girlfriend trouble.

Liam Byrne · 17-01-2012 12:42AM

You left out the equals sign between the words in the thread title!

Rega · 17-01-2012 12:44AM

Buy a van.

And a knife.

Ask girls if they'd like to see your van while holding your knife.

Surprisingly effective.

MagicSean · 17-01-2012 12:50AM

There's a spammer that comes on here every day. He apparently has a really sexy girlfriend whom he buys sexy clothes for. You should ask him for her number.

dave3004 · 17-01-2012 01:03AM

Ya can have one of mine. Sick of most of them !

IM0 · 17-01-2012 01:07AM

teednab-el wrote: »

I'm 26 years old and find it hard to get girlfriends. Need advice on how to finally make the breakthrough. I'm slightly shy by nature and mightn't be the most sexiest. Where to start?

stop leaving before its morning

The King of Moo · 17-01-2012 01:53AM

First, try meeting people with similar interests to you through groups/clubs etc instead of pubs and clubs.
You'll have something in common and an icebreaker and be able to chat in a normal, relaxed environment.

Second: it's all about confidence. Self-confidence is one of the most attractive traits in a man for most women. It's easier said than done, but do your best to develop some self-confidence and feel good about yourself. Even acting confident can actually make you feel confident.
But don't go too far and become arrogant: despite what you might hear, no woman worth knowing really likes a tool.
Just try to be yourself, but be happy with yourself.

Lastly, try your best not to think of meeting women as something frightening and difficult.
At the end of the day, they're still people and a lot of them are great.
Sometimes it can pay off to take a chance and talk to a girl you don't know, even if it's scary.
You've nothing to lose.

Columbia · 17-01-2012 02:25AM

The King of Moo wrote: »

First, try meeting people with similar interests to you through groups/clubs etc instead of pubs and clubs.
You'll have something in common and an icebreaker and be able to chat in a normal, relaxed environment.

Second: it's all about confidence. Self-confidence is one of the most attractive traits in a man for most women. It's easier said than done, but do your best to develop some self-confidence and feel good about it. Even acting confident can actually make you feel confident.
But don't go too far and become arrogant: despite what you might hear, no woman worth knowing really likes a tool.
Just try to be yourself, but be happy with yourself.

Lastly, try your best not to think of meeting women as something frightening and difficult.
At the end of the day, they're still people and a lot of them are great.
Sometimes it can pay off to take a chance and talk to a girl you don't know, even if it's scary.
You've nothing to lose.

All great advice.

In general you should be content in your own life, this will breed a positivity that other people will sense in you very quickly.

Also, realise that rejection really is no big deal. When you ask a girl out, do it in a simple and honest way, no gimmicks, don't be a creep over it, and don't lose face if she says no. Smile, say okay, and walk away, and you will have nothing to feel bad or embarrassed about. Every guy should have to be rejected 10 times before he's allowed sit his leaving certificate

PandyAndy · 17-01-2012 02:30AM

TiltedBrain wrote: »

Viagra + Rophynol

Trust me OP, that's silly advice. Mixing those two won't work, you'll only end passing out for a few hours with a boner.

Red21 · 17-01-2012 03:35AM

The King of Moo wrote: »

Second: it's all about confidence. Self-confidence is one of the most attractive traits in a man for most women. It's easier said than done, but do your best to develop some self-confidence and feel good about it. Even acting confident can actually make you feel confident.
But don't go too far and become arrogant: despite what you might hear, no woman worth knowing really likes a tool.
Just try to be yourself, but be happy with yourself.

Not trying to be as wise ass, but if someone is 26 and kinda shy in that sense, then thats just the way they are. This is no big deal i'd consider half my friends as kinda shy and they have girlfriends or are married. Developing self-confidance, the kinda self-confidance that would make a differance in a situation like that is very very uncommon and unrealistic plus you can't say in one hand "be yourself" and also say develop self-confidance, as growing in self coinfidance is a major personality change.

Op, my advice is only useful if you drink and go out to pubs/clubs . Don't get pissed just drink in moderation and you'll be grand.

AngryBollix · 17-01-2012 03:38AM

TiltedBrain wrote: »

Viagra + Rophynol

Vagina + Rohypnol

bronte · 17-01-2012 03:43AM

Find one you like and ask her if you can warm your face between her boobs.

carrick79 · 17-01-2012 03:46AM

Get the number of a girl you fancy and send her pictures of your cock. Girls love that... :cool:

The King of Moo · 17-01-2012 04:03AM

Red21 wrote: »

Not trying to be as wise ass, but if someone is 26 and kinda shy in that sense, then thats just the way they are. This is no big deal i'd consider half my friends as kinda shy and they have girlfriends or are married. Developing self-confidance, the kinda self-confidance that would make a differance in a situation like that is very very uncommon and unrealistic plus you can't say in one hand "be yourself" and also say develop self-confidance, as growing in self coinfidance is a major personality change.

Op, my advice is only useful if you drink and go out to pubs/clubs . Don't get pissed just drink in moderation and you'll be grand.

I don't think being oneself and developing self-confidence would be mutually exclusive for the OP though, as I don't believe shyness to be an essential part of one's personality.
Now I don't believe that his shyness should be done away with either: it can be quite endearing in moderation.
But I do believe that shyness can be increased and decreased with changes of attitude/circumstances.
I used to be shy when I was younger, but I came to convince myself to be more comfortable in my own skin and happy with myself. I don't walk around with a swagger now but I am quite a different person on the outside in some ways.
I am, however, very much still me, just more at ease with myself.

