Cheating

44leto · 11-02-2012 07:22PM

If you fancy any of your bestmates"maiths" squeal like a pig, all is fair in love and war, your bestmate will understand.

If you don't fancy them keep your mouth shut, you are not their keepers.

Scanlas The 2nd · 11-02-2012 07:26PM

Words of wisdom from Eddie Murphy.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3psB9nG75sM&sns=em

Bodhidharma · 11-02-2012 07:34PM

I feel sorry for the OP, he seems like a good guy and obviously knows that his two friends are in fact pr**ks. Its a tough situation. He will probably feel guilty for something he didn't even do.

I really, really hate cheaters, so I say f**k the two of them and drop the gf's an anonymous email. No one will know its you, you will have done the right thing, and all involved will know the score.

Bros before hos is fair enough, but I dont think it covers cheating.

Logical Fallacy · 11-02-2012 07:44PM

People love to hold the concept of friendship over you to try and get away with doing stuff. It happens all the time. If you have a moral objection to these lads behaviour then you need to think about if you actually want to be friends with them.

Most people are pussies and don't want to rock the boat, are afraid of losing the geebags they call their friends and will even allow their friends to mistreat other friends rather than put the foot down.

That's really what the whole "don't tell on your mates" thing is stemming from in this thread.

Personally, your mates sound like tools...I say **** em.

stupidusername · 11-02-2012 07:52PM

I really don't know what I'd do in this situation. I'd generally do the right thing, but you definitely don't want to be blamed for stirring ****. misplaced anger is what it is though, and if that's what happens, well you can at least tell yourself you did the right thing. I suppose maybe it comes down to how empathetic you are, and how much you're ok with standing up to your friends.

Eve_Dublin · 11-02-2012 07:54PM

If I was friends with the cheatees, I'd make sure they found out some way. What are these lads playing at? 7 months?? Jesus. Are they that scared of being alone that they'd rather stay with women they clearly don't have any respect for? How pathetic.

Defiler Of The Coffin · 11-02-2012 08:06PM

I wouldn't tell as it would be none of my business. Surely you have better things to worry about?

mixed up · 11-02-2012 08:07PM

Are you gay op? I would dream of ever telling on my mates or and they are the same.It's got nothing to do with you so mind your own fcuking business.

Eve_Dublin · 11-02-2012 08:18PM

mixed up wrote: »

Are you gay op? I would dream of ever telling on my mates or and they are the same.It's got nothing to do with you so mind your own fcuking business.

The girls are his mates too.

Logical Fallacy · 11-02-2012 08:21PM

mixed up wrote: »

Are you gay op? I would dream of ever telling on my mates or and they are the same.It's got nothing to do with you so mind your own fcuking business.

The girls are his friends as well, so it has plenty to do with him in fairness. His male friends have put him in an awkward position and expect him to blindly accept the disrespect of his other friends.

The fact that you think inferring someone is gay is actually an insult tells me you and your mates are young enough that the last experience of a vagina you actually had was your mothers...so i don't think you guys need to be worrying about this kind of complex social issue.

Back to your Lego there junior.

Pacifist Pigeon · 11-02-2012 08:22PM

SureYWouldntYa wrote: »

At a party last night, and my 2 two friends cheated on their girlfriends of 7 months. I know these 2 guys all my life and are probabley are my best friends. I know the girls since i started secondary school and im good friends with them also. Im torn over whether i should say something to the girls or keep my mouth shut?

Tell the girl. Then console her ... and bone her!!

acidskiffle · 11-02-2012 08:23PM

mixed up wrote: »

Are you gay op? I would dream of ever telling on my mates or and they are the same.It's got nothing to do with you so mind your own fcuking business.

Relax there pal.

Defiler Of The Coffin · 11-02-2012 08:33PM

Logical Fallacy wrote: »

The girls are his friends as well, so it has plenty to do with him in fairness. His male friends have put him in an awkward position and expect him to blindly accept the disrespect of his other friends

The OP mentioned that the 2 guys are closer friends to him than the 2 girls. I disagree that the 2 guys have put him in an awkward position, all he has to do is simply say nothing and let the chips fall where they may. He will not come out of this well if he says something about it to the girls. He is under no moral obligation to say anything to the girls so he should just leave it, it's not worth the hassle it will cause for him.

mixed up · 11-02-2012 08:34PM

I just think it's pathetic that you go out with your mates and then tell their girlfriends what they done.I'd hate to friends with you that you would be so two faced.

treborflynn · 11-02-2012 08:34PM

keep your funkin mouth shut and stay out of it. none of your business where they put their meat.

Nolanger · 11-02-2012 08:35PM

Eatin ain't cheatin.

Logical Fallacy · 11-02-2012 08:37PM

Defiler Of The Coffin wrote: »

The OP mentioned that the 2 guys are closer friends to him than the 2 girls. I disagree that the 2 guys have put him in an awkward position, all he has to do is simply say nothing and let the chips fall where they may. He will not come out of this well if he says something about it to the girls. He is under no moral obligation to say anything to the girls so he should just leave it, it's not worth the hassle it will cause for him.

Like i said earlier, people are just afraid to rock the boat.

If the OP has no problem with what they are doing cool, he shouldn't say ****...if he does then he should.

mixed up wrote: »

I just think it's pathetic that you go out with your mates and then tell their girlfriends what they done.I'd hate to friends with you that you would be so two faced.

But you wouldn't mind it as long as he wasn't two-faced to you, right?

Temptamperu · 11-02-2012 08:40PM

Nah your the one thats going to lose out here. Keep quite but tell the lads you dont think its right.

