Remembering the mothers who are no longer with us

Galwayguy35 · 18-03-2012 03:10PM #1

Not trying to be morbid or anything but just said i would make a thread for those of us who no longer have that special person who was always there for us through good times and bad. RIP mam thinking of you.

18-03-2012 03:13PM

Tough day indeed

The shops full of Mother's Day cards for the last while make me sad at times.

Freddie59 · 18-03-2012 03:16PM

Galwayguy35 wrote: »

Not trying to be morbid or anything but just said i would make a thread for those of us who no longer have that special person who was always there for us through good times and bad. RIP mam thinking of you.

Indeed. May they Rest In Peace.

bogs · 18-03-2012 03:22PM

Yes indeed and to my Mother who is no longer with us.May she RIP.Happy Mothers Day

jimmi10 · 18-03-2012 03:28PM

It is a very sad day indeed, my mother passed away just under 6 years ago. Still am very upset. RIP

Crann na Beatha · 18-03-2012 04:03PM

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df1985 · 18-03-2012 04:47PM

Tough day for a lot of people,i miss her more than anything.

not yet · 18-03-2012 04:54PM

Ditto...although we never seen eye to eye I never thought I'd miss her so much. thinking of you today ma.

18-03-2012 05:07PM

Being upset and missing your Mum is a testament to her I think.

murpho999 · 18-03-2012 05:08PM

Nice thread.

My mam passed away in January and I'm still coming to terms with it.

Not a nice day today!

All I can say is enjoy and value your parents while you have them.

Praetorian Saighdiuir · 18-03-2012 05:08PM

Happy Mothers Day mum, just wish I had made more of an effort when you were around. Love always.

Ellis Dee · 18-03-2012 05:11PM

Mine just closed her eyes and died of heart failure on a lovely sunny St. Patrick's Day 23 years ago.

No pain, no suffering; she was only 65 and in full possession of her faculties. Best way to go if you have to, but I still miss her.

py2006 · 18-03-2012 05:12PM

When you loose your mum, you loose a large part of yourself.

Happy Mothers Day mum! :-(

Toby Take a Bow · 18-03-2012 05:30PM

Spent most of today trying to focus on other things and not think about it.

Didn't work though.

Dudess · 18-03-2012 06:23PM

I'm lucky enough to still have her, but I was thinking about how difficult today must be for so many.

Ellis Dee wrote: »

Mine just closed her eyes and died of heart failure on a lovely sunny St. Patrick's Day 23 years ago.

No pain, no suffering; she was only 65 and in full possession of her faculties. Best way to go if you have to, but I still miss her.

Feck, that's especially poignant this weekend. She was awfully young too.

All the best to those who lost their mam too soon...

bleg · 18-03-2012 06:27PM

Very sad thread. Had to ring the mammy and tell her I love her.

Madam · 18-03-2012 06:30PM

Toby Take a Bow wrote: »

Spent most of today trying to focus on other things and not think about it.

Didn't work though.

Thats how I feel too, even though my mum hated things like mothers day, no presents or cards for her or you'd get a tongue lashing:) She would however accept anything for her garden, which in her eyes was acceptable. Miss her like hell today.

wush06 · 18-03-2012 06:37PM

If tears could build a stairway and memories build a lane,
I'd walk right up to heaven,
and bring you home again.

Miss you more then ever mam.

dueaug · 18-03-2012 07:03PM

Thanks for the opportunity. Love and miss you Mam every day not just today. xoxoxo

Dermighty · 18-03-2012 07:20PM

My mother died 10 years ago, I don't feel any sadness for the last few years, just distant memories really.

CarMe · 18-03-2012 07:25PM

My mam died in June, 11 days after i gave birth to her first grandchild. The doctors said she wouldn't be here to meet her but she held on. This day last year, i remember not having a clue what to buy for her considering she was dying so i got her champagne and a lovely nightdress and robe etc because she was always afraid of ending up in the hospice in raggy jammies. She was delighted and we had a great day.
It's mad how these days seem so manufactured but they really are great reference points, i couldn't tell you what we did tomorrow a year ago but i can remember every mothers day vividly so i think it's important to always make these days special because you'll always have the memories.

Thanks for this thread.x

fox_1973 · 18-03-2012 07:28PM

happy mothers day mum, today i really feel guilty for all those years i never made a fuss on mothers day, how i wish i could have them all back again now xx

Mickey Lover · 18-03-2012 07:31PM

Nearly seven years now and just wish I could have a hug off my Mammy and for her to have gotten time to meet her grandchildren

stupidusername · 18-03-2012 07:56PM

My mam died at 47,i can't help when I hear someone dying at 70 or so that at least they had that much time.

CarMe · 18-03-2012 08:03PM

stupidusername wrote: »

My mam died at 47,i can't help when I hear someone dying at 70 or so that at least they had that much time.

My mam was young too, it makes no sense. My daughters other nanny is brilliant but i always feel guilty that my mam got none of the fun with her etc.

Eve_Dublin · 18-03-2012 08:26PM

Thanks for starting this thread. Generally try my best to ignore this day but when I realise it is, I'm reminded of her. 21 years ago now. She was only 48. I miss her more as an adult than I ever did. I miss you mam. RIP.

steddyeddy · 18-03-2012 08:34PM

Madam wrote: »

Thats how I feel too, even though my mum hated things like mothers day, no presents or cards for her or you'd get a tongue lashing She would however accept anything for her garden, which in her eyes was acceptable. Miss her like hell today.

Thats a typical Irish mammy!

Toby Take a Bow · 18-03-2012 08:38PM

CarMe wrote: »

My mam died in June, 11 days after i gave birth to her first grandchild. The doctors said she wouldn't be here to meet her but she held on. This day last year, i remember not having a clue what to buy for her considering she was dying so i got her champagne and a lovely nightdress and robe etc because she was always afraid of ending up in the hospice in raggy jammies. She was delighted and we had a great day.
It's mad how these days seem so manufactured but they really are great reference points, i couldn't tell you what we did tomorrow a year ago but i can remember every mothers day vividly so i think it's important to always make these days special because you'll always have the memories.

Thanks for this thread.x

That's strange (or maybe not): very similar circumstances with mine. She was given a time period that would mean she wouldn't meet her first granddaughter. She did (thankfully) and even managed (just about) to attend her christening, which meant so, so much to her.

Also had a very similar experience in that she always insisted (right up to the end) of looking absolutely fantastic in good clothes and makeup despite being confined to a hospital for the last month or so.

Thanks OP for the thread, although it's done just about the opposite of me trying to forget what day it was. Maybe that's not such a bad thing.

meercat · 18-03-2012 08:43PM

thanks mam
i know you are still looking out for us

Mickey Lover · 18-03-2012 08:56PM

stupidusername wrote: »

My mam died at 47,i can't help when I hear someone dying at 70 or so that at least they had that much time.

Same boat here as well - mine was only gone 46 and had kids aged 4 and 7, 20 and 25. She held on until the youngest started school. Although I understand where you're coming from about feeling robbed - I think no matter what age it's a terrible loss to lose your Mammy. I suppose when someone lives into their 80's you could say that they had a 'full' life but just reminds us how fleeting life is and none of knows what's around the corner.
Think my biggest lesson learned was to make the effort more to appreciate people who you truly value in your life and who you love. I will always miss her but it does help to know we were great friends (once I got over my teenage years

)

18-03-2012 09:24PM

Lost Mam a year and half ago, very suddenly.

Today was hard. very hard. Wish I had her here to spoil.

This thread is nice.

Remembering the mothers who are no longer with us

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