ADVICE??

treborflynn · 13-02-2012 12:13AM #1

I know this isn't a dating site but that's not why I'm here, I'm a fairly average lad, 21, all that craic, but my personality seems to be lacking. I just dont talk a whole lot, man of few words I am called. It affects me with a lot of things, And I"ve been told I have one of them faces that, even when your face is just relaxed it looks like your annoyed. I find it hard to talk to women too and that's the main reason Im putting this up, how can I improve this situation and even meet someone?

Any help is much appreciated.

Shryke · 13-02-2012 12:15AM

...talk more. It doesn't sound like a problem at all. Try being a bit happier with yourself.

MickySticks · 13-02-2012 12:15AM

This is going to end well..

joshrogan · 13-02-2012 12:16AM

Post in personal issues or you're going to have the piss taken out of you.

ringadingding · 13-02-2012 12:17AM

Rohypnol , gaffer tape and a van are your friends.

Wibbs · 13-02-2012 12:17AM

Talk to women. Forget they're women. Most of all forget your own ego and self concern about how you come across and talk more to people. Get involved. Repeat for practice and for life.

squod · 13-02-2012 12:18AM

Become richer. 60% of the time it works all the time.

John Doe1 · 13-02-2012 12:19AM

You should get a goatee

Pacifist Pigeon · 13-02-2012 12:19AM

treborflynn wrote: »

I know this isn't a dating site but that's not why I'm here, I'm a fairly average lad, 21, all that craic, but my personality seems to be lacking. I just dont talk a whole lot, man of few words I am called. It affects me with a lot of things, And I"ve been told I have one of them faces that, even when your face is just relaxed it looks like your annoyed. I find it hard to talk to women too and that's the main reason Im putting this up, how can I improve this situation and even meet someone?

Any help is much appreciated.

Get off the internet first of all, you meet all sorts of creeps here - you'll never get a woman under 30 and not covered in a pizza topping on the internet.

TeddyTedson · 13-02-2012 12:21AM

treborflynn wrote: »

I know this isn't a dating site but that's not why I'm here, I'm a fairly average lad, 21, all that craic, but my personality seems to be lacking. I just dont talk a whole lot, man of few words I am called. It affects me with a lot of things, And I"ve been told I have one of them faces that, even when your face is just relaxed it looks like your annoyed. I find it hard to talk to women too and that's the main reason Im putting this up, how can I improve this situation and even meet someone?

Any help is much appreciated.

Wait, what

Pacifist Pigeon · 13-02-2012 12:21AM

Wibbs wrote: »

Talk to women. Forget they're women. Most of all forget your own ego and self concern about how you come across and talk more to people. Get involved. Repeat for practice and for life.

Great advice, I tend to see them as mere screeches in the back of my eardrum.

Sindri · 13-02-2012 12:22AM

Viagra!! Stop living in denial. It doesn't make you any less of a man*.

*Yes it does.

Fromthetrees · 13-02-2012 12:23AM

Just talk and not care, about five years ago I worked with this guy who was mental (more than a few screws loose) and foxy and tubby but he had no shame whenever I was out with him, went up to every girl, didn't give a shit, tried it on with anyone, pulled every single night, really opened my eyes.

lastlaugh · 13-02-2012 12:24AM

John Doe1 wrote: »

well you could force yourself on a woman?

god im bad at this

You got that right.

Captain_Generic · 13-02-2012 12:25AM

Instead of saying 'hello' in a bar just gently slap you penis against their leg, they love this

MagicMarker · 13-02-2012 12:26AM

I'm probably the same as the OP, don't talk a lot and probably look pissed off 99% of the time, only difference is I don't give a toss.

hondasam · 13-02-2012 12:26AM

John Doe1 wrote: »

well you could force yourself on a woman?

That is great advice, I'm sure the woman he forces himself on will be grateful.

treborflynn · 13-02-2012 12:26AM

joshrogan wrote: »

Post in personal issues or you're going to have the piss taken out of you.

you might be right there, sure we'll leave it where is for now and see what happens. Sure we'll get a laugh if nothin else.

