Mr/Ms Right or Mr/Ms Right Now?

theneed2rock · 22-02-2012 01:34AM

Sauve wrote: »

I drunkenly made a pact with a friend one night years and years ago that if we hit 30 and were both single then we'd marry each other.
I wonder what'd happen if I called him out on it now? :pac:

Go for it...whats the worse that can happen...

The Mollusc · 22-02-2012 01:38AM

Sauve wrote: »

I drunkenly made a pact with a friend one night years and years ago that if we hit 30 and were both single then we'd marry each other.
I wonder what'd happen if I called him out on it now? :pac:

This has all the makings of a quality thread.

hattoncracker · 22-02-2012 01:38AM

I'd never settle, body clock or not.
I have a friend atm that's been with her bf a month, both knowingly having unprotected sex and now she's pregnant, and having their kid together. She already has one child that she doesn't have custody of, because she's unstable. They're both delighted.

If ever there was a case for a trip to the UK..

Sauve · 22-02-2012 01:42AM

The Mollusc wrote: »

This has all the makings of a quality thread.

Next time I see him I'll bring it up and see if he's still on for it.
Keep an eye out for upcoming 'getting married for the laugh' thread...
:pac:

22-02-2012 01:43AM

hattoncracker wrote: »

I'd never settle, body clock or not.
I have a friend atm that's been with her bf a month, both knowingly having unprotected sex and now she's pregnant, and having their kid together. She already has one child that she doesn't have custody of, because she's unstable. They're both delighted.

If ever there was a case for a trip to the UK..

Wow cant you be happy for them ??? Like wow and ur her friend !!

Sauve · 22-02-2012 01:44AM

hattoncracker wrote: »

knowingly having unprotected sex and now she's pregnant, and having their kid together. She already has one child that she doesn't have custody of, because she's unstable. They're both delighted.

If ever there was a case for a trip to the UK..

What has this got to do with the thread title?
It's not really your business what they decide to do with their baby...

44leto · 22-02-2012 01:45AM

hattoncracker wrote: »

I'd never settle, body clock or not.
I have a friend atm that's been with her bf a month, both knowingly having unprotected sex and now she's pregnant, and having their kid together. She already has one child that she doesn't have custody of, because she's unstable. They're both delighted.

If ever there was a case for a trip to the UK..

Holy sh*t, they sound like a delightful, mature and responsible couple.

Duiske · 22-02-2012 01:46AM

I met my OH when we were 16/17. Went out for a year then broke up and didn't see each for over twenty years. A friend gave her my number at a wedding 6 years ago. She called the next day, we went out that night and have been together since. Not married yet, but if I don't succumb to the 7 year itch, who knows !!

hattoncracker · 22-02-2012 02:07AM

44leto wrote: »

hattoncracker wrote: »

I'd never settle, body clock or not.
I have a friend atm that's been with her bf a month, both knowingly having unprotected sex and now she's pregnant, and having their kid together. She already has one child that she doesn't have custody of, because she's unstable. They're both delighted.

If ever there was a case for a trip to the UK..

Holy sh*t, they sound like a delightful, mature and responsible couple.

Yup... It is a case of Mr/Mrs Right Now.. And its relevance to this thread is that you can be as irresponsible as you want, but it's reckless to bring a child into it unless you're sure. It can be all fun and games until something like this happens.

hattoncracker · 22-02-2012 02:08AM

Ellie Large Groin wrote: »

hattoncracker wrote: »

I'd never settle, body clock or not.
I have a friend atm that's been with her bf a month, both knowingly having unprotected sex and now she's pregnant, and having their kid together. She already has one child that she doesn't have custody of, because she's unstable. They're both delighted.

If ever there was a case for a trip to the UK..

Wow cant you be happy for them ??? Like wow and ur her friend !!

And I will support her whatever she decides to do because she is my friend, naivety and all. But I don't have to agree with it. Her behavior is reckless.

Sauve · 22-02-2012 02:10AM

hattoncracker wrote: »

Yup... It is a case of Mr/Mrs Right Now.. And its relevance to this thread is that you can be as irresponsible as you want, but it's reckless to bring a child into it unless you're sure. It can be all fun and games until something like this happens.

