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Why is sexism such a difficult topic?

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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 750 ✭✭✭Mr.Biscuits


    Or perhaps it's more to do with the hit-and-run posters that make ridiculous and unfounded comments...

    Got those citations yet?

    Yes and I also have many of the documents that went back and forth between Sinn Fein and British Government when the Good Friday Agreement was being drawn up also.

    Who exactly do you think put forth the following argument back in 2006:
    An argument in favour of the immunity for girls is that without such immunity young girls may be afraid to report a sexual offence, due to a fear of being prosecuted.
    I have two daughters (one son) and so paid quite close attention to the events regarding the CC case at that time and there was non-stop discussion in the media debating the legislation that was going to be brought in to attempt to deal with the aftermath of it. It was quite a hot topic (on Radio, TV etc) and it quite clear ay the time that it was women's rights groups who putting pressure on the Government to amend the law in way that it wouldn't have a negative impact on girls.

    The argument was also made that boys would be open to prosecution for the same act that girls would be immune from if the draft went through, but that argument didn't seem to carry as much weight as the former one, unsurprisinly.

    However, let's say that you are right and that the pressure came not from "women's rights" groups, but from elsewhere, then answer me this: if the NWCI is really all about "Equality for the sexes" - as their slogan suggests, then why is that they have never come out and condemned this gender discriminatipn legistlation that was drafted at that time, legistlation that left girls immune from from prosecution for an act that, should a similarly aged boy commit, could end up with a long prison sentence.

    Before you drag the: "Why should women fight for the right's of men" strawman argument out again - I, nor do I feel do many other men, expect that, despite how many times it's trotted out but what would be nice is, if feminist groups stopped lobbying for legistlation and advantages in society that has a direct knock-on effect of causing inequality. You'd think that would be a given, cosidering their "equality" mantra, guess not.

    The truth is, that feminist groups are NOT about "promoting equality" at all - what they are about is 'empowering' women to get all that they can, no matter what the societal cost - basically the Spice Girls with a lobbying fuction, lets not pretend different.
    Poster B: I've got my warped perceptions and I'm keeping them *fingers in ears*

    Sorry, wasn't clear - is Poster B in your little scenario male or female?

    Anyway, speaking of "warped perceptions" - some were expressed regrading voting rights earlier on the thread - a touch of truth to address the balance ..



  • Closed Accounts Posts: 17,485 ✭✭✭✭Ickle Magoo


    Yes and I also have many of the documents that went back and forth between Sinn Fein and British Government when the Good Friday Agreement was being drawn up also.

    :confused: Is that just to throw onto the whole immigrants/single mothers/travellers AH rabble-rabble parody?

    It's really quite simple, you either back up your assertion:
    It was feminists that put pressure on legislators to amend the law in such a fashion. It was feminists that did not care that it was leaving boys open to criminal prosecution for an act that girls would be immune from being prosecuted for. This is why people have an issue with Feminism, because they see that when feminists get into prositions of power, they are capable of causing such inequality in our society. There is ample evidence that feminists are cocerned with their own end and not too bothered if there is an assocaited knock-on of inequality for the oppoiste sex, in many areas of society, not just this one.

    Or retract it...

    I also love how you can jump from commenting on one Irish group to making a blanket statement about feminist groups in general with some puerile "spice-girl jibe, while accusing anyone else of straw-manning! :pac:

    I'd hazard a guess that it's because of historical male privilege and centuries of male driven/supported inequality - something some of those who inherently dislike feminism seem to conveniently forget - that fighting for injustices to women, women's rights and wanting general equality are often much of a muchness...presumably why posters have had to resort at desperately grabbing at a couple of contentious pieces of legislation/proposed legislation in which there is no consensus in any political/social circle, far less some global feminist hive-mind....


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 11,581 ✭✭✭✭TheZohanS


    It's so difficult because if you put forward a reasoned debate you get shouted down by a few posters, it's non stop. It's like a classroom here with teacher telling everyone to shut up because they know best and don't dare question their authority.

    The post above mine and similar posts do more damage to the feminist movement that Eric Cartman ever could, complete tosh in an aggressive tone that's sole intent is to shut people up rather than have debate. I'd expect nothing less of course, sure isn't that the way tLL is run.


  • Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 3,144 ✭✭✭Scanlas The 2nd


    It would appear to me that feminism is more concerned about increasing women's rights over gender equality; gender quotas being the perfect example.

    You really don't read the answers you get, do you? :rolleyes:

    The bit you quoted isn't a question, it's a statement of my views. No answer neccessary.


  • Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 3,144 ✭✭✭Scanlas The 2nd


    Or perhaps it's more to do with the hit-and-run posters that make ridiculous and unfounded comments...

