What does moving in with your partner mean to you ??

southsiderosie wrote: »

What would be considered 'short' though? I guess that's the crux of the difference.

I've heard of people in the US being engaged within six months of meeting each other and married within a year of that. Have heard fewer but still a few stories of people meeting and marrying within a year. IMO that's bonkers.

mikom wrote: »

Some sh*ts take a lot longer than others.

That brought tears to my eyes...you should get a job at Hallmark

Tweet0004 wrote: »

No seriously asking because we have moved in together, after been together a few years, and listening to friends saying it is good, and others saying it is bad.

Living with your other half is all about patience. He/she show their best sides when you first start dating. Then small little nuances creep in. If you can take those early nuances with a pinch of salt, you're ready to move onto the next step, which may be becoming official/meeting parents etc. Followed shortly after that by 'moving in'. Here you will see more nuances you never noticed before, such as leaving boxers on the floor, hair from a hairbrush in the sink etc. Sometimes these things will drive you mad, but if you can remember all the nice/great things your other half does for you, picking up their boxers ain't so bad!

You should know what your partner is like with regard to finances also. If he/she spends all around him while you're more careful, a compromise is in order where both sides are happy with the arrangements.

Just because some of your friends have had bad experiences, doesn't mean you will. Maybe their personalities haven't adjusted to living with their other halves. Maybe they still expect to be wooed and charmed like they were in the initial stages of their relationships? I could be wrong, but I find that many people assume that living with your other half is just going to be an extension of the initial part of the relationship. The relationship does change to a certain extent in that you become more comfortable and understanding of each other.

Best of luck with the moving in and getting to know each other much, much better!!!

Tweet0004 wrote: »

Is it for convenience, stronger commitment, or are you using it as a trial marriage and what are the advantages and disadvantages.

I wouldn't necessarily say it's about any of those. I would just say you do it if it makes sense. In my experience it is not much different, if you've been going out for a good while, spend all your time together anyway then it is great and much nicer than living with housemates. You break up, you move on, simples assuming you don't have kids etc. You should not be breaking up because of difficulties that arose from living together, then you obviously didn't know each other well enough, didn't spend much time together.

I'm currently about to move in with my OH, I'm excited coz I won't have to put up with annoying housemates that I dont get on with, I spend all my time with him anyway between both our houses, I can't remember the last time we had a night apart, we share everything and always have done, we've always done our food shopping together etc, we are not the type to be counting up who spent what. We are also more than ok with being together and doing our own thing at the same time, whether that means I'm studying and he's working on his computer. We could have moved in together a long time ago tbh but we were both happy in our respective houses, now that I'm in a position where it's not working out where I'm living at the moment, it is the ideal opportunity. We've also been through a lot together already, tough times so there is no issue as to the strength of our relationship.

I think its important to do that to understand your other half more and to see if you have a future with them. Moving in together is the only way to find out other things about them and their habits without the lovey dovey ritual. Having a life outside a relationship is important too but spending time with your partner is a lot to take on unless you know each other really well and stayed over and gone away over night that's one way of knowing what they are like but you have to kind of think outside the relationship too. Is this the person you want to spend the rest of your life with spending most of your time and day with them?

Things are bount to change for the better but can be bad too which could either spoil or enrich a relationship to make the couple grow together as one.
Moving in together can either make or break a relationship. Its worth the risk in finding out if ye haven't been with each other long enough different if ye have been a couple a couple for years before moving in might be a bit better that way before going down the aisle then again most couples rather move in together than get married!

Ye wouldn't move in together if ye didn't think there was a future whether its marriage and or kids or just spending the rest of yer lives together. Its worth moving in together so as to know in advance and in time down the line as things can change. Might turn out ye aren't as compatible as ye thought or the relationship run its course before marriage. So its good to know in advance if the risk ye are taking to move in together is the right choice!

So definitely move in together before marriage is the best thing possible. You be a fool not to if you didn't think ye wanted to get married in the future, definitely move in together before marriage.

Personally, if I had an OH and was to move in with them lets face it for me it be difficult as I like my own company but I do get on with people when sharing a place with but it hasn't always been hunky dory even with our habits. Its other things too, if you not getting on it can get tough living with someone and if communication breaks down then that's the end of it. If its like you are back in your parents house then you need to think twice, you've reached the end of the road of the relationship.

Then again I wouldn't say no to moving in with someone but we would both have to know each other very very well, understand each other, know our faults and habits as it is not just the whole routine of the lovey dovey stuff but have shared other big things too, engaged with each others lives but each have a life of our own outside of the relationship too and been going out more than just a few months perhaps a year or more before I go down that road.

So as I have said it make or break a relationship even friendship by moving in together. You need to think carefully, is it an equal partnership or is the relationship one sided?

Living in sin my eye. Its not any more. If anything the church should be ok with it now. Its not taboo any more like it was 10 years ago.

People have as much right to share a house together as anyone. If a group of friends boys and girls shared a place would that be sin? No cause they aren't couples?! Just cause they are a couple doesn't mean its a sin to live together maybe in the eyes of the church because of the whole marriage and kids thing.

But by law, anyone can share a house together. Who gives a rats arse about the church who think its still a sin to live together. Most people are having sex before marriage and using contraception long before anyone move in together like so are they still considered a sin now?

'Sins' are a load of bull to be honest just made up. No sooner are you out of confession you start cursing so no I don't go to confession any more cause It's ridiculous and as ridiculous as these made up 'sins'.

It ain't the 1950's/60's any more like. Its the 21st century so god and his church has to face up to what ever human being wishes to do even its a sin according to the church so what. Its not a sin once you aren't breaking the law or be sent to jail for it like!

It make more sense to move in together its not the dark ages.

That was awful that the grandmother cut her granddaughter out of her will like that. Just cause she is a devoted catholic doesn't mean her granddaughter had to be. Makes no sense just cause she lived with her boyfriend before getting married. She got married didn't she, shouldn't that have pleased the grandmother enough she wasn't living in sin according to her any more but fair enough her strong religious beliefs got the better of her.

It was a silly thing to do really if it came down to that fair enough if she didn't want to give parts of her will to her youngest daughter's children.

My grandparents wouldn't have treated each of their grandchildren differently.
I'd be shocked if my mother ever did that to her grandchildren. I'd never forgive her. Every grand-child has a right to be treated the same what ever an outcome of the will is it's the grandmother's choice.

For my grandmother and my mam its more to do with people going or not going to mass.