Would your partner having a menial job bother you?

Napper Hawkins · 01-12-2011 08:19PM

Dudess wrote: »

Of course they exist, but you'll find all women - including you - get blamed here from time to time.

It's also rather sad of some men to stay with women who are clearly only after their money.

Yes, but the beauty of being a man with money who knows his wife married him for that reason, is that he knows he also has the pick of the younger, fitter golddiggers whenever he pleases. A shallow existence I want no part of but still find quite funny if a little tragic.

Dudess · 01-12-2011 08:21PM

Chuck Stone wrote: »

Story time.

My Ma was buying a turkey at a counter in some shopping centre as one of a group of ladies there doing the same. Anyhoo one of the ladies asks 'how long should I cook this Turkey for'? Looking at the man behind the counter.

A portly woman steps forward and pipes up loudly, in a Hyacinth Buckét fashion 'I'M THE WIDOW OF A VETERINARY SURGEON AND TURKEYS SHOULD BE COOKED FOR... bla bla bla'

WTF? This woman was defining herself and her expertise on cooking turkeys by her deceased husband's mostly unrelated job.

Cool story bro?

Lol. Now if she were the widow of a chef, fair enough.

Robdude · 01-12-2011 08:26PM

Every single woman I've known has married someone with a more prestigious/higher paying job at the time of their marriage.

I'm pretty sure it's not just a coincidence. I think the dating scene is pretty tough for unemployed guys with no money

Dudess · 01-12-2011 08:26PM

Napper Hawkins wrote: »

Dudess wrote: »

Of course they exist, but you'll find all women - including you - get blamed here from time to time.

It's also rather sad of some men to stay with women who are clearly only after their money.

Yes, but the beauty of being a man with money who knows his wife married him for that reason, is that he knows he also has the pick of the younger, fitter golddiggers whenever he pleases. A shallow existence I want no part of but still find quite funny if a little tragic.

Both are ***** tbh. A woman pretending to be in love with a man she has zero interest in, and having sex with him when she doesn't even fancy him. And a man staying with a woman whom he knows is absolutely despicable but shur, she's a trophy.
Something wrong with folk like that...

LeeHoffmann · 01-12-2011 08:27PM

Every single woman I've known has married someone with a more prestigious/higher paying job at the time of their marriage.

I'm pretty sure it's not just a coincidence. I think the dating scene is pretty tough for unemployed guys with no money

you need to get out more

A portly woman steps forward and pipes up loudly, in a Hyacinth Buckét fashion 'I'M THE WIDOW OF A VETERINARY SURGEON AND TURKEYS SHOULD BE COOKED FOR... bla bla bla'

:pac:

Dudess · 01-12-2011 08:30PM

Robdude wrote: »

Every single woman I've known has married someone with a more prestigious/higher paying job at the time of their marriage.

Every one of them? Men are more likely to be in senior roles too, so it could be a question of stats, not just gold-digging. They may also... love each other!
It also stems from a notion still ingrained in society - the man as chief provider. Something that a lot of men don't question either to be fair...

Robdude · 01-12-2011 08:32PM

LeeHoffmann wrote: »

you need to get out more

Maybe it's a cultural thing; I come from the United States - but that's just what I saw personally. Every single wedding I've been to involved a man with a more prestigious/higher paying job than the woman, including my own.

And some of these women were very successful. My best friend growing up, she went on to be a very successful lawyer. But she married an older, even more successful lawyer.

I'm sure there are exceptions but I'm pretty confident this is true for the majority of marriages.

Oh_Noes · 01-12-2011 08:33PM

Chuck Stone wrote: »

WTF? This woman was defining herself and her expertise on cooking turkeys by her deceased husband's mostly unrelated job.

Well maybe her husband, the vet, would get a lot of call-outs on christmas because people wanted him to confirm that the turkey is properly dead :P

Princess Peach · 01-12-2011 08:34PM

All I really ask is that a guy I'm with have a job, and can pay for himself. Couldn't care less what that job is then.

People have asked me what my boyfriend does, its something on a computer anyway......internet something......

woodoo · 01-12-2011 08:34PM

I wouldn't marry a waster who was on welfare for half their life. Working or genuinely being willing to work is a good trait.

LadyGardener · 01-12-2011 08:36PM

LeeHoffmann wrote: »

nice comment there at the end! :eek:

Sorry, twas a bit flippant but might have some grim truth to it unfortunately.

LadyGardener · 01-12-2011 08:38PM

Napper Hawkins wrote: »

Yes, but the beauty of being a man with money who knows his wife married him for that reason, is that he knows he also has the pick of the younger, fitter golddiggers whenever he pleases. A shallow existence I want no part of but still find quite funny if a little tragic.

Yeah, this is what I meant by the tick tock comment.

Yes, it's shallow but a woman going after a man for money is shallow too. It's like for like. An orgy of shallowness!

LeeHoffmann · 01-12-2011 08:40PM

fair enough Robdude

You'd probably find that the women are more attractive than the men they marry (in a sort of objective rather than gay sense :pac:)

Sisko · 01-12-2011 08:42PM

Its a generalisation but its also the truth. Women tend to think/care a lot more about their other half's job then the other way around.

I've never even heard of a guy who's interested in a girl worry about her job or how successful she is.

