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Approaching women in random places

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  • #62
    Daveysil15
    Closed Accounts Posts: 4,301 ✭✭✭Daveysil15


    Andy Carroll wrote: »
    tbh I found this a bit creepy too. :P

    Unfortunately its this creep attitude that makes it difficult for people to meet anyone.


  • #63
    Jesus Wept
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 25,243 ✭✭✭✭Jesus Wept


    Daveysil15 wrote: »
    Unfortunately its this creep attitude that makes it difficult for people to meet anyone.

    How? He could have just approached her? Was the waiting outside bit integral? If anything it reduced the change of success.


  • #64
    Daveysil15
    Closed Accounts Posts: 4,301 ✭✭✭Daveysil15


    Andy Carroll wrote: »
    How? He could have just approached her? Was the waiting outside bit integral? If anything it reduced the change of success.

    Didn't you read the rest of his post? She said yes and they ended up going out together. So it obviously wasn't creepy from her point of view. Fair play to him I say.


  • #65
    mummymoo
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 99 ✭✭mummymoo


    that used to happen alot when i was in a relationship but now that im single it never happens -_- didnt mind it just that awkward 'errr im not single' moment haha ...typical


  • #66
    kitty9
    Closed Accounts Posts: 196 ✭✭kitty9


    i stopped a girl on grafton st.

    she screamed


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  • #67
    mdebets
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,747 ✭✭✭mdebets


    A friend of mine did it once. Now he has to stay at least 50m away from her at all times.

    It probably wasn't a good idea, to approach her in the Phoenix park after dark, just walking home from Hurling practice and coming out of the bushes from a shortcut he took.


  • #68
    kitty9
    Closed Accounts Posts: 196 ✭✭kitty9




    id love to do this in Dundrum :P


  • #69
    DustyMan
    Closed Accounts Posts: 214 ✭✭DustyMan


    Andy Carroll wrote: »
    tbh I found this a bit creepy too. :P

    Can not understand this comment. Bit strange tbh. But every one to their own I guess. (Now if it was 3 am in the morning and I appeared out of a side lane with a long coat on et ceterea , n asked her out, now that would be a bit creepy!).

    Wasn't a thing creepy about it. It was a spur of the moment decision and it worked out well.
    Didn't want to ask her in from of other shoppers i.e in the shop. We were in a public place. She was flattered and seemed happy. If she had of said no I would have just said that's ok and went about my business albeit with a little bit of pride dented but so what!
    We went out together and it was good while it lasted. There is a LOT more creepy things going on than just sincerely complimenting a girl and asking her out for a date!!!


  • #70
    eirn
    Closed Accounts Posts: 93 ✭✭eirn


    I think it's lovely when a guy approaches you randomly! Maybe we're just a bit conditioned into thinking that our social lives must revolve around the pub. Like, it is a bit weird that a man striking up a conversation with a woman in a context other than a pub/nightclub is worthy of note. Makes me think I'll be single forever cause we're all too afraid to talk to each other:(


  • #71
    Jesus Wept
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 25,243 ✭✭✭✭Jesus Wept


    Daveysil15 wrote: »
    Didn't you read the rest of his post? She said yes and they ended up going out together.

    Yes I read his post and well done to him, no doubt.
    Just because she said yes and they went out, doesn't mean the approach was beyond reproach. See what I did there?

    Results based thinking for the lose. I am talking long term, not a sample of one.


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  • #72
    DustyMan
    Closed Accounts Posts: 214 ✭✭DustyMan


    Daveysil15 wrote: »
    Unfortunately its this creep attitude that makes it difficult for people to meet anyone.

    So true!!! :)


  • #73
    DustyMan
    Closed Accounts Posts: 214 ✭✭DustyMan


    eirn wrote: »
    I think it's lovely when a guy approaches you randomly! Maybe we're just a bit conditioned into thinking that our social lives must revolve around the pub. Like, it is a bit weird that a man striking up a conversation with a woman in a context other than a pub/nightclub is worthy of note. Makes me think I'll be single forever cause we're all too afraid to talk to each other:(

    Very true. And people think it's perfectly acceptable to drink 10 pints and then go over and try to chat up a girl and ask her out! :rolleyes:


  • #74
    Jesus Wept
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 25,243 ✭✭✭✭Jesus Wept


    DustyMan wrote: »
    Can not understand this comment. Bit strange tbh. But every one to their own I guess. (Now if it was 3 am in the morning and I appeared out of a side lane with a long coat on et ceterea , n asked her out, now that would be a bit creepy!).

