Approaching women in random places

I love it, its happened to me multiple times bizarrely enough (I'm no supermodel!) - shops, park, train, bus, asking for directions on the street etc - even if i'm with someone else / 100% not interested its really flattering & it makes the bloke seem very confident (and therefore much more attractive. A bit of conversation is required though, nothing major just a bit of chit-chat, I've been asked a few times if I'm Spanish / Italian so it doesn't have to be groundbreaking conversational skills but the only time a guy walked straight up to me on the street and without even an introduction asked me would I like to go out that night to a gig I was a bit thrown (I actually got confused as to what was going on and thought he was trying to sell me a ticket until he explained he was asking me out on a date). I am fairly smiley and chatty with strangers (male & female) apparently though so perhaps that comes across as inviting, I dunno.

Definitely definitely preferable to a drunken approach IMO because you can actually have a normal conversation in the cold light of day. I have friends however (female) who don't agree with me at all and I get aghast "you met him on a BUS..." reactions.

Edit : btw before I get accused of being Samantha Brick I was making the point it is bizarre because I'm no stunner and think I must just look approachable. Plus, when I say multiple approaches, that is spaced out over a decade. Just wanted to clear that up before any "thinly veiled - oh check me out, i'm so hot" replies.

the keen edge wrote: »

Irish women don't like Irish male maverick types.

FYP

Some nationalities can get away with it, don't think it suits Irish guys though. We have our own unique charm!:pac:

I think it's a great idea. I'd be chuffed if a guy approached me like that, it shows he has confidence and self-assurance, two traits that I find extremely attractive.
I can see why a lot of Irish guys don't do it though, as previous posters have said, Irish girls tend to find it weird.

OP - go for it, - at the end of the day, do you really want to go out with a girl who's put off by you being forward without half a keg inside you?

I've done it. It's no different than meeting somebody anywhere else.

The bus is straightforward enough and I've done that after a chat and having seeing them a few times on previous journeys.

I once dated a girl after she answered my call to Directory Enquiries – meeting her as she left work.

Some years I dated a girl who was busking in Grafton Street. That is the most memorable.

Oh! a hitchhiker once – that lasted a while.

eth0 wrote: »

It is bad form to try this if a girl is sitting on a bench in a park. These usually want to be left in peace

Not at all. Just say hello; read the body language, it could be fine. Especially it they appear to be relaxed. Much much better than a pub.

Daveysil15 wrote: »

I'm in a similar situation. I'm thinking of asking out a girl that works in my local Petrol station. It's just it would be a bit awkward if there's a group of people queuing behind me.

Try finding a quiet time, and just come out and ask her.

See here for some tips .

Condatis wrote: »

Dear me – why would you have to avoid the place if she says no.

Just pass it off lightly and chat as normal when you go in again.

Then – then ask her again. You don't have to start with 'date' as such. Just suggest a drink after work and leave at that for the first occasion.

I'd live with the awkwardness if she did say no, I wasn't too serious about that: it wouldn't be such a big deal. I just want to see if I want to do it in the first place. I've recently finished a long-term relationship and I'm not sure I want to start anything now, so it wouldn't be worth asking her out and making things awkward if I'm not going to be bothered about the relationship.

But I'll probably just ask her out one day without thinking, and I'll be okay really with any potential awkwardness. It's actually something I haven't thought about anyway: no point thinking about things going badly: that'd just be self-defeating.

Have done it many times,it's gone well and it's also gone not so well.

If someone say's no you just have to laugh it off and they will usually smile along with you or have a phone in hand ringing the gardai,that's when you need to briskly walk away.