Alcoholic Flatmate

Wowzer! · 13-05-2012 01:42AM #1

So my housemate has become ever more reliant on the booze over the last few months. Started when he was sneaking out for a cheeky pint on nightshifts a couple of months ago. Since then he has been drinking 5 out of 7 nights a week including cans in his room when he thinks I don't know. Now he is either hungover or drunk and the moodswings are intolerable. The other day he lost it with me because apparently I talk too much and am annoying. I'm stuck on a lease with him for another couple of months and just don't know what to do. Sure my Landlord doesn't give a damn as long as they get their rent but I can't put up with this for much longer. Has anyone any experience like this? I know Alcoholism is serious but he just can't recognise it and somehow thinks I'm the one with the problem because I'm concerned for him. At a loss for what I can do. Can anyone help?

IM0 · 13-05-2012 01:47AM

Wowzer! wrote: »

So my housemate has become ever more reliant on the booze over the last few months. Started when he was sneaking out for a cheeky pint on nightshifts a couple of months ago. Since then he has been drinking 5 out of 7 nights a week including cans in his room when he thinks I don't know. Now he is either hungover or drunk and the moodswings are intolerable. The other day he lost it with me because apparently I talk too much and am annoying. I'm stuck on a lease with him for another couple of months and just don't know what to do. Sure my Landlord doesn't give a damn as long as they get their rent but I can't put up with this for much longer. Has anyone any experience like this? I know Alcoholism is serious but he just can't recognise it and somehow thinks I'm the one with the problem because I'm concerned for him. At a loss for what I can do. Can anyone help?

suffer until the lease is up. not much else you can do. avoid him and leave him to it unless he is not pulling his weight around the demestic side of things. look on the bright side, at least its only 3 months instead of 7!

Avox · 13-05-2012 01:48AM

Buy him a few cans of Bulmers Pear and he'll be in the toilet for so long he won't drink again..

DEFTLEFTHAND · 13-05-2012 01:50AM

If his problem is directly affecting you then you have reasonable means to question him on it. If you can go about your business without it having a meaningful impact on your life then I'd leave it be, we all choose our own paths in life only the person themselves decides which route is for them. Alcoholics don't listen..

Wowzer! · 13-05-2012 01:50AM

I wish it was that simple. I have been stressed as f*** about this and really can't take it anymore. Love my flat but just can't take his abuse anymore. Feel abit like his mammy as I do everything to keep the place in order whilst living with a sulky drunk that speaks to himself and then gives out all the time because of his moodswings.

Pushtrak · 13-05-2012 01:51AM

Try to keep your spirits up for the remainder of your time.

Senna · 13-05-2012 01:52AM

Wowzer! wrote: »

So my housemate has become ever more reliant on the booze over the last few months. Started when he was sneaking out for a cheeky pint on nightshifts a couple of months ago. Since then he has been drinking 5 out of 7 nights a week including cans in his room when he thinks I don't know. Now he is either hungover or drunk and the moodswings are intolerable. The other day he lost it with me because apparently I talk too much and am annoying. I'm stuck on a lease with him for another couple of months and just don't know what to do. Sure my Landlord doesn't give a damn as long as they get their rent but I can't put up with this for much longer. Has anyone any experience like this? I know Alcoholism is serious but he just can't recognise it and somehow thinks I'm the one with the problem because I'm concerned for him. At a loss for what I can do. Can anyone help?

I'm starting with the man in the mirror
I'm asking him to change his ways
And no message could have been any clearer
If you wanna make the world a better place
Take a look at yourself and then make a change, yey
Na na na, na na na, na na na na oh ho

oppenheimer1 · 13-05-2012 01:52AM

Wowzer! wrote: »

So my housemate has become ever more reliant on the booze over the last few months. Started when he was sneaking out for a cheeky pint on nightshifts a couple of months ago. Since then he has been drinking 5 out of 7 nights a week including cans in his room when he thinks I don't know. Now he is either hungover or drunk and the moodswings are intolerable. The other day he lost it with me because apparently I talk too much and am annoying. I'm stuck on a lease with him for another couple of months and just don't know what to do. Sure my Landlord doesn't give a damn as long as they get their rent but I can't put up with this for much longer. Has anyone any experience like this? I know Alcoholism is serious but he just can't recognise it and somehow thinks I'm the one with the problem because I'm concerned for him. At a loss for what I can do. Can anyone help?

If its really bad I'd take the hit on the deposit and go. If its not too bad and you can manage it for a few months, just avoid him in the house, then find somewhere else.

As for trying to help him, you've done your bit. You can't help those that don't want to be helped.

starbelgrade · 13-05-2012 01:53AM

Pushtrak wrote: »

Try to keep your spirits up for the remainder of your time.

'Spirits' is an odd choice of words considering the situation!

IM0 · 13-05-2012 01:55AM

Wowzer! wrote: »

I wish it was that simple. I have been stressed as f*** about this and really can't take it anymore. Love my flat but just can't take his abuse anymore. Feel abit like his mammy as I do everything to keep the place in order whilst living with a sulky drunk that speaks to himself and then gives out all the time because of his moodswings.

buy him a prostitute. problem solved. *dusts hands*

Pushtrak · 13-05-2012 01:55AM

starbelgrade wrote: »

'Spirits' is an odd choice of words considering the situation!

Welcome to After Hours? It's a tonic.

SteelyDanJalapeno · 13-05-2012 01:55AM

Have an other drink op, relax

DEFTLEFTHAND · 13-05-2012 01:57AM

Wowzer! wrote: »

I wish it was that simple. I have been stressed as f*** about this and really can't take it anymore. Love my flat but just can't take his abuse anymore. Feel abit like his mammy as I do everything to keep the place in order whilst living with a sulky drunk that speaks to himself and then gives out all the time because of his moodswings.

