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Cheek of some people...

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  • #62
    eviltwin
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 17,495 ✭✭✭✭eviltwin


    I would tell them to get real. You give what you can afford. Real friends would not want to see you get into debt.


  • #63
    quietsailor
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,401 ✭✭✭quietsailor


    PCPhoto wrote: »
    is this a "facebook" friend ?

    Do what we did to one of the lads ..... a gang of you get together and get the same present .... a toaster from Argos ..... he ended out with 47 toasters.

    was that for a wedding down in mallow a few years ago? We did that to a friend of ours


  • #64
    Sleepy
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2, Paid Member Posts: 25,000 ✭✭✭✭Sleepy


    I can understand someone hoping that their guests will give cash rather than the usual wine glasses, toasters, photo frames, "tasteful" bronze statuettes etc. that people seem to waste a fortune on but asking for cash only on the invites is tacky in the extreme, specifying an "acceptable" amount is downright disgusting.

    We're planning our own wedding at the moment and, if someone asks what we want, I'd tell them cash would be best but I'll be grateful for any presents we do get. They may go straight into the attic never to be seen again but I'll still appreciate the sentiment behind them.

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  • #65
    woodoo
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5,219 ✭✭✭woodoo


    Thats a bit celtic tiger. I do remember my sister complaining about being invited to a wedding where the couple asked their friends to spread the word that people only give cash and €100 per person.


  • #66
    Feisar
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 7,031 ✭✭✭Feisar


    IvySlayer wrote: »
    Hate wedding invitations asking for monetary gifts.

    I've no problem with "cash gifts only please". €20 is better than another toaster.

    First they came for the socialists...



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  • #67
    Rocky_Dennis
    Closed Accounts Posts: 433 ✭✭Rocky_Dennis


    PCPhoto wrote: »
    is this a "facebook" friend ?

    Do what we did to one of the lads ..... a gang of you get together and get the same present .... a toaster from Argos ..... he ended out with 47 toasters.

    To be honest, I think that is bang out of order, call me dry or whatever, but if you're going to be a pack of d!cks about it, just don't bother going.

    I don't agree one bit that they're asking for money, but to add salt to the wound, expecting €250 per guest is extortionate. Instead of lowering myself to their level by giving them an empty card, 47 toasters etc, I just wouldn't go and would never associate with these people again.


  • #68
    dark crystal
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 10,962 ✭✭✭✭dark crystal


    Had I received that invitation, not only would I not attend their wedding, but I'd seriously reconsider having them in my life at all.

    I know very few people who could afford that much money - in fact, it's not far off what I earn in a week.

    They sound like extremely greedy, self centered people to me OP.


  • #69
    OldNotWIse
    Closed Accounts Posts: 12,468 ✭✭✭✭OldNotWIse


    Confab wrote: »
    No no no. No.

    To do it properly, go to the wedding, drinks as much free booze as possible and give them €10 in an unmarked envelope. They'll never know who it came from. Better still mark it with the name of some family member you really don't like.

    Simple.
    I gave your post the thumbs up for 2 reasons:
    1. It was funny
    2. You said, "simple" instead of "simples" (dont know why but this drives me mad! :mad:)


  • #70
    BrianBoru00
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,035 ✭✭✭BrianBoru00


    curious with some of the replies i.e. €50 will do.
    Obviously asking for an amount is out of order.


    In general, we give €200 for friends/people we see on a regular basis and €150 for cousins/obligatory invites...

    €250+ for the few very close friends/brothers & sisters close friends.

    In general, covering the meal + a little seems to be the rule of thumb in my experience.
    Single people give €100 in general.
    €150 would be very very generous - the equivalent of €300 for a couple

    Most people end up giving you the same amount as a present when you get married!!