The OP was enquiring about whirlwind romances and whether they can work out?
Not about irresponsibility, pregnancy, or fun and games.

22-02-2012 02:11AM

Facepalm ! How do you know that child wont be loved ? Cherished? Maybe she has learned from her past ?i hope they make it and have the child and are happy

hattoncracker · 22-02-2012 02:15AM

Sauve wrote: »

hattoncracker wrote: »

Yup... It is a case of Mr/Mrs Right Now.. And its relevance to this thread is that you can be as irresponsible as you want, but it's reckless to bring a child into it unless you're sure. It can be all fun and games until something like this happens.

The OP was enquiring about whirlwind romances and whether they can work out?
Not about irresponsibility, pregnancy, or fun and games.

You cant get more whirlwind than that.

But if it works fair play to them.. Some people it works for, some people it doesn't.. It depends on the situation , people can b genuinely right for eachother.

44leto · 22-02-2012 02:16AM

Ellie Large Groin wrote: »

Facepalm ! How do you know that child wont be loved ? Cherished? Maybe she has learned from her past ?i hope they make it and have the child and are happy

So would we all. but the chances seem slim, first, they only met a month ago and they are having unprotected sex and the girl has a record of I am assuming other bad decisions.

So if I was a gambling man the odds are stacked up for an unhappy outcome.

bfocusd · 22-02-2012 02:21AM

hattoncracker wrote: »

I'd never settle, body clock or not.
I have a friend atm that's been with her bf a month, both knowingly having unprotected sex and now she's pregnant, and having their kid together. She already has one child that she doesn't have custody of, because she's unstable. They're both delighted.

If ever there was a case for a trip to the UK..

It may well be completely reckless or be a concious decision between them, but at the end if the day it's her life, the relationship is moving very fast, a month is nothing, but it doesn't give anyone the right to say she should abort her baby, the relationship could (hopefully) blossom and develop or fail completely, but I just hope she doesn't fall into the same trend as previously, for the sake of the child

hattoncracker · 22-02-2012 02:35AM

bfocusd wrote: »

It may well be completely reckless or be a concious decision between them, but at the end if the day it's her life, the relationship is moving very fast, a month is nothing, but it doesn't give anyone the right to say she should abort her baby, the relationship could (hopefully) blossom and develop or fail completely, but I just hope she doesn't fall into the same trend as previously, for the sake of the child

I'm not getting into a pro-life debate about this because it's off topic, I made a smart comment. I would never say that to her because I know she wants to keep it, if she changed her mind I'd support her, if she changed it back and forth fifteen bajillion times I'd support her. She's my friend and that's what friends do.

I really hope it works out too, he's way nicer than the guy she was going out with last year, and he worships her. I will have to give him the 'talk' though, just to make sure he's good to her!

johnr1 · 22-02-2012 02:48AM

hattoncracker wrote: »

I'm not getting into a pro-life debate about this because it's off topic, I made a smart comment. I would never say that to her because I know she wants to keep it, if she changed her mind I'd support her, if she changed it back and forth fifteen bajillion times I'd support her. She's my friend and that's what friends do.

I really hope it works out too, he's way nicer than the guy she was going out with last year, and he worships her. I will have to give him the 'talk' though, just to make sure he's good to her!

Forget that idea as fast as you thought of it.

A really good mate of mine got together with an absolute goldigging slag who had openly cheated on every fella she had been with.

I decided in my youth and wisdom to "have a talk with her". About fidelity, him being a very good friend, revenge, wrath, nice stuff like that.

The clown married her, tbh she more or less told him to, and fast forward a few years, we dont talk, he has no friends, she cheats away goodo.

Best left.

.

Sindri · 22-02-2012 04:32AM

This is her for me.

And this too.

The voice of an angel.

ash23 · 22-02-2012 11:33AM

personally I think as people get older they become more aware of what they want and what they value in a relationship.
And if they meet someone who fulfills those needs, who they get on well with and are able to tolerate living with, then happy days for them.