    Wasn't a thing creepy about it. It was a spur of the moment decision and it worked out well.
    Didn't want to ask her in from of other shoppers i.e in the shop. We were in a public place. She was flattered and seemed happy. If she had of said no I would have just said that's ok and went about my business albeit with a little bit of pride dented but so what!
    We went out together and it was good while it lasted. There is a LOT more creepy things going on than just sincerely complimenting a girl and asking her out for a date!!!

    I wasn't knocking you I was saying generally speaking I imagine most people would be better approaching as soon as they got the inclination to do so rather than going outside and waiting for a time period.

    Oh hi, I was in Dunnes earlier and noticed you working on the till so I hung around outside till 9pm to ask you out, etc.

    If you never intend to make another approach in your life then continue to ignore what I am saying. If you do, then consider that it might not be the best and could be improved upon. Simples.


  • #75
    DustyMan
    Closed Accounts Posts: 214 ✭✭DustyMan


    Andy Carroll wrote: »
    Yes I read his post and well done to him, no doubt.
    Just because she said yes and they went out, doesn't mean the approach was beyond reproach. See what I did there?

    Results based thinking for the lose. I am talking long term, not a sample of one.

    :confused:


  • #76
    DustyMan
    Closed Accounts Posts: 214 ✭✭DustyMan


    Andy Carroll wrote: »
    I wasn't knocking you I was saying generally speaking I imagine most people would be better approaching as soon as they got the inclination to do so rather than going outside and waiting for a time period.

    Oh hi, I was in Dunnes earlier and noticed you working on the till so I hung around outside till 9pm to ask you out, etc.

    If you never intend to make another approach in your life then continue to ignore what I am saying. If you do, then consider that it might not be the best and could be improved upon. Simples.

    I waited outside for about 5 minutes. Don't think I would have waited longer..... I'm not ignoring what your saying. Your not really making sense that's all. I was just commenting on a spur of the moment decision I made in the context of what this thread is about. If you think what I did was 'a bit creepy'...... well whatever. :-)


  • #77
    Jesus Wept
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 25,243 ✭✭✭✭Jesus Wept


    DustyMan wrote: »
    :confused:

    Never mind, I didn't mean to trouble you. I hope she is the one.


  • #78
    Scanlas The 2nd
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 3,144 ✭✭✭Scanlas The 2nd


    DustyMan wrote: »
    Andy Carroll wrote: »
    tbh I found this a bit creepy too. :P

    Can not understand this comment. Bit strange tbh. But every one to their own I guess. (Now if it was 3 am in the morning and I appeared out of a side lane with a long coat on et ceterea , n asked her out, now that would be a bit creepy!).

    Wasn't a thing creepy about it. It was a spur of the moment decision and it worked out well.
    Didn't want to ask her in from of other shoppers i.e in the shop. We were in a public place. She was flattered and seemed happy. If she had of said no I would have just said that's ok and went about my business albeit with a little bit of pride dented but so what!
    We went out together and it was good while it lasted. There is a LOT more creepy things going on than just sincerely complimenting a girl and asking her out for a date!!!


    My instincts tell me this over eagerness of lads to make creepy jokes and jokes about chloroform and restraint orders etc reflects their insecurities with women.

    I mean how many times have we all heard these same jokes, perhaps they were funny the first couple of times, but we've heard them over and over and over again. I think this shows how uncomfortable this subject is for many men as they use "humour" to avoid hitting a nerve.


  • #79
    DustyMan
    Closed Accounts Posts: 214 ✭✭DustyMan


    Andy Carroll wrote: »
    Never mind, I didn't mean to trouble you. I hope she is the one.

    As P. Flynn would say, "Try it sometime". ;)

    P.s I'm sure you won't or you don't need to! Which is all good too!!


  • #80
    Jesus Wept
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 25,243 ✭✭✭✭Jesus Wept


    Scanlas The 2nd wrote: »
    My instincts tell me this over eagerness of lads to make creepy jokes and jokes about chloroform and restraint orders etc reflects their insecurities with women.

    I mean how many times have we all heard these same jokes, perhaps they were funny the first couple of times, but we've heard them over and over and over again. I think this shows how uncomfortable this subject is for many men as they use "humour" to avoid hitting a nerve.