Granted, it is more difficult to gain self-confidence at age 26, but it's not impossible at all, and it's never too late.
And he doesn't have to become 100% self-confident anyway. He could still remain somewhat shy, but more accepting of that and more at ease with himself.

blackdog2 · 17-01-2012 04:12AM

OP, sometimes in life you have to distract the spider to catch the fly.

No point milking a bull at this stage

beks101 · 17-01-2012 04:51AM

Do you dress well? If not, start. And I don't mean in a dressed-by-your-mammy kind of way, develop your own sense of style and make sure you're always freshly showered.

Work out.

Make lots of girl friends. Get used to female company, BUT don't eye every woman as a potential girlfriend. We can smell that a mile away.

Smell nice.

Work on your sense of humour.

Work on your confidence.

Make it your task to talk to five women every day. At work, in the supermarket, petrol station, on the street, where-ever.

Improve your body language around women. Maintain strong eye contact, smile a lot, make physical contact etc. Google is your friend.

The Internet Explorer · 17-01-2012 05:01AM

I guess you could say, you are 26 years old.

Pdfile · 17-01-2012 05:25AM

teednab-el wrote: »

I'm 26 years old and find it hard to get girlfriends. Need advice on how to finally make the breakthrough. I'm slightly shy by nature and mightn't be the most sexiest. Where to start?

from what ive been told having a tiny willy and being as much of a p**** is the best way to go about it.

some random drunk · 17-01-2012 09:10AM

Maybe think about joining a free online dating site OP. Nothing to lose anyway.

jester77 · 17-01-2012 09:28AM

OP, what you have is a lack of girlfriend trouble... you should be happy!

Cee-Jay-Cee · 17-01-2012 10:12AM

Have you considered turning gay? Gay boys always have loads of women friends and once you've a load of female friends you can talk to them about sex with women saying how you've never tried it (you are a virgin, right?) and always wondered what its like and ask if some of them would oblige you with a ride. It is only a ride your looking for and not a relationship, right???

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Wibbs · 17-01-2012 10:43AM

Red21 wrote: »

Developing self-confidance, the kinda self-confidance that would make a differance in a situation like that is very very uncommon and unrealistic plus you can't say in one hand "be yourself" and also say develop self-confidance, as growing in self coinfidance is a major personality change.

I'd kinda agree with this alright. IMHO about the worst advice people give - though it sounds good and is genuinely meant well - is "be yourself". The person receiving this advice is being themselves and its not really working out, or they'd not be asking. Plus it doesn't tell them how. Just like the "be more confident" advice. Right so, how? It's like telling someone who can't swim "oh just jump in the water and doggy paddle".

*controversial* On the shy front? Now this is just my humble of course, but outside medical reasons like Asbergers and the like shyness is learned behaviour for the most part. Lack of socialisation in early adolescence a lot of it. So someone prone to social unease is allowed to be uneasy in our society, even encouraged. Even technology helps in this respect, by allowing interactions that satisfy our social needs without actual social interaction. This builds up over time so by adulthood can be dug in pretty deep as a mindset. I'd put substantial money down that non medical social shyness is a lot less common in say a hill village in New Guinea than in suburban Cork. I'd also say it's quite an self centred mindset(NOT selfish). In a social situation the person is not thinking of other people, or the group, but is more internally focused on what others think of them and the fear of making a social faux pas.

KTRIC · 17-01-2012 10:58AM

some random drunk wrote: »

Maybe think about joining a free online dating site OP. Nothing to lose anyway.

His virginity ??? :rolleyes:

working fool · 17-01-2012 11:20AM

carrick79 wrote: »

Get the number of a girl you fancy and send her pictures of your cock. Girls love that... :cool:

Or someone else's cock !

suicide_circus · 17-01-2012 11:32AM

Nothingbetter2d · 17-01-2012 11:37AM

admiralofthefleet wrote: »

invest in some duct tape and chloroform

Larry is that you?

Dravokivich · 17-01-2012 11:40AM

Red21 wrote: »

Developing self-confidance, the kinda self-confidance that would make a differance in a situation like that is very very uncommon and unrealistic plus you can't say in one hand "be yourself" and also say develop self-confidance, as growing in self coinfidance is a major personality change.

Wibbs wrote: »

I'd kinda agree with this alright. IMHO about the worst advice people give - though it sounds good and is genuinely meant well - is "be yourself". The person receiving this advice is being themselves and its not really working out, or they'd not be asking. Plus it doesn't tell them how. Just like the "be more confident" advice. Right so, how? It's like telling someone who can't swim "oh just jump in the water and doggy paddle".

I'd agree with both of ye on this and can throw a few words out there on myself personally.

I've always had difficulty with things along the lines of this and it wasn't a confidence issue. It was just simply not having a clue what to do or how to. This often gets miss interpreted as low confidence, but it's far from it.

atila · 17-01-2012 11:46AM

Go to a part of the US or Australia full of Irish people on the extended working holiday. Strangley it seems easier to meet people away from these shores then here. People are out of their routines and more open / need to meet new people. Sharing a commonality in terms of culture and nationality and circumstances ensures there is much more of a natural bond already at work. It gets even easier by using the natural filter of the Irish bar.

Mr Benevolent · 17-01-2012 12:06PM

Wear a suit and carry a bunch of flowers. When a hot girl comes up to you asking what the flowers are for, look sad and say you've been stood up. Then offer her the flowers.

Worked for me.

The Snipe · 17-01-2012 12:13PM

Well.. Its easy, just follow this simple 'Do' and 'Don't'!

Do:

Don't:

girlfriend trouble.

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