    Got those citations yet?

    Yes and I also have many of the documents that went back and forth between Sinn Fein and British Government when the Good Friday Agreement was being drawn up also.

    Who exactly do you think put forth the following argument back in 2006:
    An argument in favour of the immunity for girls is that without such immunity young girls may be afraid to report a sexual offence, due to a fear of being prosecuted.
    I have two daughters (one son) and so paid quite close attention to the events regarding the CC case at that time and there was non-stop discussion in the media debating the legislation that was going to be brought in to attempt to deal with the aftermath of it. It was quite a hot topic (on Radio, TV etc) and it quite clear ay the time that it was women's rights groups who putting pressure on the Government to amend the law in way that it wouldn't have a negative impact on girls.

    The argument was also made that boys would be open to prosecution for the same act that girls would be immune from if the draft went through, but that argument didn't seem to carry as much weight as the former one, unsurprisinly.

    However, let's say that you are right and that the pressure came not from "women's rights" groups, but from elsewhere, then answer me this: if the NWCI is really all about "Equality for the sexes" - as their slogan suggests, then why is that they have never come out and condemned this gender discriminatipn legistlation that was drafted at that time, legistlation that left girls immune from from prosecution for an act that, should a similarly aged boy commit, could end up with a long prison sentence.

    Before you drag the: "Why should women fight for the right's of men" strawman argument out again - I, nor do I feel do many other men, expect that, despite how many times it's trotted out but what would be nice is, if feminist groups stopped lobbying for legistlation and advantages in society that has a direct knock-on effect of causing inequality. You'd think that would be a given, cosidering their "equality" mantra, guess not.

    The truth is, that feminist groups are NOT about "promoting equality" at all - what they are about is 'empowering' women to get all that they can, no matter what the societal cost - basically the Spice Girls with a lobbying fuction, lets not pretend different.
    Poster B: I've got my warped perceptions and I'm keeping them *fingers in ears*

    Sorry, wasn't clear - is Poster B in your little scenario male or female?

    Anyway, speaking of "warped perceptions" - some were expressed regrading voting rights earlier on the thread - a touch of truth to address the balance ..


    Excellent post!

    Do some people not realise you can believe women's rights are important and think the feminist movement is hypocritical.


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 81,219 ✭✭✭✭biko


    TheZohan wrote: »
    I'd expect nothing less of course, sure isn't that the way tLL is run.
    Please don't bring grievances with other forums into AH.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 9,332 ✭✭✭SeanW


    Yes and I also have many of the documents that went back and forth between Sinn Fein and British Government when the Good Friday Agreement was being drawn up also.

    Who exactly do you think put forth the following argument back in 2006:

    I have two daughters (one son) and so paid quite close attention to the events regarding the CC case at that time and there was non-stop discussion in the media debating the legislation that was going to be brought in to attempt to deal with the aftermath of it. It was quite a hot topic (on Radio, TV etc) and it quite clear ay the time that it was women's rights groups who putting pressure on the Government to amend the law in way that it wouldn't have a negative impact on girls.

    The argument was also made that boys would be open to prosecution for the same act that girls would be immune from if the draft went through, but that argument didn't seem to carry as much weight as the former one, unsurprisinly.
    I may have missed something, can you give me some more detail?

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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,949 ✭✭✭A Primal Nut


    Well it's kinda true.

    If your folks had decided to raise you as a girl, only bought you dolls and toy kitchens, grew your hair long and put it in pig tails, dressed you in pink dresses and a bonnet and called you a girls name - do you think you'd have had the wherewithal to push back and fight your corner as a boy?

    I doubt it.

    I'm fairly sure they would.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 37,214 ✭✭✭✭Dudess


    SeanW wrote: »
    The problem I have with sexism is the same problem I have with racism.

    They are both powerful words by definition but have been cheapened by abuse by the PC-left. The term "racist," "sexist" and to a lesser extent "homphobe" have been stretched to the point of incredibility.

