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The myth of "give them a few digs and that'll learn 'em"

  • 22-02-2012 04:27AM
    #1
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 19,646 ✭✭✭✭


    So, having read threads on scumbags (and one recently posted), the old chestnut came out to play:

    "So i'm being intimidated by a known scumbag in my area........."

    "Just walk up to them, give them a few smacks and they'll never bother you again. They're like school bullies!".

    I'd love to know how people can actually believe this rubbish! Yes, that is what you are told when you are a kid and are dealing with another bully kid! This kid is probably insecure and his insecurity probably comes out in the form of bullying. Show him you're tough and he might not wanna bother you.

    But 21st Century scumbags are NOT school bullies. They are knife carrying, gun-totting, drug snorting scum of the earth! The last thing they're gonna stand for is being embarrassed by a guy they've tried to intimidate!

    Why do people think that by standing up to these guys with their fists that will stop it? You hit them, they come back with a bat. You have a bat, they come back with a knife and that's how these scum bags work.

    I understand a man's need to beat his chest and stand his ground. But does anyone REALLY believe that giving them a slap is really the end of things?


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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 2,828 ✭✭✭Reamer Fanny


    Nuke 'em


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,762 ✭✭✭jive


    i have it figured out

    you hit them and they come back with a bat
    you have a bat and they come back with a knife

    so here's the solution:
    you hit them and they come back with a bat
    you have a gun and they come back with a knife
    - good night sweet prince


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 946 ✭✭✭Hasmunch


    No beacuse they know if they try and burn down your house or beat you up/ harm you that they will get off lightly if not scot free in court (if they get caught).
    So there is no fear stopping them from doing anything major back to you.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 19,646 ✭✭✭✭MrStuffins


    Domo230 wrote: »
    Yes

    They'll know not to mess with you.

    Why is this? Lest you punch them again?


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 11,298 ✭✭✭✭later12


    MrStuffins wrote: »
    S
    I understand a man's need to beat his chest and stand his ground. But does anyone REALLY believe that giving them a slap is really the end of things?
    Sometimes yes.

    You seem to be confusing scumbags with hardened criminals.

    I'm opposed to this sort of violence, & I don't get into fights. But it would be naive to suggest it cannot resolve these small town, personal animosities to the point where bringing things to a head can at least end the ongoing threat of violence.

    It's not a very clever solution, but it can be a solution.



    I mean didn't you ever watch the OC?:pac:


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 946 ✭✭✭Hasmunch


    Lets get an old fashioned lynching going.... grabs pitchfork.. whos with me?


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 19,646 ✭✭✭✭MrStuffins


    later12 wrote: »
    You seem to be confusing scumbags with hardened criminals.

    No i'm really not. Since when are hardended criminals not scumbags and scumbags necessarily not criminals?


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 5,059 ✭✭✭Sindri


    Run 'em over in a car. They won't see that coming. :)

    Ye have to be unanticipated ye see. ;)


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 19,646 ✭✭✭✭MrStuffins


    Sindri wrote: »
    Run 'em over in a car. They won't see that coming. :)

    Unless they're facing you while you drive at them............


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 5,059 ✭✭✭Sindri


    Vrrrrrrroooooooooooooommmmmmmm, Neeeaahhhh, eeeeeeeeeehhhhh, *you*

    Tra lalalala *scumbag*


    Vrrroooommmmmmm, *you*


    Tralalalla, lalalala :) *scumbag*



    Neeeahhhhh, eeeeeeeeeehhhh, BOOOOOMMMM! *tumble tumble bumble*

    Aaahhhhhh! MY LEGS! *scumbag* :)

    *reverse* *repeat*


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 19,646 ✭✭✭✭MrStuffins


    Sindri wrote: »
    Vrrrrrrroooooooooooooommmmmmmm, Neeeaahhhh, eeeeeeeeeehhhhh, *you*

    Tra lalalala *scumbag*


    Vrrroooommmmmmm, *you*


    Tralalalla, lalalala :) *scumbag*



    Neeeahhhhh, eeeeeeeeeehhhh, BOOOOOMMMM! *tumble tumble bumble*

    Aaahhhhhh! MY LEGS! *scumbag* :)

    *reverse* *repeat*

    Martin McCaughy.... is that you?


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 75 ✭✭Jake187


    MrStuffins wrote: »
    I understand a man's need to beat his chest and stand his ground. But does anyone REALLY believe that giving them a slap is really the end of things?

    Depends on what kind of person the scumbag is. If he is all talk, by letting him have it, its more likely to make him stop any further crap. Cause its all bluff with him.
    But, as you mentioned, on the flip side, alot of utter scum out there more than ever. By telling someone to "fu*k off" can warrant a bat across the head.


    But ultimately you cant take it up the arse from someone either. You have to stand your ground at times. I think its just situational.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 5,059 ✭✭✭Sindri


    MrStuffins wrote: »
    Martin McCaughy.... is that you?

    Only twice?