  • #71
    gerarda
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 455 ✭✭gerarda


    Ive been to a few weddings over the years, the one I will always remember is the one that said on the invite: "Cash only please - 200 punts minimum". The ceremony took place in the hotel which had the bride, groom and two witness's present and nobody else (brides wish). They got the absolute shock of their life when they went to have the dinner in the banqueting hall and it was completely empty! No guests showed up at all! The hotel manager did the usual "Ladies and Gentleman, please be upstanding for the bride and groom!" and sniggered to himself as he walked off. She was a stockbroker and he was an architect! The hotel insisted on payment for 250 meals (of which 4 were eaten), the band played for 4 people and the bar got paid for an extension that nobody used! The marriage lasted a year.....


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  • #72
    Mr Benevolent
    Closed Accounts Posts: 12,433 ✭✭✭✭Mr Benevolent


    BrianBoru00 wrote: »
    curious with some of the replies i.e. €50 will do.
    Obviously asking for an amount is out of order.


    In general, we give €200 for friends/people we see on a regular basis and €150 for cousins/obligatory invites...

    €250+ for the few very close friends/brothers & sisters close friends.

    In general, covering the meal + a little seems to be the rule of thumb in my experience.
    Single people give €100 in general.
    €150 would be very very generous - the equivalent of €300 for a couple

    Most people end up giving you the same amount as a present when you get married!!

    You're the OP's friend, right?


  • #73
    Dyr
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 23,246 ✭✭✭✭Dyr


    gerarda wrote: »
    Ive been to a few weddings over the years, the one I will always remember is the one that said on the invite: "Cash only please - 200 punts minimum". The ceremony took place in the hotel which had the bride, groom and two witness's present and nobody else (brides wish). They got the absolute shock of their life when they went to have the dinner in the banqueting hall and it was completely empty! No guests showed up at all! The hotel manager did the usual "Ladies and Gentleman, please be upstanding for the bride and groom!" and sniggered to himself as he walked off. She was a stockbroker and he was an architect! The hotel insisted on payment for 250 meals (of which 4 were eaten), the band played for 4 people and the bar got paid for an extension that nobody used! The marriage lasted a year.....

    If there was no guests there how did you remember it :confused:


  • #74
    Show Time
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,637 ✭✭✭Show Time


    Fifty Euro in a card at the most.


  • #75
    ronan45
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,583 ✭✭✭ronan45


    BrianBoru00 wrote: »
    curious with some of the replies i.e. €50 will do.
    Obviously asking for an amount is out of order.


    In general, we give €200 for friends/people we see on a regular basis and €150 for cousins/obligatory invites...

    €250+ for the few very close friends/brothers & sisters close friends.

    In general, covering the meal + a little seems to be the rule of thumb in my experience.
    Single people give €100 in general.
    €150 would be very very generous - the equivalent of €300 for a couple

    Most people end up giving you the same amount as a present when you get married!!

    So wheres the honeymoon?


  • #76
    LizT
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 29,089 ✭✭✭✭LizT


    I don't understand why these people aren't completely and utterly ashamed doing this?

    To me, having friends and family travel to see you commit to marriage with the person you love is more than enough of a gift, everything else is a bonus.


  • #77
    Caliden
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,981 ✭✭✭Caliden


    100 quid pp if it's a close friend. Other than that it depends on how well I know the person.

    Asking for 250 is a bit out of order unless it's a fancy wedding with an open bar or something.


  • #78
    bamboozle
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,699 ✭✭✭bamboozle


    gerarda wrote: »
    Ive been to a few weddings over the years, the one I will always remember is the one that said on the invite: "Cash only please - 200 punts minimum". The ceremony took place in the hotel which had the bride, groom and two witness's present and nobody else (brides wish). They got the absolute shock of their life when they went to have the dinner in the banqueting hall and it was completely empty! No guests showed up at all! The hotel manager did the usual "Ladies and Gentleman, please be upstanding for the bride and groom!" and sniggered to himself as he walked off. She was a stockbroker and he was an architect! The hotel insisted on payment for 250 meals (of which 4 were eaten), the band played for 4 people and the bar got paid for an extension that nobody used! The marriage lasted a year.....

    even their families didnt turn up?


  • #79
    leggit
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 936 ✭✭✭leggit


    €50 on my own
    €100 as a couple

    That goes for everyone except immediate family!


