RIP Gary Speed - Mod Note 292

Ardent · 27-11-2011 07:22PM

RIP. I still can't believe it.

grenache · 27-11-2011 07:30PM

If there is anything good to come from this tragedy, i hope it will be a frank and open public debate, dispelling the ignorance and stigmatisation surrounding depression and suicide.

Rest In Peace Gary, you were one of the best pros to ever grace a football pitch.

flahavaj · 27-11-2011 07:45PM

Awful, horrible, shocking news, there are no words to describe it.

Depression as others have said is as deadly, if not more so, than any physical disease out there. On the face of if Speed had a good life, a great career as a player, the respect of everyone in the game, good looking bloke, healthy, young family and was embarking on a promising manageril career. But none of those things matter when you're depressed. Nothing matters. I dread to think what must have been going through the poor man's mind in his final hour.

Hopefully this makes people sit up and take notice. We all need to talk a bit more about whats going on in our lives, if thngs are getting us down or we feel like things are getting too hard to handle. I started seeing a counsellor myself recently and it helps an awful lot.

If any of you feel a bit down tonight or you feel like life is getting too tough, please, please talk to someone. If any of your buddies has been acting a bit strangaley in the last while, lift up the phone or send them a text. Even if they haven't, do it anyway. No ones family should have to ever hear the news Speed's had to wake up to today again.

Mrmoe · 27-11-2011 07:47PM

Very sad news,:( don't know what to think.

Daemos · 27-11-2011 08:12PM

Shocked when I heard this, truly terrible news and a great loss

RIP

BERBA · 27-11-2011 08:15PM

Gutted to hear this news. An icon of the game in england. Terrible loss

RIP

osnola ibax · 27-11-2011 08:15PM

Just to commend Shay on playing the 90 mins today and keeping a clean sheet. Would not have batted an eyelid if he had been unable to play, he was visibly devastated.

RIP Gary Speed, you were a fantastic footballer.

Leiva · 27-11-2011 08:21PM

flahavaj wrote: »

Awful, horrible, shocking news, there are no words to describe it.

Depression as others have said is as deadly, if not more so, than any physical disease out there. On the face of if Speed had a good life, a great career as a player, the respect of everyone in the game, good looking bloke, healthy, young family and was embarking on a promising manageril career. But none of those things matter when you're depressed. Nothing matters. I dread to think what must have been going through the poor man's mind in his final hour.

Hopefully this makes people sit up and take notice. We all need to talk a bit more about whats going on in our lives, if thngs are getting us down or we feel like things are getting too hard to handle. I started seeing a counsellor myself recently and it helps an awful lot.

If any of you feel a bit down tonight or you feel like life is getting too tough, please, please talk to someone. If any of your buddies has been acting a bit strangaley in the last while, lift up the phone or send them a text. Even if they haven't, do it anyway. No ones family should have to ever hear the news Speed's had to wake up to today again.

Very well said Sir.

Leiva · 27-11-2011 08:40PM

As another poster mentioned hopefully one good thing to come out of this absolute tragedy is that there is frank and open debate about the suicide epidemic that is currently going on.

I know of four suicides in the past six months , and everyone under the age of 40.

Communication is the key .Talk to someone .

rebel girl 15 · 27-11-2011 08:40PM

Dan Walker's blog piece - spent hours with him yesterday, reading some of his twitter updates, poor fella
http://www.bbc.co.uk/blogs/danwalker/2011/11/gary_speed_leaves_a_huge_whole.html

gimmick · 27-11-2011 08:57PM

Looking at this thread and others, and the various twitters and facebook updates, its amazing how popular a player Gary Speed was. Universally beloved it seems. Honestly I am a lot more shocked than what I thought I would be.

Ugh.

JP Liz V1 · 27-11-2011 09:08PM

RIP

fred funk }{ · 27-11-2011 09:10PM

Is anyone else in total and utter shock?

I'm not normally one for being affected by the death of someone I don't know but this has really got to me today. I can't get my head around it. Very upsetting.

SarahBM · 27-11-2011 09:16PM

fred funk }{ wrote: »

Is anyone else in total and utter shock?

I'm not normally one for being affected by the death of someone I don't know but this has really got to me today. I can't get my head around it. Very upsetting.

My family and I are Leeds United fans, I grew up watching Gary Speed, and always kept an eye on his career when he left Leeds, was delighted when he got the Wales job,really.
It was just a such a shock. we were all so stunned.
I was in tears watching SSN and listening to Yorkshire Radio, all the tributes, people genuinely loved him.
no how upset we, as football fans are, its nothing compared to how his poor family must be feeling. My heart goes out to them.