My criteria now is very different to what it was 10 years ago and I know exactly what I want in a relationship now so if I find it I'll go for it.

cynder · 22-02-2012 11:53AM

Met my husband when i was 17 back in 97. Now in our early 30s are our friends now getting married / having kids and some are still single, depends on the person. my brother is 33 and has been in 3 long term relationships since the age of 16 but has been single for the last 2 years.

TBH i dont think he will ever get married, maybe live with someone for a few years but not get married.

I also had a cousin who got married at 22 and divorced the guy after 6 months even though they had dated for 3 years, she is 36 now and still single.

Gmol · 22-02-2012 12:17PM

We had a whirlpool romance getting engaged after 1 month, Mrs GMol now has a Whirlpool washing machine

curlzy · 22-02-2012 12:19PM

I think you can totally know that someone is the person for you in a very short amont of time. But, I also think there are alot of people that get married bacause they're running out of time, as they see it. Hard to tell from outside a relationship what's going on, only the people in it ever really know.

MadYaker · 22-02-2012 12:53PM

I can never understand this idea that there is ONE person out there who is meant for me and nobody else will do. You hear people saying "he's the one" or "she's the one" but its a load of bollix. If it were true and there was only 1 person out there that each of us could truely love and spend the rest of our lives with then we'd all be screwed and destined to life of loneliness! There are 7 billion people on this planet so the odds of you finding "the one" are extremely small.

ash23 · 22-02-2012 12:57PM

MadYaker wrote: »

I can never understand this idea that there is ONE person out there who is meant for me and nobody else will do. You hear people saying "he's the one" or "she's the one" but its a load of bollix. If it were true and there was only 1 person out there that each of us could truely love and spend the rest of our lives with then we'd all be screwed and destined to life of loneliness! There are 7 billion people on this planet so the odds of you finding "the one" are extremely small.

When people (well meaning) harp on about me knowing when I meet "the one" or that "the one" is out there for me I always say "yes, and what a coincidence when people meet "the one" in the local pub/club. What were the chances that of the billions of people in the world that your "one" happened to be propping up the bar down the road from your house".
:rolleyes:

foxyboxer · 22-02-2012 01:13PM

There is no such thing as The One.

"I'm 32, you'll do"

Frank Black · 22-02-2012 01:40PM

MadYaker wrote: »

I can never understand this idea that there is ONE person out there who is meant for me and nobody else will do. You hear people saying "he's the one" or "she's the one" but its a load of bollix. If it were true and there was only 1 person out there that each of us could truely love and spend the rest of our lives with then we'd all be screwed and destined to life of loneliness! There are 7 billion people on this planet so the odds of you finding "the one" are extremely small.

Most people would view it as a turn of phrase than take it in the literally sense.

I can see you aren't one of those people so you can read it as 'one of the ones' instead.

Apologies for any confusion caused.

WindSock · 22-02-2012 07:20PM

I think as you get older you're happy enough to settle with someone who pisses you off the least instead of looking hopelessly like a goon for the magic and candy flavoured fireworks most perfect person in the world, ever.

Although I have noticed a few people do 'panic buy' when they are in their 30's. They are left with the last can of creamed corn on the shelves instead of waiting for the next shipment of delicious jellied eels.

stupidusername · 22-02-2012 07:27PM

WindSock wrote: »

I think as you get older you're happy enough to settle with someone who pisses you off the least instead of looking hopelessly like a goon for the magic and candy flavoured fireworks most perfect person in the world, ever.

Although I have noticed a few people do 'panic buy' when they are in their 30's. They are left with the last can of creamed corn on the shelves instead of waiting for the next shipment of delicious jellied eels.

But is that mostly women? I'm relieved that I won't have that panic

Lando Griffin · 22-02-2012 08:34PM

Whirlwind romances are like A H threads, the longer they go on the less thanks you you probably get.

Lando Griffin · 22-02-2012 08:35PM

Whirlwind romances are like A H threads, the longer they go on the less thanks you get.

Mr/Ms Right or Mr/Ms Right Now?

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