    For example, I keep forgetting this but according to various PC-lefty types, I am a racist, homophobic sexist pig.
    How commonplace is stuff as extreme as the above? I really don't think it is - at all.
    So is it that you've a problem with sexism or the misuse of the word?
    I'm not a big fan of multi-culturalism and there are some degenerate backwards cultures whose immigrants I don't think we have any obligation to maintain. I'm thinking of people who commit honor killings, have multuiple wives, practice forced marriages, FGM, seem to actively despise their adopted nation and its culture. So according to the multi-cultural left, I'm a racist.
    You are? Who says? And no leftie PC whatever (not very smart terms - just sayin') is going to condone FGM, forced marriages, honour killings. All they are arguing is that it's wrong to suspect all Muslims of practising the above.
    I also like to look at pictures/videos of good looking women. That, according to the Feminist-Left, means I'm objectifying women and am a sexist pig, and if I ever wanted to see a hooker (I haven't felt the need to so far), I would be an exploititative vile cretin sexist pig. This despite the probability that the Feminists are most likely doing the same thing with images of sexy men, and probably have a far easier time getting laid, when they want.
    :confused:
    The entire feminist left (if all feminists are to the left) think that?! Surely only the extreme ones? Or are you still, despite all the discussion here, tarring all feminists with the fanatic brush?
    I also like 1980s music, in particular REO Speedwagon and Foreigner. I did not know this, but according to the Guardian, that makes me a racist, and a raving homophobe, with an, at best, questionable taste in music. Again, this despite the fact that I happily share a flat with two roomates that way inclined and I have no issues with them or their preferences whatsoever.
    Huh? Surely you can see the difference between "The 'Disco sucks' campaign was backed by those who had a problem with the dominant black, Latino and gay elements within disco; they typically liked corporate rock such as Foreigner and REO Speedwagon" and "a fan of Foreigner and REO Speedwagon".
    If you haven't figured out by now, the PC-left doesn't like me very much, and I assure all readers, the feeling is very much mutual.
    Are you sure the "PC left" across the board doesn't like you, as opposed to a few left-wing fanatics?
    I'm a good bit left of centre - generally (I don't care whether my views are to the left or right, I just go with what I believe is fair) and you seem pretty reasonable to me.

    Oh and I like some Foreigner and REO Speedwagon songs too. :pac:


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 9,332 ✭✭✭SeanW


    So is it that you've a problem with sexism or the misuse of the word?
    I have a problem with the misuse of the words sexist and racist, and by extension the PC left that are responsible for the vast bulk of the misuse.
    You are? Who says?
    Happens virtually every time I question multiculturalism on these boards.
    All they are arguing is that it's wrong to suspect all Muslims of practising the above.
    Agreed, I have no problem with Muslims who integrate into society and just happen to pray 5 times a day. I have a very severe problem, however, with those who don't. And I get the sense that the multicultural left doesn't like to talk about these issues.
    The entire feminist left (if all feminists are to the left) think that?! Surely only the extreme ones? Or are you still, despite all the discussion here, tarring all feminists with the fanatic brush?
    http://www.feminist.ie/
    You will find a lot of what I have a problem with featured prominently on that page, including continuous moaning about charity calendars.

    And lets not forget this:
    http://www.feminist.ie/2011/02/call-for-change-of-irish-law-on-prostitution/
    which includes this piece:
    David Begg, General Secretary of ICTU said “Having legislation in place that says we, as a society, do not believe it is acceptable for someone to buy another’s body for sexual gratification, exploiting the poverty, past history of abuse or limited life choices
    :confused: Seems very clearly a strong position by the Feminist-Left. And crazy.
    I'm a good bit left of centre - generally (I don't care whether my views are to the left or right, I just go with what I believe is fair) and you seem pretty reasonable to me.
    Likewise, you seem reasonable to me. I just think that some elements within the Left, and a lot of feminists and multiculturalists are frighteningly wrong on a lot of issues.
    Oh and I like some Foreigner and REO Speedwagon songs too. :pac:
    :o;)

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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 9,332 ✭✭✭SeanW


    And yes I think there is a specific issue with feminism in that it is focused only on one thing.

    I would describe myself as a libertarian-egalitarianist. I oppose all forms of discrimination, including so-called "positive" discrimination, and I believe that people should be allowed to live their lives as they see fit, subject primarily to the provision that they respect the rights of others.

    That's far too general for me to be called a feminist and I specifically oppose a lot of the feminist-left discrimination and social authoritarianism.

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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 10,967 ✭✭✭✭Zulu


    TheZohan wrote: »
    It's so difficult because if you put forward a reasoned debate you get shouted down by a few posters, it's non stop.
    this is so, so true. The snide and aggressive tone that is trotted out everytime by a certin cadre just discourages moderate conversation and eventually drowns out reasoned discourse.

    The reality is that a vocal few have little interest in actually discussing the issue because, in their ignorance & arrogance they KNOW they are right and have little interest in trying to understand anyone else's opinion or perspective.

    Sadly, any comments to highlight this, or to attempt to continue reasoned conversation are met with snide comments, indirect insults, ad hominem attackes, or accusations of "boarder line bullying".