So to answer your question OP it really depends on the gender.

Dudess · 01-12-2011 08:46PM

Sisko wrote: »

Its a generalisation but its also the truth. Women tend to think/care a lot more about their other half's job then the other way around.

I've never even heard of a guy who's interested in a girl worry about her job or how successful she is.

So to answer your question OP it really depends on the gender.

I could definitely think of a certain type of lad who would most certainly be put off by a girl working what he deems a menial job - roish?

He may still roide her if she's hot but a relationship and introducing her to the folks would be, loike, a total no-no! :pac:

That last bit doesn't answer the OP's question...

Mal-Adjusted · 01-12-2011 08:46PM

I met this girl, roysh, and she was loyke sooo totally foyne and my friends were loyke soooo jell. and i asked her whut she did and she said she was a shopkeeper and i was loyke OMG, you're taking the pistachio!! and i was sooo morto to be seen with her......loyke.

flutterflye · 01-12-2011 08:49PM

Dudess wrote: »

I could definitely think of a certain type of lad who would most certainly be put off by a girl working what he deems a menial job - roish?
He may still roide her if she's hot but a relationship and introducing her to the folks would be, loike, a total no-no! :pac:

Well I used to go out with a guy like that, and I was working as a cleaner at the time. Didn't matter to him.

cailinardthair · 01-12-2011 08:49PM

Mal-Adjusted wrote: »

I met this girl, roysh, and she was loyke sooo totally foyne and my friends were loyke soooo jell. and i asked her whut she did and she said she was a shopkeeper and i was loyke OMG, you're taking the pistachio!! and i was sooo morto to be seen with her......loyke.

Hey......!!! there is nothing wrong with a shop keeper right!!!! Plus I am a waitress now :P

Mal-Adjusted · 01-12-2011 08:51PM

cailinardthair wrote: »

Hey......!!! there is nothing wrong with a shop keeper right!!!! Plus I am a waitress now :P

roysh

Scanlas The 2nd · 01-12-2011 08:53PM

I it depen

LeeHoffmann · 01-12-2011 08:54PM

and i was loyke OMG, you're taking the pistachio!!

:pac: :pac: :pac:

Sisko · 01-12-2011 08:55PM

Ha! Well I don't live on the south side so I've never met a guy or ever heard of a guy that would think like that. But you'd have to search pretty hard. Where as its deemed as standard behaviour or "natural" for women in general to consider the other half's job as part of the whole package when deciding if she wants to be with him or not.

Hell there was already women on here saying they'd never be with someone on the dole. I can't picture two people meeting hitting it off and growing feelings for each other then the girl turns around and says "I'm not working at the moment" and the guy instantly dumping her then and there.

wolf moon · 01-12-2011 08:55PM

LadyGardener wrote: »

Would you be morto to introduce your girlfriend the cleaner or your boyfriend the burger flipper?

Only if I was from D4.

Scanlas The 2nd · 01-12-2011 08:56PM

It depends on the circumstances. If she was happy in the job and we were comfortable financially then no. If we were struggling to make ends meet and she were miserable in the job then it would would bother me.

LeeHoffmann · 01-12-2011 08:56PM

Where as its deemed as standard behaviour or "natural" for women in general to consider the other half's job as part of the whole package when deciding if she wants to be with him or not.

not by me

Sisko · 01-12-2011 08:57PM

What is she was happy but struggling to make ends meat?

LeeHoffmann wrote: »

not by me

by society.

LeeHoffmann · 01-12-2011 09:02PM

Sisko wrote: »

What is she was happy but struggling to make ends meat? meet?

by society.

I disagree. Was that an intended pun?

Hell there was already women on here saying they'd never be with someone on the dole.

I think you'll find there are men on here with the same view

Robdude · 01-12-2011 09:04PM

LeeHoffmann wrote: »

fair enough Robdude

You'd probably find that the women are more attractive than the men they marry (in a sort of objective rather than gay sense :pac:)

I'd absolutely agree with that too.

Jess16 · 01-12-2011 09:06PM

Yes, it would bother me. Not for financial reasons because I'm not a materialistic person and even if I was, I can more than adequately cater for myself in that regard.

It would bother me because I am a very motivated and ambitious person and I'm not sure I could relate to or identify with somebody who didn't share the similar goals and beliefs that I do.

I realise that one isn't defined by their job but in the same way that the clothes you wear or the music you listen to reflects upon the kind of person you are, so too does your job. Whether by accident or by design, I think your work is a reflection of the choices you've either made or accepted in life.

I also realise that having a menial job is in no way indicative of one's intelligence but it is indicative of somebody who is ok with perhaps not challenging themselves to be the absolute best that they can be. And as someone who challenges themself to that extent all the time, I would expect similar from the person I spend my life with, not to adhere to social pressures but to simply share a similar wavelength.

LadyGardener · 01-12-2011 09:14PM

Jess16 wrote: »

It would bother me because I am a very motivated and ambitious person and I'm not sure I could relate to or identify with somebody who didn't share the similar goals and beliefs that I do.

But someone who is in a menial job might be very motivated and ambitious and putting a huge effort into improving their lot. You can motivated and still not get the breaks or be held back for some reason.

Would your partner having a menial job bother you?

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