07:41AM

One of these
1) have a drinking contest
2) go to the cinema
3) go on a holiday
4) organise a prayer meeting

zenno · 13-05-2012 07:53AM

Wowzer! wrote: »

So my housemate has become ever more reliant on the booze over the last few months. Started when he was sneaking out for a cheeky pint on nightshifts a couple of months ago. Since then he has been drinking 5 out of 7 nights a week including cans in his room when he thinks I don't know. Now he is either hungover or drunk and the moodswings are intolerable. The other day he lost it with me because apparently I talk too much and am annoying. I'm stuck on a lease with him for another couple of months and just don't know what to do. Sure my Landlord doesn't give a damn as long as they get their rent but I can't put up with this for much longer. Has anyone any experience like this? I know Alcoholism is serious but he just can't recognise it and somehow thinks I'm the one with the problem because I'm concerned for him. At a loss for what I can do. Can anyone help?

Well you are at least trying to explain to him the problem as most people would just move out immediately or say nothing. Maybe the guy has problems but if he does not listen to you as a concerned person then just ignore him till you can get out of there. My brother around 8 months ago had a problem with a person like this and he just phoned the landlord and explained that he can't take the drunk stuff anymore and the landlord texted the other tenant and said he was selling the house so he gave him a weeks notice for him to move out.

danslevent · 13-05-2012 09:18AM

Does he have any friends or someone closer to him you could mention your concerns to? And I think if you wanted more serious answers you maybe should have gone to personal issues.

But as above posters have said, he is only going to get better if he wants to. Alcoholism is great like that...:/ :S

ogriofa · 13-05-2012 09:33AM

Wowzer! wrote: »

So my housemate has become ever more reliant on the booze over the last few months. Started when he was sneaking out for a cheeky pint on nightshifts a couple of months ago. Since then he has been drinking 5 out of 7 nights a week including cans in his room when he thinks I don't know. Now he is either hungover or drunk and the moodswings are intolerable. The other day he lost it with me because apparently I talk too much and am annoying. I'm stuck on a lease with him for another couple of months and just don't know what to do. Sure my Landlord doesn't give a damn as long as they get their rent but I can't put up with this for much longer. Has anyone any experience like this? I know Alcoholism is serious but he just can't recognise it and somehow thinks I'm the one with the problem because I'm concerned for him. At a loss for what I can do. Can anyone help?

Do you realllly love your apartment that much? I wouldn't try so hard to stay another year. If there's nothing you can do about the lease, are you gonna be able to get rid of him when its up?
I know its not fair, but I wouldn't be killing myself to live there. The apt might be great, but if you're getting a bad deal with the flatmate and the atmosphere is crappola...

Hope you come up with a plan and get sorted soon

Edit: do stick it out till the end of this lease

saa · 13-05-2012 09:33AM

OP stick it out, I was renting a room from a vile landlord before, I got bronchitis from the mould in the room and once I showed him to doctors letter he went crazy he started accusing me of telling lies. It was bad enough that even before this he was coming down to the kitchen at any time of the day if he heard me just to "talk"/watch what you were doing in HIS house, so this middle aged man got pretty frustrated that this student just wanted to make her dinner and not talk every single time I went into the kicthen.. so anyway pair all that weirdness with the blow up it was bad.

I left without my deposit and it was the worst mistake I could of made it wasnt worth losing 300 euro, I should of blanked him out and lived out of my room. I think if you're close you should address his drinking if not leave it until you're packed and he's sober, if not try and contact a family member or very close friend of his and tell them how bad things have got if its appropriate.

kylith · 13-05-2012 10:04AM

I'd have a chat with the Citizens Advice if I were you. There should be some get-out clause if you're living conditions are intolerable, which they sound. Continue videoing any aggressive behaviour to bolster your case

Sky King · 13-05-2012 10:14AM

Buy him 6 cans of Karpackie.

Once he drinks those he will want to kill himself.

Repeat the process until he does.

a fat guy · 13-05-2012 10:19AM

I'm just putting this out there...

There IS only a certain amount of alcohol that the human body can handle before it gives up.

Just saying...

Not advocating anything...

Certainly not advising you to help him drink himself to death...

Yep.

Immaculate Pasta · 13-05-2012 10:30AM

Wowzer! wrote: »

I have a vid of him shouting at the microwave thinking its his ex. Showed it to him and he denied it happened. I would put it up but I don't think it would help my situation. It is funny, but not if you have to live with it.

You have to put this up on youtube. The video has potential to get 100,000 views. Just think of the advertising revenue you'd receive from it :cool:

TroutMask · 13-05-2012 10:48AM

Al-Anon is designed to help people affected be alcoholism. Find a meeting near you, and you will get the help you need to cope with this situation.

Wowzer! · 13-05-2012 10:57AM

ogriofa wrote: »

Do you realllly love your apartment that much? I wouldn't try so hard to stay another year. If there's nothing you can do about the lease, are you gonna be able to get rid of him when its up?
I know its not fair, but I wouldn't be killing myself to live there. The apt might be great, but if you're getting a bad deal with the flatmate and the atmosphere is crappola...

Hope you come up with a plan and get sorted soon

Edit: do stick it out till the end of this lease

Thinking this is probably the best plan. I have been too good to him in the cleaning and upkeep department, also in sorting any problems in the apartment. All that stops today. I don't like just "renting a room" as I'm not a teenager anymore but it looks like I gotta go back into that mode again. Might have a chat with the letting agent when the last month kicks in and see if I can take up the lease & sublet the room. Till then gotta try avoid the Incredible Drunk/Sulk. Reality is a bi**h

UDP · 13-05-2012 10:57AM

TroutMask wrote: »

Al-Anon is designed to help people affected be alcoholism. Find a meeting near you, and you will get the help you need to cope with this situation.

and they will help you find "god" too

kylith · 13-05-2012 11:03AM

UDP wrote: »

TroutMask wrote: »

Al-Anon is designed to help people affected be alcoholism. Find a meeting near you, and you will get the help you need to cope with this situation.

and they will help you find "god" too

now, now. It's not "god". It's any higher power that has power over you and that you have to accept as your saviour and relinquish all power to. Nothing like god at all, honest!

whymeagain · 13-05-2012 11:48AM

i`ve got an alcoholic workmate he is full time drinking on the job can`t say anything his father is production manager

Zebra3 · 13-05-2012 01:52PM

Invite your mates around and talk about religion while he's there.

He'll pack his bags soon enough.

Shryke · 13-05-2012 03:13PM

He'll hit rock bottom eventually and when he does he'll either get his act together or fall apart completely. Don't get involved. You've no idea what you'd be getting into. That video with the microwave might be pretty funny though, mental health concerns aside. :pac:

Fighting Irish · 13-05-2012 03:56PM

KTRIC wrote: »

14 posts and not one of ya suggested blasting him with piss !!!! i'm disappointed AH, i really am

i was told if say that phrase again, i'll be banned

danslevent · 13-05-2012 04:35PM

Fighting Irish wrote: »

i was told if say that phrase again, i'll be banned

...And rightly so too!

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