    Just review this very thread for the use of the :rolleyes: icon for a quick but obvious window into this aggression in action. It's pitiful.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 43,313 ✭✭✭✭K-9


    THIS is one of the reasons why debate threads such as these (but not just with regards to sexism) inevitably become heated and quite often end up in a car crash scenario which is more often than not, locked: 'personal attack posts'.

    Fair play to him for not rising to the bait.

    Just a general observation from this and the previous thread.

    I'd say the same if an extreme feminist was side tracking the debate as well.

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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 10,967 ✭✭✭✭Zulu


    K-9 wrote: »
    I'd say the same if an extreme feminist was side tracking the debate as well.
    ...and yet you haven't.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 37,214 ✭✭✭✭Dudess


    Zulu wrote: »
    K-9 wrote: »
    I'd say the same if an extreme feminist was side tracking the debate as well.
    ...and yet you haven't.
    Who do you think is an extreme feminist here? People who get defensive at constant dismissal of their fully explained feminist points of view (even if aggressively so) don't count. An extreme feminist is surely a man-hater, and where are the man-haters here?


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 10,967 ✭✭✭✭Zulu


    Dudess wrote: »
    An extreme feminist is surely a man-hater, and where are the man-haters here?
    I wouldn't hazard making that assumption myself Dudess; who am I to determine that all extreme feminists are man-haters?


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 44,079 ✭✭✭✭Micky Dolenz


    Dudess wrote: »
    Who do you think is an extreme feminist here? People who get defensive at constant dismissal of their fully explained feminist points of view (even if aggressively so) don't count. An extreme feminist is surely a man-hater, and where are the man-haters here?


    Mod

    Please do not post in this thread again.As per opening post.

    Putting inflammatory words in mouths where those words weren't mentioned.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 43,313 ✭✭✭✭K-9


    Zulu wrote: »
    ...and yet you haven't.

    Who'd you have in mind?

    I've seen posters willing to debate their point of view, not just one liners "it just is" type posts, hardly a bad thing?

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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,559 ✭✭✭Millicent


    SeanW wrote: »
    And lets not forget this:
    http://www.feminist.ie/2011/02/call-for-change-of-irish-law-on-prostitution/
    which includes this piece:

    :confused: Seems very clearly a strong position by the Feminist-Left. And crazy.

    Again, not a hive mind. I'm a feminist, and my politics are usually left of centre. Here's a post from 2010 on prostitution.

    You can't classify all of any group as one thing. That's why I get irritated on these threads, because you can't know a person's whole viewpoint by one tag--it's only a particular ideology, not the summing up of a person's character.

    ETA: That said, the trafficking concern is a valid one. I'd tackle that by legalisation, but with the knowledge that it's not as simple as that either.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 43,313 ✭✭✭✭K-9


    Millicent wrote: »
    ETA: That said, the trafficking concern is a valid one. I'd tackle that by legalisation, but with the knowledge that it's not as simple as that either.

    A dyed in the wool leftie then! Things are never that simple with lefties, things are always very, very simple with righties! ;)

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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 695 ✭✭✭yawha


    Zulu wrote: »
    ...and yet you haven't.
    :confused:

    I'm not sure I've seen any extreme feminist viewpoints put forth in this thread.

    I'm not sure I've even seen anyone support the likes of quotas on here.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 10,967 ✭✭✭✭Zulu


    K-9 wrote: »
    Who'd you have in mind?
    I don't think naming people, or singling individuals out is going to produce rational discourse. Besides, it's likely to have me removed from this thread so I'm not about to.
    I've seen posters willing to debate their point of view, not just one liners "it just is" type posts, hardly a bad thing?
    There are plenty of examples of both across the pages of this thread, representing both sides of the debate. I'd suggest it's either disingenuous or biased to suggest otherwise.
    yawha wrote: »
    I'm not sure I've seen any extreme feminist viewpoints put forth in this thread.
    I'm not sure I've ever seen any "extreme feminist" viewpoints, I've certainly never seen someone call themselves an "extreme feminist". Frankly, I don't have a definitive definition of a feminist, never mind an extreme one and from what I garner from these threads, I'm very unlikely to get one.

    What I have seen though, is a poster getting put down, belittled, and demeaned for expressing an opposing view point. And other posters rowing in to support that oppressive position. It's stifling rational discourse, and I'm not about to stand by and watch it happen.
    I'm not sure I've even seen anyone support the likes of quotas on here.
    The quotas weren't a product of extreme feminism, were they? Have "extreme feminists" been awarded that victory??


  • Moderators, Arts Moderators Posts: 36,031 Mod ✭✭✭✭pickarooney


    Feathers wrote: »
    Women aren't under-represented, they just aren't represented by women. Democracy isn't about having someone who is just like me in the Dáil, it's about having someone who is fighting my corner in the Dáil.