Gary Speed will be missed so much.

Leiva · 27-11-2011 09:17PM

fred funk }{ wrote: »

Is anyone else in total and utter shock?

I'm not normally one for being affected by the death of someone I don't know but this has really got to me today. I can't get my head around it. Very upsetting.

Know how your feeling mate

I'm probably a little more emotional than normal due to being a little fragile from the mother of all hangovers , but Gary Speed was an extraordinary personality that everyone seemed to like regardless of club colours .

Amirani · 27-11-2011 09:19PM

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7OIg_rIj_vM

So strange just how composed and relaxed he seemed here. Can't possibly understand what he must have been going through

Fowler87 · 27-11-2011 09:29PM

niallsparky wrote: »

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7OIg_rIj_vM

So strange just how composed and relaxed he seemed here. Can't possibly understand what he must have been going through

Its really hard to believe. So much going for him after a great football career and in charge of probably one of the strongest Welsh teams in a long time (most premiership appearances too

).. RIP

iggy · 27-11-2011 09:32PM

RIP GAry Speed. I can't stop thinking about this today.
Very very sad.

Sergio · 27-11-2011 09:37PM

Very sad news today.It just goes to show that money cant buy you happiness when a relatively sucessful footballer such as gary speed takes his own life.
RIP

Chong · 27-11-2011 09:38PM

iggy wrote: »

RIP GAry Speed. I can't stop thinking about this today.
Very very sad.

Me too I just cant believe it

delw · 27-11-2011 09:52PM

flahavaj wrote: »

Awful, horrible, shocking news, there are no words to describe it.

Depression as others have said is as deadly, if not more so, than any physical disease out there. On the face of if Speed had a good life, a great career as a player, the respect of everyone in the game, good looking bloke, healthy, young family and was embarking on a promising manageril career. But none of those things matter when you're depressed. Nothing matters. I dread to think what must have been going through the poor man's mind in his final hour.

Hopefully this makes people sit up and take notice. We all need to talk a bit more about whats going on in our lives, if thngs are getting us down or we feel like things are getting too hard to handle. I started seeing a counsellor myself recently and it helps an awful lot.

If any of you feel a bit down tonight or you feel like life is getting too tough, please, please talk to someone. If any of your buddies has been acting a bit strangaley in the last while, lift up the phone or send them a text. Even if they haven't, do it anyway. No ones family should have to ever hear the news Speed's had to wake up to today again.

well said Flahavaj

Crazy Horse 6 · 27-11-2011 09:53PM

Obviously very sad. All deaths are sad. But for some reason this has hit me hard. And reading this thread it's done the same to others.

Why is it relatively more shocking than the deaths of other well known people? Is it his age, the nature of his death, the fact that he was on TV yesterday, the fact that he was so well liked in the game? All of the above? I don't know

I'm so stunned by this news that, if I am honest, I am not sure what to believe regarding the circumstances of his death. The truth is everyone I have spoken to cannot fathom why he has committed suicide. It makes no sense to me. If he was tormented in some way or depressed, then it's frightening to think how someone can conceal such disturbing thoughts with such quiet dignity. It's also completely frightening, and should serve as a wake up call to everyone then we should be kinder and more understanding to our fellow man.

He always came across as a thoroughly decent and good man. Rest in Peace Gary Speed.

fred funk }{ · 27-11-2011 10:02PM

Crazy Horse 6 wrote: »

Obviously very sad. All deaths are sad. But for some reason this has hit me hard. And reading this thread it's done the same to others.

Why is it relatively more shocking than the deaths of other well known people? Is it his age, the nature of his death, the fact that he was on TV yesterday, the fact that he was so well liked in the game? All of the above? I don't know

I'm so stunned by this news that, if I am honest, I am not sure what to believe regarding the circumstances of his death. The truth is everyone I have spoken to cannot fathom why he has committed suicide. It makes no sense to me. If he was tormented in some way or depressed, then it's frightening to think how someone can conceal such disturbing thoughts with such quiet dignity. It's also completely frightening, and should serve as a wake up call to everyone then we should be kinder and more understanding to our fellow man.

He always came across as a thoroughly decent and good man. Rest in Peace Gary Speed.

Hammer. Nail. Head.

legendary.xix · 27-11-2011 10:02PM

RIP Gary.

27-11-2011 10:09PM

Brando_ie wrote: »

RIP Gary.

My thoughts are with his family. I was just reading that tweet from Stan Collimore last night after watching the recording of Football focus and actually asked myself if there were a lot more players around football who were locked into depression. It really brings it home terribly to hear such tragic news less than 24 hours later.

RIP

Just highlighting this Collymore link again which everyone should read.