Dudess · 11-02-2012 09:03PM

mixed up wrote: »

I just think it's pathetic that you go out with your mates and then tell their girlfriends what they done.I'd hate to friends with you that you would be so two faced.

He hasn't said anything to any of them...

What's with all the hostility towards him and even an accusation of jealousy?

I think he'd be better off not getting involved but all he's done is ask for advice. And seeing as he's friends with all of them, it's bollocks to say it has nothing to do with him. It may not have a lot to do with him, but it doesn't have zero to do with him. He is connected to all of them so it's understandable he'd view it as a dilemma.

Scanlas The 2nd · 11-02-2012 09:33PM

I wouldn't and I have friends who have cheated. Everyone involved is happy so why would I make them unhappy. Chances are the next boyfriend would cheat on her too so you aren't really doing her any favours. Nothing more important than happiness.

PrettyBoy · 11-02-2012 10:11PM

OP, if I were you I'd stay out of it and say nothing. You have absolutely nothing to gain from telling on the lads and you stand to lose at least 2 friends if you do tell. You're be the one that will be interfering and meddling with other peoples relationships. I know you feel bad for the girls and you want them to know but I really don't think you should be the one to tell them, it will really be more hassle than it's worth, it will end badly and you'll look back on it and say "I wish I never got involved" ...

rosskind · 11-02-2012 10:27PM

You have bad friends.

LambsEye · 11-02-2012 10:34PM

Cheating is such a nasty pursuit and while I loathe the act I'm afraid I agree with the general consensus. Say nating. I would however, tell the boys that you think what they did was balls.

billybilly · 11-02-2012 10:52PM

Cheating has become part and parcel of dating in Irish culture, due to the bond between Irish male and female being so weak. It seems to be that the dismantling of gender roles tarnishes the fabric of relationships. Back when I was young, and men were men while women were women, there was a strong connection between the genders and when people had romantic partners it would lead to marriage the high majority of the time. Whatever evil force has robbed us of this is despicable. I blame the television set. When I watch it in the evening time, I feel a great sense of disgust. Homosexuals are now being portrayed in such a positive manner, there's nothing wrong with gay people, but do we actually need to be encouraging this kind of carry on? Why is there so much homosexuality on the television set these days? Are we trying to make the homosexuals feel included? I think it's more important that we make sure they don't feel excluded rather than make them feel overly included. In my view that simply normalizes it to the young generation whom will identify themselves with it. I've seen that happen since the late 60's, where young people emulate what they see on that damned screen. gelled hair and ripped clothing, surely that's not how you were raised to behave? Your parents never dressed like that. I'm going slightly off the point.

Laika1986 · 11-02-2012 11:06PM

OP I would stay from telling the girls, I would confront the two lads and see if they genuinely regret it. If they do then forget about it and move on. If not it'l happen again and they will eventually get caught!

Evie90 · 11-02-2012 11:14PM

I'd say nothing you'll get no thanks for it and the girls might not believe you, a lot of people go into complete denial when somebody tell them they're being cheated on and you could end up being the bad guy in the situation i.e your friends could tell their girlfriends 'don't mind him, he's just jealous...' and you'll look like you made the whole thing up just to get with one or both of the girls. What goes around comes around this will come back to bight your friends in the ass eventually.

KeithM89_old · 11-02-2012 11:39PM

billybilly wrote: »

Cheating has become part and parcel of dating in Irish culture, due to the bond between Irish male and female being so weak. It seems to be that the dismantling of gender roles tarnishes the fabric of relationships. Back when I was young, and men were men while women were women, there was a strong connection between the genders and when people had romantic partners it would lead to marriage the high majority of the time. Whatever evil force has robbed us of this is despicable. I blame the television set. When I watch it in the evening time, I feel a great sense of disgust. Homosexuals are now being portrayed in such a positive manner, there's nothing wrong with gay people, but do we actually need to be encouraging this kind of carry on? Why is there so much homosexuality on the television set these days? Are we trying to make the homosexuals feel included? I think it's more important that we make sure they don't feel excluded rather than make them feel overly included. In my view that simply normalizes it to the young generation whom will identify themselves with it. I've seen that happen since the late 60's, where young people emulate what they see on that damned screen. gelled hair and ripped clothing, surely that's not how you were raised to behave? Your parents never dressed like that. I'm going slightly off the point.

Bye.

philologos · 11-02-2012 11:44PM

bluewolf wrote: »

tell the lads to tell the gfs or you will

I agree entirely.

They have a right to know. Sometimes doing the right thing can cost you though, but I think that although it isn't strictly the OP's business their girlfriends deserve to know. In a sense perhaps staying quiet is being complicit in some way.

later12 · 11-02-2012 11:56PM

You're supposed to be friends with these men OP. That doesn't give you dominion over their lives and relationships (much less, their girlfriends' lives and relationships). That means you support and defend them, and sometimes you show them blind loyalty even when they are plainly in the wrong. You do not use the internet like a magic 8 ball in pondering whether you should dob them in to their girlfriends.

I've been that cheating bastard... I wrecked a great relationship with the girl of my dreams for a girl who I'm pretty sure could have made a living as a Rosie O'Donnell impersonator. My mates often let me know how much I screwed up with that girl, and they've never let me drink brandy since, but I would be absolutely horrified if any of them ever considered doing what you're considering. That is not how a man should behave towards his friends.

I cannot understand how you would put this girl's interests before your friends' interests (hoes before bros, so to speak).

philologos · 11-02-2012 11:59PM

^^ Is that really what friendship is about? Backing dishonesty and lies? - I think caring about ones friends would also be about motivating them to do the right thing.

I think if more people did take that approach maybe people would take cheating a little more seriously? If it isn't acceptable, then other people shouldn't regard it as acceptable.

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