Old School Parenting v New School Parenting

slum dog wrote: »

I was having a dicussion with a work colleague recently. He told me at home, that out of principle he would never cook dinner. In his opinion, he said that this was a woman's role and that he would never do it. After his wife died, he raised his kids to do the same, presumably his female kids.

In contrast to this, I was watching the midday show on tv3 which i normally do, and after watching the militant feminist (who never seems to shut her mouth for one second about the evils of irish men) she said that she was not going to raise her son to be another 'lazy irish man', and would frog march him to the washing machine if clothes ever needed to be cleaned.
Personally i find her opinions of irish men generally offensive, since i wouldnt consider myself a lazy irishman.

who would you be more inclined to agree with? personally i think if they're your kids, you have the right the raise them anyway you want, regardless of what society demands of people.

I'm going to raise mine on the premise that if they watch TV3 they die. Like in The Ring. That way they won't be watching ****e like dogging and idiot feminists.

I was just fed junk when I was growing up. I won't lie, I'm a moron, and cooking is a scary task if you don't know how. It's one of those things people who can do it take for granted and think it's simple. Sure, why can't anyone complete complex theoretical equations? Lots of people can manage it!

The variables in cooking are many. My oven, for example, is a piece of sh!t. I'm doing my best to try and learn, but it gets to a point where you burn your food so many times you're just wasting money, and there's only so much vomiting you can really take (Or stomach, hurr hurr hurr). A friend showing me how to cook told me to skin a potato. I was holding it all awkward and couldn't get it to work. That's my own stupidity, but it's aggravated by fear I'm gonna fuck up so I don't try. When people say "What? You're how old and you can't cook?" it makes you feel small and only compounds those feelings. Fun Fact: Negative reinforcement is only to the benefit of the enforcer.

I'm trying now, and it's hard.

You're offended that someone doesn't want their son to be lazy. I know there are a lot of people who have an issue with me because of my gender and think everyone of this gender is ______ if you get that offended by every ignorant so and so you'll have no energy left to cook or clean eh.

And you don't have the right to raise them anyway you want, of course you can go against what society deems acceptable as long as it is of the best interest of the child and they have a choice.

From what I've seen that kind of household largely doesn't exist anymore, we don't live in a society where the men work in an industry and the women stay at home so why would we raise kids to only fit those roles because of their gender, you son will have to cook for himself and your daughters will have to find work married or not.

There is just something really sad about the father who comes home from a hard days work and sits on his own waiting for his dinner because he provides money he doesn't have time for anything else and just wishes the house would be clean and he would be left alone by his family, that is my impression of this old school ideal, and maybe not that extreme but the father figure is at least limited and cut off from family life mentally more so than not having enough hours in the week.

I am a **** cook and I wish I couild prepare fom damn decent stuff. Really. No excuse, no sexism, my Dad did courses in Italian and Chiniese food. Coudl cook an amazing fry-up to, that man. So where was I?

Yes. Cooking. teach your kids to cook. teach your kids to love good food. They'l lthank you for it later, be they boy or girl.