Overweight girls wearing tight clothing, Yay or Nay?

@princesspeach Ah yeah of course they can wear what they want but it's nice to have a bit of respect and tuck in their belly if it's not fitting under an ill fitted top.. I'm all for ppl wearin whatever they like but it's not the nicest of things to see

Leave it, this really is a job for the fashion police ......oooooor the Beached Whale Foundation.


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Princess Peach wrote: »

But why are you looking at them? And what difference does it make to you?

Kinda hard not to notice something like that (it's not like I stare). I'm giving an opinion, I'm hardly going over to overweight people and calling them names, it makes no difference to me I'm just giving my two cents on the topic:p

Bipolar Joe wrote: »

A bit of respect for who? You? The public in general? Themselves? Again, not a whole different between a fat chick and a skinny chick doing it other than what some people think is attractive.

Themselves. Why wud I want respect from them? Bit strange when I wudnt even know them...

I've seen some horrors in skin tight leggings.

Bipolar Joe wrote: »

Maybe they do respect themselves. The same could be said for girls that walk around wearing rope and calling it a skirt.

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I suppose some people are comfortable letting it all hang out so let em be I'm hardly Gonna stop em,same goes for skinny gals who r comfy wearing a belt for a skirt, I'm not highly offended by them I'm only saying its not nice ..

Princess Peach wrote: »

Respect should be be automatically given to everyone, not earned.

I'm probably a bit too close to the topic cause I have many issues. I don't wear tight clothes ever, never have and probably never will no matter size I am for fear of the thoughts of strangers.

But sure its grand if you only think it and not say it to people's faces, but talk about it generally. I used to think like that, I was very judgmental of people's looks but a lot of counselling has taught me a different way of thinking.

Unfortunately respect today isn't always present alot of people can be really rude:( It's nice when people suprise you

I'm not looking to offend anyone (this is AH after all) I'm talking about people I've seen that wear clothes 3 times too small for them that it actually looks sore for them... I don't go round judging everyone at all, and my ewww comment was meant to be light hearted not an indication that im angry at how they dress....i'm sorry if I have offended you..

El Pistolero wrote: »

Have they put Lithium back in the water supply again?

Damn Commies

Princess Peach wrote: »

My point really is the fact that people think its ok to have these thoughts just because they are not going up to a particular girl and saying it to her face. But the fact that this general thought of overweight people as unnatractive exists in the world, and in the media.

Two things here. Firstly, it IS okay for me to think any damn thing I want. We don't have thought crime in this country. It's not 1984 quite yet. Secondly, yes, standards of beauty are to a degree influenced by the media, and some of those standards are not very good for society (boyish, anorexic child-girls aren't what men or women look for as icons of beauty, but it's what the media feeds us incessantly.) But bottom line, and I say this as a very plain looking fella, there are objective standards of beauty, relating to things like body shape and facial symmetry, and some people luck out in that regard genetically and most of us don't. Life's not fair. You can't legislate that away.

Princess Peach wrote: »

I dunno if I can speak objectively about this but I'll use myself as an example. I have body image issues and I am constantly thinking of how others are perceiving me, I spend way too much time thinking of my clothes and do they look good on me, can you see my lumps and bumps.

I imagine it is probably not very helpful for me to say this, but seriously, you shouldn't care what people think of how you look. In fact, it shouldn't matter to you what they think of you at all, but if you must care about something, care about whether they think of you as a decent, kind, warm human being or not. Ultimately society may make us all come across as shallow because we're all time-deprived, but fundamentally we're all still human and what we all admire most is the beauty of someone's strength of character and quality of empathy.

Princess Peach wrote: »

And this maybe comes from this general thought on overweight people. I have become quite self conscious reading this thread as it has confirmed that people do look at fat girls and judge them, be it internal or not.

Not gonna lie. Yes, they do. And they judge old people. And short people. And coloured people. And people with disabilities. And people with freckles, red hair, glasses, hearing aids, limps, lumps, bumps and zits. Because we are primates with pattern-recognition skills and that's all we can judge until we get to actually encounter the person as an individual and put our evaluating skills to work on judging their actual personality and character and charisma. And that's when a person's worth in society is really evaluated, not before.

Princess Peach wrote: »

And I don't mean to pick on any particular poster, cause its a common thought. Read any one of those stupid celeb magazines and they will be critiquing who has gained weight and why they are dressed badly for it.
And it is sad because I don't think this culture is ever going to change. And it's pretty damaging for some people.

It's damaging, sure, if they let it damage them. I can only repeat, it should not matter what some randomer who you'll never pass two words with might be thinking (and probably isn't because they're more likely to be thinking about whether people are looking at their bald spot, or limp or shortness or whatever themselves).
It's not a culture - appreciation of objective beauty standards are fairly hardwired. Newborns can identify symmetrical faces and stare at them longer. It's genetic, pretty much, not culture. Like all aspects of life, we're dealt some good cards and some less good ones. No one gets the royal flush. You take the hand you're dealt and play it positively. Otherwise, you will be crushed, not by the opinions of others, which are fundamentally meaningless unless they come from those who really know you, but crushed by your own flaying of your own self-esteem and self-worth.

TL;DR - True beauty is within. Ignore people on the street - they don't matter. Be a quality person and people lucky enough to engage with you will look past every supermodel bitch to your qualities. Fact.