    You greatly diminish my extraordinary talent for running people over sir.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 11,298 ✭✭✭✭later12


    MrStuffins wrote: »
    Since when are hardended criminals not scumbags
    Oh they are
    and scumbags necessarily not criminals?
    Scumbags are not necessarily hardened criminals in most people's estimation, I would suggest. I did say hardened, too.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 2,432 ✭✭✭willmunny1990


    Jake187 wrote: »
    Depends on what kind of person the scumbag is. If he is all talk, by letting him have it, its more likely to make him stop any further crap. Cause its all bluff with him.
    But, as you mentioned, on the flip side, alot of utter scum out there more than ever. By telling someone to "fu*k off" can warrant a bat across the head.


    But ultimately you cant take it up the arse from someone either. You have to stand your ground at times. While being smart. Its situational.

    If someone thinks that you're looking at them the wrong way you can get a bat across the head these days.

    Scumbags are winning out because society and our justice system is too lenient on them.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 279 ✭✭Captain Morgan Freeman


    MrStuffins wrote: »
    No i'm really not. Since when are hardended criminals not scumbags and scumbags necessarily not criminals?

    He's not saying they aren't he was just using both terms as a way of differentiating between both types of people.

    The most you will get off most "scumbags" is a few punches.

    A "hardened criminal" is more likely to send you to A&E from knife wounds.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 75 ✭✭Jake187


    The most you will get off most "scumbags" is a few punches. A "hardened criminal" is more likely to send you to A&E from knife wounds.

    Actually both would stab you these days.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 19,646 ✭✭✭✭MrStuffins


    He's not saying they aren't he was just using both terms as a way of differentiating between both types of people.

    The most you will get off most "scumbags" is a few punches.


    A "hardened criminal" is more likely to send you to A&E from knife wounds.


    Pretty dangerous assumption to make. You don;t know the scumbags that I do obviously!


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 4,725 ✭✭✭charlemont


    Wear a balaclava then bust em'.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 5,059 ✭✭✭Sindri


    I know a few. Some would be dangerous enough now, ye'd have to be very careful, cut your losses while ye can, others on the other hand are just utter gob****es. One or two would have a few slaps coming to 'em, and deservedly so I should add.


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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 4,725 ✭✭✭charlemont


    If someone thinks that you're looking at them the wrong way you can get a bat across the head these days.

    Scumbags are winning out because society and our justice system is too lenient on them.

    Thats because our system is about keeping the money flowing !!! Your safety has nothing to do with it, Sure don't you know Gardaí, Judges and solicitors tend to live in relatively crime free areas.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 11,298 ✭✭✭✭later12


    charlemont wrote: »
    Sure don't you know Gardaí, Judges and solicitors tend to live in relatively crime free areas.
    I think this is a strong and a valid point. This is largely an issue of inequality, and pertains to the removal of which public representatives and some members of the legal professions feel from the lower working classes. Unfortunately this is a fact of modern life.

    Unfortunately, most people also think that liberal pinkos (and I include myself in that) are opposed to long stints in prison. Not necessarily so.

    But when these guys get into the state's custody, we must learn to do something with them,not simply treat them as though they were in a standing pen at Nenagh Mart. That old (almost 200 year old) aspiration of creating schools of industry and schools of virtue from the prisons must be realized. And this must correspond with stricter sentencing if necessary.

    Society is very sick at the moment, we cannot carry on as we are doing, and yet, unfortunately, prisoners' needs are unlikely to be a relevant issue in this country within the next 50 years (i.e. our lifetime)


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,573 ✭✭✭pragmatic1


    later12 wrote: »
    Unfortunately, most people also think that liberal pinkos (and I include myself in that) are opposed to long stints in prison. Not necessarily so.

    Same as myself. My bleeding heart turns to stone when it comes to scumbags. One thing about the ra, when they were around in Belfast there was very little anti-social behaviour.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 4,296 ✭✭✭Frank Black


    When I was in Primary School I was getting bullied by another kid.
    When I mentioned it to my Grandad he said that the next time this kid came up to me I should punch him in the nose.

    Now I was young and impressionable and tended to take adults at their word, so the next day when this kid approached me, I barely waited for him to open his mouth before I punched him as hard as I could in the nose.
    His nose started bleeding and he ran off in shock. He told the teacher that I had hit him.
    My parents got called in and I was made apologise to him.
    Ended up getting in a load of **** with my parents (but probably not as much as my Grandad when they found out what he'd told me to do).

    But - the bully always gave me a wide berth in future.

    TBH, this approach would probably not work on a fully grown scumbag, and I'm lucky that I've never been in a similar situation since.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 12,395 ✭✭✭✭mikemac1


    If there's one thing I've learned off boards this month it's if you retaliate against a scumbag they take you to court and sue you for the price of a house and then the DPP takes you to court and treats you like a criminal

    Oh to be back on the school playground when rules were simpler


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,583 ✭✭✭mconigol


    Get Naked.