Well then his problem is affecting you and that's not on. You'll have to confront him strongly on his issue and threaten him with taking further action. If he still persists then you should seek further action by contacting (his) family members and making them aware of the situation.

starbelgrade · 13-05-2012 01:59AM

Pushtrak wrote: »

Welcome to After Hours? It's a tonic.

After 19,000 posts, it's nice to be finally welcomed to After Hours.

KTRIC · 13-05-2012 02:01AM

14 posts and not one of ya suggested blasting him with piss !!!! i'm disappointed AH, i really am

Hank Scorpio · 13-05-2012 02:04AM

stop being so nosy

Battered Mars Bar · 13-05-2012 02:04AM

Sometimes people reach for the bottle when all they really want is a hug OP.

IM0 · 13-05-2012 02:06AM

starbelgrade wrote: »

After 19,000 posts, it's nice to be finally welcomed to After Hours.

who said that? *looks around*

Wowzer! · 13-05-2012 02:06AM

oppenheimer1 wrote: »

If its really bad I'd take the hit on the deposit and go. If its not too bad and you can manage it for a few months, just avoid him in the house, then find somewhere else.

As for trying to help him, you've done your bit. You can't help those that don't want to be helped.

I don't think I should leave the place I love just because of him. Hard to avoid him in a 2 bedroom flat. I am concerned as I hate to see people in a bad way. But I refuse to sit in silence because he hates the sound of my voice*

*his words exactly

Hank Scorpio · 13-05-2012 02:07AM

Wowzer! wrote: »

I don't think I should leave the place I love just because of him. Hard to avoid him in a 2 bedroom flat. I am concerned as I hate to see people in a bad way. But I refuse to sit in silence because he hates the sound of my voice*

*his words exactly

have you proposed to him yet?

Wowzer! · 13-05-2012 02:09AM

nuxxx wrote: »

have you proposed to him yet?

The only thing I would propose to him is a swift box to the chops

Battered Mars Bar · 13-05-2012 02:11AM

Wowzer! wrote: »

But I refuse to sit in silence because he hates the sound of my voice*

*his words exactly

People who say "wowzer" are kind of irritating tbh. Yer the perfect odd couple I'd say. Make reality show vids and put it on youtube.

im invisible · 13-05-2012 02:11AM

KTRIC wrote: »

14 posts and not one of ya suggested blasting him with piss !!!! i'm disappointed AH, i really am

if he's such an alchoholic, he has probably blasted himself with piss on occasion

Pushtrak · 13-05-2012 02:13AM

I'm guessing he wouldn't entertain any thought of moving out. Would he have anywhere he could go? And if he was to go, would you be able to get someone else in to pay his part of the rent?

grindle · 13-05-2012 02:14AM

Blast him with pissed.

On a serious note, I was that guy, but jovial, rather than a cunnt. You can't change him, and he doesn't want to yet.
He needs to roam the realms of drunkenness, you need to be away from that, so just get out and leave him make the mess he needs to make.
And this newfound fondness for alcohol doesn't automatically make him an alcoholic, it could just be that alcohol is what he's currently medicating himself with.
If he was fond of weed to numb feelings, he'd use that; benzos, he'd use those. He's probably not anywhere near any boundary that says "Alco", he just needs to get near a boundary that says "You're being an absolute shiit and it's turning people who you love against you".
That isn't alcoholism.
That's being a dick.

Edit:can't believe somebody beat me to piss.
Long posts for the loss.

Panthro · 13-05-2012 02:14AM

Become a proper thieving dickhead of a housemate and he might get fed up and move out, problem solved!

Wowzer! · 13-05-2012 02:16AM

Pushtrak wrote: »

I'm guessing he wouldn't entertain any thought of moving out. Would he have anywhere he could go? And if he was to go, would you be able to get someone else in to pay his part of the rent?

I would gladly cover it if I could. The problem is he won't move. Landlord said it's not his problem and has a no sublet clause

Wowzer! · 13-05-2012 02:18AM

grindle wrote: »

Blast him with pissed.

On a serious note, I was that guy, but jovial, rather than a cunnt. You can't change him, and he doesn't want to yet.
He needs to roam the realms of drunkenness, you need to be away from that, so just get out and leave him make the mess he needs to make.
And this newfound fondness for alcohol doesn't automatically make him an alcoholic, it could just be that alcohol is what he's currently medicating himself with.
If he was fond of weed to numb feelings, he'd use that; benzos, he'd use those. He's probably not anywhere near any boundary that says "Alco", he just needs to get near a boundary that says "You're being an absolute shiit and it's turning people who you love against you".
That isn't alcoholism.
That's being a dick.

Edit:can't believe somebody beat me to piss.
Long posts for the loss.

Totally agree. He was grand before the booze became a crutch.

Wowzer! · 13-05-2012 02:27AM

Battered Mars Bar wrote: »

People who say "wowzer" are kind of irritating tbh. Yer the perfect odd couple I'd say. Make reality show vids and put it on youtube.

I have a vid of him shouting at the microwave thinking its his ex. Showed it to him and he denied it happened. I would put it up but I don't think it would help my situation. It is funny, but not if you have to live with it.

KTRIC · 13-05-2012 02:29AM

Give him a burger when he's drunk and let him eat it off the ground. Thats classy :rolleyes:

grindle · 13-05-2012 02:29AM

Wowzer! wrote: »

I have a vid of him shouting at the microwave thinking its his ex. Showed it to him and he denied it happened. I would put it up but I don't think it would help my situation. It is funny, but not if you have to live with it.

Just PM it to us. You can trust us.

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