ToddyDoody · 13-02-2012 12:27AM

I knew a guy or two like you. Take an attitude of repentence all the time.. As if you have something to be sorry about (even when you dont).. Or go the evil route.. Reel em in with offers to pay for lots of nice things on a regular basis but grind them down and make them believe their nothing without you?

LETHAL LADY · 13-02-2012 12:27AM

I dont know you and for all I know you could be quasimodo but most people are actually quite nice and polite if you approach them.
Stop fretting about it, whats the worst could happen they say no, plenty more fish (rude) in the sea.

HazDanz · 13-02-2012 12:27AM

OP I just put what you've said into a Text to Speech program. It's made me laugh hard and I don't know why!

Dr. Manhattan · 13-02-2012 12:28AM

Pacifist Pigeon wrote: »

Get off the internet first of all, you meet all sorts of creeps here - you'll never get a woman under 30 and not covered in a pizza topping on the internet.

You say that like it's a bad thing. Dinner and a ride, what more do you want?

hairyprincess · 13-02-2012 12:29AM

Pacifist Pigeon wrote: »

Get off the internet first of all, you meet all sorts of creeps here - you'll never get a woman under 30 and not covered in a pizza topping on the internet.

I'm covered in pizza topping????? Why the hell didn't anyone tell me?!!!

Jesus Shaves · 13-02-2012 12:29AM

Imagine everyone naked when you're talking to them

pragmatic1 · 13-02-2012 12:29AM

Start drinking more and take loads of drugs.

ygolometsipe · 13-02-2012 12:30AM

I think troy mcclure did a cover of this!

lastlaugh · 13-02-2012 12:32AM

treborflynn wrote: »

I know this isn't a dating site but that's not why I'm here, I'm a fairly average lad, 21, all that craic, but my personality seems to be lacking. I just dont talk a whole lot, man of few words I am called. It affects me with a lot of things, And I"ve been told I have one of them faces that, even when your face is just relaxed it looks like your annoyed. I find it hard to talk to women too and that's the main reason Im putting this up, how can I improve this situation and even meet someone?

Any help is much appreciated.

You should book yourself a holiday over to Thailand, you'll find that these traits are looked upon more favourably over there.

Paddy Bateman · 13-02-2012 12:32AM

pragmatic1 wrote: »

Start drinking more and take loads of drugs.

And commence piss blasting everyone you meet.....

dr.fuzzenstein · 13-02-2012 12:38AM

darokane wrote: »

Imagine everyone naked when you're talking to them

That could be awkward with a really hot girl, I'd get an erection, start to grin like a fool, turn red and sweat. And dry-humping her isn't going to make things better.

coco_lola · 13-02-2012 12:47AM

Pacifist Pigeon wrote: »

Get off the internet first of all, you meet all sorts of creeps here - you'll never get a woman under 30 and not covered in a pizza topping on the internet.

hairyprincess wrote: »

I'm covered in pizza topping????? Why the hell didn't anyone tell me?!!!

I'm over 30???? Why the hell didn't anyone tell me?!!!

I Heart Internet · 13-02-2012 12:50AM

treborflynn wrote: »

I know this isn't a dating site but that's not why I'm here, I'm a fairly average lad, 21, all that craic, but my personality seems to be lacking. I just dont talk a whole lot, man of few words I am called. It affects me with a lot of things, And I"ve been told I have one of them faces that, even when your face is just relaxed it looks like your annoyed. I find it hard to talk to women too and that's the main reason Im putting this up, how can I improve this situation and even meet someone?

Any help is much appreciated.

Been there OP! I could tell you to change our life and personality and become a social/conversational dynamo but that tends not to happen. Quiet people tend to remain quiet people - loud people remain loud. Of course, take any oppurtunity to put yourself out there more but be yourself.

You seem to be saying that you're not great on the first impressions - so you gotta play to your strengths by allowing people (women) to grow to like you........wear them down if you will

So join a team, club or society. There youdon't have to make one big first impression just turn up and have the craic.

Quiet men tend to marry ridiculously chatty women - fact (source: me)

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