    I was expecting your arrival. I'd say a big bat type symbol goes up across the city to alert you anytime a thread that you can talk about PUA arises.

    Your instincts are incorrect, that wasn't my motive whatsoever.


  • #81
    SoulTrader
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 850 ✭✭✭SoulTrader


    I did it once, and only once, to a girl I knew at work. She worked on another floor to me and I'd only spoken to her 3 or 4 times before. I plucked up the courage to ask her out one Friday evening. She said yes and long story short, we're married now :).

    So, similar to what somebody else said, you have a lot to gain and if you can get over your ego, not that much to lose.


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  • #82
    kitty9
    Closed Accounts Posts: 196 ✭✭kitty9


    SoulTrader wrote: »
    I did it once, and only once, to a girl I knew at work. She worked on another floor to me and I'd only spoken to her 3 or 4 times before. I plucked up the courage to ask her out one Friday evening. She said yes and long story short, we're married now :).

    So, similar to what somebody else said, you have a lot to gain and if you can get over your ego, not that much to lose.

    how long did ye wait before ye "made love/smash her back doors in"?


  • #83
    DustyMan
    Closed Accounts Posts: 214 ✭✭DustyMan


    Scanlas The 2nd wrote: »
    My instincts tell me this over eagerness of lads to make creepy jokes and jokes about chloroform and restraint orders etc reflects their insecurities with women.

    I mean how many times have we all heard these same jokes, perhaps they were funny the first couple of times, but we've heard them over and over and over again. I think this shows how uncomfortable this subject is for many men as they use "humour" to avoid hitting a nerve.

    Ah, just to clarify I was NOT making a 'creepy joke and joke about chloroform and restraint orders etc'. I was trying to point out the difference between creepy and not creepy. I VERY much respect women btw as I'm certain the very VAST majority of men do too. I have to add, in my opinion, that unfortunately you seem terribly sensitive to an innocent explanation of my experience.


  • #84
    SoulTrader
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 850 ✭✭✭SoulTrader


    kitty9 wrote: »
    how long did ye wait before ye "made love/smash her back doors in"?

    :eek::confused:


  • #85
    Delancey
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5,451 ✭✭✭Delancey


    Judging by the number of posts in this thread it would seem the T.V. advertisement for Impulse Body Spray had a far greater effect than I had imagined.


  • #86
    Owen_S
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,211 ✭✭✭Owen_S


    I'd love to give this a go, but due to a court order I can't :(


  • #87
    IM0
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5,390 ✭✭✭IM0


    Owen_S wrote: »
    I'd love to give this a go, but due to a court order I can't :(

    its not for guys like you :p


  • #88
    mrsdewinter
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,215 ✭✭✭mrsdewinter


    Scanlas The 2nd wrote: »
    My instincts tell me this over eagerness of lads to make creepy jokes and jokes about chloroform and restraint orders etc reflects their insecurities with women.

    I mean how many times have we all heard these same jokes, perhaps they were funny the first couple of times, but we've heard them over and over and over again. I think this shows how uncomfortable this subject is for many men as they use "humour" to avoid hitting a nerve.

    I agree.

    Guy asks girl out for drink; girl says no - full stop. Nothing to see here...

    Men of After Hours: do it! ;)


  • #89
    Daveysil15
    Closed Accounts Posts: 4,301 ✭✭✭Daveysil15


    SoulTrader wrote: »
    I did it once, and only once, to a girl I knew at work. She worked on another floor to me and I'd only spoken to her 3 or 4 times before. I plucked up the courage to ask her out one Friday evening. She said yes and long story short, we're married now :).

    So, similar to what somebody else said, you have a lot to gain and if you can get over your ego, not that much to lose.

    Fair play to ye. Actually most couples I know have met through work. I don't know any couples that have met in a bar or night club.


  • #90
    Ficheall
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2, Paid Member Posts: 9,067 ✭✭✭Ficheall


    I presume "Are you single?", or somesuch, is a reasonable question for that initial conversation, but is one allowed to drop in a subtle "By the way, do you smoke?"* or does that have to wait until the "date" to surface?



    *Obviously there are plenty of other factors, but smoking seemed to be the most common/harmless/potential deal-breaker that sprang to mind...


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  • #91
    firedancer
    Closed Accounts Posts: 125 ✭✭firedancer


    I wouldn't mind being approached in a random place



    long as it's not from behind :D


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