people who dont thank you for being nice

Immaculate Pasta · 03-03-2012 02:05AM

dj jarvis wrote: »

im not doing it from my " heart " , doing it it from my social responsibility to try not to be a prick - again why not be nice ?, even at a basic level

what do you gain being a asshole - dont get it

Oh all sorts my friend. Self-amusement is the main one I guess. I also have got some degree of satisfaction that I have wound someone up. But most of all it amuses me the endless supply of the number of eejits who come on After Hours to rant about nonsensical and banal things who then expect serious responses. After Hours is not the place to be if you want a serious discussion. What did you really hope to gain from posting this on a public forum at 1 in the morning I wonder? People to agree with you? Reassurance? Lively, intellectual debate? Please.

:cool:

darlett · 03-03-2012 02:07AM

Donnelly117 wrote: »

the only thing i hate more then this is people clapping after the film ends in the cinema...its just fu***** re******

Oh come on its a good thing to do, inside, many celebrity worlds away Peter Jackson gets an inexplicable feeling of warmness when you put those hands together.

dj jarvis · 03-03-2012 02:13AM

Immaculate Pasta wrote: »

Oh all sorts my friend. Self-amusement is the main one I guess. I also have got some degree of satisfaction that I have wound someone up. But most of all it amuses me the endless supply of the number of eejits who come on After Hours to rant about nonsensical and banal things who then expect serious responses. After Hours is not the place to be if you want a serious discussion. What did you really hope to gain from posting this on a public forum at 1 in the morning I wonder? People to agree with you? Reassurance? Lively, intellectual debate? Please.

:cool:

sorry but im not a noob on AH and was full aware the posts i was going to get , but after i trawl past the usual smart arse comments i might ,just might get a funny and intelligent answer to a simple question

i understand in AH the range on ****e i have to wade into might put most off, but sometimes you do get some genuinely enlightening responses

but thanks for fitting the profile perfectly ......

Mickey H · 03-03-2012 02:19AM

black francis wrote: »

Arseholes derive a certain amount of pleasure from being arseholes.

It's the main reason they're arseholes.

Sometimes when I see extreme arseholery at work, I wonder to myself: "Were these people born arseholes or did they have to work really hard at it?"

Babybuff · 03-03-2012 02:29AM

Thanks for being nice op

Biggins · 03-03-2012 12:55PM

dj jarvis wrote: »

so , you know the score , you hold open the door , allow them out in traffic , you say good day or thank you and ........ zilch nada nothing

is it just me or i this just rude and bad manners ? or is it me being 2 sensitive ?

bugs the crap out of me

It would be nice if a person was thanked.
However if I hold a door open etc, I do it to be helpful, not for self-gratification or validation of my personal worth in expecting a thanks.
I do it (often) to be nice to a fellow human being, thats all.

WoollyRedHat · 03-03-2012 01:00PM

Chivalry is dead, it's with O'Leary in the grave

If I hold the door for someone, it's not hard to say thanks. One word, an excelling of air, I mean really.

44leto · 03-03-2012 01:04PM

I usually nut them and beat them up for not being polite, It teaches them a lesson, they will thank people from there on in.

I am such a nice person.

It wasn't me! · 03-03-2012 01:05PM

It's weird. I always hold the door for whoever's behind me, and I don't typically see other people fail to do so, and think nothing of it. The other day, however, I held the door for someone coming behind me and she stopped short, looked surprised, as if this wasn't normal. She smiled and said thank you, and it kinda occurred to me then that most people don't do that. I know I do, out of habit. That Ali quote kinda rings true to me there.

jaffacakesyum · 03-03-2012 01:18PM

I honestly don't get why people get annoyed if someone doesn't thank or acknowledge them. Who cares?!!

As has been said already, it's nice to be nice. Couldn't give a flying fuck if someone acknowledges something as trivial as me holding a door open for them. I do it out of common courtesy and to be polite/nice, not to stroke my ego.

RachaelVO · 03-03-2012 01:21PM

It doesn't have to be classified as being nice, it's common courtesy.

Someone holds the door just say fecking well thanks, they didn't have to hold it open...

If someone is serving you, even if they're being paid, say thanks, it can make a long shift seem a bit easier.

Swear to christ, my 3 and 5 year old have better manners than a lot of adults I've met. My granny used to be very rude to waiting staff, I was always mortified when she did it. She was short of snapping her fingers at them. I reckon there were times when she got more than she ordered!

It wasn't me! · 03-03-2012 01:26PM

It just doesn't take any effort to make the lives of those around you a little more pleasant really. For that reason, I'm still going to hold doors and stop lifts for running people and the like, but by the same token, getting a smile or a thanks in return isn't too bad. Just kinda oils up the mechanism of the social contract really.

cloptrop · 03-03-2012 01:29PM

I think the op secretely hates the fact he has to carry on with these customs . And this is why it upsets him so much. I hold doors open all the time. Some people sy thanks some dont. Some are nice people some are dicks. I dont get offended , its not a personal insult their mothers just never thought them manners.

grindle · 03-03-2012 01:54PM

Immaculate Pasta wrote: »

After Hours is not the place to be if you want a serious discussion. What did you really hope to gain from posting this on a public forum at 1 in the morning I wonder? People to agree with you? Reassurance? Lively, intellectual debate? Please.

Haha, look at you, imagining you're on reddit or 4chan.
After Hours isn't the sadistic shïthole people like you imagine it to be, y'know?

RachaelVO · 03-03-2012 01:55PM

grindle wrote: »

Haha, look at you, imagining you're on reddit or 4chan.
After Hours isn't the sadistic ****hole people like you imagine it to be, y'know?