    Who would better represent black women in the Dáil -a black man or a white woman?


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 10,967 ✭✭✭✭Zulu


    Who's the better politician?


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 43,313 ✭✭✭✭K-9


    Zulu wrote: »
    There are plenty of examples of both across the pages of this thread, representing both sides of the debate. I'd suggest it's either disingenuous or biased to suggest otherwise.

    Fair enough, probably some confirmation bias there but how and ever.
    I'm not sure I've ever seen any "extreme feminist" viewpoints, I've certainly never seen someone call themselves an "extreme feminist". Frankly, I don't have a definitive definition of a feminist, never mind an extreme one and from what I garner from these threads, I'm very unlikely to get one.

    Interesting.
    What I have seen though, is a poster getting put down, belittled, and demeaned for expressing an opposing view point. And other posters rowing in to support that oppressive position. It's stifling rational discourse, and I'm not about to stand by and watch it happen.

    Confirmation bias again I'd say. It definitely is not for expressing an opposing view point. I've had opposing view points to "Feminists" before on threads and always found I never got abuse, so I think it is far from just having an opposite view point.

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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 22,080 ✭✭✭✭Big Nasty


    Mod

    Please do not post in this thread again.As per opening post.

    Putting inflammatory words in mouths where those words weren't mentioned.

    Micky,

    Why don't you have your username in bold anymore like a normal MOD? I'm not trying to be smart but when you put on your mod hat now I keep thinking 'what's this jumped up fcuker raving about?' :confused:

    Back on topic, did anyone say 'we're gonna need a bigger boat' yet? :pac:


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,930 ✭✭✭Jimoslimos


    Saw this on the BBC website regarding an ad campaign directed only at women.

    Advert on Oxford Street shown only to women
    An interactive hoarding at a London bus stop aims to show a 40-second advertisement only to women and girls.

    The screen showing the short video campaign, by children's charity Plan UK, is located at a bus stop opposite Selfridges on Oxford Street.

    A camera will measure facial features of the person standing at the screen to decide whether it is a man or a woman. It guesses right 90% of the time.

    If it is a male, the screen will direct him to the charity's campaign website.

    The advertisement highlights the issue of women and girls in developing countries, who face poverty and discrimination, not getting the choice to decide how they want to lead their lives.

    Males will not get to see the advertisement in order to make them aware about gender discrimination, the charity said.
    Facial recognition technology

    The full advertisement will show three 13-year-old girls - from the UK, Mali and Thailand - talking about their lives.

    The interactive advertisement, which will be available for two weeks from Wednesday, cost £30,000 and is activated when the viewer opts to see it.

    The camera will measure facial features of the viewer - the distance between the eyes, width of the nose, length of jaw line and shape of cheekbone - to estimate the gender.

    None of the data gathered is stored, the charity said.

    Plan UK said it hoped to raise £250,000 over four months to provide access to education for girls from poor families.

    Marie Staunton, chief executive of Plan UK, said: "Plan's Because I am a Girl campaign works with women and men, girls and boys, to challenge the discrimination that girls face as a result of their gender."
    Thought it was interesting in light of this thread. As a male I don't know if I would feel 'discriminated' against because I miss out on a targeted ad.....but perhaps there would be a part of me secretly curious as to what was I was being denied!


  • Posts: 0 Roy Yummy Grenade


    Where are we at then ? Any conclusions reached ? Do men have it worse or woman ? Sorry but i think this thread proves without doubt sexism is very hard to debate in any rational manner . Thats too both sides no confirmational denial here im a enuch :)


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 44,079 ✭✭✭✭Micky Dolenz


    MCMLXXV wrote: »
    Micky,

    Why don't you have your username in bold anymore like a normal MOD? I'm not trying to be smart but when you put on your mod hat now I keep thinking 'what's this jumped up fcuker raving about?' :confused:

    I'm not a normal mod, abnormal maybe :P. i don't like the bold name, to be honest if I could have it non italic I would be happy with that.

    Whether or not my name is bold you may still think I'm a jumped up fcuker :P


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 22,080 ✭✭✭✭Big Nasty


    I'm not a normal mod, abnormal maybe :P. i don't like the bold name, to be honest if I could have it non italic I would be happy with that.

    Whether or not my name is bold you may still think I'm a jumped up fcuker :P

    It doesn't put me out ar anything, in fact I feel it gives you less weight as a mod. Maybe I'm alone here but I think you should go back coz you don't seem like a 'real mod' to me anymore! :(

    Sorry for the interruption people.


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