  • #80
    Born to Die
    Closed Accounts Posts: 830 ✭✭✭Born to Die


    I don't believe anyone would put that on their wedding invite. I need to see evidence.


  • #81
    Jake Rugby Walrus666
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 528 ✭✭✭Jake Rugby Walrus666


    Born to Die wrote: »
    I don't believe anyone would put that on their wedding invite. I need to see evidence.


    You can have the evidence. First you must donate a minimum of €400.


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  • #82
    tfitzgerald
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,290 ✭✭✭tfitzgerald


    The Celtic tiger is still alive . €250 cash only is a joke IMHO


  • #83
    Badly Drunk Boy
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2, Paid Member Posts: 7,422 ✭✭✭Badly Drunk Boy


    frag420 wrote: »
    I would give them €2.50.........................Say there was a typo on the invite. Would love to their faces when every envelope has that familiar jingle of coins!!

    Or put in €2.55 since it says 2.50 minimum. ;)


  • #84
    tayto lover
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2, Paid Member Posts: 57,077 ✭✭✭✭tayto lover


    iguana wrote: »
    Buy a wedding card, write the usual guff in it and add a sentence about how you hope your gift gets them started well on their marriage. Put the card in the envelope, seal the envelope, let it dry, then open the envelope ensuring it looks carefully pried open. Go to the wedding have a great time, if it's an open bar drink your fill. When they are opening the cards after the wedding they will find your empty card and wonder which of their guests stole the money you gifted them. Whenever you see them after the wedding you can ask them if they bought something nice with your money and imply that you were especially generous just to see their upset faces. :D

    Pure EVIL.





    But I love it.


  • #85
    Owen_S
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,211 ✭✭✭Owen_S


    I would give them one of those charity donation gifts. The look on their faces when you tell them that their present is in fact 2 goats donated on their behalf to a family in a small Ethiopian village.


  • #86
    ManFromAtlantis
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,483 ✭✭✭ManFromAtlantis


    sorry cant believe this.
    did it actually say min €250 if cash ????

    if it did......... i give up.


  • #87
    Degag
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 10,158 ✭✭✭✭Degag


    Bambi wrote: »
    If there was no guests there how did you remember it :confused:
    ....And which of the 4 guests told him the Hotel Manager sniggered?

    I call shenanigans.


  • #88
    @rti-shm@rti
    Closed Accounts Posts: 90 ✭✭@rti-shm@rti


    Caliden wrote: »
    Asking for 250 is a bit out of order unless it's a fancy wedding with an open bar or something.

    Ya but why should the guests have to pay for it. Not exactly an open bar if you have to pay in advance for the honour!!!!
    Born to Die wrote: »
    I don't believe anyone would put that on their wedding invite. I need to see evidence.

    It was my friend that got the invite so I can't provide a scan of the invite but it's 100% true.

    She has officially decided not to go. It's one of her neighbours and she reckons the bride only invited her because her parents would have been put out if she didn't invite all the neighbours. So it's an obligatory wedding. Definitely not worth €250.

    I actually think they'll have an empty function room. Nobody yet has actually said that it's a good idea.


  • #89
    Sleepy
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2, Paid Member Posts: 25,000 ✭✭✭✭Sleepy


    Maybe they'd two sets of invites? One for guests they wanted there and another with the crass "minimum 250 cash gift" to make sure people they don't want there don't bother going?

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  • #90
    wyrn
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 6,980 ✭✭✭wyrn


    If I were your friend, I'd pick an amount you want to give them, buy a glass jar and fill it with coppers to that amount. It's not like they will ever count it! Otherwise, I'd chip in with a few friends going to the wedding.

    It's sickening to expect someone to pay an extra fee for a wedding, sickening and definitely worth Stingiest things you've seen people do thread!


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  • #91
    Dr Turk Turkelton
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2, Paid Member Posts: 3,129 ✭✭✭Dr Turk Turkelton


    I would imagine they put an obligatory amount after reading all the threads on boards where people seem to think it is ok to give 50 euros per couple.

    Between 150-200 euros depending on closeness to the parties is a fair amount covering your meals etc.

    Yes it's their day but no need to be mean about it.


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