Remembering the mothers who are no longer with us

Amy33 · 18-03-2012 09:44PM

My mother died in May, 1987 aged 39. I was 10 at the time and became a surrogate mother to my brother and only sibling who was then only 6. My brother took his own life aged 29 in May 2010, today I visisted their grave. What I would give to have a mother and siblings.

Waterfordlass · 18-03-2012 10:03PM

Amy33 wrote: »

My mother died in May, 1987 aged 39. I was 10 at the time and became a surrogate mother to my brother and only sibling who was then only 6. My brother took his own life aged 29 in May 2010, today I visisted their grave. What I would give to have a mother and siblings.

Hugs to you Amy. I am so sorry for your pain.

Today was the second Mother's Day without her. She was my best friend, and I will miss her 'til the day I die.

xzanti · 18-03-2012 10:12PM

Very touched by this thread.. while I'm blessed to still have her in my life, I'm very aware that it's a pain that will come to most of us at some stage..

The circle of life and all that

doesn't make it any less heartbreaking..

Condolences to all of you.. I hope you find comfort

Eve_Dublin · 18-03-2012 10:17PM

Amy33 wrote: »

My mother died in May, 1987 aged 39. I was 10 at the time and became a surrogate mother to my brother and only sibling who was then only 6. My brother took his own life aged 29 in May 2010, today I visisted their grave. What I would give to have a mother and siblings.

Big hugs to you Amy. I'm really sorry to hear what you've gone through.

volvoman480 · 18-03-2012 10:20PM

My mum died almost six years ago. She was only 63. Cancer is a bitch, eh? Not a day goes by that I don't think of her. Gutted that she never got to meet my two little girls, the eldest of whom is named after her. Miss you loads mum....

Galwayguy35 · 18-03-2012 10:26PM

Amy33 wrote: »

My mother died in May, 1987 aged 39. I was 10 at the time and became a surrogate mother to my brother and only sibling who was then only 6. My brother took his own life aged 29 in May 2010, today I visisted their grave. What I would give to have a mother and siblings.

Sorry for your loss.

icescreamqueen · 18-03-2012 10:26PM

This thread has made the lump at the back of throat explode

. I lost my beautiful Mum very suddenly in July. She was the nicest, most placid person ever. She took everything in her stride and had a nice word to say to everyone she met.
When I went home, we used to have a little routine. She usually went to bed early and she'd ask me to lie beside her for a while to have a little chat. It used to be my favourite thing in the world to do because I felt so safe beside her. She just had a knack for making everything better and making me laugh from the pit of my stomach.
Miss you so much Mum, you're the best.
You were my dolly and my wee pet. Two words she used a lot

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Archeron · 18-03-2012 10:27PM

Miss you lots mum. This weekend I finally found those blue roses you always wanted to see. It broke my heart to leave them on your grave :-(

RiseToTheTop · 18-03-2012 10:32PM

RIP Mom. She died in 1990, when I was 3 and a half years old. She went into hospital on my 3rd birthday. Doctors gave her the all clear first time but it wasn't gone completely.

I have a couple of memories of her and I treasure them. One is her taking a picture of me, I have the picture and i'm on one of those "toy cars" which has a beep. Another is when my Dad was putting in a new bulb and he warned nobody to turn on the switch.

I climbed on top of the Sofa seat, then I stood up onto the hand rest and turned on the switch.

He got an electric shock. I can remember my Mother laughing out loud when I did that. She saw the funny side of it but my Dad said "Veronica, he can't do that." (I suppose he was right!)

18-03-2012 10:35PM

Thankfully I am very lucky to still have my mother, but I do understand the heartache of visiting the graveyard on mother's day. Hope ye are all doing alright. Lovely thread

Rob67 · 18-03-2012 10:37PM

My Mam died on Christmas eve 1991, just a couple of weeks before the birth of my eldest son. She just keeled over calling for my Dad, by the time he got to her, Mam was already gone, she was only 48 and I still miss her to this day.

She looks down on her grand-children (all adults now) and her grand-daughter carries her name, so she is never truly gone.

Thanks for making me the person that I am today, Mam, Happy Mother's day love you always...

Thank you OP, for this opportunity.

Sir Oxman · 18-03-2012 10:40PM

17 years ago and I still miss her so much. A beautiful, gentle woman.

dee. · 18-03-2012 10:42PM

This thread is beautiful. Just beautiful.

Happy mothers day to all the wonderful mothers who aren't here today but are hopefully watching down on all of you.

xo

matamoros1965 · 18-03-2012 10:51PM

My Mam died after what we could call a good innings and for some reason years earlier, I had the thought that one day she wouldn't be there and because of that, I got so much more out of each day with her.