Sure it is!

grindle · 03-03-2012 01:58PM

RachaelVO wrote: »

Sure it is!

Wishful thinking. AH is a bit nudge-nudge, wink-wink, but I've yet to see a constant stream of people who've had their lives ruined by it.

RachaelVO · 03-03-2012 02:01PM

grindle wrote: »

Wishful thinking. AH is a bit nudge-nudge, wink-wink, but I've yet to see a constant stream of people who've had their lives ruined by it.

I know, I probably should have hit the sarcy smilie. There are times when I want to get a poster and b1tch slap a poster upside the head, but once the ars3holery dies down on a serious topic it can be very lively!

ToddyDoody · 03-03-2012 02:02PM

cloptrop wrote: »

I think the op secretely hates the fact he has to carry on with these customs . And this is why it upsets him so much. I hold doors open all the time. Some people sy thanks some dont.

I think you may be right. I know i do small stuff like hold doors etc and whether or not i'm thanked makes no difference. I do admit to being once annoyed at not being thanked nicely enough for parting with two precious euros for charity.. would like to hope i've loosened up on the stinginess a bit since!

Squ · 03-03-2012 02:13PM

Was driving up a narrow lane, pulled in when saw a car coming maybe 100 yds ahead.. and waited.

Yer wan crawled along and past me, never so much as looked in my direction. I had more than half a mind to go after her and tear the skin off her face and feed it to her kids.

dj jarvis · 03-03-2012 03:49PM

cloptrop wrote: »

I think the op secretely hates the fact he has to carry on with these customs . And this is why it upsets him so much. I hold doors open all the time. Some people sy thanks some dont. Some are nice people some are dicks. I dont get offended , its not a personal insult their mothers just never thought them manners.

nothing of the sort - i find being mannerly and courteous a big plus in life , takes NO effort and spreads the good vibe to the masses

my point was why do some people just ignore this gesture , it takes no effort to respond , not that i REALLY care if i get one or not
it has nothing to do with ego stroking or the like

why would you not respond in kind when somebody obviously went out of their way to be nice to you - not looking for thanks - just don't get it

i definitely DON'T get offended - i just wonder why

Sunnyisland · 03-03-2012 04:41PM

Its nice to be nice :-) Thank you for reading this.

Big Nasty · 03-03-2012 04:47PM

Ryan06 wrote: »

Is the hazard lights being a thanks button an Irish thing I wonder, like the clapping when the plane lands?

It's a trucker thing, only it's become to mainstream for truckers now so they twiddle their indicator stalk one way then the other instead.

Moral of the story? Truckers are scene dudes.

44leto · 03-03-2012 04:47PM

realies wrote: »

Its nice to be nice :-) Thank you for reading this.

No problem but don't make a nuisance of yourself and post to much.:D

Diabhal Beag · 03-03-2012 07:28PM

When you do a nice thing for somebody you don't do it to feel good, you just want to know you did something nice that was appreciated by somebody who you hope would do the same in return. You don't want to think you did a good deed that wasted on a dickhead.

Minstrel27 · 03-03-2012 07:38PM

Ryan06 wrote: »

Is the hazard lights being a thanks button an Irish thing I wonder, like the clapping when the plane lands?

Clapping on a plane isn't exclusive to Irish people.

darlett · 04-03-2012 12:25AM

Minstrel27 wrote: »

Clapping on a plane isn't exclusive to Irish people.

I thought it was mostly an american thing which we only ever aped in a sarcastic manner to highlight the absurdity of supposedly having our expectations exceeded by not crashing. I never thought it was an Irish thing.

But the question about the hazards still remains...is it at all international? The first time I received the hazards for letting someone out at a busy junction I nearly flipped. I thought the implication was that I was a hazard driver in the opinion of the driver Id let go. Luckily I had a passenger explain that this was a simple courtesy.

hondasam · 04-03-2012 12:35AM

darlett wrote: »

But the question about the hazards still remains...is it at all international? The first time I received the hazards for letting someone out at a busy junction I nearly flipped. I thought the implication was that I was a hazard driver in the opinion of the driver Id let go. Luckily I had a passenger explain that this was a simple courtesy.

I dunno if it's an international thing, same if you move over to let someone pass you they flash the hazards as a thank you and you flash your lights to acknowledge it.

Dostoevsky · 04-03-2012 12:37AM

dj jarvis wrote: »

that is the bit i dont get - how do you get pleasure from being something most people dislike ?
strange to me - who would actively befriend a asshole ?
why would you want to be a asshole - it has no benefits

Because it's easier for their ego if they reject other people before they are rejected by them?

Mountainlad · 04-03-2012 12:59AM

I do agree generally with what you're saying OP, though I do have some qualms about people feeling entitled to be thanked for doing something they're obliged to do.

Example:

I crosse the road at a pedestrian crossing one day, a car full of young lads stopped. I sometimes do salute people for stopping just out of habit I guess from saluting passing cars when I'd be walking at home, but didn't this time. One of them shouted back sarcastically as they passed 'Your welcome'. I'm sorry but I don't have to thank people for obeying the law, like I'm not gonna thank people for putting stuff in the bin instead of throwing it on the ground.

I recognise that is not what you're saying though, just some people are like that.

cloptrop · 04-03-2012 01:57AM

hondasam wrote: »

I dunno if it's an international thing, same if you move over to let someone pass you they flash the hazards as a thank you and you flash your lights to acknowledge it.

Maybe they are just busy concentrating on the road and not your feelings

people who dont thank you for being nice

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