    I reckon that would deter most guys who consider themselves tough guys. I'd bet that most are probably extremely homophobic and would be more fearful of being seeing grappling with another man's bits dangling in their face than taking a punch.

    also I'm hideously ugly naked


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 3,922 ✭✭✭hooradiation


    mikemac1 wrote: »
    If there's one thing I've learned off boards this month it's if you retaliate against a scumbag they take you to court and sue you for the price of a house and then the DPP takes you to court and treats you like a criminal

    This is a prime example of why nobody should rely on boards to provide them with knowledge.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,583 ✭✭✭mconigol


    When I was in Primary School I was getting bullied by another kid.
    When I mentioned it to my Grandad he said that the next time this kid came up to me I should punch him in the nose.

    Now I was young and impressionable and tended to take adults at their word, so the next day when this kid approached me, I barely waited for him to open his mouth before I punched him as hard as I could in the nose.
    His nose started bleeding and he ran off in shock. He told the teacher that I had hit him.
    My parents got called in and I was made apologise to him.
    Ended up getting in a load of **** with my parents (but probably not as much as my Grandad when they found out what he'd told me to do).

    But - the bully always gave me a wide berth in future.

    TBH, this approach would probably not work on a fully grown scumbag, and I'm lucky that I've never been in a similar situation since.

    Sorry to burst your bubble but sounds like you were doing the bullying here :P


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,061 ✭✭✭benway


    later12 wrote: »
    charlemont wrote:
    If someone thinks that you're looking at them the wrong way you can get a bat across the head these days.

    Scumbags are winning out because society and our justice system is too lenient on them.
    Sure don't you know Gardaí, Judges and solicitors tend to live in relatively crime free areas.
    I think this is a strong and a valid point. This is largely an issue of inequality, and pertains to the removal of which public representatives and some members of the legal professions feel from the lower working classes. Unfortunately this is a fact of modern life.

    Unfortunately, most people also think that liberal pinkos (and I include myself in that) are opposed to long stints in prison. Not necessarily so.
    I think this is a strong and a valid point. This is largely an issue of inequality, and pertains to the removal of which public representatives and some members of the legal professions feel from the lower working classes. Unfortunately this is a fact of modern life.

    Unfortunately, most people also think that liberal pinkos (and I include myself in that) are opposed to long stints in prison. Not necessarily so.

    But when these guys get into the state's custody, we must learn to do something with them,not simply treat them as though they were in a standing pen at Nenagh Mart. That old (almost 200 year old) aspiration of creating schools of industry and schools of virtue from the prisons must be realized. And this must correspond with stricter sentencing if necessary.

    Society is very sick at the moment, we cannot carry on as we are doing, and yet, unfortunately, prisoners' needs are unlikely to be a relevant issue in this country within the next 50 years (i.e. our lifetime)
    There's a set of tacit assumptions tacit assumptions in there - that the system is somehow "soft" or "lenient", that "scumbags" as an identifiable group exists, and that the "liberal" workings of the system come down to a bleeding heart bias among Gardaí, legal professionals and the judiciary. If you'd spent any time in the criminal courts, you'd know that none of these are true.

    And, of course, there's that old chestnut that anyone who doesn't go in for hang 'em high is somehow cossetted away from the "real world". Personally, I live in north inner city Dublin, I'm from a dog rough midlands town, went to a dog-rough school, I have regular interactions with the criminal classes through work, and I have a masters in criminology ... but when it comes to crime, I'm supposedly the one who's detached from reality. :rolleyes:

    Because I still think that prisons don't work, the crime problem isn't as bad as it's made out to be, that the media skews peoples' perceptions, and that a lot of peoples' attitudes come down to plain, old fashioned snobbery.

    You are right that inequality is an issue, but not in the way you're putting it. Part of the problem is that "criminals" and "scumbags" have been set up in the media as one dimensional hate figures in our society, operating in the same way as Commmunists did for the Americans during Cold War. This is even more an issue in the neoliberal schema, where there's very little else left to believe in:
    Aeschylus wrote:
    unanimous hatred is the greatest medicine for a human community

    Fact is that prisoners' rights were more of an issue in the 80s, when the economic situation was equally bad to now. And even if prisons did become *ahem* schools of industry and virtue, I still don't think that prison will do a thing to reduce the crime rate. Some of you probably don't want to hear this, but there's strong evidence to show crime is a function of societal problems like social exclusion and deprivation, seems that the best way to reduce crime will be to work towards a fairer and more equal society.

    Personally, I think it's the keyboard warriors who need to get real - it's just unreasoning hate most of the time.

    OP, I agree to an extent, if you go picking a fight with a "scumbag", you're likely to get your head kicked in. But if there's one thing I've learned from boards in the past week, it's that internet tough guys love talking tough.


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,563 ✭✭✭connundrum


    "Send them to prison, that'll learn 'em"

    Fail.

    "Give them suspended sentences, that'll learn 'em"

    Fail.

    "Give their parents a strong talking to, that'll learn 'em"

    Fail.

    Has anyone tried giving them a hug?


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