Razorfish · 18-03-2012 10:51PM

My mum died in 1998, knocked down in a road traffic accident at 52. I took her for granted when she was alive and miss her greatly on days like these. I wish she was still here. She was a great mum and always sacrificed to bring us up. RIP Mum, thinking of you always

brian ireland · 18-03-2012 10:53PM

I wrote what I think will be my last mothers day card today. Just found out my mother has secondary cancer so it was a day of mixed emotions.

KKkitty · 18-03-2012 10:55PM

My mam died in February 2009. Even though I'm a mam myself I still don't feel like celebrating on days like today. She was an inspiration to me, so bright and intelligent. She would have given any of the chefs on the tv a run for their money. She died as a result of a brain haemorrhage and she was hooked up to machines for over a day. The year previous my dad died and it's like her head could never get over that. I wasn't at her bedside when her heart stopped and I wish I could turn back the clock and change that. I love you so much mam. I wish you were still here. Sorry I couldn't go to your grave but it's still too hard

xx

Fiona · 18-03-2012 10:56PM

People thank you for sharing these beautiful stories xx

sunbeam · 18-03-2012 11:11PM

My mum died two years ago this summer. Today is the anniversary of when she got very sick. She had lived a long life, but I though she still had a few more decades in her. After a horrible few months she died suddenly and I wasn't there when it happened. I'm really missing her today.

Fiona · 18-03-2012 11:19PM

brian ireland wrote: »

I wrote what I think will be my last mothers day card today. Just found out my mother has secondary cancer so it was a day of mixed emotions.

My mother was recently diagnosed with copd. It has just dawned on me after reading this post that I will be writing less mothers days cards than I would like to

EGAR · 18-03-2012 11:19PM

My OH's mother died 4 years ago, she was 86 and fit as a fiddle until she got pneumonia and faded away... She was a feisty lady, fiercely religious and a great grandma to our son.

My OH took me out for lunch today and we decided to buy flowers and go to her grave. We ended up buying white heather (she liked white flowers of any kind) and planted it on her grave.

RIP Delia, we miss you very much!

JonasADF · 18-03-2012 11:25PM

that's a lovely sentiment galway guy. I miss my mum. who passed away many years ago now.

Toby Take a Bow · 18-03-2012 11:25PM

Amy33 wrote: »

My mother died in May, 1987 aged 39. I was 10 at the time and became a surrogate mother to my brother and only sibling who was then only 6. My brother took his own life aged 29 in May 2010, today I visisted their grave. What I would give to have a mother and siblings.

My god. Words cannot describe ... well, just that.

pampootie · 18-03-2012 11:28PM

Lovely thread op. My mum died 9 years ago, I always dread this week, it's her birthday, then anniversary and then mothers day to round it off and always gets me. I miss her, she was great.

Darkginger · 19-03-2012 12:11AM

Still miss my Mum after 25 years without her. Sleep tight, Mum - thinking of you today, and every day.

Mickey Lover · 19-03-2012 12:39AM

brian ireland wrote: »

I wrote what I think will be my last mothers day card today. Just found out my mother has secondary cancer so it was a day of mixed emotions.

I remember doing that and knowing and her calling me to wish me Happy New Year and as I'm putting down the phone knowing that it was the last time she would be doing that. My heart goes out to you and your Mam and I will say a lil prayer for you - take care

stovelid · 19-03-2012 01:59AM

I didn't even read this thread until now because the forum has gone to shit these days. Some of the stories brought a tear to my eye and made me realize how lucky I was to be able to casually drop to my lovely mum today (with my young sons) to drop presents down, and have a hug and a cuppa.

Mickey Lover · 19-03-2012 02:28AM

Thanks Galwayguy35 for starting this thread - I miss my Mam all the time but significant days such as this seem to be a cruel reminder of the fact she is not here.
Sometimes in grief we forget we are not the only ones going through it - that there are many people hurting and finding the day hard to get through. I wasn't expecting a thread on AH like this but it has made me feel better so thank you again.

Dudess · 19-03-2012 03:05AM

Amy33 wrote: »

My mother died in May, 1987 aged 39. I was 10 at the time and became a surrogate mother to my brother and only sibling who was then only 6. My brother took his own life aged 29 in May 2010, today I visisted their grave. What I would give to have a mother and siblings.

Amy I am genuinely so sorry for your awful loss...

tippspur · 19-03-2012 03:09AM

Razorfish wrote: »

My mum died in 1998, knocked down in a road traffic accident at 52. I took her for granted when she was alive and miss her greatly on days like these. I wish she was still here. She was a great mum and always sacrificed to bring us up. RIP Mum, thinking of you always

Lost my own mother in a car accident many years ago,rip on this special day for mothers.

Remembering the mothers who are no longer with us

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